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I can't find that inner-asshole that would help me break the friend/date barrier when I meet a new female.

i would change the fact that i am so sensitive and take everything to heart.

also i procrastinate.

and as someone stated before, about thinking theoretically, i think too much in theory, as well.

but other than that, i have gotten over a few other issues i had. i guess it comes with growing up.

either to be more open or not procrastinate as much as i do, its a tie

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Originally posted by chadmk3 i wish i wasnt the by product of a lifestyle obsession. i wouldnt have decided to become an investment executive if the $$ wasnt there because i want a nice car/wardrobe/house, but we are all guilty of it.

Dial me when u have a real problem. (guess ur right in a way ;D)

I guess I'd like to be less inhibited when I talk to new ppl or girls. I would also like to change my insecurity, self-loving and ambitions. And as Spirit5 said it often depends on the situation. (Fuck that.)

I think Arbiter pretty much said everything. Instead of blaming ur shortcomings all the time and not doing anything about them(theory), praticise the person u would like to be in real life. Change the "would" into "will".

so basically everyone on TA is a lazy procrastinator who is only on TA to put off doing something else

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Originally posted by jdat Procrascination and this lack of self confidence in myself.

As opposed to lack of self-confidence in...someone else?



i'd change the fact that i suck so much at holding on to my point, i always back down when people are agressive, and i always try to find a way everyone can agree, like in that really stupid hippie-kinda-way, christ...

i guess im really shy of conflict...

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Originally posted by Trance Nutter procrastination. The ability to articulate what I mean better. Anyone who has caught me posting then deleting knows that. I do honestly think I have improved many of my shortcomings recently including confidence, self-pride and drive/determination.

+1 to everything there but esp articulation... I would love to be able to talk good n shit

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Originally posted by Spirit5 I would be fatter because I'm too skinny (around 112). I would be taller because I'm pretty average to short for a guy (5'5) and I would be more muscular because I don't have much in the way of muscles (I don't lift). I would also have less anxiety and stop caring what people think about me so much...and actually have the confidence to go up to a girl and start talking to her. haha I could go on and on, i'm pretty pathetic...

Im lazy AND too much of a perfectionist. If I set my mind on something and I decide I want to do it, it has to be done to a tee. but that interesects with my laziness because I dont like to spend too much time doing the same thing. the two qualities cancel each other out.

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Originally posted by Yan I can't find that inner-asshole that would help me break the friend/date barrier when I meet a new female.

just show interest. sneak little hints in your conversations. no need to be an asshole.

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Originally posted by Aquarian Nothing. I'd change society instead.

Plus 3 billion! haha literally

I would try and commit to my boyfriend better. I semi-cheated on him twice already, and don't plan on stopping.

id have a smaller penis

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Originally posted by mentalbarter so basically everyone on TA is a lazy procrastinator who is only on TA to put off doing something else

nail.head.hit

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Originally posted by montana nail.head.hit

oh shit true that

thats why you see so many "+1"'s as well


and on that note:

+1

my psychology

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Originally posted by jdat Procrascination and this lack of self confidence in myself.

That pretty much sums it up for me.

My concentration while I'm studying....its soo easy to get me distracted

i'd make myself more socially outgoing...

by getting drunk and eating e-pills.

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Originally posted by DaveSZ All guys have approach anxiety (of beautiful women) because it's wired into the genetic code. If they say they don't they are either lying or understand well the following two concepts (and how to use them): courage and momentum

Mental exercises for self control help here. I still feel a small amount of anxiety when I first see an attractive woman, but it quickly goes away. I've come to find that typically they're feeling anxiety of some sort as well, which makes it a bit easier.

But the most important thing I learned from my physics professor is to emotionally detatch yourself from an event or a situation if you want to do well. Of course, he was talking about test taking, saying that given equal amounts of studying, those who came in, remained calm, and were able to detatch themselves from the test on an emotional level tended to do better.

So don't think of it as trying to pick up on someone. You're just talking to someone, who just happens to be physically attractive. If things work out, then great. If things don't work out, then that's cool too, as you weren't there to pick up on that person in the first place - you were just making conversation.

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Originally posted by Yan I can't find that inner-asshole that would help me break the friend/date barrier when I meet a new female.

I've found that you don't really need to be an asshole, you just need to make your intentions known. More generally, it's the self-confidence vs. lack of self-confidence thing. However, you need to make your intentions known early on in the relationship, because the initial attraction decreases proportionally with time, that is, she won't find you as interesting or attractive or whatnot as she first did. It's like getting a new toy. You lavish it with attention at first, and play with it constantly, and eventually start liking it less and less until finally it's just another toy. Nothing special, just another toy.

Of course, I'm not implying that people are to be treated or thought of as toys, I just wanted to demonstrate the initial effect of something new.















As for myself, I wish I were a little less intelligent. I know it sounds egotistical to say the least, but when everyone you talk to (barring your professors...most of the time) tells you that they don't understand what you just said, or that they can't follow what you're saying, or move their hand over their head and say "whooosh," or simply says "I don't know," you tend to feel alienated. Since I currently live in what is known as the bible-belt of California (and going along with the stereotype that religious fundamentalists are lacking higher education), this type of reaction might simply be due to the demographics of the area. If it is, a solution seems obvious.

my addiction to oreos someone help me

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Originally posted by jdat Procrascination

+1

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Originally posted by Tranc3 As for myself, I wish I were a little less intelligent. I know it sounds egotistical to say the least, but when everyone you talk to (barring your professors...most of the time) tells you that they don't understand what you just said, or that they can't follow what you're saying, or move their hand over their head and say "whooosh," or simply says "I don't know," you tend to feel alienated. Since I currently live in what is known as the bible-belt of California (and going along with the stereotype that religious fundamentalists are lacking higher education), this type of reaction might simply be due to the demographics of the area. If it is, a solution seems obvious.

i understand what you are saying, but i think you have to realise who you are talking to. you blame the demographics, but maybe you should just re-word what you are saying, explain yourself better or just dumb it down. you have to understand that people have different ways to understand concepts. so sort of read the person you are talking to and speak in their language.

or maybe you are just talking quickly

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Originally posted by Tranc3 As for myself, I wish I were a little less intelligent. I know it sounds egotistical to say the least, but when everyone you talk to (barring your professors...most of the time) tells you that they don't understand what you just said, or that they can't follow what you're saying, or move their hand over their head and say "whooosh," or simply says "I don't know," you tend to feel alienated. Since I currently live in what is known as the bible-belt of California (and going along with the stereotype that religious fundamentalists are lacking higher education), this type of reaction might simply be due to the demographics of the area. If it is, a solution seems obvious.

or maybe you are just terrible at explaining yourself?

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Originally posted by klingklang77 i understand what you are saying, but i think you have to realise who you are talking to. you blame the demographics, but maybe you should just re-word what you are saying, explain yourself better or just dumb it down. you have to understand that people have different ways to understand concepts. so sort of read the person you are talking to and speak in their language. or maybe you are just talking quickly

dumbing stuff down is actually an important skill, because you WILL need to explain something to someone with less knowledge in the area at some stage in your life. Take for instance a mechanic, they need to dumb stuff down for most people cos otheerwise they wouldn't be understood. Its not so much a matter of being smart, but being able to explain concisely and in everday terms.

I'm Australian (hey, so is Klingklang), apparently we talk really fast and then apparently I talk faster again so people are always not undestanding me. That and my thought processes are pretty convoluted and I tend to think out aloud so all in all some people struggle to get my point. That goes back to what I was saying about wishing I could articulate my thoughts better.

Laziness

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