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Originally posted by Slylee i am more than aware of this concept and i'm perfectly content with it too. i know when people are using me and i don't give a shit, because chances are, i've done the same, or will at some point and time. lol

karma baby karma.

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Originally posted by Slylee i am more than aware of this concept and i'm perfectly content with it too. i know when people are using me and i don't give a shit, because chances are, i've done the same, or will at some point and time. lol

I am not at all surprised to hear this coming from you...


However, I feel the same way.

I don�t really view that way of thinking as negative or anything. I�m just being real. I know how people are and I�m very in tune with society and how people work�that�s all I meant. One of my friends is like the queen of making plans with 20 people and then going with the best one at the last minute. I�ve realized this and I�m totally OK with it. lol whenever she calls me and asks what I�m doing, I tell her, and then I�m like, �Yea so call me around 10 p.m. and let me know if I win� and she laughs. She knows I got her number. But I don�t care because I�ve done that before too. We all have.

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Originally posted by Slylee I�m just being real.

Doesn't sound very 'real'...

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Originally posted by Slylee I don�t really view that way of thinking as negative or anything. I�m just being real. I know how people are and I�m very in tune with society and how people work�that�s all I meant. One of my friends is like the queen of making plans with 20 people and then going with the best one at the last minute. I�ve realized this and I�m totally OK with it. lol whenever she calls me and asks what I�m doing, I tell her, and then I�m like, �Yea so call me around 10 p.m. and let me know if I win� and she laughs. She knows I got her number. But I don�t care because I�ve done that before too. We all have.

You must know some shitty people then. Yeah there's a lot of bullshit and deceit in the world, but fuck me if those are the people I hang out with. I've got it good I guess. Must be 'cause I'm a small town girl, and around here people still have simple values like consideration for others.

I dunno, I wouldn't be able to put up with that shit and I suppose I never have. I'm lucky to have a lot of genuinely good, honest people in my life.


I can't fucking stand opportunists and users....or people who make decisions based on how convenient it is for them. And there's SO fucking many people like that out there, ugh.

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Originally posted by l�cid here Caela i found your new man...

MARRIED???!!! ewwwww no fucking way. i have been cheated on, and there is no way in hell i would inflict that pain on someone. not even my worst enemy...because i am classier than that.

hehe yes i'm starting to think a rebound may be the way to go. who knows though, all i really need is my friends by me now, and meeting a few other hot male friends with good personalities wouldn't hurt either. it's hard to be in love/be loved for so long and then POOF! it's gone. it's kinda weird, i feel like hopping back into a relationship because that's what my instinct says, but i know that's a bad move.

2nd semester starts in 10 days and i am OFFICALLY single.

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Originally posted by jennypie You must know some shitty people then. Yeah there's a lot of bullshit and deceit in the world, but fuck me if those are the people I hang out with. I've got it good I guess. Must be 'cause I'm a small town girl, and around here people still have simple values like consideration for others. I dunno, I wouldn't be able to put up with that shit and I suppose I never have. I'm lucky to have a lot of genuinely good, honest people in my life. I can't fucking stand opportunists and users....or people who make decisions based on how convenient it is for them. And there's SO fucking many people like that out there, ugh.

I like to keep my options open, but I don't screw people. There's a difference!

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Originally posted by Allied Nations I like to keep my options open, but I don't screw people. There's a difference!

Yup, you're definitely right, and I AM talking about people who make a conscious decision to do so. Seeing how many people really are like this, makes it hard for me to continue believing in the greater good.

On the other hand though, I think that people who do stuff like that truly don't think about it. I dunno, I'm a very introspective person...I'm very aware of my actions and how they affect others, etc. (I always feel a lot of guilt and/or remorse after my wrong-doings). I always assumed everyone was like this, but I'm starting to realize that they aren't.

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Originally posted by jennypie I always assumed everyone was like this, but I'm starting to realize that they aren't.

awwww, little jenny's growing up

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Originally posted by infinity HiGH awwww, little jenny's growing up

Hey fuck you man! They'll never break meeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!!!

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Originally posted by jennypie Hey fuck you man! They'll never break meeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!!!

fuckin blow me

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Originally posted by infinity HiGH fuckin blow me

You first.

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Originally posted by Caela MARRIED???!!! ewwwww no fucking way. i have been cheated on, and there is no way in hell i would inflict that pain on someone. not even my worst enemy...because i am classier than that.

i was kidding... mostly.

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hehe yes i'm starting to think a rebound may be the way to go. who knows though, all i really need is my friends by me now, and meeting a few other hot male friends with good personalities wouldn't hurt either. it's hard to be in love/be loved for so long and then POOF! it's gone. it's kinda weird, i feel like hopping back into a relationship because that's what my instinct says, but i know that's a bad move.

yah.. it took me an insanely long time to get over a relationship that last 5 years. we put each other through so much bullshit, yet still wouldn't walk away from each other. even after we had decided that it was officially *over* for good, neither of us were able to be completely over it until we were in new relationships with other people... and after that we were able to maintain a great friendship and now we laugh at how ridiculous we were, lol.

just keep your head up and look on the bright side of things. this is a learning experience, and a huge part of growing up. when all is said and done and you've moved beyond the situation, you'll be able to look back at it and realize how it's made you a better, stronger, smarter person... and it will prepare you for your next serious relationship.

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Originally posted by infinity HiGH awwww, little jenny's growing up

lets pinch her cheeks!!






ASS CHEEKS!

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Originally posted by l�cid yah.. it took me an insanely long time to get over a relationship that last 5 years. we put each other through so much bullshit, yet still wouldn't walk away from each other. even after we had decided that it was officially *over* for good, neither of us were able to be completely over it until we were in new relationships with other people... and after that we were able to maintain a great friendship and now we laugh at how ridiculous we were, lol. just keep your head up and look on the bright side of things. this is a learning experience, and a huge part of growing up. when all is said and done and you've moved beyond the situation, you'll be able to look back at it and realize how it's made you a better, stronger, smarter person... and it will prepare you for your next serious relationship.

I actually REALLY talked to my first bf on New Year's...for the first time since I've been with my current bf, and it was SO good. We were so sentimental and gay...apologizing to each other for the nasty shit we did to each other, and thanking each other for the great learning experience, lol.

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Originally posted by Allied Nations lets pinch her cheeks!! ASS CHEEKS!

Hey!

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Originally posted by jennypie Hey!

pfff you know you like it and it makes you tingle other places

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Originally posted by jennypie You first.

Ok.

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Originally posted by jennypie I actually REALLY talked to my first bf on New Year's...for the first time since I've been with my current bf, and it was SO good. We were so sentimental and gay...apologizing to each other for the nasty shit we did to each other, and thanking each other for the great learning experience, lol.

haha.. doesn't it feel good?

Jim (the ex i was talking about in my previous post) and i go out for drinks at least once every few months, and we call/e-mail pretty regularly. it's so funny talking to him like we're good ol' buddies, joking about the stupid shit we did when we were together.

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Originally posted by l�cid haha.. doesn't it feel good? Jim (the ex i was talking about in my previous post) and i go out for drinks at least once every few months, and we call/e-mail pretty regularly. it's so funny talking to him like we're good ol' buddies, joking about the stupid shit we did when we were together.

Good for you! I think that's a good thing,and it clears the air. No need to stay nasty and all that crap unless it was really reaaaaaaaly bad. One of my ex's and I are really close, unbreakable and I love it.

Re: probably the 2343th thread about this.

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Originally posted by Caela How do you get over someone you love without falling into the trap of "the rebound"? And, unfortunately being friends with him won't work in my case.

I was stuck in the same situation about two years ago. It was a friend was a of mine and I ended up bascially shagging her and going out with her etc. However she'd broken up from a serious relationship. About two months I got the old 'It's not you it's me' shite I look at her now and think I'm better then that! Plus she was a bit on the loose side If you catch my drift.

Best bit of advice I can give you is get on with your life, as hard as it might be forget the certain person, spend time around your mates, be positive, do your own thing and keep yourself occupied you'll forget him in a few months.

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Originally posted by Caela shall i mention that he is officially psycho.

this made me lol, I think they all are! just go on the better pastures! that's what i have done and it's somewhat a rebound and its a good one just look out for your happiness. that's the key babe!

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Originally posted by l�cid haha.. doesn't it feel good? Jim (the ex i was talking about in my previous post) and i go out for drinks at least once every few months, and we call/e-mail pretty regularly. it's so funny talking to him like we're good ol' buddies, joking about the stupid shit we did when we were together.

Haha, yeah that's awesome.

It just feels good to let go and rise above negative emotions like anger, spite, hate, bitterness, etc., and form an entirely new relationship with that same person. To me it makes the new relationship even more special than the original one.

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Originally posted by Frenchie Good for you! I think that's a good thing,and it clears the air. No need to stay nasty and all that crap unless it was really reaaaaaaaly bad. One of my ex's and I are really close, unbreakable and I love it.

heck yeah. my other ex (the one i dumped for RJT) on the other hand... after i moved the last of my shit out of our condo i never spoke to him again, and i will forever remember him as the biggest piece of shit on earth. i'm totally not one for cutting people who were once important to me out of my life, but he really fucked my head up good, lol.

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Originally posted by Caela it's hard to be in love/be loved for so long and then POOF! it's gone.

I understand that feeling all to well, but I don't believe that love ever truly goes away. Perhaps it is just me, but all of the women I have loved in my life, I still love. I couldn't be in a relationship with them again or anything, but the part of me that loved the part of them in the instances we were together doesn't really go away...if the relationship turned sour and my feelings for them no longer remained the same, then that was that - it was over, it couldn't continue. But the moments when we were happy and loved each other - those don't ever truly go away - they have made me the person that I am and for that I will still love a part of each of them forever. The relationships where I have 'felt' as though I was in love, yet seen that feeling fade and turn into regret and other bad stuff - I realize that I was never truly in love in the first place.

Anyways, this was probably sort of unwarranted, but I don't really go 'on the rebound' - I guess I find other things to do in my life and just learn from the sad stuff, but I certainly don't project it onto other people just so that I can make myself feel better. If finding somebody else to fill the void your last relationship left in you doesn't feel right, then please don't do it.

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