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Originally posted by ShadoWolf Your ex is pregnant?

Yes, but not to me.

I answered that question about 5,000 times and put a copy of my diary into a safe just in case my aliby is questioned for that night in April...

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Originally posted by kamil the only one making this thread ugly, is you with ure witty comments. THANKS!

you're welcome, i'll be here all week. don't forget to tip the waiters.

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Originally posted by whiskers yeah, he got played.

haha...by the sounds of his bitterness. looking for love in the wrong places.

as far as ex's go, nah. don't talk to them.

>JM<

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Originally posted by whiskers you're welcome, i'll be here all week. don't forget to tip the waiters.

dont worry, my parents own a restaurant...

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Originally posted by t�bias Yes, but not to me. I answered that question about 5,000 times and put a copy of my diary into a safe just in case my aliby is questioned for that night in April...

DNA would suffice...


....so she had (unprotected) sex with another dude while dating you?

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Originally posted by kamil dont worry, my parents own a restaurant...

don't spend too much time washing the dishes, you might miss something interesting on tv.

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Originally posted by whiskers don't spend too much time washing the dishes, you might miss something interesting on tv.

i work at zara

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Originally posted by kamil i work at zara

z-air-a or z-arr-a?

Nope! Ex's are Ex's for a reason! Fortunately mine is thousands of miles away and foreign

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Originally posted by ShadoWolf DNA would suffice... ....so she had (unprotected) sex with another dude while dating you?

No, we broke up over a year ago, and this happened 8 months ago.

I cop a bit from the friends as there was this one night...haha, but she has a big tummy and I couldn't bear to be poking someone else's baby, so no love from me.

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Originally posted by t�bias Yes, but not to me. I answered that question about 5,000 times and put a copy of my diary into a safe just in case my aliby is questioned for that night in April...

if you're a good friend, you would've told her about abortion.

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Originally posted by malek if you're a good friend, you would've told her about abortion.

Thats a personal decision, and one must repect those that choose not to for moral or personal reasons. Some girls can move on, and some will be left wondering 'what if' for the rest of their life, so I certainly wouldn't be giving 'you should do this' speeches.

Its a tough situation that you can talk about forever but you will only know how you will react when it actually happens.

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Originally posted by t�bias Thats a personal decision, and one must repect those that choose not to for moral or personal reasons. Some girls can move on, and some will be left wondering 'what if' for the rest of their life, so I certainly wouldn't be giving 'you should do this' speeches. Its a tough situation that you can talk about forever but you will only know how you will react when it actually happens.

You're right a good friend must accept her decision.

But its also your duty as a friend to tell her about the consequences of being a single mom. Giving advices to your friend is essential.

im best friend with my first ever ex
dont keep contact at all with my 2nd "serious" ex because he was a cheating ho bag
in the middle of a post-bad-break-up-maybe-get-back-together with current ex.

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Originally posted by malek You're right a good friend must accept her decision. But its also your duty as a friend to tell her about the consequences of being a single mom. Giving advices to your friend is essential.

Ah, she is a smart girl, like most women, and is big enough to make her own decisions.

I find that with touchy subjects like abortion, its a huge life decision, and everybody is quick to give advice without knowing at all what it would be like. I tend to not give so much advice, support is more important.

She is under no illusions.

Good Topic:

For the guys who your ex never leave you alone. Call it quit for good, just don't talk to her. Leave her alone for a while, I mean "a while". A year is "a while". Everything will be sweet. And please don't get involve with her girlfriends, they will word bitchslap you. Because you are wrong no matter what you say.

For the ladies who your ex is trying to leave you alone. Leave him alone. You are better off without him. Life is a long journey. Don't need to be looking for just one subject. It will emotionally distract you from everything.


I am doing the first one right now.

Fellas comments, ladies, bitchslaps??? Just kidding.

Your comments are welcome.

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Originally posted by t�bias Ah, she is a smart girl, like most women, and is big enough to make her own decisions. I find that with touchy subjects like abortion, its a huge life decision, and everybody is quick to give advice without knowing at all what it would be like. I tend to not give so much advice, support is more important. She is under no illusions.

We're different

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Originally posted by t�bias Ah, she is a smart girl, like most women, and is big enough to make her own decisions. I find that with touchy subjects like abortion, its a huge life decision, and everybody is quick to give advice without knowing at all what it would be like. I tend to not give so much advice, support is more important. She is under no illusions.

i know that if i got pregnant, and the father automatically assumed i would get an abortion would make me mad.
so i respect your opinion in the sense that its the person's choice. its a very hard thing to go through for most girls, unless they're huge sluts and dont give a shit about life.

i had a scare once, when i was showing a lot of the right signs of pregnancy but wasnt positive and was too chicken to do a test. My boyfriend was very muchly there for me, making sure i know he's there in it together with me and if anytrhing happens he'll help and wont run off, BUT at the same time he assumed theres only one way out of it and thats abortion. it made me a little upset, but i guess it was because he and i never talked about what we might do IF anything like pregnancy should happen.

I agree with spec. Support is more important than advice, IMO, because people often tend to take other people's advice and neglect thinking it out for themselves, and evaluating what would really be best for them.

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Originally posted by Clovis86 I agree with spec. Support is more important than advice, IMO, because people often tend to take other people's advice and neglect thinking it out for themselves, and evaluating what would really be best for them.

but sometimes you're so into your own little bubble and too short sighted that you need advice.

trust me, everyone needs advice, especially a pregnant and single young female.

advice first, choice, then support.

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Originally posted by kamil HELLS FUCKING NO! My ex is a fucking SLUT! Fucked 8 guys in less than a year, WHILE BEING MARRIED, and lead all of them to beleive she actually loved them! FUCKING WHORE!!!!!!!!!

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Originally posted by {b.s.e.} pardon me for laughing.

I thought my day sucked after getting into a 3 car accident today, but shit, there's no way I can top that.

That's life though man.

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Originally posted by malek but sometimes you're so into your own little bubble and too short sighted that you need advice. trust me, everyone needs advice, especially a pregnant and single young female. advice first, choice, then support.

Yeah fair points...but I know alot of people who listen to others lopsided opinions when they should have been listening to their own heart...and they ended up worse off...

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Originally posted by goodgreefgirl i know that if i got pregnant, and the father automatically assumed i would get an abortion would make me mad. so i respect your opinion in the sense that its the person's choice. its a very hard thing to go through for most girls, unless they're huge sluts and dont give a shit about life. i had a scare once, when i was showing a lot of the right signs of pregnancy but wasnt positive and was too chicken to do a test. My boyfriend was very muchly there for me, making sure i know he's there in it together with me and if anytrhing happens he'll help and wont run off, BUT at the same time he assumed theres only one way out of it and thats abortion. it made me a little upset, but i guess it was because he and i never talked about what we might do IF anything like pregnancy should happen.

Its an extremely touchy, and serious, and scary, subject.

You must have been a little freaked out by the whole situation. And often it takes something to go wrong for a person's true character to come out. Anybody can be perfect when things are going really well. Maybe it was good that you got a little insight into his subconscious mind.

Usually it only gets brought up in conversation when the heat is on, and then there are usually lots of emotions running around. Most people that have been having sex for a few years have a scare or two, and it can sometimes really test a relationship as people can be all fine and easy going until a little high pressure situation rears its head and people freak out.

On the subject I think that if you are in a relationship the best case is if you are both open with how you feel and come to agreement on what options you would take if something happened. But if you disagree I am of the view that you must respect the lady's decision, because it is her body and she is going to be wearing most of the emotional weight.

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Originally posted by kamil HELLS FUCKING NO! My ex is a fucking SLUT! Fucked 8 guys in less than a year, WHILE BEING MARRIED, and lead all of them to beleive she actually loved them! FUCKING WHORE!!!!!!!!!

was she american? if she was then I would now understand your hatred for the americanos.

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Originally posted by t�bias Its an extremely touchy, and serious, and scary, subject. You must have been a little freaked out by the whole situation. And often it takes something to go wrong for a person's true character to come out. Anybody can be perfect when things are going really well. Maybe it was good that you got a little insight into his subconscious mind. Usually it only gets brought up in conversation when the heat is on, and then there are usually lots of emotions running around. Most people that have been having sex for a few years have a scare or two, and it can sometimes really test a relationship as people can be all fine and easy going until a little high pressure situation rears its head and people freak out. On the subject I think that if you are in a relationship the best case is if you are both open with how you feel and come to agreement on what options you would take if something happened. But if you disagree I am of the view that you must respect the lady's decision, because it is her body and she is going to be wearing most of the emotional weight.

yeah i totally agree, and other than the fact that he somewhat assumed that i would get an abortion IF i was pregnant, he was the most understanding person ever. EVEN when he knew it was only a scare he called me (we live apart from each other), just to make sure i was doing okay and when we talked, he'd look at it rationally and from a very mature point of view. it made me feel really confident that EVEN IF i was pregnant, it woulldn't be the end of the world because i had a boyfriend who really cared about me and made sure i was okay.he was even gonna come out, just to go to the clinic with me to get tested...

thats support without advice. and thats exactly what i needed at the time.... nothing more.. nothing less.

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