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Originally posted by Banora He then pulls up a computer program that manages your money and shows me the tab for me. Every little expense, from the $1 piece of candy he bought me, to the very expensive dinner he paid for on my birthday, to gas mileage and cost (he insisted on picking me up and taking me to his place about 20 miles away every day) to what he deemed 'extra stress on utilities' (me turning on the bathroom light to go in there, blah blah). He then smirks and says "Yeah, you owe me about $2000. I guess you'll just have to stay with me forever, huh?" I eventually tell him to eat a dick (he did try to sue but was laughed out of court). He stalked me for a bit after that, but eventually (last I heard) found someone else's life to ruin.

Holy shit, that's a lot of psycho. Sounds like you got away clean though!

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Originally posted by whiskers That sounds like a fun girl right there. Are there any post-break up stories, like sobbing calls at 3am or stalking in the bushes outside your house and leaving gifts on the porch?

Slight error in what I said. She was engaged BEFORE she met me. But yes I tried talking to her as little as possible but she would IM me EVERY time i got online. Then she would text me "we don't talk like we use to. I miss it" and I thought to myself "no shit we broke up." But i'm sort of a nice guy so I try to let her down easy by talking to her but giving her the shortest answers possible. She would keep flirting with me and tell me shit like "me and my friend are playing badminton so we can get big asses. Badminton strengthens the ass muscles" wtf. Eventually I just started talking with excessive swearing and adding in dirty jokes. She is really innocent so she couldn't stand that. Eventually we just stopped talking.

With the asian girl she keeps inviting me to anime conventions

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Originally posted by Taranis I seem to be a magnet for crazy chicks, it all starts out the same:

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(I have a theory that a relationship's health is inversely proportional to how intoxicated you are when it begins) and so the grand cycle of life continues.

i think your theory may be flawed

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Originally posted by whiskers That sounds like a fun girl right there. Are there any post-break up stories, like sobbing calls at 3am or stalking in the bushes outside your house and leaving gifts on the porch?

Is leaving a gift bad? My ex and I split in June, but his birthday was in September, so I mailed him a gift (just to be nice). It wasn't anything major.

Great, now this has me paranoid he took it as a creepy move.

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Originally posted by Banora I care a lot about the guys I date...but I'm not going to get upset that my guy has interaction with other females. If he has female friends, its whatever. I have tons of male friends, and I'm not going to give them up just to be with someone. I guess I don't believe in 'forcing' the relationship. If its not going to work, its not going to work. Why try to eliminate all the possible outside factors (and possibly make your guy think you're a low self-esteem nut job) when there are other problems? Talking to a female friend isn't going to kill the relationship, its other things. Oh my god, yes. Nikoli, I remember him so fondly. The only guy to ever put his hands on me in an assault. I'm so happy I never did anything with him, I could never wash the disgust off. But he flashed me quite a few times (in the hopes it would 'turn me on'). He was about...hm, I wanna say 5'5" maybe? Pudgy too. Biggest chip on his shoulder ever. He loved calling people out (if he saw an overweight person in public, he would loudly start insulting them), starting fights with any guy who even glanced in my direction, was racist, homophobic, sexist, told me "I will never love you as much as I love money". He constantly groped and pawed on me, even though I told him to stop ALL THE TIME. He was like "I just can't help it! Boobies are so cool!" If I sat down next to him he'd slide his hand under my shirt between my boobs and be like "You can't say I'm not touching your boobs!" Constantly groping and touching until eventually, one day I was so frustrated I started to cry when telling him (over and over) to get off me. He did...for the rest of the day. His penis was probably, literally...4". The thing was, he was NOT like this at all when we first started to date. He was really cool, loved to go to art galleries (they're okay, not my thing but fun to see), nice to everyone, nice to me, didn't pressure me in any way. Why didn't I break up with him? I borrowed $500 from him to secure my new apartment (about two months into the relationship (which I fully intended to pay back and did)) and he demanded ALL my checks go to him and he will give me the money he deemed necessary for rent and utilities. It sucked, but I figured it would only take about a month then I could dump his ass. I didn't dare dump him before because 1. His dad is one of those ambulance chaser lawyers and I didn't want to get sued (something he threatened me with if I didn't pay him back) and 2. He warned me he would 'ruin me' if I tried to stop paying him. So about two months go by and he's still demanding I owe him money. I look at my checks, subtract what he gives me and realize I've paid him WAY over the $500. I confront him. He then pulls up a computer program that manages your money and shows me the tab for me. Every little expense, from the $1 piece of candy he bought me, to the very expensive dinner he paid for on my birthday, to gas mileage and cost (he insisted on picking me up and taking me to his place about 20 miles away every day) to what he deemed 'extra stress on utilities' (me turning on the bathroom light to go in there, blah blah). He then smirks and says "Yeah, you owe me about $2000. I guess you'll just have to stay with me forever, huh?" I eventually tell him to eat a dick (he did try to sue but was laughed out of court). He stalked me for a bit after that, but eventually (last I heard) found someone else's life to ruin.

Wow I think you beat me. Thats scary crazy.

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Originally posted by coroknight Wow I think you beat me. Thats scary crazy.

Thats just...the summary with a few details. This guy was fucking nuts. The reason he hit me (in public) was stupid.

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Originally posted by Banora Is leaving a gift bad? My ex and I split in June, but his birthday was in September, so I mailed him a gift (just to be nice). It wasn't anything major. Great, now this has me paranoid he took it as a creepy move.

If you're on good terms and/or it's been a while since you broke up, it's fine.

But if it's right after a break up, leaving strange gifts on the porch AT NIGHT when the other person wants nothing to have with you / wants to move on... is a creepy move (not that it happened to me). It's as creepy as this:

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Originally posted by coroknight Then she would text me "we don't talk like we use to. I miss it" and I thought to myself "no shit we broke up."

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Originally posted by Banora he hit me (in public)

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Originally posted by Banora This guy was fucking nuts.

A few years ago after a really bad break-up, I made plans with 3 different guys, 3 weekends in a row to prove to myself that I was fully over the past relationship. I met them all online.

They were record BAD
it was like a fucking sitcom

Guy#1 was 6'8 and we went out for ice cream and he kept talking about all the troubles he endures in life because of his height. I swear at one point I thought he was going to cry

Guy#2 took me out for coffee and I accidentally spilled something on his new Diesel jeans and he yelled at me. YELLED. In fucking Starbucks and people started staring.

Guy#3 seemed fine at first. Small dinner and then went to the movies to see Hostel. Everything was going ok and then when he walked me to my door he whipped out a knife and held it to my face. I fucking screamed and he started laughing hysterically. He thought it would be funny scaring the shit out of me because of all the stabbing that goes in in the movie.



I swear whenever I think about that month, it seems surreal.

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Originally posted by Ania_xox I met them all online.

this explains it all.

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Guy#3 seemed fine at first. Small dinner and then went to the movies to see Hostel. Everything was going ok and then when he walked me to my door he whipped out a knife and held it to my face. I fucking screamed and he started laughing hysterically. He thought it would be funny scaring the shit out of me because of all the stabbing that goes in in the movie.

@ this guy for having the balls to do that on a first date. That's pretty funny. But, not if he wanted a 2nd date. Did he try to call you again after that?

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Originally posted by Ania_xox A few years ago after a really bad break-up, I made plans with 3 different guys, 3 weekends in a row to prove to myself that I was fully over the past relationship. I met them all online. They were record BAD it was like a fucking sitcom Guy#1 was 6'8 and we went out for ice cream and he kept talking about all the troubles he endures in life because of his height. I swear at one point I thought he was going to cry Guy#2 took me out for coffee and I accidentally spilled something on his new Diesel jeans and he yelled at me. YELLED. In fucking Starbucks and people started staring. Guy#3 seemed fine at first. Small dinner and then went to the movies to see Hostel. Everything was going ok and then when he walked me to my door he whipped out a knife and held it to my face. I fucking screamed and he started laughing hysterically. He thought it would be funny scaring the shit out of me because of all the stabbing that goes in in the movie. I swear whenever I think about that month, it seems surreal.

Wow, from now on you need to meet people in person.

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Originally posted by whiskers If you're on good terms and/or it's been a while since you broke up, it's fine.

Well that makes me feel better. We broke up because, well, we were at different points of our lives (I wanted a relationship, he realized he wasn't done being single) which I can't be angry at him for.

When he told me, I didn't cry or beg. I just said 'okay' because, even though it hurt so much (he's the only guy I ever came close to loving) I knew it was for the best. I didn't text or talk to him for a few days, we exchanged our things and that was pretty much it. I invited him to a movie with some friends a few weeks later but he didn't go. He called me for my birthday, but after that we never spoke again.

Then I mailed him a gift for his birthday a few months later.

I'd like to be his friend again, someday. Right now, though, its still a pretty sore area.

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Originally posted by Banora Then I mailed him a gift for his birthday a few months later. I'd like to be his friend again, someday. Right now, though, its still a pretty sore area.

If a girl I haven't spoken to in a while sent me a birthday gift, I would be a little wary, no matter how close we were. I guess two months is not that long to not talk, yet still. That's just me though. I don't expect gifts from people unless I'm REALLY close to them, like see / talk to them multiple times a week.

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Originally posted by Ania_xox A few years ago after a really bad break-up, I made plans with 3 different guys, 3 weekends in a row to prove to myself that I was fully over the past relationship. I met them all online. They were record BAD it was like a fucking sitcom Guy#1 was 6'8 and we went out for ice cream and he kept talking about all the troubles he endures in life because of his height. I swear at one point I thought he was going to cry Guy#2 took me out for coffee and I accidentally spilled something on his new Diesel jeans and he yelled at me. YELLED. In fucking Starbucks and people started staring. Guy#3 seemed fine at first. Small dinner and then went to the movies to see Hostel. Everything was going ok and then when he walked me to my door he whipped out a knife and held it to my face. I fucking screamed and he started laughing hysterically. He thought it would be funny scaring the shit out of me because of all the stabbing that goes in in the movie. I swear whenever I think about that month, it seems surreal.

1 and 2 sound like they just have some issues. 3 is definitely crazy.

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Originally posted by whiskers If a girl I haven't spoken to in a while sent me a birthday gift, I would be a little wary, no matter how close we were. I guess two months is not that long to not talk, yet still. That's just me though. I don't expect gifts from people unless I'm REALLY close to them, like see / talk to them multiple times a week.

Since we ended on fairly good terms, I figured it was okay (I made sure I asked ALL my male friends for their opinion) and considering it was a small gift, and his birthday, they didn't see any harm.

They also thought it was a good way to 'extend the olive branch'.

See, I have a problem with expressing myself when it comes to caring for people: lovers, parents, friends etc. So I buy them things that they need or want in order to show I care. Thats not to say I am a cold fish. I love to cuddle, and touch, but when it comes to me really expressing how I feel, its hard.

I dated a girl in high school who had an obsession with Prince. She kept giving me burned Prince cd's. She wore purple almost everyday. Our conversations oddly always led to Prince. To top it off, her parents were ultra-strict. When I'd take her out to the movies or the mall, her mom was always there in the same vicinity. Not with us, but just there, lurking. That lasted a month. When I broke up with her over the phone, she went into her closet and started crying hysterically. I was kind of like..."wtf...?" Unfortunately, we went to the same very small high school (only 20 graduating students), and so the next year, I had a chemistry class with her, and she sat right behind. Constantly hurled insults at me until I just turned around in the middle of class, and in front of everyone asked, "Can you stop being a stupid little bitch and shut the fuck up?" That seemed to do the trick.

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Originally posted by whiskers No, not true. And that's not really crazy, until she starts calling you all the time, asking you where you've been, with whom; starts checking all of your facebook pictures and comments and questioning you and giving you shit about them. THAT'S crazy.

My ex flipped out when she found out I had myspace, first she made me delete every girl on my friends list and then she asked me to delete the entire profile. Sad thing is that is about a 3 out of 10 on the crazy things she did scale.


Yeah....... she was probably the craziest person I've ever met.

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Originally posted by whiskers 1 and 2 sound like they just have some issues. 3 is definitely crazy.

3 might just have a poor sense of humour or he's just really stupid.. it would be way less crazy (not to mention safer) if he pulled out a rubber knife or something..

I don't think that men and women are SO different - but I think men have more issues than women. And I find it amusing that men think we're SO difficult to figure out... and yet all of you seem to think you HAVE figured it out!

- and yes, clearly if you've been with someone for a few years, you start to recognize patterns and you known them well enough to understand their insecurities or motivations behind their actions.

And I have found in my travels, that men have just as many, if not more issues, than women. And I've dated some fucking CRAZY men. And I see them everywhere.

So the standard that only women can lose their minds, is ridiculous.

no chicks are fucked. heres the thing abt chicks too many drunkin desperate retards have given too much attention to broads. Broads aint shit only good for cookin cleanin and suckin dick and thats it


theres a reason why we are the more dominant gender. Why we are the leaders in this world.

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Originally posted by squirrelly I don't think that men and women are SO different - but I think men have more issues than women. And I find it amusing that men think we're SO difficult to figure out... and yet all of you seem to think you HAVE figured it out! - and yes, clearly if you've been with someone for a few years, you start to recognize patterns and you known them well enough to understand their insecurities or motivations behind their actions. And I have found in my travels, that men have just as many, if not more issues, than women. And I've dated some fucking CRAZY men. And I see them everywhere. So the standard that only women can lose their minds, is ridiculous.

Sarah, the thing is, we're discussing "dating crazy chicks," as the topic says. Banora gets a pass, because her accountant-boyfriend was 1st class crazy. Nobody's implying that there's only "crazy girls" and not men, but, in my opinion, there's more of girls.

Note that no one in this thread has mentioned that either of us "figured you out" and we're not claiming that all women are like that (although there were mentions of all women being crazy). We're talking about psycho women here.

As for your "we're not that difficult to figure out" belief. Let's keep up with the generalizations: you yourselves can't figure yourselves out. In my experience, women do stuff they don't even recognize they do (like use every one of their friends for benefit and without guilt) and when confronted about such behavior, they get very defensive and explode. As for guys, I can't really pass judgment since I have not dated any guys, but in my opinion if a guy is doing something that can be considered bad behavior, he's doing it for a reason, understanding that it's bad. But I really don't want to get into this "man vs. women" debate, because it's not the point of the thread.

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Originally posted by Banora See, I have a problem with expressing myself when it comes to caring for people: lovers, parents, friends etc. So I buy them things that they need or want in order to show I care. Thats not to say I am a cold fish. I love to cuddle, and touch, but when it comes to me really expressing how I feel, its hard.

Deeds are more important than words, so don't worry about this.

My ex was a bit similar. I don't think she ever told me she loved me (it was a 3,5 years long relationship btw) but from her actions I knew she cared a lot.

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Originally posted by whiskers Sarah, the thing is, we're discussing "dating crazy chicks," as the topic says. Banora gets a pass, because her accountant-boyfriend was 1st class crazy. Nobody's implying that there's only "crazy girls" and not men, but, in my opinion, there's more of girls. Note that no one in this thread has mentioned that either of us "figured you out" and we're not claiming that all women are like that (although there were mentions of all women being crazy). We're talking about psycho women here. As for your "we're not that difficult to figure out" belief. Let's keep up with the generalizations: you yourselves can't figure yourselves out. In my experience, women do stuff they don't even recognize they do (like use every one of their friends for benefit and without guilt) and when confronted about such behavior, they get very defensive and explode. As for guys, I can't really pass judgment since I have not dated any guys, but in my opinion if a guy is doing something that can be considered bad behavior, he's doing it for a reason, understanding that it's bad. But I really don't want to get into this "man vs. women" debate, because it's not the point of the thread.

Sara not Sarah, bozo.

You're dealing with some immature women then! At one point in an argument, I paused, realized what I had said, and then turned around and apologized. Something like "Wow, I was behaving so irrationally just now. I don't know why an insecurity like that just popped up out of nowhere... I apologize for bringing up something from the past - it was uncalled for."

Anyway, I think it should be "crazy PEOPLE you've dated" to make it fair for ALL the people in the forum!

you go, girl!

I'm serious! I really did that. It dawned on me that I was being ridiculous and I just snapped out of it

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