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Why can't more people be like you?

tough to decipher the signals... youre being... honest?

i might like you, lets do tea & a spliff.

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Originally posted by Ania_xox

this is why men shouldn't take dating advice from women. :P
i'm feeling generous so here we go:

"I think an actual date is the least complicated part of dating.
Just be yourself, don't be f*cking ghey... don't follow any stupid rules you have heard... do what feels natural... don't put on a show... whatever."

wrongggggg. if he's being himself, he's being a guy that doesn't feel very confident around women. that's not attractive. i like the saying "if you keep doing what you've always done, you'll get what you've always had"- i forget who said this but it's awesome advice. dont put on a show? how else are you going to differentiate yourself from the other men that hit on her that week, or even THAT DAY.


"Even if you don't feel a connection with the person, that doesn't mean the evening should be wasted... have a good time anyway... go do something fun... movie, salsa, bowling, smoke a spliff, go fuck in a public washroom lol whatever floats your boat."

sure it does. if you feel like it's not going anywhere, why waste your time with them when you could be talking to other women and getting more experience? eject politely and find someone else.

"The complications come after with the who should call first and when BS.
"What is too soon?"
"I don't wanna seem too forward."
"What did he/she think of last night?"
"Should I have done this? Should I have not done that?"

Fuck... it's enough to make anyone go insane. And the worst part is that it's all unnatural phenomena that's placed in people's heads as relationship propaganda... aka Dr. Phil or "Sex and the City" or the "He's just not that into you" book"

this is kinda true. call whenever you feel like (just not 5 minutes after you leave) and your 1st phone conversation better be DAMN interesting or you'll lose some or all of the attraction you built up with the girl.

"It turns into this huge game of appearances and "symbols" and "hints" and "signals" and people are taught to ignore their instincts... when really - your gut feeling is all you should be going with when it comes to something as important as establishing a connection with someone who could ultimately be your partner in life."

true, however society has fucked up and suppressed a LOT of guys internal feelings and they don't know how to deal with it or have a fear of escalating to sex as it's not "proper" or some such shit.

god damnit, kado... god damnit...

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Originally posted by kadomony "I think an actual date is the least complicated part of dating. Just be yourself, don't be f*cking ghey... don't follow any stupid rules you have heard... do what feels natural... don't put on a show... whatever." wrongggggg. if he's being himself, he's being a guy that doesn't feel very confident around women. that's not attractive.

Exactly. "Just being yourself" only works if you have an attractive personality in the first place...

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Originally posted by kadomony this is why men shouldn't take dating advice from women. :P i'm feeling generous so here we go:

It wasn't meant as dating advice for men.
It also wasn't directed explicitly for the males here.
It wasn't really meant as advice necessarily either.
Just my general opinions on dating based on MY personal experiences and those of my friends/colleagues.

I don't really like your way of debunking my post there... I think you misinterpreted a lot and took a lot personally... not sure.

The only thing I feel it necessary to reply to is the confidence bit. Hugely important (for me... and for a fair amount of the ladies out there I think)... but again - not meant to be exemplified via "putting on a show". Guys who do this tend to make fucking asses of themselves. I've seen girls look like total morons too, attempting to demonstrate how "self-accepting" they are.

Quiet confidence is so fucking hot in a guy. Speaks volumes.

Let me paint your chromosomes.

i would never continue to date a chick that farted on the first date

Yes.

burnnnnnnnntttt

A fart is a fart, grow the fuck up. Yours don't smell like a rose bush yourself.

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Originally posted by nchs09 Wanna date? A/s/l?

20/M/FL

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Originally posted by Ania_xox It wasn't meant as dating advice for men. It also wasn't directed explicitly for the males here. It wasn't really meant as advice necessarily either. Just my general opinions on dating based on MY personal experiences and those of my friends/colleagues. I don't really like your way of debunking my post there... I think you misinterpreted a lot and took a lot personally... not sure. The only thing I feel it necessary to reply to is the confidence bit. Hugely important (for me... and for a fair amount of the ladies out there I think)... but again - not meant to be exemplified via "putting on a show". Guys who do this tend to make fucking asses of themselves. I've seen girls look like total morons too, attempting to demonstrate how "self-accepting" they are. Quiet confidence is so fucking hot in a guy. Speaks volumes.

What was it meant as then? ;P
Don't get me wrong, I'm not getting on your case personally about anything. Most women know what they want in a guy, it's just hard for them to express it. Again, modern society.

Whatever.

It's all good. I didn't know you had meant "a show" as in acting like an ass. Just wanted to clear up that being average doesn't really work too well, either. Neither does acting like an ass.

Hugs all around and a high-five JUST for you.

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Originally posted by noikeee Exactly. "Just being yourself" only works if you have an attractive personality in the first place...

and if you do....?

I dated a Ta before.. but unfortunatley she disliked my pharaoh staff

i blame the cold weather..

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Originally posted by tubularbills and if you do....?

is that a serious question?

then it works fucking great, and you don't need any "advice" to begin with.

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Originally posted by noikeee is that a serious question? then it works fucking great, and you don't need any "advice" to begin with.

not necessarily. you can have a great personality and still get "let's just be friends" if you dont know what youre doing.

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Originally posted by noikeee is that a serious question? then it works fucking great, and you don't need any "advice" to begin with.

ok, that's what i thought you were referring too, lol

i've always (at least for the most part), have just been myself. sometimes it worked, and lots of fun was had...and other times it didn't, and no fun was had. it's not really about *your* actions or *his/her* actions...its about *both* people's actions. if there's chemistry/spark, then you'll freakin' know it right off the bat. if you feel like you're sitting at the dr's office waiting for a tooth to be pulled, well then, maybe you should cut your losses and move on (unless you're into that sort of thing ) .

i think this goes w/ regular friends too...you can't force people to be friends with you....you just have to act like you normally would, and if they clik with you, then great.

make them jealous

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Originally posted by Fibonacci i would never continue to date a chick that farted on the first date

I would. Think of all the stamina this girl must have!

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Originally posted by tubularbills ok, that's what i thought you were referring too, lol i've always (at least for the most part), have just been myself. sometimes it worked, and lots of fun was had...and other times it didn't, and no fun was had. it's not really about *your* actions or *his/her* actions...its about *both* people's actions. if there's chemistry/spark, then you'll freakin' know it right off the bat. if you feel like you're sitting at the dr's office waiting for a tooth to be pulled, well then, maybe you should cut your losses and move on (unless you're into that sort of thing ) . i think this goes w/ regular friends too...you can't force people to be friends with you....you just have to act like you normally would, and if they clik with you, then great.

that being said, it's still up to the guy to do all he can to make the experience as enjoyable as possible for both parties. if he's done all he can and the girl still isnt into the whole thing then she's probably got some emotional/mental problems that are best left alone haha

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Originally posted by Lira I would. Think of all the stamina this girl must have!

isnt there an anime where the girl farts and thats why she's a virgin

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Originally posted by kadomony that being said, it's still up to the guy to do all he can to make the experience as enjoyable as possible for both parties. if he's done all he can and the girl still isnt into the whole thing then she's probably got some emotional/mental problems that are best left alone haha

since when is it the guys responsibility?

ffs chiks should do that shit too

imo, i think its hot when the girl makes the first move

edit,

the *right* one that i can click with.

there are some that do that, and it just doesn't fucking work at all, lol

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Originally posted by Nrg2Nfinit isnt there an anime where the girl farts and thats why she's a virgin

I don't know, but it does sound Japanese enough to me

if a chick makes the first move she's gonna wear tthe pants for the rest of the relationship..

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