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WHAT A BEEEYOTCH!

hmm .. maybe it's just me or the people i hang with. the weddings i have been to in the past that have been "low budgeted" have received some vicious reviews after the ceremony, especially on the female side.

one quote for a random movie ('Boiler Room') i watched a couple of days ago

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Now you all look money hungry and that's good. Anybody who says money is the root of all evil, doesn't have it! Money can't buy happiness? Look at the fucking smile on my face. Ear to ear, baby.

yeah people will say money isn't everything, and you can be happy with a low budget wedding. i used to believe that, then after attending several "low budget" weddings, i believe that quote above. money on a wedding does bring f'n happiness.

/selfish bastard

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Originally posted by Slylee i wouldn't show and then make your gift to them be a gigantic blown up picture of your boyfriend in a nice frame that has a photochopped super smiley saying "CALL ME " on it

fixed that for you

marriage is for fags anyway

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Originally posted by Arbiter marriage is for fags anyway

Only in a few places

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Originally posted by Sushipunk Only in a few places

which sushi has written down in a very safe place as the day approaches.

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Originally posted by pkcRAISTLIN which sushi has written down in a very safe place as the day approaches.

Bitch

you're friend's a stupid fucken bitch. i hate her.

Why is there 9 pages for this?

Its a no brainer, just don't go and ignore her until they say sorry for this idiocy.

Send the gift via a proxy to add to the insult of not going.

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Originally posted by Theresa I disagree. When you are having a small and intimate wedding with your closest friends and family, extra people you don't really know don't make the cut. Period. A wedding is often considered a celebration of the joining of 2 people. This can be a very intimate thing for people, and they may choose to share this experience with a select group. This usually doesn't include strangers, or acquaintances. Had she been married to the guy, I could see the reason for the fuss. But she isn't.

are you out of your mind?

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Originally posted by malek are you out of your mind?

Nope.

And I am also not an over-privileged brat who came from a rich family and thinks that everyone should drop 20 g's on a wedding.

*Not saying anyone else here is.*

bas !

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Originally posted by Theresa Nope. And I am also not an over-privileged brat who came from a rich family and thinks that everyone should drop 20 g's on a wedding. *Not saying anyone else here is.*

small mindness, i take my own wedding as an example, my parents didn't pay a penny, we paid for it the wife and myself. Nothing crazy fancy...

but, 20g is nothing when you have 175 invited, you know, family and friends, numbers add up quickly.

If you're cheap with your guests, they'll be cheap in return, that wasn't our case and most of the expenses were paid by gifts ($) people brought us. If you think about it, people brought 100$ on average, thats 17,500$ right there.

Party was great, everyone was invited and enjoying themselves, and the best was that at the end of the day, it didn't cost us that much

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Originally posted by malek small mindness, i take my own wedding as an example, my parents didn't pay a penny, we paid for it the wife and myself. Nothing crazy fancy... but, 20g is nothing when you have 175 invited, you know, family and friends, numbers add up quickly. If you're cheap with your guests, they'll be cheap in return, that wasn't our case and most of the expenses were paid by gifts ($) people brought us. If you think about it, people brought 100$ on average, thats 17,500$ right there. Party was great, everyone was invited and enjoying themselves, and the best was that at the end of the day, it didn't cost us that much

Maybe, but you can't exactly budget for the gifts you hope to receive, and 20g's is a fuckload of money to put down.

I can definitely understand the reasons for going small with a wedding, so in a normal circumstance I can see why they'd try to cut back on the +1's, but I have to say it seems like the OP's friends are being douches.

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Originally posted by malek small mindness, i take my own wedding as an example, my parents didn't pay a penny, we paid for it the wife and myself. Nothing crazy fancy... but, 20g is nothing when you have 175 invited, you know, family and friends, numbers add up quickly. If you're cheap with your guests, they'll be cheap in return, that wasn't our case and most of the expenses were paid by gifts ($) people brought us. If you think about it, people brought 100$ on average, thats 17,500$ right there. Party was great, everyone was invited and enjoying themselves, and the best was that at the end of the day, it didn't cost us that much

Maybe you can justify dropping 20 g's for a one day event... I can't. 20 grand doesn't come around easily, and it can be put toward things that are going to last a lifetime. Not to mention, my wedding isn't going to be an excuse for people to eat and drink for free, it is going to be what it should be - a celebration with my closest friends and family.

The expectation that someone "should" have an expensive wedding irks me. Not everyone has tonnes of cash to throw around, and not everyone would like to spend that much money on a one day even when the money could be better spent elsewhere.

I would still like to know whether or not the BF was formally invited, or if his invitation was assumed. That really changes the whole situation one way or the other.

It's possible to put a wedding together for less than 20 grand?

Ya, that sucks Sara. I think it was a shady move. It shouldn't be that the BF was invited or not. Guest should always be able to bring a guest.

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Originally posted by Vivid Boy 30 bucks for him to eat at his wedding???? dude what a fuckin gnock, I'm sure your bf would bearing a boosta full of the juicea. in italian a boosta is the lil envelope filled with money you give as a gift to every wedding. babe, I say fuck them and their wedding. Be like "Its quite possible I may not marry this guy, However, I back up every one of my friends in at every possible situation. Frankly, I thought you were the same."

Eric here summed it up perfectly. Just fuck them both. They're not worth your time if that's how they act.

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Originally posted by malek Why is there 9 pages for this? Its a no brainer, just don't go and ignore her until they say sorry for this idiocy. Send the gift via a proxy to add to the insult of not going.

Make sure the gift is a piece of dog turd though.

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Originally posted by Sadface Maybe, but you can't exactly budget for the gifts you hope to receive, and 20g's is a fuckload of money to put down. I can definitely understand the reasons for going small with a wedding, so in a normal circumstance I can see why they'd try to cut back on the +1's, but I have to say it seems like the OP's friends are being douches.

You don't drop 20g+ ball at once, its usually over 6-9 months, most of it is paid after the wedding!

Photographers, flowers, dress, cake, video, limo, ... are paid a part before the wedding and the rest after the wedding.

It was very manageable and easier than you can imagine.

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Originally posted by Theresa Maybe you can justify dropping 20 g's for a one day event... I can't. 20 grand doesn't come around easily, and it can be put toward things that are going to last a lifetime. Not to mention, my wedding isn't going to be an excuse for people to eat and drink for free, it is going to be what it should be - a celebration with my closest friends and family. The expectation that someone "should" have an expensive wedding irks me. Not everyone has tonnes of cash to throw around, and not everyone would like to spend that much money on a one day even when the money could be better spent elsewhere. I would still like to know whether or not the BF was formally invited, or if his invitation was assumed. That really changes the whole situation one way or the other.

Free?? Its not free, since you invite close people only, friends and family should be considerate enough to cover their food and drinks, you can't go to a good restaurant without dropping 50-75$ per person with drinks anymore. Anyone with a good judgment and "savoir vivre" knows that.

It's a God damn Wedding, not a run of the mill party, a once in a lifetime event that people close enough to you should be proud of celebrating.

After all, its not only a wedding, its honoring people around you with an event you can be proud of.

I sense a lack of good manners/white trashness on this board, pity.

Are they divorce yet?

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Originally posted by squirrelly No no, I should think about it that way. EVERYONE sees that she's angry I'm happy (since for years I was UNhappy in a bad relationship). She flat out told me "I know I'm supposed to be your best friend, but I will NEVER be happy for you just because you're happy yourself". Even my mother can tell she's trying to do ANY little thing to try and bring a riff between us. And he doesn't really care that he became UNinvited, because he can't stand the girl. Says she's so negative she makes it hard to like her. But that, is not the point. When we've already gotten the invitations with our names on it, to then turn around and say "oh nevermind, the groom decided nay." is ridiculous.

how the hell this chick end up being your 'best friend' in the first place?

if I were you, I'd kick her in the throat with a 6 inch stiletto and flush her down the nearest shit toilet over this sort of insult.

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Originally posted by Theresa To be fair, if it is a small wedding, and they are clearly on a tight budget, they have to draw the line somewhere. I mean, if they made an exception to everyone who was coming to bring the person they have been seeing for a while, then it would no longer be a small wedding. Obviously neither one of them is very close to your BF, so he is an easy guest to cut from the list when they are trying to shorten it. Some people just don't have the money to have extravagant weddings, and some just want it to be something they share with the people they know, not the people they know and they people they know, you know? LOL! I think you're taking it too personally, but then again, I wasn't there so I didn't pick up the vibes and I don't know any of the other circumstances surrounding the situation. However, if I were having a small wedding, and my friend was only seeing someone for a short amount of time... and when it came to shortening the list, he would probably be an easy one for me to scratch off. My own cousin did it to me last year. He was getting married and I was invited. I asked if I could bring the guy I had been with for 2 years and he told me straight up that they simply couldn't afford it. Nothing to get upset over.

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Originally posted by malek It's a God damn Wedding, not a run of the mill party, a once in a lifetime event that people close enough to you should be proud of celebrating. After all, its not only a wedding, its honoring people around you with an event you can be proud of.

And I used to think all guests are allowed to bring a +1. Some sort of etiquette or something.

Isn't weddings one of those occasions where you're NOT allowed to be a cheapskate? FFS. Esp over measly 30 bucks? (and yet people will ring up their credit card to the max with like their 50th pair of shoes)

Who gives a fuck if you know the person your guest is bringing.

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Originally posted by Yohan And I used to think all guests are allowed to bring a +1. Some sort of etiquette or something. Isn't weddings one of those occasions where you're NOT allowed to be a cheapskate? FFS. Esp over measly 30 bucks? (and yet people will ring up their credit card to the max with like their 50th pair of shoes) Who gives a fuck if you know the person your guest is bringing.

Wow... didn't expect that from you Yohan. LoL!

Is there anyone here with some fricken sanity!??!

Twenty thousand on a wedding?!??! *le sigh*

Ok, the people who are saying you would drop that much on a wedding, are you getting financial help (are parents pitching in too?), or is it all coming out of your pocket?

I would much rather spend $5000 on a wedding and put the other 15 toward a house, or a car, or a long trip, or toward paying off school loans.... SOMETHING more valuable, something I could show for it (aside from some pictures and video), something that will help the quality of my life in the future with my new husband.

Being able to invite 150 people (most of whom I don't care about, nor know,) is not important to me. Closest friends and family is more intimate and special IMO.

ONE DAY EVENT!! A day that you're all stressed out, you're tired and probably for the most part too distracted with all the little things to really enjoy it... And you're going to drop 20 G's all in one shot on it?

People are friggen nuts.

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Originally posted by Theresa Wow... didn't expect that from you Yohan. LoL! Is there anyone here with some fricken sanity!??! Twenty thousand on a wedding?!??! *le sigh* Ok, the people who are saying you would drop that much on a wedding, are you getting financial help (are parents pitching in too?), or is it all coming out of your pocket? I would much rather spend $5000 on a wedding and put the other 15 toward a house, or a car, or a long trip, or toward paying off school loans.... SOMETHING more valuable, something I could show for it (aside from some pictures and video), something that will help the quality of my life in the future with my new husband. Being able to invite 150 people (most of whom I don't care about, nor know,) is not important to me. Closest friends and family is more intimate and special IMO. ONE DAY EVENT!! A day that you're all stressed out, you're tired and probably for the most part too distracted with all the little things to really enjoy it... And you're going to drop 20 G's all in one shot on it? People are friggen nuts.

20K doesn't sound too bad. and yes it'd be worth it.

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