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Originally posted by Prototrance So just how the fuck are we meant to break through armour like that??? Even if a bloke isnt using shite chat up lines it may be obvious that he is chatting you up with just general conversation. You would tell him to get lost because he found you attractive....... take interest from the opposite sex as a compliment........ Shit.........

Very true man. It's as if JUST by talking to the girl it's as if we are automatically thought of as trying to get some. (Which might not necessarily be true). It happens a lot here too. Go up to a girl and try talking to her then you get a brick wall. Oh Joy.

You walk up to her and say (EXACLTY THIS) "Have you seen my weiner tits?"

100% chance of discussion


btw women, what the hell do you think guys like you for at first? your personality? Dont flatter yourselves, you arent that interesting

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quote: Originally posted by Prototrance Coz some birds are so far up their own colons that they believe that only Brad Pitt lookalikes and rich twats can talk to them, let alone get anywhere near them physically. In fact that describes about 85% of women these days I think. agree closer to 95% id say though

it certainly seems that way. well, 95% of the chicks that you notice anyway.

just come up to a girl and simply be honest.


orbax you asshole

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Originally posted by Prototrance Coz some birds are so far up their own colons that they believe that only Brad Pitt lookalikes and rich twats can talk to them, let alone get anywhere near them physically. In fact that describes about 85% of women these days I think.

Don't be stupid. If a girl came up to you who you thought was ugly, and who had nothing at all interesting to say to you, your reaction would be exactly the same

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Originally posted by HardTrance81 I guess there comes a point where you just grow out of it. I haven't, I know for a fact there are so many times that i have missed out on being with tons of girls (that is dating, not sleeping with them) cause I have always been too shy and modest (sp) to start a conversation or make a move (not sex). I don't want to sound cheesy and i don't like approaching some random girl just because she looks good because she probably gets that all the time and that would just make me "every other guy." the only time i have approached girls is when i had some thing in common with them, something real to talk about and not "hi, i lost my number....., can i have yours?" "Damn bitch, DAT ASS IS FINE" my advice to you, look for something (other than looks) that you like about her. and maybe use that to open conversation.... both in the same section at the cd store..... talk about music..... she is eating.... how is the food? pickin out shoes, you sister has those ones..... etc....

I could agree more to this.. but we are not all like this.. that can easily go ahead and do this sorta thing... cause we always feel like we are desperate to them, and besides, talking to a complete stranger is hard imo..

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quote: Originally posted by Prototrance Coz some birds are so far up their own colons that they believe that only Brad Pitt lookalikes and rich twats can talk to them, let alone get anywhere near them physically. In fact that describes about 85% of women these days I think. Don't be stupid. If a girl came up to you who you thought was ugly, and who had nothing at all interesting to say to you, your reaction would be exactly the same

pfft so you're saying all guys are ugly and uninteresting? your point makes little sense.

LOOOOL
*founds Orbax-Fanclub*


I've had major chatting up problems myself, I came home depressed from busses, clubs, bars etc. since I always "fell in love" with the "most beautiful girl ive ever seen" and didnt make a move. I donno why but lately it just works automatically...Sometimes I ask if i can smoke with her, soemtimes I smile at her ugly mate and maker her jealous thus making her talk to ME etc. etc.

soo sad. . . .just say hi.

like this:

hi

do you what to fuck?

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Originally posted by Mystoz like this: hi do you what to fuck?

works for me

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Originally posted by Mystoz like this: hi do you what to fuck?

yeah, that would work with your basic ghetto-wanna-be slut in the club; keep in mind when it's that easy, it doesn't matter who you are, you're just the first guy that night that asked her if she wanted to fuck..... first come, first serve.... if you wanted to start a relationship with a girl or if the girl has more than half a brain (in many cases they don't) then you might need to revamp your approach cause in most likely she is gonna make you look pretty stupid when she turns you down flat-out, and makes fun of you for a weak attempt.

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Originally posted by Orbax btw women, what the hell do you think guys like you for at first? your personality? Dont flatter yourselves, you arent that interesting

LO-FUCKING-L, nice.....

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Originally posted by Rememberence_ pfft so you're saying all guys are ugly and uninteresting? your point makes little sense.

No, I'm saying that it's stupid to expect a girl to "give you a chance" with them if she finds you ugly and uninteresting when you obviously wouldn't do the same in the reverse situation.

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Originally posted by Prototrance Fucking hell lads!!!! Just walk up and say hello. If she takes the piss she wasnt worth it. Just say what you think, that way you either score, or you get told no thanks - either way you have a decision made and you know what to do.

Proto has the idea

i have a problem with people saying that a girl is their type just by looking at her. i dont know if a girl is my type until i talk to her, take her out, see her at home with family, undress her.

man, there's been so many hot looking girls out there, and when you get teh balls to go up and talk to em, they sound like Grover from sesame street or smell like ass.

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Originally posted by *HaRRy* i hate people who obviously try to chat me up. it makes me feel uncomfortable and i generally try and escape as soon as possible.

and ur crap at it yourself "do you have a girlfriend? do you have a boyfriend?"

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Originally posted by Prototrance So just how the fuck are we meant to break through armour like that??? Even if a bloke isnt using shite chat up lines it may be obvious that he is chatting you up with just general conversation. You would tell him to get lost because he found you attractive....... take interest from the opposite sex as a compliment........ Shit.........

to be honest, when i wrote that i hated being chatted up i was thinking of a particular incident that had happened that day...

i was in town by myself in quite an empty area and this total stranger bloke comes up to me and starts asking me how I am, where i live etc, then when he doesnt get much of a response from me, he follows me down the street for about 200m continuing to ask what my name is etc... thats the sort of chatting-up i hate, the harassment type.

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Originally posted by Dumonde Trancer and ur crap at it yourself "do you have a girlfriend? do you have a boyfriend?"

i wasn't chatting u up then! i was making fucked conversation!

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Originally posted by *HaRRy* i wasn't chatting u up then! i was making fucked conversation!

yeh yeh, talk to the hand!



on the other hand you have a sexy avatar

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Originally posted by *HaRRy* i hate people who obviously try to chat me up. it makes me feel uncomfortable and i generally try and escape as soon as possible.

Yeah, now imagine what would happen if not a single guy approached you in a long while. You'd probably start complaining that you can't "get noticed."

And you'd probably be pretty lonely too (although not necessarily).

I know girls who complain that guys never come up to them, they feel lonely and are sad that they just can't get noticed. And these girls are pretty, there is nothing weird or bad about them, they dress in style, they're cute, and friendly.

^^^ P.S. Vesa, that was a wonderful post.
Great minds think alike! (and love the same music! )
I'm actually gonna print out your post, and hang it on my bedroom wall! Seriously man, some great advice and funny too only one problem: What if you come out of the blue, she doesn't know you, and doesn't have time to decide whether she's interested or not? She might not be expecting anything and if you come on too strong she may be scared or unpleasantly surprised.

Ok this is just bursting to be told...

1. I hate to tell you fellers, but after long research it is now finally known that women like sex no less than men, they are just more cautious with displaying it for a fear of being called/recognized as "da slut".

2. The better looking girl is the more insecure she is. Be more afraid of the chick with a buttaface - she has the bod but her face is 10 pounds heavier because of all the makeup. She thinks she's the shit and probably will be looking for "the highest bidder" - e.g. that guido meathead with 22 inch biceps and 3 inch dick.

The problem with good lookin' females is well documented in this forum - the more good lookin woman is the less she'll be approached by guys who are insecure. If you're too shy to approach the girl, find few things about yourself that you like and say it in affirmation to yourself (silently, duh): I'm smart enough, I'm cute enough, and gosh darn it, people like me! (c)Stewart Smalley

Basically, think to yourself - if you were a girl, which qualities would you value in yourself - e.g. Great Kisser, can belch "Stirway to heaven" without stopping, make over 250K a year... Ok, ok, that last one does not apply to most of you but pretend like it does.

3. If you don't think she'd be interested - she probably wouldn't be.

4. I hate to tell you this kids, but even though you heard it before - BE YOURSELF! No, really, not the dumbass who gives wedgies to his mates but the relaxed, mature self that you want her to see.

When I met my wife, I thought "there is no way in this world this girl will even give me a time of day". Of course it helped that her bro was a pal of mine and we had something to kick off in the conversation. I look back at it and realize that all the time throughout I was being myself. Not playing someone she'd be expected with but actually my self...

5. Good line from "plains, trains and automobiles": Look, if you're gonna tell a story it would help if it had a point. If you're chatting her up out of the blue, find something to catch on to. Book is a terrific conversation started. So is the dog. If you have a puppy - it's like a chick magnet. Rent one from a local pet store if you dont' have one. It'll be worth it . If she's walking the dog, I would not recommend trying to pet it - especially if it weighs more than you and has a hard time containing saliva (well, you and dog may have something in common but that's where the common bond ends - unless, you're planning to use an opener "hey, your dog drools - so do I! wanna fuck?")

6. No matter which line you'll use, you'll later think it was cheesy... you'll think that she thinks you're a dork. Perhaps... but you don't expect your mother to find a girlfriend for you, do you?

Anywho... so, what you do is you be straight (for a change) and say it like it is - "Hi, I think you're really cute/beautiful what's your name?" - her "Lisa Luisa Conchita Bonita Fuentez Cortez de la Shag" . believe it or not, sometimes you just gotta take the straightest approach. Let me ask you a question, if the girl approached you while you were reading a book, assuming she's relatively normal looking - not a paper bag material, and said "Hi, i think you're cute - what's your name?" would you blow her off??? Even if she wasn't that good looking, whoudl you blow her off? It's kind of hard when person is honest.. Because honesty=vulnerability and means you're honest and you're not playing games, you're not hiding behind clever pickup lines and you're also opening yourself up. If she blows you off - don't sweat it. Treat it like sales people/models do - it's nothing personal. (well, it is, but she didn't get to know you and appreciate you and it's her loss, your gain. ) My buddy used to use that approach many times and it worked in 8/10 times. The times it didn't work he just says to himself "Oh well, she missed out on meeting a great guy".

Remember - find something that you like about yourself. Otherwise, if you don't like yourself, she won't like you either.

If you're in the club, be sure not to just hit and if it's a miss go to the next one. Trust me - women are watching and if they see you hit on one girl and then move over to them they will tell you to go to hell before you even approach them.

So, with that said - class is dismissed. Your homework is to "Grow a pair" and be cool.

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Originally posted by CynepMeH but you don't expect your mother to find a girlfriend for you, do you?

...but whats wrong with that???

that was a good post man definately gonna take some of that advice, even though I've heard it a hundred times. What you said is pretty much a paraphrasing of all the advice I get, so I guess it's time I do somethin about it.

CynepMeH... apparently they give good advice in Zimbabwe!

But anyway, I agree with everything you said (great post), except one thing: clubs/bars, that you shouldn't "move on to the next one" -- of course, not in plain view, but you should move away as quickly as possible and forget about the rejection that just happened. And what's the quickest way? Find another girl!

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Originally posted by Eugene Yeah, now imagine what would happen if not a single guy approached you in a long while. You'd probably start complaining that you can't "get noticed." And you'd probably be pretty lonely too (although not necessarily). I know girls who complain that guys never come up to them, they feel lonely and are sad that they just can't get noticed. And these girls are pretty, there is nothing weird or bad about them, they dress in style, they're cute, and friendly.

So she should give every guy who approaches her 10 minutes of her time as a mark of respect for those girls not as popular as her?

It's not like girls go out with the express purpose of meeting you. It's other peoples time you're imposing on. At the end of the day go ahead and try, but if somebody's not interested don't get all high & mighty about it.

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