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so when my mom asks me, where i know karen from or where i know RJ from, she shouldn't be shaking her head? old people, i swear!

^^^ but the Comfort Zone bathroom is NOT a cool place to meet people...so I side with your mom

knowing peoples names is over rated, 2 simple words.

Heyyyyyyy........buckaroo

IMO i dont think a person can have more than 3 really close friends and by that i mean ppl whom they trust with their lives . But for me at the moment its very hard to differentiate between friends and acquaintances because I havent really had any problems yet where i needed someone to help me out and i beleive its times like those where we get to seperate the men from the boys. Ive been fucked over a couple of times by guys whom i thought were my best friends and its definately changed my perception about people ....

I love acquaintances though ... no expectations no trust ... just gossip, bitching and free drinks

ps: on a side note your girlfriend/boyfriend should never be close to your best friends ...

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Originally posted by Mr Rogers knowing peoples names is over rated, 2 simple words. Heyyyyyyy........buckaroo

lol!! yeah I super suck with names, getting better though

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Originally posted by Ub3rTrancer hehe, dunno.. could be me all i know is that a filthy dirty groove gets me going

thats what I like to hear!!!

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Originally posted by kabelicious I LOVE people. They are truly the most fascinating, enjoyable thing to pursue that we have on this planet. I know a lot of people and I have a lot of friends but true, good, down n dirty, love you till the end friends are rare and those I treasure more than anything. And I agree with bk - it's awesome being able to go to the club by myself and see 20-30 people I know. Makes you feel like you have this giant extended "family" that, while you might not know their middle name, you can still smile at and have fun with at shows. Sometimes, they become friends or even best friends. And my life has evolved so much in the past few years that I have groups of friends from all different stages. We were discussing this on DCS recently and someone posted this as a definition of friends you'll have in life: Friends for a reason Friends for the season Friends till the end

I with Kabelicious & BK4-Oz on this one I would do anything for a friend or for an aquaint.

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Originally posted by raveed ps: on a side note your girlfriend/boyfriend should never be close to your best friends ...

but what if your girlfriend/boyfriend IS your best friend?

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Originally posted by LittlePoonzgirl but what if your girlfriend/boyfriend IS your best friend?

...then you better hope they continue to be your girlfriend/boyfriend for a long time to come.

Re: Re: Can you have too many friends?

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Originally posted by b4k-oz LOL...geeky hermits make good friends too... and they are great ppl when u need a computer fixed...cuz to them fixing it is a turn-on, and they'll do it for cheap...like $0

Speak for youself!

*cough*BARTER*cough*

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Originally posted by raveed ps: on a side note your girlfriend/boyfriend should never be close to your best friends ...

I second that one.
When relationships end, and the girlfriend/boyfriend is close to the best friends, the possiblities for taking sides, gossip, keeping information from one another, etc is present. Blaah ...

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Originally posted by StereoPrincess so when my mom asks me, where i know karen from or where i know RJ from, she shouldn't be shaking her head? old people, i swear!

OMG I SO know what you're talking about!!! Honesty is the best policy here, because once you've let them know where you met these two awesome people, you've paved the way for more friends that you will hopefully meet and care about in the same way!

I got stuck with this when I had to explain where I was going with my fiancee the first time I went to Waterloo, and then when I was going to Montreal this past weekend to meet with other TAs...but when your parents/loved ones see how happy you are when you get back, they will surely understand!

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Originally posted by raveed ps: on a side note your girlfriend/boyfriend should never be close to your best friends ...

OMG you are so right about this...I was burned a couple of times because of this...not only re: what happens AFTER a break up but it could also be the CAUSE of a break up

discussion revisited.

how do you judge how good of a friend you are?

when is it time to stop being friends?

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Originally posted by StereoPrincess discussion revisited. how do you judge how good of a friend you are? when is it time to stop being friends?

These are very tough questions to answer...

I think a good question to ask yourself to help judge how good of a friend you are (speaking in general terms here) is to ask if you were there and did everything you could, or think of when it really mattered and they could have used your help. This question can be applied to many different situations and scenario's so view this as a vague rhetorical question.

As for when to stop being friends, I think once you start thinking about it yourself is when you should really start asking yourself serious questions as to whether or not the friendship posses alot of qualities that come along with a good and wholesome friendship. Having said this, it's extremely tough to completely eliminate people from your life that have been there for a long time. Maybe limit the amount of time you spend with and be careful about the times and situations in which with you spend with such friend.

no, but its a problem when u have friends that dont like other friends.

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Originally posted by mindspin These are very tough questions to answer... I think a good question to ask yourself to help judge how good of a friend you are (speaking in general terms here) is to ask if you were there and did everything you could, or think of when it really mattered and they could have used your help. This question can be applied to many different situations and scenario's so view this as a vague rhetorical question. As for when to stop being friends, I think once you start thinking about it yourself is when you should really start asking yourself serious questions as to whether or not the friendship posses alot of qualities that come along with a good and wholesome friendship. Having said this, it's extremely tough to completely eliminate people from your life that have been there for a long time. Maybe limit the amount of time you spend with and be careful about the times and situations in which with you spend with such friend.

that's a pretty deep thought there, slingy.

the way i look at it is this way. i always give 110% to all people in terms of friendship. if i can help anyone in anyway, i will. but there is only so much a person can do, then it's up to the other person. i sometimes feel let down and figure my efforts are for nothing. but in all honestly, i will do the same thing over again.

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Originally posted by StereoPrincess that's a pretty deep thought there, slingy. the way i look at it is this way. i always give 110% to all people in terms of friendship. if i can help anyone in anyway, i will. but there is only so much a person can do, then it's up to the other person. i sometimes feel let down and figure my efforts are for nothing. but in all honestly, i will do the same thing over again.

as long as you know you have tried to be a good friend...that's all that really matters. If the person is not appreciative of that..then they obviously dont deserve have you as a friend.

Thanks Marg for letting me stand where u were in line for the bathroom at BEB....you are a great friend

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Originally posted by dance2dabeat Thanks Marg for letting me stand where u were in line for the bathroom at BEB....you are a great friend

ha ha .

This thread makes me think of the starburst commercial where he pisses off his friends so he won't have friends to have to share his starbursts with them.

Placebo - Pure Morning

A friend in needs a friend indeed,
A friend with weed is better,
A friend with breasts and all the rest,
A friend who's dressed in leather,

A friend in needs a friend indeed,
A friend who'll tease is better,
Our thoughts compressed,
Which makes us blessed,
And makes for stormy weather,

A friend in needs a friend indeed,
My Japanese is better,
And when she's pressed she will undress,
And then she's boxing clever,

A friend in needs a friend indeed,
A friend who bleeds is better,
My friend confessed she passed the test,
And we will never sever.

[...]

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Originally posted by StereoPrincess that's a pretty deep thought there, slingy. the way i look at it is this way. i always give 110% to all people in terms of friendship. if i can help anyone in anyway, i will. but there is only so much a person can do, then it's up to the other person. i sometimes feel let down and figure my efforts are for nothing. but in all honestly, i will do the same thing over again.

if this friendship is shitty because of something situational in someones life (rough time with something...not so good of a friend) and this friend was/is worth it, sometimes you gotta stick it out and put up with some bullshit. however if hes just an asshole all the time (dispositional), and you are tired of putting up with it, then its time for some distance.


(can u tell i'm writing a sociology exam in 3 hours?)

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Originally posted by dance2dabeat as long as you know you have tried to be a good friend...that's all that really matters. If the person is not appreciative of that..then they obviously dont deserve have you as a friend.

Right on Kel - well put

Personally i make it a point to NEVER 2nd guess myself when it comes
to my loyalty/commitment to a TRUE friend.
If i know i've given my all, then i can live with any decision in peace.

just remember

friends are friends
pals are pals
but buddies sleep together

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Originally posted by StereoPrincess the way i look at it is this way. i always give 110% to all people in terms of friendship. if i can help anyone in anyway, i will. but there is only so much a person can do, then it's up to the other person. i sometimes feel let down and figure my efforts are for nothing. but in all honestly, i will do the same thing over again.

that is true, marge. you do give your all when it comes to even just random 'stray dogs' like myself. hehe!

over the years i have had to evaluate and re-evaluate many so-called 'friendships'. due to my extensive travels in the past i had so many 'friends' i could hardly keep up with them any more. i used to be quite the social butterfly.

things have changed now though...over the last 3 years i have started isolating myself. i have cut certain ppl out of my life and cut off contact basically to everyone i used to know except for 3 people with whom i am in touch with once or twice a year. this, what i like to call the 'weeding out process', has shown me who is a friend and who isn't. this 'exercise' was especially an eye-opener when it came to ppl i wasn't so close to begin with but have now turned out to be more important in my life.

within this time i have also re-evaluated myself, my values and principles. i now know who i am and what i want out of certain relations. the saying that you have certain friends for certain reasons is definitely true. i guess i just categorize them and allocate my time to them accordingly which is next to none right now. now, this doesn't mean that i don't value these not-so-close few, however, i do need more time to just be myself and figure things out. also, my life has been through such upheaval that i just needed to focus on myself. i needed this time to just breathe. i am definitely a lot more selective these days as to whom i let in closer and who will never stand a chance. too many bloody noses along the way ... it's okay to be a good person and to be 'nice' but you need to know where to draw the line b/c naivite won't get you very far. you can give and you definitely should but you should never give yourself up along the way!

know yourself & be good to yourself then you will also attract the 'right' people and receive the respect you deserve and others deserve to receive in return!

Its very important for yourself in life to realize who are your actual friends, and who are merely common acquaintances.

Too many ppl foolishly come to believe common (club) acquaintances are in fact their friends, and then they are surprised, shocked and hurt when they do something they consider betrayal or unbecoming of a friend.

But they were never infact your good friend, merely someone you knew semi- or reasonably well and had no issues with. We all need to know the reality of our relationships so we do not expect too much and get hurt where we shouldnt be getting hurt.

I find the net blurs the typical lines of when true friendship is forming and confuses the issue for many ppl.

Jem

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