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People who have had real problems don't whine about the stupid shit you always do.

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Originally posted by Silky Johnson People who have had real problems don't whine about the stupid shit you always do.

What do I whine about? I am not saying my life is shit lmao, it's actually pretty fucking fantastic in most regards, I am extremely lucky, but everyone can get depressed.

Seriously, actual clinical depression runs in both my parents family, also diagnosed OCD that manifests in the form of hypochondria is prevalent, all of my cousins on my dad's side have it to varying degrees, and my grandfather actually died of it (combined with quick onset Parkinsons, probably as a result of electroshock therapy he had to treat his delusions that everyone had AIDS and he'd given AIDS to everyone in the family).

So like I said, sometimes you can't help it, you just feel in a funk despite everything looking up or being fine. If you haven't experienced this you're lucky, but if you know anyone that has legitimate clinical depression, especially untreated then you know it sucks and it isn't something they can just get all bootstrappy about and fix on their own.

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Originally posted by Silky Johnson Have you had real problems? Have you ever been homeless, starving, or life-threateningly ill? Ever been in any situation that jeopardized your Well-being, that you had to rely solely on yourself, with NO support to help you through it?

To be fair, by that definition hardly anyone on this forum could say they've had "real problems".

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Originally posted by Joss Weatherby The one I'm talkingabout is rather ppetty in the grand scheme of things, but it doesn't negate the fact that it actually affects my well being despite all rational logic telling me it shouldn't. The fact that external factors plus an inability to voluntarily exclude myself from the situation makes me rather angry at myself.

We all know you're talking about women, there's no need to be vague.

Not women, woman.

And how is that not a legitimate cause for an emotional funk?

Nou is a sub. No doubt his parents have enabled him. Hard to say if given a chance whether he'd sink or swim. The lack of strength and courage to lead an independent life is the root of his depression. I'm sure he has painstakingly constructed a house of cards in his head to deny the terrible reality of it all. Reminds me of if you incarcerate someone too long they can't function in the real world. Very sad.

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Originally posted by Joss Weatherby This isn't what this thread is about, people can get in emotional funks from the entirely mundane. It's not really a choice for some people either. I am not sure what point you are trying to make. Furthermore your problems don't have to be a defining factor in every facet of your life. The stupid shit I am talking about affects one part, it does affect my over all happiness, but it is not entirely defining. I still have a life outside of the problems, it's just something that every once and a while takes focus, is frustrating as fuck, and then annoys me in that arena for some time to come.

As I've grown up I've come to love the built-in improvements in emotional stability. I like how easy it is to stay on top of everything even if one part of your life to turns to shit for a while.

Also I've noticed just by getting older my drawing and sand castle building skills have just magically improved.

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Originally posted by FuzzQi As I've grown up I've come to love the built-in improvements in emotional stability. I like how easy it is to stay on top of everything even if one part of your life to turns to shit for a while. Also I've noticed just by getting older my drawing and sand castle building skills have just magically improved.

Yea, it definitely gets easier as you get older, though in some ways when the situations you get into are partly your fault you tend to get a bit more angry at yourself for still doing the same shit.

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Originally posted by SYSTEM-J To be fair, by that definition hardly anyone on this forum could say they've had "real problems".

Exactly. That's the perspective bit I was talking about. And no, I'm not saying that if a person hasn't experienced those things then they haven't dealt with tough shit. But it's very easy to wallow in your problems and get caught up in end of the world "poor me" type thinking if you don't remind yourself that it could be much, much worse.

Btw Nou pm'ed me, the "problem" he's talking about is his up and down relationship with citric acid. LOL POOR NOU LIFE MUST BE HARD.

"emotional funks" are western, middle class diseases. who has the time to be miserable when they're scratching around in the dirt for food?

you know what im miserable about now? that wine only comes in 750ml containers. that's fucking bullshit. might have to cry.

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Originally posted by Joss Weatherby Not women, woman. And how is that not a legitimate cause for an emotional funk?

I didn't say anything about legitimacy, I just don't get why you are beating about the bush so much, instead of just saying "Women can get you down no matter how much life experience you've had."

Although I imagine your problem is simply pining over some girl who doesn't want you and being unable to move on. The best way to avoid that kind of thing is to quick and decisive - if you like a girl, make a move quickly. If you can't, put out of your mind immediately. If she starts messing you about, bin her off and block her out of your life. That's how most people work - have a shot and if it doesn't work, shrug and move on before you pointlessly develop emotional attachment with a non-starter and end up pining. But because you're starved of female attention, any time you sense the possibility of something romantic happening you'll build it up too much in your head and you won't dare act quickly in case it evaporates and you're back to nothing. This is basically what I did for all my teenage years, and eventually you need to learn your lessons and snap the fuck out of it.

EDIT: Didn't even see Jenny's post before writing this.

Nou you got to throw that one back hommie...

It's great that we live ahead of Nou, time wise. It gives us at least a few hours to rip into him before he has a chance to spew more bullshit. Lolololol.

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Originally posted by Silky Johnson It's great that we live ahead of Nou,

lol, i thought you were saying he's an emotionally-crippled man-child. i am disappoint.

Oh well that too, lol.

*there there, Nou*

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Originally posted by Silky Johnson Btw Nou pm'ed me, the "problem" he's talking about is his up and down relationship with citric acid. LOL POOR NOU LIFE MUST BE HARD.

Uh oh! Time to drive out to Montana and throw a rock at her window. Ally 2.0, this shit never changes.

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Originally posted by pkcRAISTLIN you know what im miserable about now? that wine only comes in 750ml containers. that's fucking bullshit. might have to cry.

They don't sell Carlo Rossi in Aus? Bottom-of-the-world problems!

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Originally posted by Jon_Snow Uh oh! Time to drive out to Montana and throw a rock at her window.

Oh yea, this time I'll rent a place three blocks from her just to make sure I can get one every day.

Whatever, like I said, not a defining factor in my life, but it is something annoying that happens every six months or so and it's getting tiring. I have no doubt in my mind it will happen again in another six months or so.

What is the "it" that happens?

Not going to drag it up here, already this has been way too much and I'd rather not get into a fight if citric comes on here. I just want to be done with her for good, we are both frustrating people, who make each other act incredibly immature, and I just want that to stop for good.

Nou has real problems guys, this is really hard for him!!

No, it's just an extra level of shit that I don't need (and she doesn't need either).

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Originally posted by SYSTEM-J Although I imagine your problem is simply pining over some girl who doesn't want you and being unable to move on. The best way to avoid that kind of thing is to quick and decisive - if you like a girl, make a move quickly. If you can't, put out of your mind immediately. If she starts messing you about, bin her off and block her out of your life. That's how most people work - have a shot and if it doesn't work, shrug and move on before you pointlessly develop emotional attachment with a non-starter and end up pining. But because you're starved of female attention, any time you sense the possibility of something romantic happening you'll build it up too much in your head and you won't dare act quickly in case it evaporates and you're back to nothing. This is basically what I did for all my teenage years, and eventually you need to learn your lessons and snap the fuck out of it.

Tried that, made move, binned off, but she is persistent and I am stupid. I have no idea why I would do this shit over and over again and it boggles my mind to no end why she would voluntarily come back and try and start up a friendship with someone who has made it blatantly clear that with her I will probably always be looking for more. It's been a years of her/I saying "I'm sick of this drama don't talk to me." and then a few months later out of blue her saying "I'm in Seattle, lets meet up!"

I honestly do not get it.

And with that I am done on this subject. I have far more frustrating issues right now, like why the fuck this DSP filter is crashing out of the blue, causing annoying high pitched squeals, and randomly introducing distortion. That is actually what is frustrating me the most at the moment, because like the issue above, I thought I had it fixed, and now it's back again.

Cliffy put the knife down.

Nou. Just beg dad for some hooker money. Hookers are rarely ever a viable solution for problems, yet at this point they are probably necessary for rectifying this situation of yours. Being hung up over some fat snaggletooth from Montana is not going to do you any good.

Blow a load in some slecches' eye and you will understand that you aren't so fucked in life. I mean you are, but at least you aren't taking loads in the eyes.

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