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why are you getting married?

i just don't believe love needs a ring and an expensive party to make it real. If you are committed now, you will not be more committed after saturday... unless it is because of religion which is just more lol.

The only difference is that it is going to cost you a couple of grand when you break up

good luck!

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Originally posted by Saka How come nobody has a good word to say about marriage?

Because you've only known her 3 years. Believe me, that's not long enough to have really tested if your relationship is ready for marriage. Especially since you're only 23.

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Originally posted by jennypie Because you've only known her 3 years. Believe me, that's not long enough to have really tested if your relationship is ready for marriage. Especially since you're only 23.

they've dated for most of those 3 years no? If you've been dating someone 3 years, I don't think it's crazy to think marriage...

My point still stands.

i am in a committed relationship.
we live together and own property together.
we don't see other people.
we love each other.

what more could marriage give me, i am curious?

such an outdated practice

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Originally posted by StanVoid they've dated for most of those 3 years no? If you've been dating someone 3 years, I don't think it's crazy to think marriage...

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Originally posted by elFreak i am in a committed relationship. we live together and own property together. we don't see other people. we love each other. what more could marriage give me, i am curious? such an outdated practice

tax benefits

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Originally posted by elFreak i am in a committed relationship. we live together and own property together. we don't see other people. we love each other. what more could marriage give me, i am curious? such an outdated practice

Not to mention that after a certain length of time living together, you are considered common-law anyways.

yeah i am already there and benefiting from the tax cuts.

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Originally posted by elFreak i am in a committed relationship. we live together and own property together. we don't see other people. we love each other. what more could marriage give me, i am curious? such an outdated practice

I think a lot of it just boils down to outside pressure - parents asking you to marry, friends asking you when you'll marry, so people end up with this sense that marriage is something that's necessary. I think also it grants some people a sense of security ... almost like if you're married, it'd be harder to break up so that means there's an added probability that you'll stay together.

The realistic and concrete advantages of marriage are in the tax laws that favor married couples.

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Originally posted by StanVoid they've dated for most of those 3 years no? If you've been dating someone 3 years, I don't think it's crazy to think marriage...

+1

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Originally posted by elFreak i am in a committed relationship. we live together and own property together. we don't see other people. we love each other. what more could marriage give me, i am curious? such an outdated practice

Marriage is something we both want in this relationship. It would make me happy to be married, as it would make her happy, if we were married, so what is your problem with marriage? Why is it "outdated"?

Lol, so naive. I can't wait till you hit the 5 year mark in your relationship.

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Originally posted by StanVoid I think a lot of it just boils down to outside pressure - parents asking you to marry, friends asking you when you'll marry, so people end up with this sense that marriage is something that's necessary. I think also it grants some people a sense of security ... almost like if you're married, it'd be harder to break up so that means there's an added probability that you'll stay together. The realistic and concrete advantages of marriage are in the tax laws that favor married couples.

This, and maybe for green card purposes...

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Originally posted by jennypie Not to mention that after a certain length of time living together, you are considered common-law anyways.

Depends on where you are. Many places in the US do not recognize common-law.

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Originally posted by Saka +1 Marriage is something we both want in this relationship. It would make me happy to be married, as it would make her happy, if we were married, so what is your problem with marriage? Why is it "outdated"?

Don't get me wrong, it is your perogative and if it makes you happier, it makes you happier. I believe that it is nothing but a placebo effect. If your relationship is strong, it is strong without the ring.

I think it is outdated because:

1. it is a religious practice (in its roots, even though it is not always done this way these days.), religion is out dated.
2. look at divorce statistics. Marriage hardly means anything more than normal committed unmarried people and their relationships.
3. All that money spent on the party is better spent on your home and the future of your children (see college funds). You get more back from these things than any expensive party with tons of people you are not even that close to.

It is just my opinion.

Thank god my girlfriend is cool enough to love me without needing to run around with a big rock on her finger to prove it to everyone that does not matter

here i get the tax breaks, fuck the party

The only benefit of marriage, to me, is taking on my husband's family name. I definitely view it as a union in that sense, and that's what appeals to me about it.

But yeah I'm with you, Jay. You're either committed, or you're not. If you need marriage to change or stabilize your relationship, you're doomed to fail, imo.

in quebec they don't do the name thing anymore.

You have to pay extra and get it approved by a judge. My gf wants to do it for some reason ( i have a horrible last name lol), so that is her prerogative.

I think the courts do it this way because of all the divorce and all the having to switch the names back.

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Originally posted by jennypie If you need marriage to change or stabilize your relationship, you're doomed to fail, imo.

This.

Also, those bitches that do a total 180 when they get married need some fucking help too.

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Originally posted by elFreak You have to pay extra and get it approved by a judge.

This is how it has been in the US for many years. It is something like $500 or whatever to change your name.

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Originally posted by elFreak in quebec they don't do the name thing anymore. You have to pay extra and get it approved by a judge. My gf wants to do it for some reason ( i have a horrible last name lol), so that is her prerogative. I think the courts do it this way because of all the divorce and all the having to switch the names back.

Hah, really?? Damn.

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Originally posted by elFreak i just don't believe love needs a ring and an expensive party to make it real

for once +1

marriage is just another excuse for chicks to get fat and ugly.

for instance, italian girls seem to have this gene where as soon as a ring gets put on their finger, they gain 120lbs and grow a ron jeremy mustache.

in limbo, bitches hit the gym

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Originally posted by elFreak marriage is just another excuse for chicks to get fat and ugly. for instance, italian girls seem to have this gene where as soon as a ring gets put on their finger, they gain 120lbs and grow a ron jeremy mustache. in limbo, bitches hit the gym

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Originally posted by elFreak marriage is just another excuse for chicks to get fat and ugly.

+ kids



I fucking can't stand women like this.

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Originally posted by jennypie Not to mention that after a certain length of time living together, you are considered common-law anyways.

Not in Florida.

Technically, you can be living together for 19 years, have your SO croak - and if the correct papers aren't filed, it all goes to the state and you're out on your ass.

jus' a lil' fyi

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