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oh i definitely have my moments too but i will always announce that i'm in a shitty mood or even apologize in advance if i seem "off".

i was mainly talking about the personas created on these forums.

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quote: Originally posted by Slylee i love nice, easy going people who are rarely mad or rude. that's exactly how my boyfriend is. simplicity is a breath of fresh air for me. all you overly complex grouchy people do it on purpose i think...trying to give yourselves more meaning/character or something quote: Originally posted by Slylee bingo. i have always said this. people always mistake kindness for weakness, but really...the easy/weakling way out is being a dick/emo.

My thoughts, precisely.

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quote: Originally posted by pkcRAISTLIN Because I find constant happiness to be disingenuous. quote: Originally posted by System-J No, but you're allowed to be grumpy, to be quiet, to not want to smile and put a nice spin on obvious bullshit, and to sometimes get legitimately pissed off at the idiocy or behaviour of others. I'd rather someone be honest than be fake, and nobody is happy all the time.

I see what you mean. We should distinguish "constant happiness" and politeness, however. Acting like a carebear and preaching love to mankind all the time is not an easy thing to do, given how we're all bound to get disappointed at one time or another. However, you ought to be mature enough after a certain age to know who is responsible for your misery and who isn't.

I'm all for honesty, don't get me wrong. But, just because we're hidden behind usernames and whatnot (something I never cared to do because it feels wimpy, and I'm adult enough to be responsible for my words both on-line and in real life, and I bet most of you do know my real name), that doesn't mean you're free to ditch your good manners and behave as if no one else in the world mattered. If there's something bugging you and you want to vent, fair enough, share and take it off your chest. But nasty remarks and snarky comments are, in principle, a really dishonest way of pulling oneself up, the way I see it.

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Originally posted by Echo of Silence The nastiest I ever saw cor was one afternoon 'bout 3-4 years ago, when a handful of TAs, including some of my favorite 'nice' users, all hated on Peter (igottaknow). I think there was like a huge thread packed with ugliness and viciousness. It made my monitor cry and my eyes bleed. So its not really a 'recent' phenom.

It reminds me an awful lot of middle school

Sometimes I wish I were not nasty. Sometimes I resolve to be positive and that lasts all of a few days, LOL. So lately I have kinda decided it is pointless to try. :-)

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Originally posted by Lira nasty remarks and snarky comments are, in principle, a really dishonest way of pulling oneself up, the way I see it.

Exactly, and it doesn't really pick you up, it gives you a fake sense of a pick-me-up, but with a nasty edge. It's the saccharin of emotion.

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Originally posted by MrJiveBoJingles Sometimes I wish I were not nasty. Sometimes I resolve to be positive and that lasts all of a few days, LOL. So lately I have kinda decided it is pointless to try. :-)

Like anything new, it takes a lot of work at the start. I remember when I started wanting to turn my life around I had to really push it. Now, I'm so glad that I did.

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Originally posted by MrJiveBoJingles Sometimes I wish I were not nasty. Sometimes I resolve to be positive and that lasts all of a few days, LOL. So lately I have kinda decided it is pointless to try. :-)

You just need more hugs, Brian

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Originally posted by MrJiveBoJingles Sometimes I wish I were not nasty. Sometimes I resolve to be positive and that lasts all of a few days, LOL. So lately I have kinda decided it is pointless to try. :-)

I've never thought of you as being nasty, tbh.

There have been occasions when I've seriously upset people and I've decided my behaviour had gone too far. It certainly isn't something I do for the look of it. I just don't believe in bottling up emotions and putting on a facade, and because I'm quite thick-skinned and understanding, I assume people can take a bit of nastiness. It's not always the case.

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Originally posted by SYSTEM-J There have been occasions when I've seriously upset people and I've decided my behaviour had gone too far. It certainly isn't something I do for the look of it. I just don't believe in bottling up emotions and putting on a facade, and because I'm quite thick-skinned and understanding, I assume people can take a bit of nastiness. It's not always the case.

Good point. Some people will whinge and carry on at the drop of a hat.

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Originally posted by david.michael I've never thought of you as being nasty, tbh.

"Nasty" might be too strong a term. "Negative" or "hypercritical" might be better.

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Originally posted by SYSTEM-J There have been occasions when I've seriously upset people and I've decided my behaviour had gone too far. It certainly isn't something I do for the look of it. I just don't believe in bottling up emotions and putting on a facade, and because I'm quite thick-skinned and understanding, I assume people can take a bit of nastiness. It's not always the case.

honestly, i'm the same way. it's rare for me to truely not like someone though. i mean it takes a lot for me, that's all. but yea, there are a few TAs who i just plain dont fucking like and i'll say (post) whatever comes to mind. i think for the most part though, i just come on here for laughs and to make people laugh, etc...


EOS for sure can say that i'm a nasty bitch and i wouldn't disagree lol

Do people get nastier or nicer as they get older?

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Originally posted by MrJiveBoJingles Do people get nastier or nicer as they get older?

I think it starts nasty (up through terrible twos), then nice, then nasty (middle school), then nice, then nasty (college age), then nice, then nasty (middle age), then nice through your elderly years.

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Originally posted by david.michael ...then nasty (college age), then nice, then nasty (middle age)...

People in late twenties and early thirties tend toward nasty, IMO. Most of the biggest users of ridicule and sarcasm on here seem to be about that age.

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Originally posted by MrJiveBoJingles People in late twenties and early thirties tend toward nasty, IMO. Most of the biggest users of ridicule and sarcasm on here seem to be about that age.

shut the fuck up, what do you know

I like everyone. (((((group hug)))))

Once people are out of college they have much less patience with idealism, impracticality, and naivete. They are hungry to make lots of money and get nice shit and stomp on anyone who annoys them or gets in their way. ;-)

Fuck you meanie-heads, I'm always nice

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Originally posted by Meat187 I like everyone. (((((group hug)))))

*Hugs Meat tight*

*snifs*

Hey, did you have sauerkraut for lunch?

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Originally posted by MrJiveBoJingles Once people are out of college they have much less patience with idealism, impracticality, and naivete. They are hungry to make lots of money and get nice shit and stomp on anyone who annoys them or gets in their way. ;-)

I think that part of that is feeling jaded that they had to give up their own idealism and dreams, so they try to squash it in others, but if they felt it was still available to them, they would welcome it back.

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Originally posted by Lira *Hugs Meat tight* *snifs* Hey, did you have sauerkraut for lunch?

Whoa, I did eat Bratwurst with Sauerkraut yesterday.
Damned clich�s!

Maybe I will try to be a Carebear for the next week and see how it goes.

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Originally posted by MrJiveBoJingles Do people get nastier or nicer as they get older?

I'm getting nicer overall as a person... much more willing to help people than I was when I was younger (I'm 31 now), which is a result, I think, of being established in my career and having some money in the bank. On the other side of that coin, I have a lot less patience for assholes and disrespectful people; I won't hesitate to be nasty to someone if they truly deserve it (if they are nasty to me first), although I don't like being that way.

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Originally posted by The17sss I'm getting nicer overall as a person... much more willing to help people than I was when I was younger (I'm 31 now), which is a result, I think, of being established in my career and having some money in the bank. On the other side of that coin, I have a lot less patience for assholes and disrespectful people; I won't hesitate to be nasty to someone if they truly deserve it (if they are nasty to me first), although I don't like being that way.

pretty much the same for me.


*edit* well except for being established in my career but i meant "me too" about the part where i'm overall a nice person unless someone is a dick to me first, i have no problem dishing it back.

Yeah right JBJ, stay mean. Mean forever.

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