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Originally posted by Slylee that is no excuse. i've been burned...and especially by my first serious relationship ever in highschool. i was seriously traumatized, got cheated on by my frist love, and he was screwing around with like everyone right under my nose. anyway, everyone gets a clean slate with me i know people usually say that you have to earn trust...but i'm the opposite. i trust everyone in the beginning, until they've given me reason NOT to...if they give me reason not to, then they have to start earning it.

Come on sly that's not true. You might want to intellectualize it as such but, we are the sum of our past experiences. Someone cheating on you in a prior relationship will effect your next whether you like it or not, to pretend otherwise would be folly.

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Originally posted by igottaknow Come on sly that's not true. You might want to intellectualize it as such but, we are the sum of our past experiences. Someone cheating on you in a prior relationship will effect your next whether you like it or not, to pretend otherwise would be folly.

i kind of have to agree
ive been cheated on before.. maybe the guy didnt think he was cheating .. but in my heart i was cheated on... (and by cheating i dont mean kissing another girl.. i mean dating other girls and sleeping with everything that walks).

anyway.. it fucked me up good, and totally threw my trust off the scale. i've gotten over the whole deal.. yes... but in my next relationship i noticed i wasnt as easy going as i used to be.. i noticed i got jealous faster and etc.. it affected me without me even knowing i was affected.

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Originally posted by goodgreef i kind of have to agree ive been cheated on before.. maybe the guy didnt think he was cheating .. but in my heart i was cheated on... (and by cheating i dont mean kissing another girl.. i mean dating other girls and sleeping with everything that walks). anyway.. it fucked me up good, and totally threw my trust off the scale. i've gotten over the whole deal.. yes... but in my next relationship i noticed i wasnt as easy going as i used to be.. i noticed i got jealous faster and etc.. it affected me without me even knowing i was affected.

Yep. my last 3 girlfriends were cheated on before me & were extremely jealous.

If a guy was hurt in a relationship he was in years ago, what does that have to do with the relationship he is in right now? The past is the past.

I was hurt years ago as well. But that's definetly NOT going to stop me from being happy now.

no of course it shouldnt stop you from being happy
but some events just play parts in your life that kind of make you act differently in the future.

anywho.. good luck with ur stuff

ps never take advice from guys about guys cuz all guys do is lie to make girls feel better

love is committment.

thread closed.

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Originally posted by Orbax ps never take advice from guys about guys cuz all guys do is lie to make girls feel better

lol great

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Originally posted by goodgreef lol great

girls are messed up enough already Men have a stern duty in breaking up with girls. Make them feel good enough to date other men, but not so hot shit egotastic that they wont date normal guys. So if youre humble and meek a lot, youll have better break ups haha.

edit: that goes for most of our interactions. We just dont want you to get hurt or at least, good guys dont. Women take too much stuff personally

i am not into relationships right now - jus' b/c i am not in one but i do beblive thatyou can buy love and in turn most will buy you things to prove their love and they will want a commitment in return. SO WATCH OUT!

u livin' in Hamilton now Miss Julia??? why did you move here from LA?? you a crazy girlie

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Originally posted by Orbax girls are messed up enough already Men have a stern duty in breaking up with girls. Make them feel good enough to date other men, but not so hot shit egotastic that they wont date normal guys. So if youre humble and meek a lot, youll have better break ups haha. edit: that goes for most of our interactions. We just dont want you to get hurt or at least, good guys dont. Women take too much stuff personally

interesting

More like a pain in the ass haha...we gots to watch we want to say all the time!

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Originally posted by Orbax More like a pain in the ass haha...we gots to watch we want to say all the time!

hmm... you make it sound as if girls dont have to watch what they say, or worry about anything .. Relationships are definitley work from both sides. I'd say they're jobs.. but jobs are usually considered horribile so lets not look at it that way.

anyway, its a two way street. dont think men are the only ones working in a relationship.. or even after its done

oh definitely. But how many times has a guy said "Shut the fuck up or ill kill you" to you haha. Gotta admit you can say a lot more to guys than you can to girls

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Originally posted by Orbax oh definitely. But how many times has a guy said "Shut the fuck up or ill kill you" to you haha. Gotta admit you can say a lot more to guys than you can to girls

hahahaha... true tho if the girl said it like she meant it... i dont think it would go over very well either!

If he's not ready to make the type of committment you need....


....KICK TO CURB, girlfriend!

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Originally posted by ShadoWolf If he's not ready to make the type of committment you need.... ....KICK TO CURB, girlfriend!

that's the shadow i know hahaha



ps. shadow is ready for that kind of commitment...give him a call hahaha



(posting one up for my boy )

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Originally posted by Floorfiller that's the shadow i know hahaha ps. shadow is ready for that kind of commitment...give him a call hahaha (posting one up for my boy )

hehe thanks


seriously though, why do women waste their time on certain men??

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Originally posted by ShadoWolf hehe thanks seriously though, why do women waste their time on certain men??

good question...

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Originally posted by Miss Julia If a guy was hurt in a relationship he was in years ago, what does that have to do with the relationship he is in right now? The past is the past. I was hurt years ago as well. But that's definetly NOT going to stop me from being happy now.

My comment was directed at someone else's post and not your relationship.

I get the feeling you're afraid to press him on what you want out of the relationship ie taking it to the next level without driving him away. Its going to take courage on your behalf to accept that if he won't address your concerns you will have to end the relationship. He's figured out that you need him more than he needs you and is using it to his advantage. Time to shake things up girl.

Well, back to the orignal topic and subject at hand.



Hell, gotta post within the rulez...


[[[smoke]]]

Paul van Dyk - Kaleidoscope

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Originally posted by smokeape Well, back to the orignal topic and subject at hand. Hell, gotta post within the rulez... [[[smoke]]] Paul van Dyk - Kaleidoscope

Thread is truely highjacked now. I havn't really thought about commitment to much. Ive been seeing my girlfriend for well over 2 years now. I guess most men panic once the initial spark dissappears from the relationship. I really can't imagine my girlfriend not being in my life, it would be weird and empty. Im not sure if i want to get married, but i dont see why people should see marrage as the ultimate form of commitment, because divorce is just around the corner.

As soon as a bloke gets married its an excuse to get a beer belly and the women can stop shaving her legs.

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