Who should pay for the date? *UPDATED*

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Posted by Callie5 on Aug-03-2004 19:36:

You know.. I can actually admit that I've been freaked out when a guy (on date # 1-2) shows up with flowers/gift and insists on paying for everything... AND in MOST cases these guys didn't work out

Posted by tha_broad on Aug-03-2004 19:42:

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Originally posted by The Highroller

I don't know how anyone could feel good about themselves letting someone else continuously pay their way.

I know I feel like crap about it. In my situation, I know that when it seems like ive been treated a LOT in a while, I come up with other ways to treat him back. Everything counts. I'll take my small amount of $$ and go to the grocery store to buy something which I can actually cook, that way, its much more special, because im acutally taking the time to create something for him. Youd be surprised how even the simplest bowl of home made chicken noodle soup can make a guy feel treated. But I know and he knows that If I had more $$ Id definitely offer to pay.

Posted by newr on Aug-03-2004 19:45:

I always offer to pay... 100% of the time... thats just the way i was raised

Posted by ShadoWolf on Aug-03-2004 19:50:

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Originally posted by newr
I always offer to pay... 100% of the time... thats just the way i was raised

Agreed. It's called chivalry.

Tip for the guys: a little chivalry goes a long way... try it sometime.

Posted by d!abolic on Aug-03-2004 20:02:

quote:
Originally posted by tha_broad
Youd be surprised how even the simplest bowl of home made chicken noodle soup can make a guy feel treated.
This is very true.

quote:
Originally posted by ShadoWolf
Tip for the guys: a little chivalry goes a long way... try it sometime.
Yes, a long way towards firmly establishing yourself as someone to be taken advantage of.

"It is difficult to free the fools from the chains they revere."

- Voltaire

Posted by ShadoWolf on Aug-03-2004 20:03:

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Yes, a long way towards firmly establishing yourself as someone to be taken advantage of.

honestly, if she puts out, what do you care?

Posted by The Highroller on Aug-03-2004 20:05:

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Originally posted by ShadoWolf
honestly, if she puts out, what do you care?

Posted by ++ EGO ++ on Aug-03-2004 20:08:

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Originally posted by tw1tch
I'll pay, I don't give a shit about the money, it's the principal/attitude behind it. Sitting back expecting me to pay all the time and that'll piss me off...

Yes, exactly.
Well said dude!

Posted by d!abolic on Aug-03-2004 20:16:

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Originally posted by ShadoWolf
honestly, if she puts out, what do you care?
Because i'm not in it for the sex alone. And even if i were, she'd still put out sooner for a man who has principles and isn't afraid to stand up for them. And why would i reward her with anything BUT sex FOR sex? She's enjoying it even more than i am!

Posted by starsearcher on Aug-03-2004 20:20:

Yeah seriously if you want to pay for sex you can always get a hooker...no point in spending time on stupid dinners and dates anyways just pay and let her do the work

Posted by Skipper on Aug-03-2004 20:22:

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Originally posted by d!abolic
I'm just letting you know that, like someone has already stated, that when MEN YOU'RE JUST STARTING TO DATE insist on paying for everything, they're not doing this because they're truly noble and chivalrous, but because they have a low sense of self-worth, lack admirable qualities and try to make up for all of that by doing everything imaginable for the girl.

This is the biggest generalization EVER.

If you don't know any of them, how can you say that you know why they are doing something?

and who said "everything imaginable?" I said paying for dinner, movies, etc. If that is the extent of your imagination, then I pity the women you date...

I 100% agree with StereoPrincess - women want equality, of course, but until equality in the workplace is a reality (and it's NOT), don't try to claim that women are hypocritical feminists who want to have their cake and eat it too.

This thread is frustrating.

Posted by ShadoWolf on Aug-03-2004 20:24:

quote:
Originally posted by d!abolic
she'd still put out sooner for a man who has principles and isn't afraid to stand up for them.

I've never heard of a woman sleeping with a guy because he "stuck to his guns" and refused to pay for a date.

quote:

And why would i reward her with anything BUT sex FOR sex? She's enjoying it even more than i am!

a legend indeed

Posted by Nalin on Aug-03-2004 20:37:

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Originally posted by ShadoWolf
I've never heard of a woman sleeping with a guy because he "stuck to his guns" and refused to pay for a date.

a legend indeed

seriously dude it goes like this. if you kick her around a bit, she'll put out a lot likelier then if you spend $$$ on her. then she'll just try to suck more and more off you, why would she put out, cause then you'll most likely be done with her. she'll try to leach and leach as long as she can keeping you hopeful. i know it sounds counterproductive but its the truth.

no one said you shouldn't be nice. we just said don't be suckered.

but besides it doesn't even matter, like he said he's not in it for the sex any more

Posted by Skipper on Aug-03-2004 20:54:

I wonder what his dates would think about his stance on equality if they read his Thailand thread...

Posted by Vivid Boy on Aug-03-2004 20:59:

i believe whoever has cash on them should pay..and if neither one has cash on them they should skip the date and go straight to bonin

Posted by DigitalMP on Aug-03-2004 21:00:

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Originally posted by Skipper
I wonder what his dates would think about his stance on equality if they read his Thailand thread...

What if I pay for the first date as long as you promise to drop a hot set for me?

see guys? barter is the key. stop thinking with your dicks.

Posted by Vivid Boy on Aug-03-2004 21:08:

i think skipper would be a cool baby mama

Posted by ShadoWolf on Aug-03-2004 21:09:

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Originally posted by DigitalMP
What if I pay for the first date as long as you promise to drop a hot set for me?

see guys? barter is the key. stop thinking with your dicks.

hot sex > hot set

vagina > vinyl

Posted by DigitalMP on Aug-03-2004 21:12:

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Originally posted by ShadoWolf
hot sex > hot set

vagina > vinyl

who told you?

Posted by Skipper on Aug-03-2004 21:22:

Posted by DigitalMP on Aug-03-2004 21:31:

quote:
Originally posted by Skipper
this is my kinda guy, right here!

nice

Posted by Vivid Boy on Aug-03-2004 21:35:

ur barking up the wrong tree skipps..trust me this is just phase one of his plan..be scared be very afraid..one night maybe not tonight or tomm night..ur gonna be walking the streets and from within an alley he will invite u over with a friendly grin and then smmack ur out cold, passin in and out of conciousness and waking up with ur pants around ur ankles..u know how i know???? IM HIS ACCOMPLICE!!!

but dont worry we'll leave u bus fare since ur a ta

Posted by DigitalMP on Aug-03-2004 21:36:

Should I post the pics of Eric with his pants around his ankles?

Posted by Vivid Boy on Aug-03-2004 21:37:

hey man it wasnt an easy task becoming ur accomplice...initiation was tough and to post those would be down right cruel

Posted by The Highroller on Aug-03-2004 21:38:

quote:
Originally posted by Skipper
I 100% agree with StereoPrincess - women want equality, of course, but until equality in the workplace is a reality (and it's NOT), don't try to claim that women are hypocritical feminists who want to have their cake and eat it too.

You honestly think that if equality in the workplace was a reality, that women would give up on the sweeter parts of the deal? I highly doubt it.

In my opinion, something as general as "equality in the workforce" shouldn't be used as an argument here. I would agree with you if it were half a century ago when it would be completely unheard of for a woman to be making more than a man. But now, it is definately possible for a women to be earning more than a man. You just said yourself that the you've made more money than the past few boyfriends you've had. So if this is the case, please tell me why there is always an underlying expectation for the guy to pick up the tab when the bill comes? That's pretty much assuming that the guy makes more money than the girl.

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