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Originally posted by Silky Johnson What if I press 3 to repeat the recording? Lololol

Well, if you are the only one that has to read/hear it, I'd say that's just fine. If the entire COR has to endure it again, they might just make Ted Promo mod and banninate me for a few weeks.

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Originally posted by ziptnf inb4 Ted Promo and IGK Little man is doing great, but the breastfeeding has been tough. Seems like every position we try he doesn't want to latch on. We are trying to use a hand pump for the rest of her colostrum. Trying to help my wife as much as possible, a lot of responsibility is on her but I'm trying to fill the gaps. Definitely going to need something to help with those short nights of sleep. It's already amazing though, he's so adorable and I never thought I'd feel that feeling of awe until I held him.

Despite lots of trying and several visits to a lactation consultant my eldest never latched. We ended up getting an electric double pump and bottle fed her. If you have to give up on trying to breast feed I highly recommend the double electric pump. Generally, my wife would pump while I fed and it worked great.

Lolol double pumping. When I do it I look like a tit pumping fembot.

Our baby never really took to the bottle. Seemed more important in the beginning when I was experiencing all the massive life changes at once, but now I don't even care. I have freedom at night because she is a great sleeper, so whatever.

She never took a pacifier either, which sucked in the early days when she really needed it, but again, now I don't care and am actually glad for it. She never developed any negative sleep associations because of it.

Breastfeeding well was/is way more important to me than the temporary loss of freedom due to not being able to leave her for long periods with another caregiver.

He will latch and suck for 30-60 seconds but then unlatch and it's hell for my wife's nipples. The lactation consultant actually recommended a quick bottle of formula just to give her a break. She was all torn up over it because she felt like a failure of a mother but that couldn't be further from the truth. Lots of women have trouble in the early stages of breastfeeding and it's more uncommon to feed every single meal from the breast.

I personally think it's just trouble during the colostrum stage since it's hard work to get and the payoff is very little. Once her milk comes in I think they will both have an easier time because there will be much more of it and he will be more interested and won't have to work as hard. I'm just hoping that she doesn't blame herself for having to resort to formula briefly.

They are also both learning how to do it, and colostrum doesn't just pour out of the boobs. This is why it's important to keep at it. I'm actually surprised she'd recommend a bottle of formula, that's counter to pretty much everything known about the dynamics of breastfeeding. It's supply and demand, so the more time the baby spends at the breast, the faster her milk will come in. Also, the mechanics of suckling at the breast are totally different than sucking an artificial nipple (which is why pacifiers and bottles are discouraged until milk supply is well established). Her nipples should not be sore (ok maybe a bit of tenderness, but not pain). Sore nipples = not a good latch.

Seriously, watch the videos I linked.

This is Jack Newman teaching how to get the most ideal latch (sorry about the gross boob, can't do anything about that, lol):



Any mother would feel like that though, I would have! Breastfeeding is HARD.

Was your boy assessed for tongue tie?

His tongue is fine but her nipples are so chafed and chapped from latching on and off all day and night that they recommended giving him some formula just to give her a break. I guess different lactation consultants have different opinions or processes. She's going to continue breastfeeding she is just pumping in the meantime. Idk I'm not worried.

Well hope it all goes well. Whatever happens, bottom line is she will be doing whatever she has to to nourish your babe, and that's all that matters!

My gawd...the COR has truly come full circle - we've gone from threads about eating pills to eating breast milk.

The end...it is nigh!

I take a pill every morning!





































A maternal vitamin.

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Originally posted by Silky Johnson I take a pill every morning! A maternal vitamin.

I thought you were going to say a birth control pill...which I would kindly point out is NOT working.

Breastfeeding IS birth control, haha! And had I known I would lose so much weight so quickly because of it, I definitely would have gorged more during my third trimester, lol.

"How to tell a forum is full of old people"

Coolest bunch of old fucks ever!

Nah, we�ll really know we�re old when the first arthritis threads start popping up.

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Originally posted by Vector A Nah, we�ll really know we�re old when the first arthritis threads start popping up.

If I inherited any disposition for that from either my maternal or paternal grandmother, it won't be too long of a wait...

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Originally posted by Vector A Nah, we�ll really know we�re old when the first arthritis threads start popping up.

The Colonoscopy Thread!

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Originally posted by Vector A Nah, we�ll really know we�re old when the first arthritis threads start popping up.

I think that already happened. Doesn't Redd or someone like that have OA?

Wuddup ya'll. Usually a lurker around here but I like this thread. I have a daughter who's about to turn 2 in April. Love her with all my heart. I guess my toughest thing as a new parent is trying to "not" compare her to other kids. I get caught up in thinking "why isn't able to say sentences like so-and-so's daughter?". Or "my daughter is walking at earlier age compared to what-his-name's kid". I have to remind myself (and my wife) that all kids are develop differently.

The big issue right now is that she's almost 2 but is not formulating sentences. Or screeeaaammmssss when she wants something. Everyone tells us that she'll talk when she wants to talk but as parent, I'm always just a little worried. Like we're doing something wrong.

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Originally posted by 72hrpartyanimal The big issue right now is that she's almost 2 but is not formulating sentences.

Linguist here. Child development is not my forte but, as far as I remember, she should be able to understand sentences, but it's okay not to formulate them just yet. Joining two words is the most I'd expect before her second birthday, I guess.

Also, you can't be doing anything wrong. Although we tend to think we "teach" kids how to speak, that's a very "Western middle-class" way of dealing with speech. I remember reading that not all cultures bother with toddlers because they can't really talk back, but it's just a matter of time when the kids pick it up

(Also, feel free to post more often! Don't just lurk in the shadows )

Hey cool, thanks for that insight Lira. I know what the milestones are but I don't worry too much about them. It's such a waste of energy; kids develop at their own pace in their own way, but they get where they need to be.

I just want our kid to learn to be comfortable and confident, so I'm more focused on making sure she develops a healthy, secure attachment. It's so exciting watching a human grow and become who they are, I want her to feel free to be whoever that is.

I'm sure this isn't something unusual that new dads face, but how do/did you guys handle the night/moment when you realized the weight of your newfound responsibility? It's a somewhat abrupt shift, a lifetime of only really looking after yourself, the honeymoon from caring for a newborn, to the sudden onset of the depth and breadth of Parenthood? My mind has been like a runaway train, thinking about how life is so time limited and raising your kids to be productive adults - a time honored tradition of life and humanity for our entire existence. It's still early for me too but I wonder how to handle this mini existential crisis. Do you guys face this every now and then?

Lol, dude. Try feeling that while all buggered up by hormones. The first time I had the realization that this change was permanent, that I couldn't just roll over in bed and hit snooze in the morning or take off by myself for a few days, I was fucking TERRIFIED.

Just know that it gets easier. You WILL adjust and find your groove. Honestly, I struggled to enjoy the first two or three months. Things really did get so much better after the "fourth trimester." From around 3/4 months onward it's just been more awesome every day.

Truly, the best way to cope is to just try to take in and enjoy each present moment, and don't get too far ahead of yourself. Cause yeah, it's overwhelming.

Be glad you don't have to breastfeed!!

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Originally posted by ziptnf It's still early for me too but I wonder how to handle this mini existential crisis. Do you guys face this every now and then?

Yes and I handle it step by step with ups and downs.
Especially in the beginning it's normal to worry a lot. Babies cry and some cry a lot and then it's easy to get worried. I remember our daughter cried more than our son, but it also could be that I just didn't worry too much with him as I knew they have periods of more crying (growing teeth, growing pains etc.) Most of the time no reasons to get worried. So indeed, it will get easier.

My eleven year old daughter is in her last year of primary school. In September she will have to ride to another town on her bike. A new chapter will begin. Time really flies.

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Originally posted by Lira Linguist here. Child development is not my forte but, as far as I remember, she should be able to understand sentences, but it's okay not to formulate them just yet. Joining two words is the most I'd expect before her second birthday, I guess. Also, you can't be doing anything wrong. Although we tend to think we "teach" kids how to speak, that's a very "Western middle-class" way of dealing with speech. I remember reading that not all cultures bother with toddlers because they can't really talk back, but it's just a matter of time when the kids pick it up (Also, feel free to post more often! Don't just lurk in the shadows )

Thanks for the insight!!

During my wifes pregnancy, she read a TON of books. She got a little pissed off at me (hormones n shit) for not reading any but I got a good suggestion from a friend. The only book he read and he suggested was about Sleep Training. Super helpful! Our kid has always slept through the night. Albeit, kids are different so maybe we were lucky. But that's my suggestion to all the new parents out there. If you're not in to reading, at least consider reading about sleep training. Life saver for us!

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