TranceAddict Forums (www.tranceaddict.com/forums)
- Chill Out Room
-- do you still talk with your ex?
Pages (5): « 1 2 3 [4] 5 »

quote:

Originally posted by malek but sometimes you're so into your own little bubble and too short sighted that you need advice. trust me, everyone needs advice, especially a pregnant and single young female. advice first, choice, then support.

I find that more often than not people tend to do the opposite that people tell them to do.

Somewhere in our psyche is a need to make our own decisions and issued such as pregnancy and abortion should be dealt with by professionals, as in counsellors and the like. The human body releases many hormones during pregnancy that turn females into mothers and brings on a natural instinctual need to care for a baby, and advice from people watching from the outside can often be more bad than good.

I'm not trying to change your beliefs, and I'm sure that I have in fact offered advice to her. And because we dated previously we had the discussion on child rearing and she was very clear that she would not have an abortion if faced with the situation, so there was little need to talk about it.

i still see no good reason for a young female to keep a child as a single mom. There's none.

Everyday I watch my secretary go on with her life, sometimes bringing the kid at work because there's no one to look after him, and I get more and more convinced about it.

The worst part is when I chat with the little fella, it breaks my heart hearing him. (from our building we can see the amusement park, we talk about it for a while, and the boy tells me how he can't go cause his mom has never enough cash... )

bringing to the world a poor child vs. the guilt of an abortion

quote:

Originally posted by goodgreefgirl yeah i totally agree, and other than the fact that he somewhat assumed that i would get an abortion IF i was pregnant, he was the most understanding person ever. EVEN when he knew it was only a scare he called me (we live apart from each other), just to make sure i was doing okay and when we talked, he'd look at it rationally and from a very mature point of view. it made me feel really confident that EVEN IF i was pregnant, it woulldn't be the end of the world because i had a boyfriend who really cared about me and made sure i was okay.he was even gonna come out, just to go to the clinic with me to get tested... thats support without advice.

Thats a pretty rare thing.

Most guys freak the fuck out when faced with such a life changing event. Although sometimes there can be this period before it is total reality when it doesn't yet seem quite real.

This discussion just motivated me to give her a call and listen to her stories about having a big belly.

quote:

Originally posted by t�bias Thats a pretty rare thing. Most guys freak the fuck out when faced with such a life changing event. Although sometimes there can be this period before it is total reality when it doesn't yet seem quite real. This discussion just motivated me to give her a call and listen to her stories about having a big belly.

good, im sure she'll appreciate it

i used to sleep with an ex girlfriend a whole bunch.

infact she kept me laid for agood year after we broke up.

quote:

Originally posted by blazed it was she american? if she was then I would now understand your hatred for the americanos.

wow.

one of my ex's i still talk to, no sex becuase shes fucking someone else all the time

my last ex, shes the total bitch now, so nope...

NO! Stupid bitch! Cheat on me will you! I hope you are lonely and miserable forever!

Not that I'm bitter or anything.

I like my new gf a lot better!

the min my ex broke up wiht me i honestly wanted to ask him if he wnated that... but i'm glad i didnt cuz i'm thinking now if i wanted to have sex with him i would feel like i would be getting involved and not only that isee the true side of him which really sux.

also i saw my friends fooling around after their break up and really it wasnt so pretty it fucked my friends emotions up a lot and i really wouldnt want to doo that at least not with myself.

its funny cuz hes FINALY talking to me after the break up but i've deleted him off my msn list.. so its always so weird when he tries to talk cuz i know i should be civil but in reality i hate his guts and wish he would leave me alone... cuz he had his chance to talk with me and he never took the opertunity... if he really wants to try working on a friendship right now hes gona have to work EXTRA hard. i did my part i msg him i tried talking with him and everything he ignored me... so i gave up... if he shows me that he truly wants to try a friendship maybe then ... but then again ex relationships are ALWAYS strange no matter what.

i will go with yes on this one,

but shhh, no one is supposed to know

I try to talk to my ex. We write e-mails every once in a while. Nothing else, because she hates me (not for breaking up, but for finding a new girlfriend shortly after).

I'm trying to be friends, but I don't think she'll ever really want to be friends w/ me.

quote:

Originally posted by dj_lane one of my ex's i still talk to, no sex becuase shes fucking someone else all the time

And don't you find a little embarrasing talking to her while she is having sex with some other guy?

i am still good friends with all my ex's. reason being, most of my relationships start out as friendships first so we always had that friendship base after everything else fell apart. also none of my breakups were horrible, so it was easier to be friends afterwards because we didn't hate each other.

i have a few ex's back in NY that i still talk to quite often, and usually i see them whenever i go back to visit. most of them have serious girlfriends now.

my ex from my most serious relationship (5 years, and living with the guy) lives about 15 min from me and we still talk a few times a week and hang out maybe once or twice a month. it's great that we are able to remain friends because we spent so much of our lives together, and we still have a lot in common. i still go to him for a lot of advice and he comes to me, whether it's about relationships, money, life, jobs, etc...

i guess it's easy for me to be friends with all my ex's because i have always been "one of the guys", and i'm usually real cool about a lot of stuff that most girls wouldn't be.

no ex sex though. i'm very satisfied with my current bf.

quote:

Originally posted by t�bias Its due like on the 2nd of January. I can just see myself out with a lovely lady on new years eve chopped into chopped little pieces of choppiness and being called into hospital to welcome her baby girl. If that happens there will be no love for me...but probably a bit of good karma.

from what i understand, first babies are very often late so your NYE partying shouldnt be interupted.

i generally dont talk to my exes. there are a few who i could carry on a casual conversation with if i ran into them and others i might call out of curiosity to see what they are up to. but i cant think of one who i would want in my life.

my last ex was a real head fuck for me. i got all psycho when we broke up. he wanted so bad to remain friends but everytime i got near him i did everything i could to be mean to him. i think i hurt him a bit some of those times, and i was glad. i realized that we could never be friends cause seeing or talking to him brought back horrible memories and the worst aspects of my personality.

i admire people who can be friends with their exes but i will never understand it. my current bf who i love very much talks to his ex periodically and that seems to be fine for them. i just cant understand why anyone would want failed chapters of their lives to remain open.

quote:

Originally posted by butterfly i just cant understand why anyone would want failed chapters of their lives to remain open.

...cuz some people are holding onto something that was once there.. I know of situations where a girl maintained contact with her ex from years prior and was all mature about it - but then went and fooled around with the ex after already being with another guy for a year.

Either way, while you or I may see it as failed chapters in that person's life, they may not have come to that realization yet.

because you never know when ex sex is going to happen

quote:

Originally posted by butterfly i just cant understand why anyone would want failed chapters of their lives to remain open.

i don't look back at my ex's and think of it as a failed chapter of my life. most of the breakups were mutual and sometimes even due to situations that were out of our control. i rarely look back and think, "boy we really fucked up"... sometimes people grow apart and are able to remain friends.

i do agree though, that if the breakup is tough or the people involved have ill feelings towards it, they should either wait a while (usually the standard is 6 months) to try to be friends, or not be friends at all.

na, after the break i kinda just ignore her. i've only seen about 3/4 times in the last four months though.

though the last time i saw her she was apparently crying in the bathroom of the club over me pulling one of her mates


teach her the cheating ho

No, I do not..nor do I really care to. I am the happiest I have ever been in my life so no need for me the dwell in the past with someone that was such a drag on my life

i have sex with my ex all the time.

quote:

Originally posted by butterfly i just cant understand why anyone would want failed chapters of their lives to remain open.

agreed.

on occacsion i have to meet her, it begins with me avoiding her, then sorta warming to her again .... and then, just sick of her..............BITCH!

which one?

I have not seen one in 3 years, she's finishing law school and my other one, I deny her very existance. I agree with mel, why open up old wounds.

i attempt to talk to him.. i mean i call.. say whats up and hi.. but he doesnt want to talk to me.. we broke up on good terms (he actually broke up with me) but he's really firm on his belief of "not being friends" with ur ex.. oh well

Powered by: vBulletin
Copyright © 2000-2021, Jelsoft Enterprises Ltd.