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Posted by trancEyes22 on Oct-02-2003 15:28:

yeah definitely....i would never even go to a club alone, not cuz i'd be scared but just cuz it wouldn't be half as fun!

Posted by DigiNut on Oct-02-2003 15:42:

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Originally posted by trancEyes22
yeah definitely....i would never even go to a club alone, not cuz i'd be scared but just cuz it wouldn't be half as fun!

Well OK, so we're really in agreement then.

It's silly to stir shit up if someone wants to just go with her friends (especially, but not only, if those friends have boyfriends too). But I can think of many reasons to be upset over someone wanting to go ALL alone.

Posted by loca on Oct-02-2003 15:47:

I love going to clubs with my bf... he's the one that introduced me to the whole club scene anyways so whenever we're together, we go out together.
When i'm not there he goes out to clubs with his friends and thats fine by me... i could and have gone out to clubs without him, with my own friends but to be honest i didn't have half as good a time as i would have had had i been with him that night.
On the going to a club alone thing... never. I don't know how TrancEyes says she couldnt be scared... when some drunken idiot gropes you and won't let go it's pretty scary IMO. But obviously she's a brave girl and/or that's just never happened to her.
I wouldn't go to a club alone because, yes, i'm scared. Like i said being groped sucks, and no matter how "happy" or nice people are in a club there's always a few fucked up people you have to be careful about.

Just my 2 cents

Posted by trancEyes22 on Oct-02-2003 16:02:

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Originally posted by LoCa
I don't know how TrancEyes says she couldnt be scared... when some drunken idiot gropes you and won't let go it's pretty scary IMO. But obviously she's a brave girl and/or that's just never happened to her.

oh its happened before...even when my bf was right in front of me. i just have enough sense NOT to go to a club alone

Posted by DigiNut on Oct-02-2003 16:04:

quote:
Originally posted by LoCa
I love going to clubs with my bf... he's the one that introduced me to the whole club scene anyways so whenever we're together, we go out together.
When i'm not there he goes out to clubs with his friends and thats fine by me... i could and have gone out to clubs without him, with my own friends but to be honest i didn't have half as good a time as i would have had had i been with him that night.
On the going to a club alone thing... never. I don't know how TrancEyes says she couldnt be scared... when some drunken idiot gropes you and won't let go it's pretty scary IMO. But obviously she's a brave girl and/or that's just never happened to her.
I wouldn't go to a club alone because, yes, i'm scared. Like i said being groped sucks, and no matter how "happy" or nice people are in a club there's always a few fucked up people you have to be careful about.

Just my 2 cents

Don't worry... on behalf of the TOTAs, we'll protect you.

Posted by BitchBoyNYC on Oct-02-2003 17:12:

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Originally posted by DigiNut
Meh... I don't know. Even if the girl goes for nothing but the music and doesn't let any other guys near her, don't think there isn't still a possibility of her getting hit with rohypnol or something.

Going with friends but without b/f, ok... going alone? As Malek said, no matter how much I trusted a girl, I wouldn't trust the other guys in those clubs. There's gotta be someone to watch out for her. Not WATCH HER, but WATCH OUT FOR HER. Can we see the difference here?

I mean, what if your girl told you that she felt like taking a walk alone around the ghetto part of town at 3 am, would you be OK with that?

I just don't think going to a club all alone is very safe for any girl, unless she's meeting people outside or immediately inside, and no that's not saying they're "weak", it's saying that there are frickin' criminals in there that won't take no for an answer.

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And if you explain to your girlfriend that you are concerned about her safety, not her conduct, I would expect her to be OK with that. If she's not, then that might be good reason to suspect an alterior motive for her going.

Oh one last thing... mec, you never really made it clear whether or not you were invited. Did you want to go with and she flat-out refused? Or does she just want to go to a place you're not interested in?

I agree. There is no problem what-so-ever about a girl or guy going to a club with their friends and not their significant other. My cousin and his girl just had a big fight about this over the weekend. She wanted to go to Mirage, and he didn't. She was going to meet some of her friends there and he had a canip shit. I think he was wrong. Anyone should be able to go out with their friends if they want to. He said it wasn't her place to be in a club with all of her SINGLE friends(who were there to see if they could meet a guy)w/o him. Maybe there's some validity in how he feels. I don't know, myself, I wouldn't have a problem with it at all.

BTW, I don't think Tranceeyes was intending to sound racist. She just made a statement, which mind you, has some merit. She just shouldn't have made the generalization that all middle eastern men fall into the Muslim extremist category. There's no need to get on her case about it. It's just an innocent mis-wording of a statement.

Posted by loca on Oct-02-2003 18:56:

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Originally posted by DigiNut
Don't worry... on behalf of the TOTAs, we'll protect you.

LOL why thank you I actually feel quite safe when going out some place where i know there's loads of TOTAs around

Posted by djeternal on Oct-02-2003 20:29:

whenever my girl would ask me that....id say "ight, imma go hit sum other clubs with the guys then...have fun" Then look for little signs of dishonesty...first thing i did b4 i got together with any girl was learn how to read her...it helps alot.

Posted by LiquidX on Oct-02-2003 22:48:

- I'll be honest with you. It all depends on the kind of relationship that you have with your girlfriend. Like for example, my girlfriend would always invite me, or want me to go out with her to wherever her friends would want to go etc etc.. theres no reason for her friends to go out with her to a club really. Its not like they are Tranceaddicts who love the music. They will to either, have fun and call the attention, or go with you and her friends and still have fun... you know what I mean?!! .. atleast my girlfriend would've always want to be with me when going out.. although when doing things more personal or just to hang out with her friends, she would, but outings like clubbing by her self.. na na na na.. I dont buy it, Im a jealous freak, ( not really ) .. but we all know what goes on at clubs, and what girls are exposed to at clubs. She'll have to dress nice, like a hottie, and .. you know the rest. Im now about to split up with my girlfriend though, sad sittuation, but I see that she's not even asking me like before when she goes out with certain group of people ( both guys and girls )..

Posted by Shook1 on Oct-02-2003 22:51:

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Originally posted by ahlamalek
i don't mind my gf going alone/with friend anywhere... except clubs. Its not that I don't trust her, I don't trust the hordes of drunk males over there plus she's pretty weak at defending herself

actually even when I was with her at the club, she got harassed, and I was only a couple of meters away....

Exactly my point ......I do trust when my girlfriend goes out, but sometimes u can't trust who there going w/ or whoever is gonna be there trying to influence them. Especially when u do have a hot chick.... there are b!tch mutherfu#ckers out there that will disrespect u on purpose and still try & make on move on your girl. A club atmosphere, drinks, & whatever the hell else ...... try me

Posted by xKaoSx on Oct-02-2003 23:00:

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Originally posted by Shook1
Fuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuck That!

Dude, if your on a message board asking this question then when she does actually go, then your going to have it on your mind the whole time. If she really likes u then she'll respect your opinion w/o a hassle. If she gives u a hard time then u have something to think about.

this is just my opinion. I've been in similar situations and I'm a jealous type so I'm totally not cool w/ it unless I'm there dancing/drinking w/ her. I just dont see a point in going to a club w/o your signif. other.

Wow- you're an idiot. You said it yourself- You're the jealous type- get over it. If she is going to do something at the club she will do it anywhere- You going to lock her up and never let her out?

Posted by MrSquirrel on Oct-02-2003 23:03:

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Originally posted by DigiNut
I think Swamper made the best point. I have one thing to add to that: if she's going with friends, tell her you want to meet the friends she's going with. And make sure they're hot. Then you've got a backup plan in case your girl doesn't know how to behave herself.

P.S. the next person to say "discuss" is going to have me come to bash their head in with a garden hoe. Thanks.

Discuss

(waits for the pain)

MrS

Posted by Shook1 on Oct-02-2003 23:29:

quote:
Originally posted by Shook1
this is just my opinion. I've been in similar situations and I'm a jealous type so I'm totally not cool w/ it unless I'm there dancing/drinking w/ her. I just dont see a point in going to a club w/o your signif. other.

xKaosx: read the first line of the paragraph! theres reasons for me putting that there so people like u dont missinterpret. I was expressing an opinion !!!!!!

Posted by disko-kandi on Oct-02-2003 23:33:

quote:
Originally posted by UWM
I'd get fucking sick of a girlfriend if she had to be everywhere and out with me all the time.

hahahaaaa!!! i'd have to replace that with "boyfriend"!

Posted by xKaoSx on Oct-02-2003 23:34:

quote:
Originally posted by Shook1
xKaosx: read the first line of the paragraph! theres reasons for me putting that there so people like u dont missinterpret. I was expressing an opinion !!!!!!

well- your opinion sucks.

lol

Posted by Shook1 on Oct-02-2003 23:38:

intelligent. But forget about this thread. Its not my girl & is stirring way too much controversy for me.

Posted by disko-kandi on Oct-02-2003 23:41:

quote:
Originally posted by DigiNut
Going with friends but without b/f, ok... going alone? As Malek said, no matter how much I trusted a girl, I wouldn't trust the other guys in those clubs. There's gotta be someone to watch out for her. Not WATCH HER, but WATCH OUT FOR HER.

i used to go to ARIA all alone a lot ...but i always had malek (with his video camera ehehe!!) and fastmp3 looking out for me!! my kinda security boyz...hihi! oh yea, and THE ROCK, a former security guard, who looks like the dog from tom & jerry who'd be watching out for me from a distance! hihi!
had anyone just merely attempted to touch me they would have been dead meat! ...
yeaaa, i've had this convo with malek more than once, right malek? as a girl, just gotta know 'how' to do it!

my answer as a girl: in a relationship, trust is the main thing!

Posted by malek on Oct-02-2003 23:42:

quote:
Originally posted by disko-kandi
i used to go to ARIA all alone a lot ...but i always had malek (with his video camera ehehe!!) and fastmp3 looking out for me!! my kinda security boyz...hihi! oh yea, and THE ROCK, a former security guard who'd be watching out for me from a distance! hihi! had anyone just merely attempted to touch me they would have been dead meat! ...
yeaaa, i've had this convo with malek more than once, right malek? just gotta know 'how' to do it!

my answer as a girl: trust is the main thing!

hehe Malek-the-bodyguard

Posted by CynepMeH on Oct-03-2003 01:53:

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Originally posted by joeh
When you go to a club are you just looking to pick up girls?

Or are you there to enjoy the music and/or have a good time with mates.

That's a great point I was thinking about only ystd. Is it me or is the trend in clubs that play Trance is that it's not your typical meat market? I remember going to club like Exit and Sound Factory - fuqing gross! By the time I would go home I would be all greased up by some meathead's sweat and hair gel that also serves as a helmet. While clubs still are great places to hook up, it just seems like lately ppl are going to clubs mostly to chill and dance, not to hook up.

One more thing - there are bunch of clubs in Phily, yet when you drive by those clubs right before our 2am closing time you see most arests take place in R&B clubs, rather than trance clubs. You got more fights in those places. I actually cannot recall a single time when I saw a fight break out at a club that plays trance. yet our R&B/Hip Hop clubs get a weekly dosage of fights, stabbing and ocasional shoot-outs...

Bump into someone at a trance event - most of the time everyone is friendly... Bump into someone at HipHop/R&B club and you got yourself a fight, "What da fuk is yo problem, muthafukah? Watch yo fukin step, biatch!" and so on...

just my H.O.

Posted by CynepMeH on Oct-03-2003 02:00:

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Originally posted by DaveSaenz
Alah Akbar!!!!

If you hear this yelled loudly in a public place, chances are this is the last thing you will be hearing before meeting your maker, whoever that might be...

BTW, off-topic, I have a solution to whole middle-eastern suicide bombings: Make Israeli public transportation the only transportation that busses palestinian children to schools, make walking to school illegal. Offer palestinians free tables at markets and so on....

Ok, that would be just mean, wouldn't it????

Posted by CynepMeH on Oct-03-2003 02:02:

quote:
Originally posted by Moongoose
One night i went out with my friend to a club (bussines not pleasure ) becouse my GF wanted to see a DJ i didnt really like. So anyway we are at that club and to my surprise i find my GF there (100km away from where she was supposed to be) kissing one of her girlfriends. I watched them from the balcony for a few minutes then thought "what the heck" and went down and joined the fun Just 2 bad that the meeting my friend had with the manager of the club didnt take long becouse i ahd to go just when things were getting interesting

So i say trust your GF and let her have a little fun

Right after you left, she strated kissing me... My buddy also said he got some... hell, everyone in the club did - where'd you go???

j/k

Posted by CynepMeH on Oct-03-2003 02:04:

Posted by DaveSZ on Oct-03-2003 09:12:

quote:
Originally posted by CynepMeH
If you hear this yelled loudly in a public place, chances are this is the last thing you will be hearing before meeting your maker, whoever that might be...

BTW, off-topic, I have a solution to whole middle-eastern suicide bombings: Make Israeli public transportation the only transportation that busses palestinian children to schools, make walking to school illegal. Offer palestinians free tables at markets and so on....

Ok, that would be just mean, wouldn't it????

The kind of people who would do that type of thing don't care whether they are killing fellow Muslims. Muslims died on 9/11, in other Islamic militant attacks on Western targets, and I can remember numerous Israeli suicide bombings where Arabs were killed as well as Jews. In fact one terrible bombing took place in an Israeli Arab owned restaurant in which half the people killed were Jew and half Arab.

That's not to say I'm particularly on the Israeli side of things (especially with the illegal settlement building, and rightwing hawkish government).

Posted by Moongoose on Oct-03-2003 14:23:

quote:
Originally posted by CynepMeH
Right after you left, she strated kissing me... My buddy also said he got some... hell, everyone in the club did - where'd you go???

j/k

Me and my friend got together with some other friends, we went to a bar and started drinking until they ran out of vodka and red bull, then i want home and passed out in the bathtub

As for all of you who got to her after i left...i got it all on tape, and i sold the tape to porn sites and then i bought a BMW M3 with that money Congratulations man you are now an Internet pr0n Star

j/k

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