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Originally posted by Omega_Blue so, putting yourself in the male's situation, knowing full well the motives of the female, how would you act then?

you mean how would i act if i was a guy who was friends with one of those stupid types?


i would try to fuck her lol

I would violate that bitch so hard, just for being a stupid manipulative cunt, and give her that temporary, false sense of self worth that she so clearly and desperately seeks from males.

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Originally posted by jennypie I would violate that bitch so hard, just for being a stupid manipulative cunt, and give her that temporary, false sense of self worth that she so clearly and desperately seeks from males.

to be honest, it makes me uncomfortable to think about the fact that some of my guy friends might want to fuck me. it makes me a little disappointed like, "aww man wtf, we have such a cool time together! why do u have to let your dick get involved"

see, in a situation like that i would try to fuck her but if it didn't happen i would drop her and move on. especially when it's quite obvious that she only hangs out with a group of guys for the sole purpose of attention-whoring. why feed her ego by hanging around?

I don't really think about it that often. Not like I'm the only chick around with a vagina/the only chick they've ever thought about fucking.

When the thought does cross my mind I just think of how retarded my friends are for, like you said, thinking with their dick, lol. Simple idiots.


God ew, I don't like thinking about fucking my friends, lol. Makes me feel weird.

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Originally posted by Slylee to be honest, it makes me uncomfortable to think about the fact that some of my guy friends might want to fuck me. it makes me a little disappointed like, "aww man wtf, we have such a cool time together! why do u have to let your dick get involved"

personally if all of my female friends wanted to fuck me i'd be quite flattered. and i would fuck them.

and to be honest, all of this depends on if the girl has a boyfriend.

i can be a total relentless flirt with guys when i'm single and even my guy friends will be the object of that flirting, but it's just different when i'm with someone (well when it's really serious and i love the guy, like now). i'm a lot more behaved.

i have a guy friend i've known since we were 9 and we had sex once a long time ago and never talk about it. i know he would love to fuck me and even be with me in a relationship probably but he knows it aint happening because the feeling isn't mutual and i just can't find myself romantically attracted to him. but i love hanging around him and talking about cars and stuff. i have such a comfort level with him...i don't have any brothers but i would imagine if i did, i'd feel that way around them (the way i feel around my guy friend).

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Originally posted by Slylee and to be honest, all of this depends on if the girl has a boyfriend. i can be a total relentless flirt with guys when i'm single and even my guy friends will be the object of that flirting, but it's just different when i'm with someone (well when it's really serious and i love the guy, like now). i'm a lot more behaved. i have a guy friend i've known since we were 9 and we had sex once a long time ago and never talk about it. i know he would love to fuck me and even be with me in a relationship probably but he knows it aint happening because the feeling isn't mutual and i just can't find myself romantically attracted to him. but i love hanging around him and talking about cars and stuff. i have such a comfort level with him...i don't have any brothers but i would imagine if i did, i'd feel that way around them (the way i feel around my guy friend).

You'd bang your brother?

N00b, she already did.

fuck i walked right into that one.


well at least during the sex, i totally stopped (right in the middle) and left. LOL yes, it was THAT awkward.

Bahaha, I remember pushing a guy off me and rolling over and passing out almost immediately because the sex/his technique was so bad and he had a thin dick.

I did that once. I really had to poop.

She wasn't impressed...

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Originally posted by Sand Leaper The ladder theory says: A guy and a girl can only be friends if one of these three conditions are present: 1. The guy is gay 2. The guy doesn't find the girl attractive 3. The guy finds the girl attractive, but is currently doing better In all other cases, friendship won't work, as sex will always be in the way. The OP defined the term "friendship" as a male and a female having a relationship without wanting to bang each other. Thus, when this relationship stops being or never was platonic and non-sexual because one party wants to bang the other, it can no longer be considered a friendship. How the relationship plays out in practice doesn't change that.

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Originally posted by Chimney The ladder theory is a funny, scientific explanation of how men and women are attracted to each other. It also covers such topics as why women sometimes just want to be friends but men always want sex. It is based upon many years of sociological field testing, and was first conceptualized in 1994 in Exeter, CA by Dallas Lynn with acknowledgements to Jared Whitson for his role in formalizing the theory. http://www.laddertheory.com/

Ok, first of all, thank you guys for introducing me to this funny cynical theory, i consider it as the "find of the day" so, COR u rule!



But, where is the evidence for the "years of scientific testing and sociological field-work"? Is this ironic or there is ACTUAL data to support some of the statements of the current model? I made a search (not a very exhausting one i should say) and i stumbled upon the "ladder theory's" scientific name which is Lynn's & Whitson's "Sexual Evaluation Model"(or something?). Still, i couldn't find any journal article or study about the so-called "sexual evaluation model". Because seriously, i could see this developing into a serious model from an evolutionary-psychology perspective (!)



I have some objections though towards the current model (lol). Whilst i liked it overall, and i think it is true to a certain extend (seriously!), i think there are some problems with it and the problems arise (as with any "hard-wired" evolutionary-wanna-be theory aimed in explaining all human behaviour!) due to the fact that the model lacks some IMO crucial factors such as cogntions, experiences and society/culture. That is, it lacks the "environment" part (as well as the "interpretation" of the environment)in the "pie-chart" thing. So, i would thing that those "percentages" (deriving from...years of field study and scientific testing? where!?When!?How!?) could be true to a certain extend as the "default mode" of the human mind (in choosing partners), but can change in a dynamic way through experience and exposure to the environment and culture.



For example...





Isn't "physical attraction" more crucial than "money/power" during adolescence? I mean, from my experience, girls would't particularly search for rich boys at school right? Although i can see that they could search for "powerful boys", which could be translated to "popular" boys (in school-terms), but still, i think that "physical attraction" would be a more crucial factor than "money/power" in high-school years, suggesting that those percentages could change throughout life-time.







The "intelligence/humour/personality/whatevermental" thing is mashed into a small 10% for women. Now consider this. Young female teenagers have the "default" mode of the "sexual evaluation model" and hence they would always search for "powerful/popular/rich boys". The problem is that the majority of those girls would not be attractive enough to make it to the top ladder-positions of those boys, probably experiencing (in this way) rejection. Now, continuous rejection from those "powerful/rich/popular" boys would most probably make those specific females (i would think, the majority?) negatively conditioned to those qualities. Meaning that they could automatically learn to dislike those ones. Wouldn't that make them more oriented towards characteristics other than those? Maybe humour, or intelligence, or wit or whetever? So, wouldn't those negative experiences of the "dominant qualities" (power and physical atractiveness) shift the pie-charts toward a decrease of the percentage of those "dominant" qualities and an increase of the percentage of the 10% "mental" qualities?







Think of this imaginary experiment i just thought of (lol). Due to "Sexual evaluation hard-wiring" Julia always liked the "rich/popular/powerful" boys. Problem is that Julia is not very attractive. As a result, all those alpha males that she liked throughout the years has turned-her down, "throwing her into the abyss"(!)Julia, after a substantial amount of falls has learned to dislike those "rich/powerful" alpha males and to get attracted towards the more "mental" ones(the 10% characteristics). Now at some point in her life, Julia has the opportunity to choose between two males. The first one is a rich and powerful type of male that Julia has "learned to dislike" (have an aversion towards to) whereas the other is funny, humorous-with-great-personality-guy, the type that Julia has learned to like through the years. Now, which one would she choose? Choosing the "rich/powerful" guy would gloriosuly demonstrate the power of the "sexual evaluation model". Choosing the other guy though would gloriously disprove it, suggesting that there could be more to hardwired attractiveness towards the "rich" and "powerful". What do you think?

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Originally posted by PETRAN What do you think?

I think you're taking it much too seriously. And you need to stop putting those massive line breaks in your posts, because they only make them less readable.

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Originally posted by SYSTEM-J I think you're taking it much too seriously. And you need to stop putting those massive line breaks in your posts, because they only make them less readable.

Oh shut the fuck-up u cheesy epic-house-unicorn lovin bastard!


PLUR

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Originally posted by SYSTEM-J I think you're taking it much too seriously. And you need to stop putting those massive line breaks in your posts, because they only make them less readable.

...and by "less readable" he means people already skim over your posts because finishing War & Peace would be quicker.

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Originally posted by Domesticated ...and by "less readable" he means people already skim over your posts because finishing War & Peace would be quicker.

Heh, that reminds me: I got your PM and I'm looking forward to seeing it in action.

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Originally posted by SYSTEM-J Heh, that reminds me: I got your PM and I'm looking forward to seeing it in action.

Haha Look, SYSTEM-J and Domesticated exchange love PMs they are a gay couple...!This explains everything with those innocent platonic friendships!

Unicorn and gay jokes. You're Greece's answer to Oscar Wilde, aren't you?

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Originally posted by SYSTEM-J Unicorn and gay jokes. You're Greece's answer to Oscar Wilde, aren't you?

It seems so, yes

it feels strangely comforting to have the cor discussing my failed relationship

I guess I never thought about the "needs guys around them to feel good about themselves" side to girls, even when the obvious signs were hitting me over the head. I just didn't want to face that possibility because things were going perfectly before this came along.

C.S. Lewis was of the opinion that women and men could not truly be friends. I am inclined to agree.

It is a situational thing though.

I have a friend that at first I wanted to bang, but soon lost interest in banging and we became best friends for quite a few years. Yes it was a girl.

Only recently she was like "We should have banged". I was like "Maybe". Then we went back to watching Family Guy.

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Originally posted by Alex It is a situational thing though. I have a friend that at first I wanted to bang, but soon lost interest in banging and we became best friends for quite a few years. Yes it was a girl. Only recently she was like "We should have banged". I was like "Maybe". Then we went back to watching Family Guy.

awesome

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