how hard are long distance relationships??

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Posted by trewqy on Sep-13-2006 04:48:

My gf currently living bout 20 miles alway from me..and i'm complaining.

I mean..the gas it takes to send her home and back to my place is REDICULASE.

Yes..go ahead..call me a cheap bastard..

Posted by Cosmic Fur on Sep-13-2006 06:16:

quote:
Originally posted by Danny Ocean
usually high risk = high reward.

Except in the case of long-distance relatonships where the reward is the same as in short-distance ones.

Posted by Fl@k Monkey on Sep-13-2006 08:34:

Iv just come out of a 6 year relationship with an english girl. We actually met in a game. But then in MSN.. and we shared cam and developed a relationship that way. After 6 years of growing up to legally be able to move away i took off @ 16 yrs old. Travelled to Manchester and met up with her. Spent the next year with her (6 months there, followed by 6 months here in AUS). The time was great, the places i got to see, the sex.. everything was good. Over there its legal to get engaged @ 16 with parental consent so we did.

I met alot of long term friends, walked huge beaches i would love to go back to and dj on one day, and i met people who liked dance music. It was great..

I have actually split up with her just a few months ago and met someone new. Yes, part of the reason was stress from distance
(when you have had something, its alot harder to be without it for a while)

But the main reason for the stress was the 6 grand i had to have in my account to prove 'i can support myself'. And i didnt feel like i was being treated like a loved one anymore.

Long Term relationships are NOT impossible. Keeping one up via Webcam and mic is a pretty tough job. But it all comes down to how much effort you guys both put into it. I wouldnt change anything about mine. I got to do alot of things most 16 yr olders dont get to do.

Its a cool experience and in my opinion distance DOES make the heart grow fonder. And everyone should at least try flying international once in there life.

I'm hoping this experience teaches you something, It sure did for me.

Posted by stealthman on Sep-13-2006 10:00:

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Originally posted by DarkAngel
Requires extreme amounts of patience, dedication and other attributes of that class. Good luck.

+2.

It fucking sucks.

Posted by Fl@k Monkey on Sep-13-2006 10:03:

yea it does. But what it all comes down to is how willing you both are. If you can both stay dedicated and keep your focus on what you want.. Its all sweet.

Posted by nekholm on Sep-13-2006 11:29:

I wouldn't do it. I live about 25km (~15 miles) from my girlfriend, and that's long enough for me. But it's up to you two.

Posted by placebo on Sep-13-2006 12:06:

pretty easy if neither one of you are skanks.

Posted by placebo on Sep-13-2006 12:13:

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Originally posted by MeLLyMeL
Yes. Proof

Plus there's no one that compares to him so why wouldn't it work

your bf is emo

Posted by citric_acid on Sep-13-2006 13:13:

i just got outa one, they dont work to well, you never get to see them and one person will be putting all the effort in usually. you never know if they are cheating on you or not (i still dont know) and not being to be around them can cause a lot of trust and jelousy issues (my man got pissed when i was hanging out w/ my gf's because it wasnt him)

long distance will work out for awhile, but it can be really tough

Posted by Fl@k Monkey on Sep-13-2006 13:30:

i think the best way to go about a long distance relationship is to have a plan worked out as to when it can stop being a long distance relationship. Having a plan worked out - With a date as to when things will happen + and having logical resources (eg: enough money and knowledge to make sure it can happen)

If you can sort that out, you will cut alot of the stress because both of you will see that things WILL happen and it isint just time being wasted on 'could happens'

Posted by hiram on Sep-13-2006 14:40:

quote:
Originally posted by Fl@k Monkey
i think the best way to go about a long distance relationship is to have a plan worked out as to when it can stop being a long distance relationship. Having a plan worked out - With a date as to when things will happen + and having logical resources (eg: enough money and knowledge to make sure it can happen)

If you can sort that out, you will cut alot of the stress because both of you will see that things WILL happen and it isint just time being wasted on 'could happens'

by plan worked out you mean when visits will happen or when she will come down??

Posted by Nrg2Nfinit on Sep-13-2006 14:45:

quote:
Originally posted by PaperBag831
i feel like if it were meant to be, aka the perfect relationship, then both would be 100% committed and not wanting to touch anyone else. And in such cases, you shouldn't have to wonder if they like you as much.. you would know.

haha lol was i the only one that found this hilarious?

Posted by Fl@k Monkey on Sep-13-2006 14:59:

quote:
Originally posted by hiram
by plan worked out you mean when visits will happen or when she will come down??

Both if you can, if it means just visiting eachother at first and then working out when you can both be together - Do that. At least then you can see eachother on some sort of basis and that will only make the both of you want eachother more.

But definately, try and plan long term (eg: when you guys can be together and not have to say goodbye again - ASAP)

Posted by Cosmic Fur on Sep-13-2006 15:27:

Why bother with the stress and problems of a long-distance relationship when you can just as easily find a girl you really like closer to you?

Posted by Fl@k Monkey on Sep-13-2006 15:31:

Posted by weymouth on Sep-13-2006 15:40:

A couple long distance relationships and one nearby works great! You never get that movie situation where you have a date at the same time with two different girls and you have to act like you are going to the bathroom but really going to the other girl's table.

Posted by DarkAngel on Sep-21-2006 19:05:

quote:
Originally posted by Cosmic Fur
Why bother with the stress and problems of a long-distance relationship when you can just as easily find a girl you really like closer to you?

A lot of times it's hard to find someone you're really compatible with in your nearby area. I found something here that reminded me of an LDR that I once had....back in '01......and I all have to say is.......the feelings were there, but the physical comfort and necessities weren't....makes an LDR so incredibly difficult.

......another way.......PVD........

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