Would you introduce your children to partying ???

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Posted by Moral Hazard on Dec-08-2006 14:04:

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Originally posted by ChemEnhanced
if they are going to do them then they are going to do them....nothing I say or do can stop that. I would want them to be knowledgable about what they are getting into.

If either of our kids get into drugs I think an evening with their dad, uncle and an 8-ball is in order.... for educational purposes of course.

Posted by Lightshow on Dec-08-2006 14:07:

If i have a kid today, im gonna be 40 when he turns 19...but if im still in the scene at 40 there is no way im introducing my kid to it, when i go out to party ill be going on "business trips" once or twice a month. and other then the occasional "dont do drugs, and behave speech", if i find out that my kid is dropping Es and going to sketchy places like CZ (which i love), im gonna throw a shit fit, he's gonna get a "do as i say, dont do as i do speech", and then ill ask him how much he is paying for his shit and tell him i can get him a much better deal.

Posted by Jem_hadar on Dec-08-2006 14:51:

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Originally posted by EvilTree
To a degree, I agree.

Might be a cultural thing, but if my sister does something stupid, I'm the first one to slap her in the head.

Def a cultural thing I couldnt care less if my bro does something stupid or not. More power to him to do as he pleases.

Posted by The Wiz on Dec-08-2006 14:54:

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Originally posted by Jem_hadar
Def a cultural thing I couldnt care less if my bro does something stupid or not. More power to him to do as he pleases.

Disagree- not cultural at all

Posted by iLLnaDa on Dec-08-2006 14:57:

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Originally posted by Killah Monkey
Probably one of the best votes I have seen so far.

I will not be partying when or if I do have kids. Once I enter into parenthood, that will end this part of my life. I expect I will still go out once in a while, but only consuming a few alcoholic beverages.

Being a parent is alot of responsibility and I would not bring a child into this world where they are exposed to sketchy mondays and all night events on a regular basis. That just invites bad things to happen.

I am sure that if this was the road they wanted to choose and party as I have, then that is their choice without my own influences.

bingo

Posted by Jem_hadar on Dec-08-2006 15:00:

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Originally posted by The Wiz
Disagree- not cultural at all

ok, i just dont care about my brother as much as you care abouut yours Hils

Posted by The Wiz on Dec-08-2006 15:03:

haha!

Posted by psiico111 on Dec-08-2006 15:49:

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Originally posted by zokissima
Why would you see your dad as a joke? He did his best to raise you with good morals by setting a positive example. People always expect a lot out of their parents, but never once seriously sit down and realize that they are individual human beings with unique emotions and motivations, just as the kids who are constantly judging them. It takes a lot to raise a kid, especially from the age of 2 to 16, and you take HIM for a joke?
Anyone see the implications here.....???

Perhaps joke was the wrong word, I had a hard time taking his holier then thou speeches seriously because I knew he was full of it. I knew his friends, people he hung out with since he was a teen and younger and I knew what they were into. Truth is, I just don't like my dad much, never did. I won't get into why here because it doesn't matter much for this topic or at my age.

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Originally posted by zokissima
As for those adamantly claiming to not have kids because of the world and everything in it, I'm afraid I can't agree to those motivations. Maybe we're too childish and don't have the time, but to claim the WORLD as responsible for children, I find a stupid argument. The world can't change THAT much in the forseeable future, and I'm sure that we all enjoy our existence, such as it is. Why not share that life, and educate. The most active role anyone will play in a childs life is the parent. All they have to do is just WANT to be a part of the childs life.

That's not why I don't want kids. It's part of it but I suppose in truth it's a cop out. For one thing, I'm 36 now and single. Even if I met someone tommorow it'd probably be 4 or 5 years before I got married (I believe in taking it slow - having your parents get married 3 times each will do that to you) and then another 3 or 4 before having kids. I'd be just about too old to have kids by then, too tired and not enough energy. But mostly I just don't want the responsibility. My parents screwed up with us, what would make me think I could do any better? It's not like I had good parental role models to learn from. Neither of my brothers talk to anyone in the family anymore - including me but not because of anything I've done, I'm the only one who speaks to our parents still. I'd prefer to find a woman who already has a kid or two and doesn't want more, that way I can skip the crying baby stage and if the kids turn out messed up it won't be my fault since they probably won't listen to me anyway.

Posted by Jem_hadar on Dec-08-2006 15:57:

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Originally posted by The Wiz
haha!

Jon Jon = cooler than Jarred lol

Posted by chinamon on Dec-08-2006 16:48:

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Originally posted by psiico111
My parents screwed up with us, what would make me think I could do any better? It's not like I had good parental role models to learn from.

that is total bullshit.
my dad left china when he was 7 to come to canada and stayed with his uncle and cousins that treated him like shit and like a slave. they tried their best to keep him out of school so he could work at their restaurant. my dad ended up graduating high school and getting his bacelor of science and bachelor of pharmacology to become a pharmacist. he too didnt have parental role models but i didnt turn out all fucked up (maybe just a little but isnt everyone?). where theres a will, theres a way. you just dont have the will.

Posted by zokissima on Dec-08-2006 18:01:

lol psiico111 good reply. I can understand some of where you're comming from. Good enough for this thread anyways

And I do agree with one point you brought up. At some age, it does become a little unrealistic to have a child.

A guy at work just got a new-born sister...and he's 35 years old...

Posted by StereoPrincess on Dec-08-2006 18:29:

if they choose to party it ain't going to be my doing.

frig, by the time my kid is party age, the party is going to be something different anyways.

Posted by ChemEnhanced on Dec-08-2006 19:42:

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Originally posted by Moral Hazard
If either of our kids get into drugs I think an evening with their dad, uncle and an 8-ball is in order.... for educational purposes of course.

Well of course....we all know daddy knows best

Posted by TheVrk on Dec-08-2006 19:58:

Didnt answer.
but it'll be the same as my sis (whos 12 yrs younger, feels like my kid)
I introduced her to the music, all the different styles (pushing
trance most of course), but OBV NOT the drugs/partying.

Posted by psiico111 on Dec-08-2006 20:05:

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Originally posted by chinamon
that is total bullshit.
my dad left china when he was 7 to come to canada and stayed with his uncle and cousins that treated him like shit and like a slave. they tried their best to keep him out of school so he could work at their restaurant. my dad ended up graduating high school and getting his bacelor of science and bachelor of pharmacology to become a pharmacist. he too didnt have parental role models but i didnt turn out all fucked up (maybe just a little but isnt everyone?). where theres a will, theres a way. you just dont have the will.

Yeah, but I'm not your dad, I'm me and trust me, I'm not someone who should be raising children. I can barely look after myself.