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I dont see the big fuss.. so what?

The way i see it cheaters cheat because they find their mates not good enough for them. The only thing is they lack the balls to tell em straight in the face and just break it off.

Yes I have cheated before, was going out with a great girl and then met another great girl. Reason i cheated was i wanted to weigh the options.

So its pretty simple, if you're good enough for him/her, you wont have to worry about them cheating.

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Originally posted by trewqy So its pretty simple, if you're good enough for him/her, you wont have to worry about them cheating.

This is such self-serving bullshit. I've seen people go behind the backs of their boyfriends and girlfriends without ever giving any indication to them that the relationship wasn't fulfilling their supposed "needs," no indication of how the other person might change their behavior so as to be "good enough," no sign that anything was less than satisfactory. They just go right ahead and cheat, attentive only to their own self-centered "fulfillment."

I have no sympathy for them and zero patience for their childish attempts to put themselves in a better light.

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Originally posted by MrJiveBoJingles This is such self-serving bullshit. I've seen people go behind the backs of their boyfriends / girlfriends without ever giving any indication to them that the relationship wasn't fulfilling their supposed "needs," no indication of how the other person might change their behavior so as to be "good enough," no sign that anything was less than satisfactory. They just go right ahead and cheat, attentive only to their own self-centered "fulfillment." I have no sympathy for them and zero patience for their childish attempts to put themselves in a better light.

hear hear!

Yeah I would, I've cheated but I know I wouldn't if I'd be with someone I'm totally happy with. No one cheats just cause of sake of cheating.
edit: that doesn't mean I support cheating, or that those who cheat aren't guilty, I'm just saying that just cause someone has cheated before doesn't mean he/she'll do that again and again

were u part of these people's relationship? How do u know that they're *HAPPY* with each other? You dont. What? Just because they hold hands and smile in front of you means they're happy together?

Hey, if you're "unhappy" and "unfulfilled," then grow a fucking pair and say it. Don't go around like a coward and deceive people. That's all I'm saying...

If I would date a cheater, yes. Try to have a serious relationship with one, no thank you.

Kay, so we all came to the conclusion that some of us don't have any respect for cheaters, and most wouldn't date one. Now, here comes the last question: Would you date a cheetah?

Unlike your average cheater, cheetahs may not only cheat on you with other cheetahs, but they can also devour you. They're also faster than any human, so you can't run (and, given their powerful olfactory system, you can't really hide either).

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Originally posted by MrJiveBoJingles Hey, if you're "unhappy" and "unfulfilled," then grow a fucking pair and say it. Don't go around like a coward and deceive people. That's all I'm saying...

See thats the thing, cheating is only wrong when the other party finds out. I have an old friend whos actually cheating on his wife of 20 years. Great lad. Great father. Loving Husband. Before he found his mistress, he was always pissed off. Kept on complaining how shitty his life is. Now hes like a changed man. Just looks at life at a whole different perspective and does everything with a spring.

Hes not harming anybody, in fact hes treating everyone much better; ESPECIALLY his wife.

You might not agree with my point of view, but i dont think humans are monogamous in nature.

once a cheater, always a scum, no good shit for brains waste of flesh

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Originally posted by trewqy See thats the thing, cheating is only wrong when the other party finds out.

This argument is pretty indefensible. Cheating is wrong if, and only if, the other person involved in the relationship is against it.

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Originally posted by trewqy i dont think humans are monogamous in nature.

People who hold this belief should definitely look for partners that think the same way. I don't know anything about your life in particular, so please don't take this personally.

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Originally posted by Lira People who hold this belief should definitely look for partners that think the same way. I don't know anything about your life in particular, so please don't take this personally.

yeah my current girlfriend knows of my past from word of mouth. I give her freedom to meet other guys and vice versa. And thats why i am still with her after 2 years. And no havent cheated on her..well yet.

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Originally posted by trewqy You might not agree with my point of view, but i dont think humans are monogamous in nature.

I don't have any problem with people who mess around when both parties agree to it beforehand. But the ones who pretend to be monogamous while fucking around with other people are shitbags, and I won't pretend to have respect or sympathy for them. Yeah, right, it's all wonderful while nobody who would get hurt has found out about it, but how many times do cheaters think "Oh, no one will find out" and then someone does? Quite a bit...

With regard to monogamy / polyamory / whatever, do whatever you want: just don't lie about what it is you're actually doing.

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people who cheat on their SO with someone else, and then end up dating that person. makes no fucking sense to me

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Originally posted by MrJiveBoJingles I don't have any problem with people who mess around when both parties agree to it beforehand. But the ones who pretend to be monogamous while fucking around with other people are shitbags, and I won't pretend to have respect or sympathy for them. Yeah, right, it's all wonderful while nobody who would get hurt has found out about it, but how many times do cheaters think "Oh, no one will find out" and then someone does? Quite a bit... With regard to monogamy / polyamory / whatever, do whatever you want: just don't lie about what it is you're actually doing.

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I think the thing the bothers me the most about cheaters, is the lies that comes with it.

Typically, if you're cheating, then it isn't known amongst all parties, and subsequently results in lies being told. I don't think that the actual cheating bothered me so much with my ex, as much as the lies he told me to do it.

I hate liars.

Ya'll would make one fucked up version of Trapped In The Closet.

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Originally posted by Frenchie Ya'll would make one fucked up group of people Trapped In The Closet.

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