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No it wasn't her first time, just *our* first time... And I seriously don't understand whats wrong with mentioning that... We get up, get dressed, talk a little, hug/kiss, and then I look at the clock and basically say, "aw its too bad we could have been together again"... I mean what hidden rule am i missing here? I thought sex was a good thing?

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Originally posted by DJMikeyP I thought sex was a good thing?

sex is for the immoral and hell-bound sinners.

If that is pretty much what you said, then my best advice to you would be to start reading your thesaurus. Your intention is noted, but your presentation needs major work. If your ever in this situation again, the best advice I can give is to be mushy. Women want to hear that it meant more than just a romp in the sheets and an awkard morning. Go Don Quan on her... In the morning you pull her close, do whatever you think makes her crazy, tease her like shit... Nibble at her ears, run your tounge over her body, whatever it takes. In between all that tell her how much you like her body and the way it feels, mention that you go crazy when your inside her, tell her that you wish you had woken up sooner so you could have driven each other crazy, but was just to relaxed beside her, and anyways you look so beautiful when you sleep.... Its just a quick type, but you get the picture...

and BE HONEST!

Dude, None of us fully understand women, it is just not possible!

Well of course never lie, I thought that was apparent.

And yes, I don't understand women either, I am apparantly one of them, but you'll never hear me admit that.

On the flip side what about men, they can be just as bad as women!!!

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Originally posted by LAYLA-KEKET On the flip side what about men, they can be just as bad as women!!!

Yeah, but usually in a different way

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Originally posted by DJMikeyP "aw its too bad we could have been together again"... I mean what hidden rule am i missing here? I thought sex was a good thing?

well *some* women tend to read into what you said too much. it isnt JUST sex but they tie in emotion with it. also when women are younger they tie in too much emotion with sex.

so translation in the woman mind...."he only wants me for one thing..."

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Originally posted by TranceGiant Are you Croatians always so direct?

lol, dunno bout all the other croats but im not!

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Originally posted by Yo_Mo In her mind she was expecting you to call the next day and not 2 days later. Because you took longer than what she wanted, it seemed to her that you were just using her for sex. However that's not the case according to what you wrote. But to her it is. Since you said you don't really want her anymore, just forget about it and go on.

That seems about right. Just talk to her about you not wanting to use her like that just to clear things up, and then move on. Don't leave her in that state even if you don't want her anymore. At least that's what I'd do.

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Originally posted by KLINGKLANG77 well *some* women tend to read into what you said too much. it isnt JUST sex but they tie in emotion with it. also when women are younger they tie in too much emotion with sex. so translation in the woman mind...."he only wants me for one thing..."

it's true, depending on the woman and the situation. if it's like a one night stand the girl's probably not going to give a shit if you call or not. believe it or not, some girls DON'T think that sex is this super huge love act. if you're dating the girl and you guys have sex and you don't call, she's going to be upset. sure she could call you, but then she'd be wondering how you feel about it and why you didn't call her. it's confusing and it's hypocritical, but women like to know they are appreciated and wanted. women love to feel wanted. when they don't, they draw conclusions like "he was just using me."

Right after she broke up with me we had a longggg walk to our cars - I did just that - made sure she knew I wasn't just using her... Saying, "i'm sorry you feel that way, but its just wrong, i care about you" etc etc etc... I just didn't repeat myself forever - once I said that and she was STILL giving me the cold shoulder is when I decided to forget about it.

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Originally posted by DJMikeyP Right after she broke up with me we had a longggg walk to our cars - I did just that - made sure she knew I wasn't just using her... Saying, "i'm sorry you feel that way, but its just wrong, i care about you" etc etc etc... I just didn't repeat myself forever - once I said that and she was STILL giving me the cold shoulder is when I decided to forget about it.

Ok well as long as you did your best to tell her, that's all you can do. Just don't be a jerk is what I was getting at.

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