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I recently lost my grandmother too. This will be the first year having christmas without her and its going to be really hard. THe best thing is to remember all the amazing times you had with her and remember that you were lucky enough to spend that time with her.

I lost my grandmother on June 18th this year, I know what you're going through I was unfortunately 2 states away, at Bonnaroo, when I called my mom Sunday morning to tell her Radiohead (the band I'd been dying to see as long as I can remember) was incredible the night before, when she told me my grandma had died. It was the absolute worst feeling ever, and being so far away made it so much harder. After I got off the phone with my mom I just walked around until I found someplace where I could just fall down and cry. I'm even starting to cry right now thinking about it.

Like you, it was the closest person I've lost. I felt so bad, she'd been through so much, she'd lived with diabetes since she was 6 years old and for the past year she was unable to eat or drink anything by mouth (though I cheated quite a bit when I visited and gave her a drink every time I visited...) I just wish she could have been around, to ride with us when my mom picks me up at the dorm and brings me home on Fridays, or when I come back up here on Sundays. I just wish I could have been with her instead of being all the way at Bonnaroo.

I'm sorry for putting this in your thread, I haven't really talked to anyone besides my parents about it and sort of needed to get it out. Just letting you know, its something you're going to think about a lot. It's really tough going to Steak and Shake, or even just driving by one, because it was her favorite restaurant. I can't even drink smoothies anymore because she always asked me and my mom if she could have a strawberry banana smoothie that my mom used to make her a while ago, but she couldn't have any food or drink by mouth.

It's really, really tough, but eventually it will get easier. The first month or two is the worst, but after that it will get better.

You and your family are in my prayers.

3 of my grandparents died before i was born and my last remaining grandparent died when I was about 10, so i know what its like. stay strong brotha! *holds clenched fist outward*

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Originally posted by LuckyKarma I lost my grandmother on June 18th this year, I know what you're going through I was unfortunately 2 states away, at Bonnaroo, when I called my mom Sunday morning to tell her Radiohead (the band I'd been dying to see as long as I can remember) was incredible the night before, when she told me my grandma had died. It was the absolute worst feeling ever, and being so far away made it so much harder. After I got off the phone with my mom I just walked around until I found someplace where I could just fall down and cry. I'm even starting to cry right now thinking about it. Like you, it was the closest person I've lost. I felt so bad, she'd been through so much, she'd lived with diabetes since she was 6 years old and for the past year she was unable to eat or drink anything by mouth (though I cheated quite a bit when I visited and gave her a drink every time I visited...) I just wish she could have been around, to ride with us when my mom picks me up at the dorm and brings me home on Fridays, or when I come back up here on Sundays. I just wish I could have been with her instead of being all the way at Bonnaroo. I'm sorry for putting this in your thread, I haven't really talked to anyone besides my parents about it and sort of needed to get it out. Just letting you know, its something you're going to think about a lot. It's really tough going to Steak and Shake, or even just driving by one, because it was her favorite restaurant. I can't even drink smoothies anymore because she always asked me and my mom if she could have a strawberry banana smoothie that my mom used to make her a while ago, but she couldn't have any food or drink by mouth. It's really, really tough, but eventually it will get easier. The first month or two is the worst, but after that it will get better. You and your family are in my prayers.

Thank you for your honesty.




I am now off to Church to see Onionz play.

Sorry to hear this man.

Church was great. I'm feeling good. A good dance always helps.


Onionz rocked the house!

my condolences go out to you and your family. It can be very hard, but remember....she is happy and in a better place.

Remember not to dwell on her death, but to celebrate her life and accomplishments!

My condolances AN

My condolences Greg. The loss of one close to us is always difficult. I wish I could offer some words to make you feel better, however, having lost all my grandparents I realize that the only thing that really helps is time. Take care my friend.

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Originally posted by Floorfiller my grandfather died about a month ago. i don't know if i'm the only one that has this outlook on death, but honestly it wasn't something i was necessarily sad about. do i wish my grandfather died? of course not. i have fond memories and enjoyed time with him, but at the same time you have to realize and accept that we aren't immortal. my grandfather had a nice long life and the life that he was living with cancer was not one he'd choose. because of that i'm glad that he passed on and stopped suffering through a terrible existance. i'm sorry to hear about your loss, but try to realize that it's just a natural part of life...there's nothing we can do to prevent death and most of the time it's a relief of pain...so what's wrong with that?

Sorry to hear about your grandma mate.
Althought what I've quoted is right, I have to say that when I've had mates/relatives die, its not somethign I want to hear straight away.

I know its harsh but one thing that helped me was people insisting that the pain will go, and that I can deal with it however I want.
As I know people can in a sense pressure you into a way of acting out how you feel that doesn't feel natural.
Have a cry if you want, don't if you don't want to. Don't feel you need to do anything to remember her, as whatever you do or don't do can never show how you really feel, but don't let that frustrate you when your really down.

Greg m8 - My sincerest condolences.

I was just this weekend reminiscing about my Grandmother with Myra, and the only thought I can offer (though it may be a bit cliche' at this point) is to do your best to remember and be thankful for all the wonderful times you had with her.

Those memories aren't going anywhere anytime soon m8.

Take care of yourself my friend

I've lost quite a few relatives over the years, but there have been two that have particularly affected me.

The first was my cousin, who finally lost his lifelong battle with brain cancer at the age of seven. I was only ten, and while I was still a little creeped out when I was around him (like most kids, I was afraid of anything that was vastly different from most people), his passing still hit home to me because he was only a few months younger than my little brother, and the only thing that went through my head for a few weeks was, "What if my little brother dies?"

The second was fairly recent. It was my great grandmother, who I was very close to, and it still hurts a bit when I think about it. She was actually "hip" and although she was a hardcore Catholic, the times that she broke the rules she valued were hilarious. Her last couple of days were spent at the nursing home my mom works at. I went to visit her, and we'd made a deal that I would come back the following week and have tea with her (I'm a tea addict, and she insisted that I go to her house every week and have some with her). Two days later she'd passed on.

I can only imagine how hard it is to lose someone that close, and only wish you the best in coping with it.

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