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Originally posted by butterfly it's not always the girl who wants more. and i agree that being friends with an ex isnt good. actually my bf seems to have maintained friendships with 2 or 3 exes but i know i never could. i guess it is based on the individual.

It has been in my experience, but I know you're right. I would never be friends with benefits with a girl I really liked. It would be too depressing for me. I only want that if I know that I only want friendship, but the sex is good. I don't know that I would want it at all anymore though. It is so unfulfilling.

i'll try to answer that question


ok well, i need to be mentally stimulated before sex...as do about 90% of the female population. it's just how we are.

if some hot male model knocked on my door, and we had great sex and he was well hung too, i wouldn't orgasm...because i don't know him at all. actually, now that i think of it, that's kind of kinky...maybe i would

no but seriously, it's because we need lots of mental stimulation and it's just way better for us when it's with someone that we are so passionate about and in love with we like that comfort too...i don't know about you guys, but when you first get naked and have sex for the first time, it's stressful...my mind is too busy wondering stuff to be able to concentrate on an orgasm. that happens to me now, too. sometimes i concentrate so hard on cuming during oral, that i can't....and then i throw a hissy fit followed by feelings of frustration and rage to the point where i want to beat my boyfriend's ass and blame him. then i fall asleep pouting. either that, or my boyfriend practically rapes into giving it a second chance. hahaha i love when he does that.

Homer Simpson style: "Dear Baby, Welcome to Dumpsville. Population: You"

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Originally posted by Gremsey It is impossible to create a small kitchen garden on the cooled down fiery lava of feelings. The end is the end.

That is soo my new Sig.....

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Originally posted by Slylee i'll try to answer that question ok well, i need to be mentally stimulated before sex...as do about 90% of the female population. it's just how we are. if some hot male model knocked on my door, and we had great sex and he was well hung too, i wouldn't orgasm...because i don't know him at all. actually, now that i think of it, that's kind of kinky...maybe i would no but seriously, it's because we need lots of mental stimulation and it's just way better for us when it's with someone that we are so passionate about and in love with we like that comfort too...i don't know about you guys, but when you first get naked and have sex for the first time, it's stressful...my mind is too busy wondering stuff to be able to concentrate on an orgasm. that happens to me now, too. sometimes i concentrate so hard on cuming during oral, that i can't....and then i throw a hissy fit followed by feelings of frustration and rage to the point where i want to beat my boyfriend's ass and blame him. then i fall asleep pouting. either that, or my boyfriend practically rapes into giving it a second chance. hahaha i love when he does that.

Pouting when you don't have an orgasm. That's terrible. I had a friend who's girlfriend claimed it had never happened to her before. She got all pouty and I think it really hurt his confidence. That's not what you girls want to accomplish.

A comedian made a good point. If a guy can't get hard or cums too fast, it's the guys fault.

If a girl doesn't cum, it's the guys fault.

Maybe it's the girls fault some of these times, but that's never admitted.

I know what you mean about the intimicy thing though. I think that was the problem with the girl I tried to be "friends with benefits" with. She liked me too much. It was great for her, because she was comfortable and an easy O (No one ever believes me, but she could have 5+ orgasms in like 10 minutes). Not claiming it is me either, she's a freak of nature. But I know that she felt a connection to me that helped her get off easier. That really bothered me when it was just sex though. It made me feel as though I was using her and she was hanging on and hoping I would change my mind. I couldn't do it anymore.

I never had a gf....I am not lesbian...

Or are to many members assuming TA is somekind of male forum?

If it comes to boyfriends....
....never needed one, actually.....
They bore me soon enough and the ones I really like all have girlfriends for like...3 or 4 years or so...

@ nite-mer: he doesn�t get offended...he knows that it�s me, because we�ve talked about it. and it�s more like a playful pouting, I should have clarified that. I just get sexually frustrated. I guess it�s like getting blue balls u know? trust me, I would never sit there and make him think he�s bad in bed...I don�t even think I could make him feel that way if you know what I mean not to mention, we have the most amazing compatible sexual chemistry. it�s just sometimes I have too much on my mind before we have sex, and I can�t seem to fully relax, and I�m distracted. and then sometimes it's because i'm concentrating too hard on the orgasm itself...so hard that i can't even have one...it's weird. whenever we have wine though or i'm a little tipsy...never fails amazing ones...i probably need to relax more during sex that's all..my mind is constantly on the go.

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Originally posted by Slylee @ nite-mer: he doesn�t get offended...he knows that it�s me, because we�ve talked about it. and it�s more like a playful pouting, I should have clarified that. I just get sexually frustrated. I guess it�s like getting blue balls u know? trust me, I would never sit there and make him think he�s bad in bed...I don�t even think I could make him feel that way if you know what I mean not to mention, we have the most amazing compatible sexual chemistry. it�s just sometimes I have too much on my mind before we have sex, and I can�t seem to fully relax, and I�m distracted. and then sometimes it's because i'm concentrating too hard on the orgasm itself...so hard that i can't even have one...it's weird. whenever we have wine though or i'm a little tipsy...never fails amazing ones...i probably need to relax more during sex that's all..my mind is constantly on the go.

True. That's the funny thing about women. If you are distracted you won't have an orgasm. A man will almost always have one, unless you're too fucked up. I guess it works opposite though. If you are worried about going to fast, that can clutter your mind, and it can happen. I feel like it's my job to give a girl an orgasm. If I don't, it almost makes me pouty. I get irritated, because I think of it as my fault. Then it's time to pony up and go again. But sometimes it's just not gonna happen and I know that. It still irritates me though.

I'm just going to bite my tongue and keep my mouth shut this time

if you want to live to see wmc next year, i would

just tell her you found out that you are jewish and you cant be with her cause she aint kosher

Quagmire style: "I got a question for YOU, WHAT are you still doing here?"

but no

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Originally posted by Slylee @ nite-mer: he doesn�t get offended...he knows that it�s me, because we�ve talked about it. and it�s more like a playful pouting, I should have clarified that. I just get sexually frustrated. I guess it�s like getting blue balls u know? trust me, I would never sit there and make him think he�s bad in bed...I don�t even think I could make him feel that way if you know what I mean not to mention, we have the most amazing compatible sexual chemistry. it�s just sometimes I have too much on my mind before we have sex, and I can�t seem to fully relax, and I�m distracted. and then sometimes it's because i'm concentrating too hard on the orgasm itself...so hard that i can't even have one...it's weird. whenever we have wine though or i'm a little tipsy...never fails amazing ones...i probably need to relax more during sex that's all..my mind is constantly on the go.

if i dont orgasm from sex, sometimes i take out my vibrator and finish myself, right next to him. it's only fair that i get to cum too. i recommend this to ease that frustration.

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Originally posted by Slylee if you want to live to see wmc next year, i would

I�m not sure that I�d be able to orgasm with him sitting there watching either. it�s like, �no pressure honey..i�ll just be sitting here staring at you while you masterbate�. lol I mean, I�m all for doing stuff to myself in front of him, for the purpose of just turning him on, but I like to be alone when I'm seriously masterbating.

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Originally posted by Slylee I�m not sure that I�d be able to orgasm with him sitting there watching either. it�s like, �no pressure honey..i�ll just be sitting here staring at you while you masterbate�. lol I mean, I�m all for doing stuff to myself in front of him, for the purpose of just turning him on, but I like to be alone when I'm seriously masterbating.

When you get a girl to do that for you its the TOPS. So, a special thank you to all the female TAs that are willing to get themselves off in front of their boyfriend.

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Originally posted by butterfly if i dont orgasm from sex, sometimes i take out my vibrator and finish myself, right next to him. it's only fair that i get to cum too. i recommend this to ease that frustration.

That's funny. I had a girl that wouldn't give me any lovin' one time. I just started jerking off next to her. She asked what I was doing and I told her I was jerking off.

Jamie, I can understand the masturbating alone thing too. It's hard with an audience even if you are comfortable.

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Originally posted by Nite-Mer That's funny. I had a girl that wouldn't give me any lovin' one time. I just started jerking off next to her. She asked what I was doing and I told her I was jerking off.

ahahahaha

thats one of the funniest things i've ever read on TA

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Originally posted by Slylee I�m not sure that I�d be able to orgasm with him sitting there watching either. it�s like, �no pressure honey..i�ll just be sitting here staring at you while you masterbate�. lol I mean, I�m all for doing stuff to myself in front of him, for the purpose of just turning him on, but I like to be alone when I'm seriously masterbating.

I can see your point, but DAMN is it hot when a woman does that in front of you.

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Originally posted by XaNaX I can see your point, but DAMN is it hot when a woman does that in front of you.

Yes. Yes it is.

i like doing it too...that's when a woman's acting skills come in to play



no but seriously, i'll tell him straight up, "look, i'm most likely not gonna orgasm from this, but it still feels good and you can still watch".

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Originally posted by Nite-Mer That's funny. I had a girl that wouldn't give me any lovin' one time. I just started jerking off next to her. She asked what I was doing and I told her I was jerking off.

That is so damn hilarious, WOW

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Originally posted by Falcon-X That is so damn hilarious, WOW

Another time my girlfriend in college wouldn't give me head. She had only done it once and I was a chosen virgin, so there weren't many options. I think she was teasing me.

So I threw in a porno and started jacking off. After about a minute I said, "Wanna give me a hand with this?"

She did, and it was nice.

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Originally posted by butterfly and i agree that being friends with an ex isnt good. actually my bf seems to have maintained friendships with 2 or 3 exes but i know i never could. i guess it is based on the individual.

Shock horror I've not even dumped anyone. Usually been involved in a few long term relationships that just fizzled out when one of us moved away.

My last breakup was fun though! I was friends with this girl all through school and just after high school graduation we got together had a great few weeks and then all of a sudden things went a little pear shaped and she wanted a little space. I tried to call her a couple of times a week later and gave up, the next thing I heard back through third parties was that I was stalking her! We were a pretty close knit school, 50 in a year so everyone found out pretty fast and luckily my reputation was unharmed but she became known as a bit of a nutcase! That was one I didn't lose that much sleep over!

I need to take notes!

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