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Originally posted by silene I would never judge someone by their number of sexual partners. It's just not a good indicator of one's personality. And all the self-righteous idiots need to get the fuck out with the moral bullshit. Notice how conservatives are always the quickest to judge you?

Heh, if there are any conservatives on TA, they're awfully quiet. We have a few free-market zealots here, but that's not really the same thing...

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Originally posted by Fibonacci Isn't a particular pickiness in whom one chooses to sleep with a mark of good character?

I dunno. I see it this way: if I'm about to enter a long-term relationship with somebody, I'd be wary if the person either (a) had just flings and one-night stands as their primary sexual experiences or (b) been fucking around on people a lot. In the case of a person my age, a very large number of sexual partners generally means one of those two things.

i like roast beef vagina

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Originally posted by Fibonacci Isn't a particular pickiness in whom one chooses to sleep with a mark of good character?

Standards for the sake of standards are one thing, but standards for the sake of some arbitrary moral principle are another. I don't care if you are really picky, or prefer to screw everything with an even number of legs; it doesn't make you a good or bad person, and in my humble experience is not a mark of someone's character at all. Some of the most good-natured people I know are very sexually open; others aren't. Why judge someone's character by their actions when you don't know the true motives behind those actions? Good people can be sluts and evil pricks can be catholic priests .

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Originally posted by Spacey Orange i used to have another girlfriend that was fucking like 3 guys at the same time before her vag became monogamous. but she was raped/molested by her brother so she was fucked in the head.

Sounds like a winner to me.

I think it's mostly an issue of trust. If you're dating somebody whose normal operating mode is "screw and go," how sure are you really going to feel that they won't treat you the same way?

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Originally posted by silene Standards for the sake of standards are one thing, but standards for the sake of some arbitrary moral principle are another. I don't care if you are really picky, or prefer to screw everything with an even number of legs; it doesn't make you a good or bad person, and in my humble experience is not a mark of someone's character at all. Some of the most good-natured people I know are very sexually open; others aren't. Why judge someone's character by their actions when you don't know the true motives behind those actions? Good people can be sluts and evil pricks can be catholic priests .

How is it arbitrary? It's not standards for the sake of standards, it's standards for the sake of choosing company with people who share common values. For those who have them, it's important. Just because YOU don't judge "open sexuality" as a mark of character doesn't mean that other people shouldn't.

I am very judgmental when it comes to who I date and whom I choose to have sex with. Shouldn't I be? I don't tell other people how to live their lives and I don't judge friends or people I meet. It's just for me and the women I sexually interact with.

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Originally posted by Fibonacci How is it arbitrary? It's not standards for the sake of standards, it's standards for the sake of choosing company with people who share common values. For those who have them, it's important. Just because YOU don't judge "open sexuality" as a mark of character doesn't mean that other people shouldn't. I am very judgmental when it comes to who I date and whom I choose to have sex with. Shouldn't I be? I don't tell other people how to live their lives and I don't judge friends or people I meet. It's just for me and the women I sexually interact with.

Live your life in the best way you can and do what makes you and others happy. A difference of opinion does not mean one is wrong and the other is right. The mindset that works for me does not work for a lot of people, but that does not make me a better person. It's all in how we define 'character'. In my definition, 'open sexuality' does not contribute to character, so long as the person is honest about it when it matters.

+1 for not pushing your morals on others, though.

i like dating girls that have been in gangbangs!

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Originally posted by MrJiveBoJingles I think it's mostly an issue of trust. If you're dating somebody whose normal operating mode is "screw and go," how sure are you really going to feel that they won't treat you the same way?

Well, maybe it's just me but that seems about 100 times more palatable than the opposite ("no sex but clingy.")

It seems to me that if a woman has had too few sexual partners, one of the following likely applies:

1. She's insecure about sex/doesn't have much of a sex drive. [NO THANKS]
2. She's a vacuous robot responding to social pressures regarding the supposed "immorality" of promiscuous behavior. [UGH!]
3. She's extremely clingy and tenaciously latches on to the first cock that she comes across. [DANGER, DANGER!]

There are certainly a few exceptions, but I'd say that covers the vast majority of them.

I don't want to paint you with the wrong brush, but it seems to me that most guys who frown on women having too many partners do so because they are afraid they won't stack up (and they may well be right in that regard.) That, or they're living in some ridiculous fruity fantasy world and believe that their soul mate is out there somewhere waiting for them and no one else and it's their destiny to find THE ONE and marry them and have, like, a million babies! I would rant on, but I don't want to lose my dinner.

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Originally posted by Arbiter Well, maybe it's just me but that seems about 100 times more palatable than the opposite ("no sex but clingy.")

I'd rather not deal with either.

ok just to clarify here, we are discussing in the context of a relationship or someone we are looking to potentially date?

The original post sounded like "date," but the thread eventually veered toward "relationship."

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Originally posted by Fibonacci ok just to clarify here, we are discussing in the context of a relationship or someone we are looking to potentially date?

Just to clarify - those are quite different, right... Date = casual, relationship = monogamous, long term?

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Originally posted by Fibonacci ok just to clarify here, we are discussing in the context of a relationship or someone we are looking to potentially date?

when else would you be concerned about the number of partners?

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Originally posted by Enigmatik I'm with gehzumteufel on this one. It doesn't matter how many partners they've had as long as they were smart enough to use protection and are disease free. I know a guy that slept with every girl in his area code but used protection every time and is completely healthy and STD free, and another that slept with only 2 but was a moron and didn't use a condom and now he has herpes. :S

disease free is the way to be! haha

but seriously. i don't give a rats ass how many guys shes slept with, as long as i don't get anything due to this. if i do then its a problem.

oh and jealous guys = fucking annoying assholes. i have some female friends with jealous bf's and i want to wring their fucking necks!

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Originally posted by gehzumteufel when else would you be concerned about the number of partners?

Actually thats how I do most of my hiring. The sheepish, nerdy engineering PhD five years my senior walks in and I ask: "how many sexual partners have you had?"

If he says anything greater than one, he's clearly a lying bastard and I not only do not hire him, but I try to get his security clearance revoked.

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Originally posted by Arbiter Actually thats how I do most of my hiring. The sheepish, nerdy engineering PhD five years my senior walks in and I ask: "how many sexual partners have you had?" If he says anything greater than one, he's clearly a lying bastard and I not only do not hire him, but I try to get his security clearance revoked.

LOL bs...and even if you did, as silene pointed out, the number of sexual partners doesnt define ones character. not saying that some 18yr old girl should have 100 partners but on the same token, why should she have had only 1? (this is just thought provoking, not that i think kids at 12yrs old should be having sex)

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Originally posted by gehzumteufel LOL bs...and even if you did, as silene pointed out, the number of sexual partners doesnt define ones character. not saying that some 18yr old girl should have 100 partners but on the same token, why should she have had only 1? (this is just thought provoking, not that i think kids at 12yrs old should be having sex)

Ok yeah, I completely made that up. But now that I thought of it, I must admit it's a little tempting to try to spring that question on someone in an interview...

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Originally posted by Arbiter Ok yeah, I completely made that up. But now that I thought of it, I must admit it's a little tempting to try to spring that question on someone in an interview...

LOL fucking bastard.

ps: why the sn change from dark arbiter to just arbiter?

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Originally posted by gehzumteufel LOL fucking bastard. ps: why the sn change from dark arbiter to just arbiter?

not the same guy. arbiter has been around for ages

Dark Arbiter is a different person...

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Originally posted by eROs.au

What have you done with sunsnail?

oops! haha...no wonder i was confused!

who is the dark arbiter? lol?

Yeah I noticed a darkarbiter crop up about a year ago and at first I thought it was someone making an alt to try to parody me or something but he seems like a normal enough guy.

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