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Originally posted by idoru I'm a genius, I know.

You're going to have to know more then that to be a genius

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Originally posted by gehzumteufel That is your commute to work. That isn't short-long at all. I think when she said short-long, she meant 1-2 hours away (Myra, correct me if I am wrong please!)

no, i was referring to when Rob and i were about 2 hours away from each other.

short-long distance to me is when you can see the person every weekend by driving. long-long distance is when you have to get on a plane.

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Originally posted by idoru "You hang up!" "No you hang up!" "Bye, I love you!" "I love you more!" "No I do!"

What film was that from? This is going to kill me!

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Originally posted by gehzumteufel Not cheap by any means.

Could have been much cheaper if I wasn't such a princess when it came to travel.

Well, before internet, people kept up long distance relationships through mail.

If people can do it with just mail, so can you with internet! Harness the powah!

Better the odds if you have bigger penis than most Jap men

still can't wait for the pics!

Yeah I did it to at one point when I was dating my future wife my high school sweetheart I have been dating since our 7 grade. When we where out high school she went to college and was on a submarine for 2 tours in navy as weapons tech for my four years. I got to sit in control room waiting for a call from the president to launch or nukes. Was tough on use but we got though it and all.

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Originally posted by l�cid no, i was referring to when Rob and i were about 2 hours away from each other. short-long distance to me is when you can see the person every weekend by driving. long-long distance is when you have to get on a plane.

I figured as much. Thanks for confirming it as did Rob.

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Originally posted by fbgdavidson Could have been much cheaper if I wasn't such a princess when it came to travel.

Yeah with the business and first class tickets yeah, but the economy is pretty average.

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Originally posted by Lira hmm... I think you're on to something I've been pondering for a while. But, what would worth mean in this case? There would be no solid gains? Given the difficulties, maybe it would be wiser to just end it all, I agree with you. In that case, I'd be doing something certain, and I would be able to meet (and get to know) more girls sooner than I would if we broke up after a couple of years. It would be the rational choice. However, I just followed my heart on this one, and this kind of choice makes me who I am. I've always been a tenacious idealist, and trying has always meant a lot more than achieving (not that I don't like the prizes, of course I do). The simple fact that I'm trying makes this thing worth it for me. Just a different worldview, I guess

Oh well, your choice.
I try to put reason in front of heart when making such decisions.
I've had some not-so-nice experiences in past doing the opposite and thinking with heart, but I've larned from mistakes and I don't want them to repeat.

Best of luck, mate

Well it all depends on how strong your relationship with that person is and how often you guys communicate with eachother.......I talk to her everyday and we talk for hours (long distance plan expenses)

Well its not for long she will be here within 6 months time.
It doesnt feel like long distance besides that fact that she isnt here and I cant go see her see her anytime....I pretty much know what happens in her life on a daily basis.....plus msn and webcams help too

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Originally posted by UmmiE Well it all depends on how strong your relationship with that person is and how often you guys communicate with eachother.......I talk to her everyday and we talk for hours (long distance plan expenses :whip Well its not for long she will be here within 6 months time. It doesnt feel like long distance besides that fact that she isnt here and I cant go see her see her anytime....I pretty much know what happens in her life on a daily basis.....plus msn and webcams help too

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Originally posted by nchs09 Webcam for fap fap fap

Well thats when you have a very beautiful wifey

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Originally posted by UmmiE Well thats when you have a very beautiful wifey

Your wife looked hot

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Originally posted by nchs09 Your wife looked hot

Club's bathroom have bad lighting so you couldn't see well?

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Originally posted by whiskers Club's bathroom have bad lighting so you couldn't see well?

Ahhh.... maybe? i dunno what you are talkinga bout.

i'm curious out of the guys in this thread, would you or wouldn't you be more likely to go along with a long-distance relationship? seems like the majority of guys would rather hold out for something close to home than deal with long distance.
in the beginning of summer i met an awesome guy 4 hours away while i was covering for a manager at work. i got to visit several times and we seemed to be doing just fine, despite the distance...then he pulled the plug on it, stating it was the actual distance that he couldn't deal with. i thought it was a cop-out and he just wanted to be free to bang whomever...but he still keeps in touch with me quite often and inquires when i'm moving down there (which is in the works within the coming months). it always confuses me b/c if he doesn't think i'm worth committing to with a 4 hour distance, why does he care if i move there or not in the near future?

you refer to that one as the get into vagina free card.

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Originally posted by AMMORA i'm curious out of the guys in this thread, would you or wouldn't you be more likely to go along with a long-distance relationship? seems like the majority of guys would rather hold out for something close to home than deal with long distance. in the beginning of summer i met an awesome guy 4 hours away while i was covering for a manager at work. i got to visit several times and we seemed to be doing just fine, despite the distance...then he pulled the plug on it, stating it was the actual distance that he couldn't deal with. i thought it was a cop-out and he just wanted to be free to bang whomever...but he still keeps in touch with me quite often and inquires when i'm moving down there (which is in the works within the coming months). it always confuses me b/c if he doesn't think i'm worth committing to with a 4 hour distance, why does he care if i move there or not in the near future?

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Originally posted by elFreak you refer to that one as the get into vagina free card.

And btw, I am in general very against LDRs because of the things that it usually results in. Distrust is the biggest one, but the other is distance and emotional needs for both. What those may be are different for each, but I know women are all emotional creatures and require that physical interaction regularly or they start to feel inadequate (this is a sweeping generalization).

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Originally posted by AMMORA i'm curious out of the guys in this thread, would you or wouldn't you be more likely to go along with a long-distance relationship?

In my case there has to be an exit strategy to the LDR. I wasn't going to keep flying over every 6 weeks once I was out of University. For me it was either end or it or one of us emigrates. As she was out of University a year before me and she got settled with a decent job, apartment etc it made sense for me to be the one to move. I really didn't mind the move, I'd spent a lot of time in the US growing up so knew the lifestyle.

i've done it before, i'd do it again. it all depends on the person and the situation. i think long-distance relationships are actually better than short-distance ones, there's much more passion and you always end up doing something fun at least with them.

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Originally posted by Halcyon+On+On You're an attractive guy, Lira. I mean that. Sure you're sort of a dork, but once women get out of school, they learn to appreciate that sort of thing. Don't expect other girls to not notice you for one moment, I am sure that half of your friends have their eyes on you now that this other girl is out of the picture. And you can afford to be discerning amongst them, I'm sure. I am, for obvious reasons, reticent to tell you how you should feel, but I do however genuinely believe that this whole 'how do I maintain a long-distance relationship' business is a temporary thing. I suppose this is the part where I am supposed to urge you to ask yourself certain questions, but I think I will just skip that phase and propose to you that men are largely visual creatures and temporal beings; that is to say, we are far more comfortable being bearers of seed than bearers of responsibility and that biology is a thing we are remiss to conquer. Are we slaves to it? Possibly. But I cannot say I have ever been truly subjugated by a dynamic I extract pleasure from. So indulge with responsibility. Tell your girlfriend that your love may be for her, but your body is not her temple. That you shall involve yourself with others trusted amongst your social circle and that the sex you exercise is a thing she is to celebrate in her love for you else it is an impure admiration of supposed possession; that her 'love' for you is ephemeral and based strictly upon ownership. You'll be rid of that pest for sure. Go for it.

This. Oh god this.

I sometimes have a hard time and my girlfriend lives only 2 hours away and we see each other on a weekly basis.

Thankfully that all changes this weekend.

Well... She's probably in Toronto now, waiting for her plane to head to Hong Kong and I think she will arrive in Nagoya tomorrow morning.

It was a nice day. Thanks to many of her friends, bidding farewell was a lot less tough than we had imagined, even though a fair amount of tears was shed. But I know the most difficult part is yet to come.

I'll write a proper reply as soon as I get to work

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Originally posted by elFreak still can't wait for the pics!

Well, this is us plus a few friends at the airport:



These girls two on the left (and the blond guy in the next pic) were her flatmates during the last couple of months. Here's a pic of a surprise party they threw for her:

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Originally posted by Halcyon+On+On You're an attractive guy, Lira. I mean that. Sure you're sort of a dork, but once women get out of school, they learn to appreciate that sort of thing. Don't expect other girls to not notice you for one moment, I am sure that half of your friends have their eyes on you now that this other girl is out of the picture. And you can afford to be discerning amongst them, I'm sure. I am, for obvious reasons, reticent to tell you how you should feel, but I do however genuinely believe that this whole 'how do I maintain a long-distance relationship' business is a temporary thing. I suppose this is the part where I am supposed to urge you to ask yourself certain questions, but I think I will just skip that phase and propose to you that men are largely visual creatures and temporal beings; that is to say, we are far more comfortable being bearers of seed than bearers of responsibility and that biology is a thing we are remiss to conquer. Are we slaves to it? Possibly. But I cannot say I have ever been truly subjugated by a dynamic I extract pleasure from. So indulge with responsibility. Tell your girlfriend that your love may be for her, but your body is not her temple. That you shall involve yourself with others trusted amongst your social circle and that the sex you exercise is a thing she is to celebrate in her love for you else it is an impure admiration of supposed possession; that her 'love' for you is ephemeral and based strictly upon ownership. You'll be rid of that pest for sure. Go for it.

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Originally posted by AMMORA it always confuses me b/c if he doesn't think i'm worth committing to with a 4 hour distance, why does he care if i move there or not in the near future?

this could be a red flag for you to a major personality flaw. If I was really into a girl a 4 hour drive distance would be nothing. I know guys who are so into themselves and think they are so important that they literally won't date a girl they have to drive more than 15 minutes to pick up

u can do better man n i dnt think u should worry about her cheating on u........

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