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Originally posted by speedracer_mec im a 20 yr old moron

oh! silly me, i just read this again and i realize now that you are calling anuneventrade a moron, not yourself!

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Originally posted by speedracer_mec blah blah....this world hates me.

Nah, just tell her that when a guy tells a girl he wants to be friends it means he's not interested in her, not attracted to her, he's out there, looking for something better...

And then, a few minutes later, tell her you just wanna be friends. Explain that you're not mature enough yet to handle a "real" relationship.

Then, since you both have herpes, you might as well enjoy each others contaminated state, so ask if she wants to be "friends with benefits."

If she does, report the results to Sand Leaper on a weekly basis.

Seriously, my feeling is if she's flirting and talking to guys on the internet, severe the ties. If she's just bored and talking to people because she doesn't have anything else to do or she wants to avoid homework (like I do), don't stress it.

im not good at this long term bullshit

im use to short term screw bang laterz...scenario.

Look , we did give you ideas/options...

1)dump her
2)kill her

As my PREVIOUS posts suggest, choose #1. If you can't even trust her to use the internet it is hopeless. Pull your head out of your ass and realize this.

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Originally posted by Echo of Silence Nah, just tell her that when a guy tells a girl he wants to be friends it means he's not interested in her, not attracted to her, he's out there, looking for something better... And then, a few minutes later, tell her you just wanna be friends. Explain that you're not mature enough yet to handle a "real" relationship. Then, since you both have herpes, you might as well enjoy each others contaminated state, so ask if she wants to be "friends with benefits." If she does, report the results to Sand Leaper on a weekly basis. Seriously, my feeling is if she's flirting and talking to guys on the internet, severe the ties. If she's just bored and talking to people because she doesn't have anything else to do or she wants to avoid homework (like I do), don't stress it.

she hasnt been onliine in months..

she just did this once today because her roomate got a computer..new computer.
but i want to stop the problem which could be an issue in the future...because of how we met..u know wut i mean?

i like the idea of killing her.

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Originally posted by speedracer_mec she hasnt been onliine in months.. she just did this once today because her roomate got a computer..new computer. but i want to stop the problem which could be an issue in the future...because of how we met..u know wut i mean?

Yes, I know what you mean.

If you want to continue the relationship, tell her how you feel. Tell her how it bothers you and why. She should care about your feelings. Maybe, she'll decide not to chat anymore or maybe just talking about it will make you feel better about it. When you hold it in and think about it, it becomes huge inside of your brain and it'll drive you crazy.

At some point, its important to trust.

Also, don't forget. When you told her that it bothered you that she was talking to her ex, she stopped.

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Originally posted by Echo of Silence Yes, I know what you mean. If you want to continue the relationship, tell her how you feel. Tell her how it bothers you and why. She should care about your feelings. Maybe, she'll decide not to chat anymore or maybe just talking about it will make you feel better about it. When you hold it in and think about it, it becomes huge inside of your brain and it'll drive you crazy. At some point, its important to trust. Also, don't forget. When you told her that it bothered you that she was talking to her ex, she stopped.

i know she did...she has changed entirely for me....how should i tell her tonite..she said she gonna call me tonite so i can tell her my problems with her.

i want to tell her, "theres no such thing as guy friends online...they see ur pic and dont see someone they wanna be friends with...they see someone they wanna screw with...obviously..im seeing this relationship is a big fukin joke to u....hiding from me online and chatting..u lied to me saying u were gonna stop chatting...I dont understand wtf is up with u"

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Originally posted by speedracer_mec she hasnt been onliine in months.. she just did this once today because her roomate got a computer..new computer. but i want to stop the problem which could be an issue in the future...because of how we met..u know wut i mean?

dude, i know exactly what u mean. im also in a very loving relationship myself... i have my gf gagged and tied up duct tape in the basement, that way i never have to worry bout her cheating on me... plz excuse me my mother's calling me... yes mother... i well take care of that snooping neighbor...

*picks up knife and puts on a wig*

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Originally posted by igottaknow dude, i know exactly what u mean. im also in a very loving relationship myself... i have my gf gagged and tied up duct tape in my basement, that way i never have to worry bout her cheating on me... plz excuse me my mother's calling me... yes mother... i well take care of that snooping neighbor... *picks up knife and put on a wig*

Im so traumatized....and to be honest we're both whooped on each other.
All her friends went clubbin last night..and she stayed home and talked to me on the phone

Mec, jealousy is often born of insecurity.

So first try to look at why you might be feeling insecure...

is it your first relationship? is it because of the way this relationship started (she was cheating on someone else to be with you)? are you typically a good boyfriend? are you insecure because of the long distance thing? Does she make you insecure because she puts you down a lot or is overly critical?

Try to figure out why. That might help YOU handle the situation.

Otherwise try to organize your thoughts. So you can discuss it without attacking her. Its really hard to communicate when two people are in attack/defend mode. If you can express your thoughts in terms of YOUR feelings (versus her actions), the conversation should go better. Because it sounds like she respects your feelings.

No one likes to be called names or attacked but most people are receptive to others feelings and if she knows chatting online bothers you and she understands why it bothers you...she might stop for the relationship... or she might work out a compromise with you.

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Originally posted by speedracer_mec Damn im 90 miles away from my gurl....i have herpes from her...i feel like shit...but im really thinking now of letting her go. I feel like at this point in my life...."im better off alone"... she aint cheating on me but she goes online and i saw her chatting today...we met online ya know....pretty scary isnt it... holidays are coming up...

i just broke up with my girl of 5 years a few days ago...it was mutual...but damn now that the holidays are creeping up...



.dJonE.

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Originally posted by speedracer_mec Im so traumatized....and to be honest we're both whooped on each other. All her friends went clubbin last night..and she stayed home and talked to me on the phone

Have you met these "friends" of hers? Because all the ppl I've met who try to hook up on the net are complete freaks of society. I mean cmon theres a reason why you've had to resort to the internet. Kids theses days. new topic...lets photoshop more PP pix.

'mju:zik - im confused.. i thought you were defending her when everyone took a jab and now you are trying to instigate another flame war? are you just trying to breed controversy?

I feel sorry for people who arent single. 90% of couples are miserable. and that is a statistic I got off of www.actualstatistics.com/worldevents so dont tell me Im talking out of my ass.

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i broke up with my chic of 7 years a couple months back and DAMN am i glad i did it rather than stay in a relationship that wasnt making me happy...worst 2 things you can do are stay with someone for the wrong reasons or end up with the wrong person for the right reasons

just do what you think is right and its the best choice dude

(*side note* the ex didnt like trance...shoulda dumped her long ago for that alone)

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Originally posted by DjOvertime i broke up with my chic of 7 years a couple months back and DAMN am i glad i did it rather than stay in a relationship that wasnt making me happy...worst 2 things you can do are stay with someone for the wrong reasons or end up with the wrong person for the right reasons just do what you think is right and its the best choice dude (*side note* the ex didnt like trance...shoulda dumped her long ago for that alone)

very good advise....thats what happened to me, i wish i would of figured out sooner not 5 years into the relationship...oh well 5 years of experience


.dJonE.

i think imma go see a clinical doctor for depression

this year has been too much for me and im soooo paranoid.

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internet nerds/hacker nerd super hyked up on crack and speed

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If she's had that many one night stands, gave you herpes, meets multiple guys from the internet, goes home with guys that she meets in clubs, that pretty much spells out: slut.

being someone who is very educated about STDs (as in, scared shitless of getting them, so i ask my doctor/s tons of questions), these kind of statements irk me. so, here are a few facts about herpes:

the statistic is either 1 in 4 or 1 in 3 people have herpes (pretty sure its 1 in 3). herpes is one of those STDs, like HPV, which often doesn't show symptoms. thus, it gets spread around a lot. in addition, there isn't really an accurate test for it. i had always assumed that the "all-in-one" test i get during my annual covered herpes.. but alas, my doctor mentioned the last time how there is only a blood test for herpes, but it isn't very accurate, because ... so in general, you only know you have it if you have a break-out (just like HPV).

i don't know.. i think it is really ignorant for people to assume someone who has an STD is a slut. hell, 75% of sexually active people have HPV, most dont know they have it. 1/3 is a pretty damn high number too, for herpes. you could get either of those STDs from the first person you are with. luck of the draw. (and statistically speaking, the odds are very, very against you.)

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wear a jimmy

condoms absolutely don't protect against HPV. fairly certain they are not very effective against herpes either (especially if you have sores).

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she showed me test results from early in the yr.

see my above comment about there not being a very effective test for herpes. you should have educated yourself on STDs before deciding to have sex, and realized that you were taking a risk. you took the risk, and you are now one of a SHITLOAD of people who has a STD. its not the end of the world, for christ's sake. don't act like it is.

anyways, carry on.

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Originally posted by montie the above internet nerds/hacker nerd super hyked up on crack and speed

Hehe, sorry, I'm on my parents' computer now. My brother spilled beer on my keyboard so it's all fucked up. I was just gonna see if anyone could figure out what I was saying- they're actual sentences, just some extra letters and numbers in between. I got on it today and it's gotten worse!

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Originally posted by KristineClub Hehe, sorry, I'm on my parents' computer now. My brother spilled beer on my keyboard so it's all fucked up. I was just gonna see if anyone could figure out what I was saying- they're actual sentences, just some extra letters and numbers in between. I got on it today and it's gotten worse!

i have a 64 oz cup, and ive ruined 6 keyboards and 12 beers with it.

Speed, quit being such a fucking bitch. If you havent suffered from depression for years and years, you arent in a chemical depression, you are in a "woe is me" depression and the only way to get better is grow some leather around your nuts and kick some heads in. Quit letting other people affect your life.

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Originally posted by DjOvertime (*side note* the ex didnt like trance...shoulda dumped her long ago for that alone)

That right there is a no-no, she doesn't like trance, doubt I could have a relationship with that girl, sorry but love my trance waaaaay too much. I find that people who like EDM tend to be very open to events around them, for the most part they are laid back, easy to talk to and cool to get along with, there are exceptions of course, I am yet to meet it though.

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Originally posted by speedracer_mec i have herpes from her...

gutted.

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