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I'd just burn the bridge

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Originally posted by Project-K Dude wtf, it's Florida. There's more quebecois there than there is in quebec.

lol i didn't realize it till i met him. but it's not that bad, it's like little russia in sunny isles beach. the only ones taking over south florida are the fucking goya beans

I think what's most odd about this entire situation is the fact that Jamie is actually making a relationship advice thread.

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Originally posted by idoru I think what's most odd about this entire situation is the fact that Jamie is actually making a relationship advice thread.

lol why? dont i always make them?

Oh sarcasm.

oh pot

This thread has really made me want to go smoke about 4 cigarettes in a row.

Relationship bullshit is so damn stressful and I don't know why

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Originally posted by Alex This thread has really made me want to go smoke about 4 cigarettes in a row.

That's what cigars are for.

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Originally posted by Teh Jim What if you're just good friends? My ex and I are best friends and talk a heap. It has made some things hard but, as has been said, we broke up for a reason. We don't have out to spice things up, we hang out because we have a heap in common and can genuinely be friends without that stereotypical "100% horny guy" thing.

Yeah there are exceptions... I was speaking generally because I do believe in more cases than not, it's difficult to have a true friendship with zero alterior motives by one or both if you are ex's. That's just the way it goes. It's easier to do if a few years have passed without talking to your ex and you've both essentially evolved into different people. But if the breakup has been relatively recent, the reciprocal just friends thing is an illusion

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Originally posted by Alex This thread has really made me want to go smoke about 4 cigarettes in a row. Relationship bullshit is so damn stressful and I don't know why

i know i hate it. trust me though, i like my relationships as drama-free as possible. i know this is my shit i have to deal with and i will. i hate fighting and all that and we actually don't. i refuse to let this turn into an actual big fight. not worth it. he is way too good to me and we have way too much fun together.


the first thing he did was drop his pants when he came inside. not because he wanted to get some, but because he was really hot. i was just standing there like ".... uh hi honey"

At least he wears pants sometimes.

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Originally posted by Alex At least he wears pants sometimes.

I've heard of those.

damn french canadians. lol he and his roommate are always sitting around in their boxer briefs like it's nothing. i'm starting to get used to it. the best was the other night when i made dinner and the 3 of us were sitting at the table eating and halfway through the meal it dawned on me that they were both in their underwear at the dinner table with me

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Originally posted by Slylee damn french canadians. lol he and his roommate are always sitting around in their boxer briefs like it's nothing. i'm starting to get used to it. the best was the other night when i made dinner and the 3 of us were sitting at the table eating and halfway through the meal it dawned on me that they were both in their underwear at the dinner table with me

did you take your pants off too?

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Originally posted by Vlad did you take your pants off too?

No

hell

fuk

no.


especially if the bitch cheated on him.

Re: BF/GFs who are friends with their exes

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Originally posted by Slylee have u had to deal with it? i am now. i'm trying to work through it but i'm just generally a possesive/jealous type of girlfriend..HOWEVER, before you start attacking me, let me just tell you that you will never see me make a scene or act ridiculous or even act on my jealous feelings alone. that is because i realize it's my own insecurity and it's just something i have to deal with. i keep it under wraps because i know if you make a scene about jealousy, you might as well stamp "INSECURE" on your forehead and that's not something i want to do. i told my guy it bothered me and that i would try to work through it. we had a nice calm talk about it, i wasn't like "WTF! BLA BLA BLA FUCK HER!" i usually make a joke out of my jealousy. it's like bringing comic relief helps me deal with it and laugh at myself. i'll say something like, "yea fine we can have dinner but don't make me have to choke a bitch".

fuck, you are just like me
jealous on the inside, "cool" on the outside

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Originally posted by The17sss Yeah there are exceptions... I was speaking generally because I do believe in more cases than not, it's difficult to have a true friendship with zero alterior motives by one or both if you are ex's. That's just the way it goes. It's easier to do if a few years have passed without talking to your ex and you've both essentially evolved into different people. But if the breakup has been relatively recent, the reciprocal just friends thing is an illusion

YEARS?! Jesus. I mean, I still find her attractive, but I find almost all my friends attractive in a way. Everyone at some point considers what it'd be like to get down with the people they know, or people they pass on the street, or the cop that just took their licence. It's human nature.

What you do with that is up to you, and all the weak pansies who will fracture friendships, either theirs or others, because of their own insecurity at being able to control their pants need to have a long look in a mirror for the person to blame.

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Originally posted by Slylee the 2 surprises were a doggy bed for my dog and some pot. lol he is totally kicking my dog out of my thread.

btw, i told you so.

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Originally posted by Teh Jim YEARS?! Jesus. I mean, I still find her attractive, but I find almost all my friends attractive in a way. Everyone at some point considers what it'd be like to get down with the people they know, or people they pass on the street, or the cop that just took their licence. It's human nature. What you do with that is up to you, and all the weak pansies who will fracture friendships, either theirs or others, because of their own insecurity at being able to control their pants need to have a long look in a mirror for the person to blame.

I hear you man. I think about banging people all the time that I know I never really would. But I wasn't making a blanket statement. I think the greater the seriousness of the relationship and the deeper the personal history between 2 people that are now broken up, the longer it will take to "get over" them. I tossed out the term "a few years" because that's usually enough time for most people to lose their feelings for an ex and at the same time evolve into a different person emotionally/mentally or whatever. And I agree with you that personal responsibility plays a part... I just think in Sylee's case, maybe not enough time has passed between her BF and his ex, combined with them not being together for so long and her admitted insecurities (not a dig at you, Sylee )

My thing is just, if he really loves her and knows how she feels, then sacrificing his not-so-distant ex relationship for the good of his current one is not a lot to ask. Maybe he can be totally trusted, but why even put yourself in the situation. It's like when a girl dresses all uber sexy with a micro skirt on and her tits hanging out at some dive bar, and gets annoyed when the riff raff won't leave her alone. Yeah she didn't "ask for it", but common sense says she should know better than to put herself in that situation if she wants different results

i don't think I can imagine NOT being friends with my current girlfriend...we have so much in common....it would be harder to ignore each other...

edit: then again maybe that's just because i'm with her now...

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Originally posted by julien2 i don't think I can imagine NOT being friends with my current girlfriend...we have so much in common....it would be harder to ignore each other... edit: then again maybe that's just because i'm with her now...

light bulb goes off

Re: BF/GFs who are friends with their exes

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Originally posted by Slylee have u had to deal with it? i am now. i'm trying to work through it but i'm just generally a possesive/jealous type of girlfriend..HOWEVER, before you start attacking me, let me just tell you that you will never see me make a scene or act ridiculous or even act on my jealous feelings alone. that is because i realize it's my own insecurity and it's just something i have to deal with. i keep it under wraps because i know if you make a scene about jealousy, you might as well stamp "INSECURE" on your forehead and that's not something i want to do. i told my guy it bothered me and that i would try to work through it. we had a nice calm talk about it, i wasn't like "WTF! BLA BLA BLA FUCK HER!" i usually make a joke out of my jealousy. it's like bringing comic relief helps me deal with it and laugh at myself. i'll say something like, "yea fine we can have dinner but don't make me have to choke a bitch". cor version: would any of you who are still friendly with your ex have that talk with your new bf/gf and tell them u are friends with them and that you'd like them to meet or you'd like it to be cool if you all hung out? how would u deal with it if they did that to you?

lol. that's one of the oldest tricks in the book. you don't think he going to fuck her or fall in love with her again?

man, if all women were like you, many a guy would be face deep in gina all the time.

i'm quite close to my longest ex. We talk most days & are good mates now, but it took a long time for us to be able to do so. We split up 6 years ago and barely spoke for 4 of those. It takes both sides to be able to do it and that then depends on what type of person you are.

I think i would accept it more if they were friends before they hooked up.. but i do hate it when they remain friends with their ex's

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