Have you gotten less emotional as you've gotten older?

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Posted by zoogla on Jul-04-2008 20:45:

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Originally posted by Dj Nacht
Wow im the complete opposite. The older I get the more shit affects me. When I was young I didnt give a shit about anything. Now im older and more mature it only seems normal to care more and be affected by emotional things?

+1

Posted by Ted Promo on Jul-04-2008 20:49:

I never really was all too emotional. I guess I was when I was a wee little sapling, but I don't ever really being all too emotional ever.

Posted by PETRAN on Jul-04-2008 20:56:

Oh man, thats what i was thinking these last days...i remember a time when i could feel very extreme feelings, i was so inspired. I could go from angst to ecstacy just like that and i was not bipolar. A musical tune could easily send shivers down my spine and i remember being very affected by art and everyday life in general.

Now after a finished university ,my thinking has become very rational and analytical. Having graduated from psychology school, i can't help but "break-up" situations and analyse them instead of just enjoying the moment.

I remember as a teen that i used to have a more holistic, emotional thinking-style and life in general, and now i feel life as more mechanised, linear and somehow...grey without the vivid colours of highs and lows. Music now is more of an enjoyable activity rather than an outwordly auditory experience, an interesting film or book can give me interesting feelings and thoughts but not shake my internal world. At the same time, everyday situations would not make me feel as much as they used to and i would tend to think rationally about thinks rather then "feel" them and deeply experience them...i really can't describe it in words...

Whilst i changed, i think that i'm still the same outside in social situations. I always make jokes when i'm out and i'm quite extroverted. Interestingly, i have to admit that when i was more emotional, i was much more introverted and shy.

I like it now that i'm more responsible, logical, rational, but i miss my old emotional self a lot. Where is all the emotion gone?

Posted by Lira on Jul-04-2008 21:00:

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Originally posted by PETRAN
I like it now that i'm more responsible, logical, rational, but i miss my old emotional self a lot. Where is all the emotion gone?

You're the psychologist, you tell us!

Posted by Ang ' ela_ie on Jul-04-2008 21:01:

My emotions have become more and more dynamic as Ive gotten older. And I hate it.

Well, at least it seems to affect my life more than it did when I was a child. Its possible that it's less now, but when it does happen its like death, and not "my brother bit my Barbie's head off."

Posted by PETRAN on Jul-04-2008 21:21:

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Originally posted by Lira
You're the psychologist, you tell us!

Yeah i know its called personality adaptation and it is about inhibiting some personality traits (which can include emotional reactions and tendencies)and exciting others, possibly due to social and interpersonal situations which seem to "select" some specific personality traits instead of others (much like in Darwinian selection the environment selects some geners which seem to help survival).

As a result, a person may feel intense emotions, but situations which are interpreted as negative would result in extreme negative feelings. As a result, the person adapts by becoming more "cold" and "rational", inhibiting his/her intense-emotional traits and exciting his/her more "logical" and "cognitive" traits. This emotional decrease would make one more "tough" in life, but at the same time, less sensitive and emotional.

Another explanation could be that me and others who feel "less emotional now in comparison to earlier times", exaggerate the present situation, that is, it is not our personality which has changed but the current period that affected us, giving the impression (illusion of now) that our personality has changed in the long-term. For example i'm in a transitiory period of my life with not much happening and this have decreased my "emotionality" which could come back later-on.

See, what i mean!? You made me become rational again. My first post was an emotional attempt and now i came back with this rational shit...which did you do that...!?

Posted by Project-K on Jul-04-2008 21:24:

Go listen to some linkin park and you'll feel emo again.

Posted by MrJiveBoJingles on Jul-04-2008 21:25:

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Originally posted by Project-K
Go listen to some linkin park and you'll feel emo again.

The only thing that Linkin Park makes me feel is a desire to turn it off.