Who should pay for the date? *UPDATED*

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Posted by DigitalMP on Aug-04-2004 01:04:

quote:
Originally posted by PartEgurl
Chances are she would have went home with you even if you had have kept buying her beer. She didn't go home with you because you asked her to buy a round, I am 99% sure it was for another reason.

So basically guys, don't listen to this advice. And girls, buy boys drinks !!

It wasn't advice, it was moreso that when she sucked up and went against her own rules, she still couldn't resist the cock.

Posted by disko-kandi on Aug-04-2004 01:08:

quote:
Originally posted by PartEgurl
My boyfriend pays for everything, and I mean everything!! He won't even let me pay for starbucks! Every dinner, movie, everything. I offer to pay, he won't let me at all. To be honest, its turning me into a monster.

hmmmmmmmmm...and THAT'S healthy/ balanced?

quote:
Originally posted by PartEgurl I buy him clothes, and things he wouldn't buy himself. I also do errands for him, and I always give him a back rub, like every night, lol.

this is reverse discrimination/ humiliation/ willful subordination!

i'm surprised & shocked you would accept this!

Posted by Izra on Aug-04-2004 01:09:

quote:
Originally posted by DigitalMP
It wasn't advice, it was moreso that when she sucked up and went against her own rules, she still couldn't resist the cock.

Wasn't the advice to "stick to your guns"?

I make up my mind whether or not I am going to fuck a guy during the dates and time we have spent together. Whether or not they pay for dinner is not a factor.

Posted by Vivid Boy on Aug-04-2004 01:12:

Posted by DigitalMP on Aug-04-2004 01:15:

quote:
Originally posted by disko-kandi
hmmmmmmmmm...and THAT'S healthy/ balanced?

this is reverse discrimination/ humiliation/ willful subordination!

i'm surprised & shocked you would accept this!

accept what? doing something nice for him that she doesn't mind doing? what's going through your mind probably isn't what's going through her mind.

Posted by Ashley on Aug-04-2004 01:17:

I love paying for dinners, hotels, or even simple little gifts for my boyfriend. Now don't get me wrong my boyfriend pays for his fair share and then some, but I definitely do not think that the guy should be stuck with every bill. I surprise my boyfriend with little gifts and he'll do the same for me. That is the absolute best. We also go out for a lot of "spur of the moment" dinners, and it's kind of like a pattern, I'll pay for one, then he'll pay for the next, it works our perfect. I think that all relationships should be like this, (not saying that our relationship is the absolute perfect one AT ALL) but I just think that the girl should definitely pay for her share. Really when you think about, that's only fair, isn't it????

Posted by Kytracid on Aug-04-2004 01:22:

quote:
Originally posted by DigitalMP
I can't imagine wanting that.

Ummm, yeah. Me neither. It was meant to be sarcastic. I guess i should have had one of these in there.

Posted by Vivid Boy on Aug-04-2004 01:34:

quote:
Originally posted by PartEgurl
Wasn't the advice to "stick to your guns"?

I make up my mind whether or not I am going to fuck a guy during the dates and time we have spent together. Whether or not they pay for dinner is not a factor.

ok so u meet this guy off the streets and he seems nice and he asks for ur number..he calls u up and asks to go for a date..u accept and u go to a nice restaurant or even a movie...time to pay comes and he tucks his head in between his legs and looks the other way..whast ur first impression????

okay lets say ur first impression is "damn hes a lil strap for cash i dont mind". so u pay and u continue on ur date all happy and merry..he calls u up a second time, and asks u on a date. u guys go out to a nice restaurant and the bill comes once again he turns his head and looks the othje other way so ur stuck with the bill again..whats ur impression this time?? ill tell u mine if i was a chick..id be like "ok first time fine, but if this mother****** is strapped for cash why's he always asking me to go to restaurants and movies when he doesnt have any cash to pay for himself? fuck him hes a leech"

and im sure most women would think the same...

but ok u let it slip the second time thinking ah we live in hard knock society not everyone can have money when they feel...so he calls u up the next day u start chit chatting and u find out hes not a student and he doesnt work..his future plans are zilch...but hes a nice guy right? are you still gonna sleep with him? even tho hes a nice guy? man no offense but if u answer yes ur one of those naive chix that fall in love with loser idiots and end up having 6 kids and live on welfare...all because he was a nice guy and a lil bit strapped for cash

Posted by DigitalMP on Aug-04-2004 01:36:

I'm a nice guy...

Posted by Vivid Boy on Aug-04-2004 01:37:

so am i but i can pay the bill so thats an added bonus...sleep with me!

Posted by Vivid Boy on Aug-04-2004 01:43:

not u dave

Posted by disko-kandi on Aug-04-2004 01:47:

quote:
Originally posted by DigitalMP
accept what? doing something nice for him that she doesn't mind doing?

ROFL!!! omg ... how naive!

define that please, if you would be so kind!

...here self-respect?

quote:
Originally posted by DigitalMP what's going through your mind probably isn't what's going through her mind.

and yea ... i guess NOT!

Posted by Elmo-On-XTC on Aug-04-2004 01:49:

quote:
Originally posted by d!abolic
Because i'm not in it for the sex alone. And even if i were, she'd still put out sooner for a man who has principles and isn't afraid to stand up for them. And why would i reward her with anything BUT sex FOR sex? She's enjoying it even more than i am!

exactly. it's not like the guy is the only one enjoying sex ...it's hardly something a women could "reward" a guy with in my opinion. if she cares about you she'd probably want to have sex with you... right?

Posted by DigitalMP on Aug-04-2004 02:06:

quote:
Originally posted by disko-kandi
ROFL!!! omg ... how naive!

define that please, if you would be so kind!

...here self-respect?

and yea ... i guess NOT!

wow...holy hostility!

look, if he insists and insists, should she start a fight? no, maybe it's not worth that when she finds way to play her part on her own, as she does.

you may see is as less than self-respectful, but this short movie could very well be playing out in your mind much differently than it is in her life.

she's happy, and that's all that matters. as long as he's not physically or emotionally abusing her, and they're both smiling, there are no problems. let's leave well enough alone when that's the case.

Posted by Nalin on Aug-04-2004 02:42:

quote:
Originally posted by DigitalMP
It wasn't advice, it was moreso that when she sucked up and went against her own rules, she still couldn't resist the cock.

ROFL.

Posted by Izra on Aug-04-2004 02:47:

OMG !!! Disko-kandi, you have taken what I said totally wrong. The back rub thing is not sexual at all. Self-respect? I have plenty of it. I think you jumped off the handle on this one, making assumptions that are 100% false ! Our relationship is totally fair, money wise also! Our relationship is exremely healthy and balanced, who are you to say that it isn't. For example, I just got back from dinner with my bf, and I filled up his car with gas. Thats fair, he paid for dinner, I paid for gas.

There is nothing I hate more then people making assumptions !

Thanks for defending me Dave !

quote:
Originally posted by Vivid Boy
but ok u let it slip the second time thinking ah we live in hard knock society not everyone can have money when they feel...so he calls u up the next day u start chit chatting and u find out hes not a student and he doesnt work..his future plans are zilch...but hes a nice guy right? are you still gonna sleep with him? even tho hes a nice guy? man no offense but if u answer yes ur one of those naive chix that fall in love with loser idiots and end up having 6 kids and live on welfare...all because he was a nice guy and a lil bit strapped for cash

This is unacceptable for any girl or guy to do on a date. Freeloaders suck ! All I am saying is if a guy doesn't pay for everything on a first date, it doesn't mean I will or won't go home with him. There are other things that matter so much more. I agree with you about the person who won't offer to contribute, that is rude.

Posted by rabbitjoker on Aug-04-2004 03:30:

I pay.

They way I figure is this: either way, one day the bank accounts are going to be joined - so whether I pay or she pays, we both end up paying.

Capiche? ja

Posted by d!abolic on Aug-04-2004 03:55:

quote:
Originally posted by PartEgurl
So basically guys, don't listen to this advice. And girls, buy boys drinks !![/COLOR]
LMAO, way to contradict!

quote:
Originally posted by rabbitjoker
I pay.
NOO WAYY

Posted by monishb on Aug-04-2004 04:07:

blah,,

i think i it should be equal in paying she and me both can pay, but i think the gentleman i am , i always pay.

anyhow, boys and girls you only live once, enjoy it while you can.

Posted by malek on Aug-04-2004 04:08:

quote:
Originally posted by rabbitjoker
I pay.

They way I figure is this: either way, one day the bank accounts are going to be joined - so whether I pay or she pays, we both end up paying.

Capiche? ja

ding ding ding... we have a winner

thats the right attitude

Posted by trancechaos on Aug-04-2004 04:12:

quote:
Originally posted by rabbitjoker
I pay.

They way I figure is this: either way, one day the bank accounts are going to be joined - so whether I pay or she pays, we both end up paying.

Capiche? ja

but what if you guys decide to keep things seperate, i know some married couples that do that. then what do you do coz you still have the same problem???

Posted by malek on Aug-04-2004 04:12:

Posted by rabbitjoker on Aug-04-2004 04:14:

quote:
Originally posted by trancechaos
but what if you guys decide to keep things seperate, i know some married couples that do that. then what do you do coz you still have the same problem???

I don't plan on doing that - problem solved.

Marriage is the creation of a single functional unit - so merging everything just seems reasonable to me.

(and no I'm not currently married or engaged {and won't be for a while, thanks})

Posted by d!abolic on Aug-04-2004 04:17:

quote:
Originally posted by rabbitjoker
(and no I'm not currently married or engaged {and won't be for a while, thanks})
You do realize that if you're not even engaged to this girl, you're simply using whatever possibility of future marriage there may be as an excuse to not feel like a sucker because you're paying for everything?

Posted by rabbitjoker on Aug-04-2004 04:18:

quote:
Originally posted by d!abolic
You do realize that if you're not even engaged to this girl, you're simply using whatever possibility of future marriage there may be as an excuse to not feel like a sucker because you're paying for everything?

OK USA.

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