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Originally posted by Ste gutted.

That's my line

I have been with my girlfriend 9 months now, and she lives in america...i in England. It is shit, but we have something special, or we beleive we do, and i believe there is no one in the world like her. What u need to do mate is look at ur situation. Do you like this girl? Yes or No. From the sounds of it, you love her and ur looking for a way out coz u have commitment problems. U can not stop her from going on the net chatting to ppl like she can't stop u. You ever thought of the fact that u met her thru the net too, so she could be paranoid about u meeting someone knew? The herpes thing is shit, and if she is sorry, ppl make mistakes, and u trust her, then forgive. Life is too short to be worried about things. If u believe she is special, and the 90 miles of distance is worth it, then try and salvage something. Girls arn't bitches mate, there are allot of really nice lasses and u need to open ur eyes are not let the bad apples, like there are in both sexes, ruin what u have. Just be careful mate! if u dont want to commit yet coz u want to have fun, then do it. But if ur with her and u feel on top of the world, then thats all what matters imo

Right now I am speaking to a girl via the internet, she is from Argentina and I am in the U.S.A. I find her to be absolutely amazing because she is Japanese and Spanish, she loves Enya, Enigma, Trance, Chillout/Ambient, she speaks different languages, so do I. She wants to work with an international aid agency and I would like to become a diplomat. Those things we share are just the tip of the iceberg. I truly like this girl, but what will become of it, who knows. We recently exchanged addresses and I sent her some of my pics from parties I went to around NYC and she will send me some of her @ Creamfields in Buenos Aires coming up. My point in all of this is that I will talk to her and see what happens but if she chats up a storm with someone else, doesn't mean much to me, I do the same too. But I guess every situation is very different.

I'm not trying to bash on internet relationships or anything like that, because God knows, I've met some damn interesting life-altering people online, and I've met some face to face.

The comments I made were based on the commments of this speed guy. So far he keeps contradicting everything he says.

"shes cried for me countless of times" followed by "but in one word...shes a bitch"

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i want her to pull the wrong move so i can walk away ... she hasnt done anything bad..or bakstabbed me.. i dont know know...im not callin her anymore at all..

provoked my

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And, you must really be reaching the fine age of maybe twelve, if you want to just "quit calling", because you're too scared to just tell her "I don't want to be with you anymore".

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"this girl can be the sweetest tart on the globe and then she can be a bitch in a devil's dress"

"In all honesty..she has skrewed up my life by giving me herpes."

If you love her, You should be able to forgive her. Not continue on and on about it. but when you say "she cries endlessly because she gave it to me and she got it tooo from her possibly one night stand with club guys or online dudes or wutever." One can't help but think that she sleeps around.

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we were planing a great holiday season together...but today i saw her chatting online.

Okay, so what? I talk to people online all the time? Does that make me a criminal? You interact with TA's all the time, Does that mean anything is going to come from it? You met this girl online, but now you freak out if she talks to someone online? It could be completely harmless. Plus, how is she to know you aren't "flirting" with someone else online?

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oh! silly me, i just read this again and i realize now that you are calling anuneventrade a moron, not yourself

Why? Because I am reading all the posted information and I think its all ridiculous? He loves her, but doesn't want to be with her anymore because she talked to someone online. She's wonderful, and yet a bitch. She hasn't been online in months, but she gets online today and its worth all this havoc and crying and moaning? He's waiting for her to do something wrong so he can break it off??? Doesn't sound like love to me, sounds more like (as I previously remarked) immaturity.

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"theres no such thing as guy friends online...they see ur pic and dont see someone they wanna be friends with...they see someone they wanna screw with...obviously..im seeing this relationship is a big fukin joke to u....hiding from me online and chatting..u lied to me saying u were gonna stop chatting...I dont understand wtf is up with u"

That statement generally means that thats how you viewed her as well, correct? Since, there are no "guy friends" online?

All her friends went clubbing last night but she stayed home and talked to you on the phone, and still, you don't trust her? Sounds like you have issues... Which I think is already obvious from the get go, considering you keep changing your mind on how you view this girlfriend of yours.

*sigh* Thats pretty much all I had to say. Make up your mind about how you view your own girfriend, and don't be a pussy. Own up to the responsibility of a relationship. If you want to discontinue it, then do so, but do it as any respectable person would. Tell her, don't "not answer the phone" or wait for her to do something wrong.

OMG SHE'S CHATTING ONLINE WHAT A BITCH I'M GONNA DUMP HER


























seriously, if you wanna break up , find a better excuse

Maybe she smells like Campbells Beef Vegetable soup?

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Originally posted by anuneventrade Why? Because I am reading all the posted information and I think its all ridiculous? He loves her, but doesn't want to be with her anymore because she talked to someone online. She's wonderful, and yet a bitch. She hasn't been online in months, but she gets online today and its worth all this havoc and crying and moaning? He's waiting for her to do something wrong so he can break it off??? Doesn't sound like love to me, sounds more like (as I previously remarked) immaturity.

you got me all wrong! im on the same page as you! I thought speed was calling himself a moron because i read his sentance wrong and so i told him not to come down so hard on himself. But then when i read it again, i realized that he was calling you a moron, not himself, in which i do NOT agree with. sorry for the confusion!

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Originally posted by wienerschnitzel you got me all wrong! im on the same page as you! I thought speed was calling himself a moron because i read his sentance wrong and so i told him not to come down so hard on himself. But then when i read it again, i realized that he was calling you a moron, not himself, in which i do NOT agree with. sorry for the confusion!

I'm glad thats the case. I didn't quite understand why you would have commented that I was a moron, when you were telling him to kill her, rofl!

Now that we've gotten all that sorted out, I can go back to my orange soda and relax.

speedracer_mec -

it really sounds like you love her, but don't trust her. if that's the case, either tell her it bothers you and talk to her about it, or explain it and break up with her.

I'm not trying to echo the point everyone else has mentioned, but you need to explain your feelings to her. Ignoring the situation is not a mature way to end a relationship and it'll destroy any connections you had w/ her/mutual acquaintances/etc.

I dunno, I thought both of anun's responses ("what are you twelve?" followed by "I was wrong guys he's eleven") were a bit moronic. Or if not moronic, certainly unnecessary. Mec was just upset...asking for advice...bouncing back and forth...its so good its so bad.

Haven't we all been there at one point or another? Frantic with our thoughts? Hurt, indecisive, confused...

Anun, you posted two threads yourself recently and you sure the hell didn't appreciate people who came into your thread and rolled their eyes at your pain and discomfort.

My 2 cents.

I think Echo of Silence should get together with Speedracer. You two would make a cute couple!

Who's with me here?

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Originally posted by Echo of Silence I dunno, I thought both of anun's responses ("what are you twelve?" followed by "I was wrong guys he's eleven") were a bit moronic. Or if not moronic, certainly unnecessary. Mec was just upset...asking for advice...bouncing back and forth...its so good its so bad. Haven't we all been there at one point or another? Frantic with our thoughts? Hurt, indecisive, confused... Anun, you posted two threads yourself recently and you sure the hell didn't appreciate people who came into your thread and rolled their eyes at your pain and discomfort. My 2 cents.

Yes, I may have recently posted two threads about my own loss/pain. But I did not contradict everything I said. Nor did I blatantly change my mind about my statements within a few minutes of posting them.

There was nothing unnecessary about my comments. If someone cannot own up to their responsibilities in a relationship, then they are either too young to be in one, or too immature. The mind set speed_racer is in, is in fact, of a young child. "Not calling anymore"? Enough said.

I made mistakes, but at least mine were in an effort to better things, and I was able to admit/own up to my own mistakes/problems. He cannot decide if there is one to begin with.

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Originally posted by DigiNut I think Echo of Silence should get together with Speedracer. You two would make a cute couple! Who's with me here?

*giggle*

I repeat because you conveniently ignored it:

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Originally posted by Echo of Silence Mec was just upset...asking for advice...bouncing back and forth...its so good its so bad. Haven't we all been there at one point or another? Frantic with our thoughts? Hurt, indecisive, confused...

I've been there. Of course, that probably makes me twelve going on eleven?

A lot of us struggle with simple things. I gues we're the idiots of the world.

Taunt on if it makes your day.

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Originally posted by Anun But I did not contradict everything I said

Well aren't you perfect.

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Originally posted by Echo of Silence I've been there. Of course, that probably makes me twelve going on eleven? A lot of us struggle with simple things. I gues we're the idiots of the world. Taunt on if it makes your day.

Maybe you are reading incorrectly. I have sympathy for those that are in pain, and who are upset, and hurt. Being "frantic with our thoughts" and contradicting everything you say are two seperate things.

Being "frantic" with thoughts, would mean that you were in a jumble, but still have the same general idea/basis behind all the thoughts. You would be reaching out for hopes and beliefs. He cannot even decide (it seems to be) if he really cares about her.

If he began this thread with the want of help, then he would not have begun a post, then two or three posts later, say nevermind, then post again, and in that post completely turn around every thought and comment from the first post, then say in a different post, nevermind I don't want help, then in that same post that says that he wants no help, he comments for feedback please.

I would not "taunt" as you say, if it was clear that he obviously loved/cared for this girl. But if he cannot even decide if she is a good person, clean person, trusthworthy person, how can he harbour true feelings for her? You cannot claim you love someone, but then say that you want them to do something wrong so you can cut off all ties with them, or that you simply will not answer the phone anymore.

Its as simple as that.

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Well aren't you perfect.

Not perfect, per say, but damn close according to many people. IMO, I think no one is perfect, for everyone has a different opinion/liking/want.

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