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I'm in the same situation as Lebezniatnikov... with the added twist of me recently becoming tired of that and hitting a breaking point, a lot of it being due to a completely destructive marriage to a person of completely opposite personality type. It causes me to occasionally flip to the polar extreme as a self-protection mechanism... and, since people are just used to me being the "nice guy", any time I'm not, people think I'm a dick.

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Originally posted by Ang ' ela_ie Being really full of yourself is probably just as much of a curse, no?

Gee-whiz!

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Originally posted by biznology with friends and family i dont always use those same tools, partially as it is a different environment. at work people *have* to put up with you, in life its not so serious nor as goal focused. (not that work is always as goal focused as it ought to be) but i think that the personal experience is much more of an inner struggle. you can put up a front at work to some extent, and while your friends and family may respect or love you more, they see through the weakness easier, for good and bad|

Yes, lot of it comes down to the same as a job though in terms of time, goals and management, which should be as important or more so as your career.
Jobs come and go, family takes a bit longer to get rid of (joke!)
Something I realised far too late and at a fairly heavy emotional cost I suppose but its just part of being human, we're not all perfect as sometimes we like to think we are. I did learn like most people that friends are fairly much just people you can hang out with but don't ever depend on them or centre your life around.
May sound nasty, but picking people you can rely on is much harder than simply picking through a resume of people you'd hire in business, but ultimately if they stuff you around too much, just drop them like a rock and don't waste your time on them... they just soak up too much time and energy and you'll have nothing left for yourself and very little to show for it.

I have a double personality with a single edge.


Which is why I'm a cutter

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Originally posted by Lebezniatnikov A lot of my friends have commented that they were initially drawn to me because I'm a "nice" guy - but that isn't necessarily always a positive, and today has been a perfect example of that for me. I'm the kind of person who rarely puts myself first, and when I'm asked to do something for someone I rarely say no. Luckily I haven't really been taken advantage on that account yet, but I definitely have put myself in situations where I don't stand to gain from helping. Today I loaned my friend a pretty substantial sum of money, and to be frank, I don't really have anything to loan. I put myself in a pretty tight spot on the assumption that his spot is tighter. I trust him to the extent that I didn't even ask any questions as to why he needed it, just one to make sure I will be repaid sometime soon.

And after a $750 bill for car repairs today... I now know that it was indeed a bad idea to give someone else a loan, since I now may need one as well.

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Originally posted by Lebezniatnikov And after a $750 bill for car repairs today... I now know that it was indeed a bad idea to give someone else a loan, since I now may need one as well.

A wise friend once told me, never loan money you can't afford to lose. This is now the way in which I loan money to the few people close enough that I would actually loan money to.

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Originally posted by UWM Gee-whiz!

Muah!

short temper. its good because im not passive person, I dont let people walk all over me yet at the same time I tend to make rash and often cold decisions regarding people. it also leads to a lot of fights

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