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the problem isnt telling girls you love htem.. its making htem love you back lol

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Originally posted by Slylee what are you still bitter about

Don't worry Jamie you're in good company he hates me too for some reason. Maybe he's jealous of our happiness.

i love you too slyleeeeeeee

Cripes! Slylee's getting married!

I don't think there is anything wrong with this guy. Yes, buying that book might have been a way for him to tell you he loves you or is falling in love with you but, it isn't something you should really worry about. Have you considered that he might be falling for you and he just doesn't know what to do about himself? I'm guessing he is shy too, so buying the book is a sign that he is trying to get your attention. And he has done just that! This could very well be his first time feeling this way too.

Another thing I want to point out is that you probably did yourself no good by emailing him and saying 'lets slow down' because he probably needs reassurance like most people and this might just come across as you trying to put him aside and deal with him when you're ready. But I could be wrong.

Just don't put him aside too long or he is likely to move on eventually. Trust me on that one. Most of use guys who are goal driven don't sit and wait too long for anything. Even women!

And yes, I am a pisces, so called sensitive and puppy dog type guy but I have my shit together as well. You just need to deal with our shit or if you get lucky we have already partially grown up and realized not be so damn needy.

Oh and about love.. I am happy in love with my girlfriend of nine months. And we never mentioned the 'L' word until are fourth month dating. But the moment I met here I knew I was going to end up loving here one day, it was just a matter of time.

I used to have such a huge crush on Slylee when I first joined TA..

my advice = TA dating is a NO-NO!! trust me on this one

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Originally posted by igottaknow Don't worry Jamie you're in good company he hates me too for some reason. Maybe he's jealous of our happiness.

Actually, I dont hold any personal grudges with people on these boards (even you), you just seem to throw yourself into the spotlight to be poked and prodded at more often than the common poster. I thought you would've gotten accustomed to your status as the TranceAddict "Asshat/Balding Pervert" and take it with some pride by now, but I guess some people are a bit sensitive about how people percieve them and get defensive over the slightest joke, no matter how miniscule the insult actually was. I mean, I think the last thing anyone should do, is take something like these boards as something serious.

I guess what im saying is that hate is way too strong a word for what I do when I log on to say my piece on a subject or two. It's people like you and Slylee who insist on taking everything personal or at face value. When in reality if you look at the context of what im saying, it really should be taken as either a quick witted joke or just empty sarcasm.

Much like everyone else, I get my shits and giggles here too, just I enjoy it in a much different way.

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Originally posted by Rodrico It's people like you and Slylee who insist on taking everything personal or at face value.

i think it's safe to say i'm like the most sarcastic/jokeful person on these boards (or one of the most). but hey, once in a while, i gotta draw the line somewhere!



sinatra i hope you're right! i definitely got a little nervous after i sent the email because i hope he gets it that i'm not trying to tell him i don't like him...i stressed a lot that i'm nuts about him but that i'm just at a point in my life where i have to get some things going for myself first. school starts again in oct. and i signed up for more classes than usual because i didn't take any summer classes, so i'm gonna have like no life come october...and i'm moving in with a roommate soon, so i have to save money and not go out as much...i JUST got out of a 2 year relationship...i mean he has to understand all of this and if he likes me enough, he should respect that.

anyway, i shared my letter with jason who swears he is a lot like this guy and he said my email was very clear in getting my point across, but sweet too, and that he'll probably like it. he didn't call me last night or email me back yet...so i don't know. i was thinking of driving down to his place late at night on wednesday and putting some flowers on his car or something so he's all surprised in the morning

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Originally posted by Floorfiller with that said though...i hope it works out because he is a nice guy, but we ruin things without really realizing it until too much damage is done. i hope that somehow he can grow out of those things which i know he is doing or if not will start doing in the future... you're probably right...he's probably falling for you hard. and really all he wants is to make you the happiest person in the world...so if you can be patient with that and reassure him when he needs it...which i promise will be a lot...then i think you guys will be fine. if not, well i hate to say it, but it might be hard down the road...

+1 mah nizzle

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Originally posted by Slylee anyway, i shared my letter with jason who swears he is a lot like this guy and he said my email was very clear in getting my point across, but sweet too, and that he'll probably like it. he didn't call me last night or email me back yet...so i don't know. i was thinking of driving down to his place late at night on wednesday and putting some flowers on his car or something so he's all surprised in the morning

yeah it was a nice email...slylee is a regular hemingway or something hehe

I read that book hehe. As cheesy as it is and obvious...it at least brings it to the forefront of your thoughts a bit more and Ill be doing something and start thinking of it in that way...its pretty ridiculous.

and yes...a girl made me read it haha

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Originally posted by Slylee i think it's safe to say i'm like the most sarcastic/jokeful person on these boards (or one of the most). but hey, once in a while, i gotta draw the line somewhere! sinatra i hope you're right! i definitely got a little nervous after i sent the email because i hope he gets it that i'm not trying to tell him i don't like him...i stressed a lot that i'm nuts about him but that i'm just at a point in my life where i have to get some things going for myself first. school starts again in oct. and i signed up for more classes than usual because i didn't take any summer classes, so i'm gonna have like no life come october...and i'm moving in with a roommate soon, so i have to save money and not go out as much...i JUST got out of a 2 year relationship...i mean he has to understand all of this and if he likes me enough, he should respect that. anyway, i shared my letter with jason who swears he is a lot like this guy and he said my email was very clear in getting my point across, but sweet too, and that he'll probably like it. he didn't call me last night or email me back yet...so i don't know. i was thinking of driving down to his place late at night on wednesday and putting some flowers on his car or something so he's all surprised in the morning

Well, at least you realize you have to establish yourself first in order to obtain lifes other pleasures, such as being in relationship. Its difficult having a life throughout a week and then suddenly trying to have a relationship on the weekend when you're so busy with school, work etc. However, if I were in your shoes, I would have at least told the person face to face; it shows respect and that you aren't afraid of the situation. Not that what you did was horribly wrong, I would have just done things different.

I recently went through something similar with a friend but I am already in a relationship, so I had to tell her face to face that nothing would happen because I was taken and very much happy. It was hard and I was afraid of the way she would have reacted but, in all fairness it made things easier because we were able to talk about openly and not hold anything back.

By the way, you might want to call the guy! If he is like me, which by the sounds of things is true, he will want you to call him or suprise him by showing up or something. The smallest things like getting a text message can really help.

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Originally posted by Sinatra Well, at least you realize you have to establish yourself first in order to obtain lifes other pleasures, such as being in relationship. Its difficult having a life throughout a week and then suddenly trying to have a relationship on the weekend when you're so busy with school, work etc. However, if I were in your shoes, I would have at least told the person face to face; it shows respect and that you aren't afraid of the situation. Not that what you did was horribly wrong, I would have just done things different. I recently went through something similar with a friend but I am already in a relationship, so I had to tell her face to face that nothing would happen because I was taken and very much happy. It was hard and I was afraid of the way she would have reacted but, in all fairness it made things easier because we were able to talk about openly and not hold anything back. By the way, you might want to call the guy! If he is like me, which by the sounds of things is true, he will want you to call him or suprise him by showing up or something. The smallest things like getting a text message can really help.

Well yea I HAVE been assuring him of my feelings and where I stand in person when we�re together�I was just sort of reiterating all of that in a letter. I told him to give me a call or please write back after he�s considered what I said (about him thinking about whether or not he can handle things the way they are going to be for a while). I was thinking of showing up at his place Wednesday night if I don�t hear from him by then. I�ll pick some flowers on the way or something.

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Originally posted by Slylee I'll pick some flowers on the way or something.

Guys don't want flowers. If he does, he's gay. Buy him a 6 pack or something.

he doesn't really drink. lol

WTF, are you gonna tell me next that he doesn't watch sports?

buy him fried chicken and a piece of watermelon....


.......i mean....he's black, right?

buy him fried chicken and a piece of watermelon....


.......i mean....he's black, right?

yea he does...he's not a fanatic though...he likes college basketball.

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Originally posted by Slylee Well yea I HAVE been assuring him of my feelings and where I stand in person when we�re together�I was just sort of reiterating all of that in a letter. I told him to give me a call or please write back after he�s considered what I said (about him thinking about whether or not he can handle things the way they are going to be for a while). I was thinking of showing up at his place Wednesday night if I don�t hear from him by then. I�ll pick some flowers on the way or something.

Thats nice.. But yea, don't buy him flowers. Thats not something a guy really wants. Trust me! Just showing up at his doorstep should be good enough.

Well, good luck to you. And hopefully he realizes that this all for good, because rushing into things isn't ever easy.

i like watermelon. and friend chiken. im not black

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Originally posted by nchs09 i like watermelon. and friend chiken. im not black

+1

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Originally posted by Slylee yea he does...he's not a fanatic though...he likes college basketball.

Perfect, you should watch a couple games with him. That would show a lot! Haha

sorry, but watermelon is gross

so even though at the end of my letter i said to call me or write back after he clears his head and thinks about what i've said, you guys think i should call him anyway tonight if i don't hear from him?

in the letter i told him to think really hard about whether or not he is ok with the situation right now and if he can deal with it...the "situation" being that we can only see each other on weekends...

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