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since no one is posting this on MY fkn thread ill post it here

engagement is ok- i like people who have been engaged for like 9 years.. they're not rushing anything & they're just proving that if they get married its going to be no different story.

i think marriage is kinda overrated.. first off i dont want to get married until im DONE with my studies. & i'd have to be (at least) in my mid-20's..

children- ehh... it'd have to be like.. WAYYY later on.. theyre such a pain in the ass & id deff only have ONE.

but, id rather stay with someone a VERRRY long time before getting married. like this old couple- they were both divorced like 3 times & they met eachother n fell in love (theyre like 50 now) & he asked her to marry him 3 times & she rejected him 3 times but he was still with her, for like 7 yrs? & then on the 4th time she said yes & theyre still together.. i think thats awsm.

i could definitely see myself as being engaged for like 5 years and being the one avoiding planning the wedding while my fiance' is like "wtf let's do this already"

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Originally posted by Slylee my bf isn't a citizen so he kinda needs to get his paperwork done or marry me. i know it wouldn't be very romantic to get married just so he can be official here but whatever. a girlfriend of mine is only 25 and she has been married for 4 years and she married her husband so he could be a citizen. she met him in argentina when she was 17 and a foreign exchange student. they've been dating for ever. he's a pilot and travels a lot and she is still in school. i was talking with her the other night about how patrick isn't a citizen and she was like, "well if u guys know you're it for each other, just get married. who cares what people say" and i was like, "yea i guess" but then i got that worried feeling again like, "omg marriage". lol

my wife is from a foreign country... I had to go through all that bullshit so I know exactly what you're talking about. I spent the money to have an attorney handle everything, which is the way to go. It was totally worth it though.

My wife and I were engaged and married in 10 days' time. I highly suggest this route as there is no time to get stressed about the whole situation.

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Originally posted by Brian Scott My wife and I were engaged and married in 10 days' time. I highly suggest this route as there is no time to get stressed about the whole situation.

small quick ceremony that doesn't cost much FTW!

long engagements are bs. It's just dragging out. What's the point in asking someone to marry you if you're not ready to make the commitment?

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Originally posted by The17sss small quick ceremony that doesn't cost much FTW!

backyard wedding

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Originally posted by The17sss small quick ceremony that doesn't cost much FTW!

It was awesome in its simplicity. 25 people (mostly family) in my parents' back yard. Drunken shenanigans ensued after a quick 10 minute ceremony. My ordained cousin married us. We honestly shot for under 10 minutes, but it ended up being closer to 11. I hate wasting time.


We did a proper reception a few months later with more extended family and friends (~85 people).



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Originally posted by squirrelly backyard wedding

lol!

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Originally posted by The17sss my wife is from a foreign country... I had to go through all that bullshit so I know exactly what you're talking about. I spent the money to have an attorney handle everything, which is the way to go. It was totally worth it though.

well he is indian..not like from india but some sort of native american type of indian from canada and apparently they have special rights or something in america. you just have to have the right paperwork that proves you are that nationality and you just have to go through some formalities and you can be official here and get a green card. he's just been lazy but he told me it's just a matter of him finally doing it and he should be ok. we've joked many times like, "let's just get married it'll be easier".

i know him though, he's not anywhere near ready to ask me because he wants to be more financially stable and bla bla bla. it's not the time right now. i'm not working and we have a roommate and that would just be stupid.

also, when i went to renew my passport i saw several couples there to get married and it was kinda romantic in a stupid way. one of the girls was in a white dress and they were so happy to be getting married at a courtroom lol i can see us going to city hall and just doing it and then throw a party later. i'm sure our families would be pissed but whatever. we can throw a party later for everyone.

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Originally posted by Brian Scott It was awesome in its simplicity. 25 people (mostly family) in my parents' back yard. Drunken shenanigans ensued after a quick 10 minute ceremony. My ordained cousin married us. We honestly shot for under 10 minutes, but it ended up being closer to 11. I hate wasting time. We did a proper reception a few months later with more extended family and friends (~85 people).

haha... dude, that's awesome. Sounds so much like my situation. I had like 20 people there. I just watched my 2 best friends do it the hard way- one had a huge wedding with like 300 people there, and both he and his woman's family had to have been broke as a fucking joke afterwards.

My other friend's girl had a poor family that couldn't afford anything, and his parents had just shelled out 25 grand for his sister's wedding... so the 2 of them had to pay for it themselves. $30,000. I mean, don't get me wrong it was a beautiful setup, but come on... now's not the time to be spending that kind of money. lol

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Originally posted by The17sss haha... dude, that's awesome. Sounds so much like my situation. I had like 20 people there. I just watched my 2 best friends do it the hard way- one had a huge wedding with like 300 people there, and both he and his woman's family had to have been broke as a fucking joke afterwards. My other friend's girl had a poor family that couldn't afford anything, and his parents had just shelled out 25 grand for his sister's wedding... so the 2 of them had to pay for it themselves. $30,000. I mean, don't get me wrong it was a beautiful setup, but come on... now's not the time to be spending that kind of money. lol

yea that's pretty much insane. as much as i love to entertain and toy w/ the idea of throwing lavish parties, if i can't afford it, i'm sure as hell not going into debt over one day. that's the problem these days with couples...more specifically, the women. all they care about is the ring and the wedding. it's like get your priorities straight

depends on how private you are with your relationship. Private couple = small wedding

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Originally posted by Slylee well he is indian..not like from india but some sort of native american type of indian from canada and apparently they have special rights or something in america.

that's kinda cool... I mean, we did take their land and all. least we could do is hook them up with easy paperwork..lol. Hey, does he get out of paying taxes too like the savages here do?

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i'm sure our families would be pissed but whatever. we can throw a party later for everyone.

they'll get over it... haha. mine just say every now and then, "so, are you guys going to have an actual ceremony one day so we can all come?" I'm always like, "yeah we're working on it," but I don't know if I will really do it. Depends on the cash flow.

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Originally posted by The17sss haha... dude, that's awesome. Sounds so much like my situation. I had like 20 people there. I just watched my 2 best friends do it the hard way- one had a huge wedding with like 300 people there, and both he and his woman's family had to have been broke as a fucking joke afterwards. My other friend's girl had a poor family that couldn't afford anything, and his parents had just shelled out 25 grand for his sister's wedding... so the 2 of them had to pay for it themselves. $30,000. I mean, don't get me wrong it was a beautiful setup, but come on... now's not the time to be spending that kind of money. lol

Our entire wedding/reception bill came to under $10K out the door. The actual ceremony was cheap, obviously, and my parents covered that. The reception cost about $100/head in attendance, but that included hors d'oerves (sp?), an excellent filet mignon (or alternative) dinner and open premium bar. The venue was relatively inexpensive because it was a restaurant and they were preparing the meals in their own kitchen. A good friend of mine was the DJ and we gave him a few hundred $ and access to food and open bar. Oh, and my parents paid for the reception, too.

Yeah, I made out like a bandit!

yea he doesn't pay taxes lol i bust his balls all the time about it. he's a straight up illegal alien. but he's eager to get citizenship ever since he met me because we want to travel together and he can't leave the country right now, which is what is putting a hold on our dominican republic plans his friends talked some sense into him (and me) and told him it's not worth it, he needs to get his paperwork done before he starts travelling outside of the U.S.

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Originally posted by Brian Scott Our entire wedding/reception bill came to under $10K out the door. The actual ceremony was cheap, obviously, and my parents covered that. The reception cost about $100/head in attendance, but that included hors d'oerves (sp?), an excellent filet mignon (or alternative) dinner and open premium bar. The venue was relatively inexpensive because it was a restaurant and they were preparing the meals in their own kitchen. A good friend of mine was the DJ and we gave him a few hundred $ and access to food and open bar. Oh, and my parents paid for the reception, too. Yeah, I made out like a bandit!

that sounds awesome usually it's the couples who keep it small and low key that are the happiest. rather than instantly arguing about money/debt right after the wedding. that'll kill any marriage (money probs right after the wedding).

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Originally posted by Slylee that sounds awesome usually it's the couples who keep it small and low key that are the happiest. rather than instantly arguing about money/debt right after the wedding. that'll kill any marriage (money probs right after the wedding).

100% agree. We initially were going to pay for it ourselves. We had more than enough $ to take care of it without worrying about future money issues. Instead, we used that money and other money we received as wedding gifts for a down payment on our house.

I think a lot of people can see the divorces coming waaay before they do. it's always the couples that when you hear they're engaged you're like WHAT?! THEM?!?!?! WHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY!

You know when a couple is right for each other or not.

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Originally posted by squirrelly I think a lot of people can see the divorces coming waaay before they do. it's always the couples that when you hear they're engaged you're like WHAT?! THEM?!?!?! WHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY!

It was the opposite for us. For years our friends and relatives would constantly ask why we weren't married.

No way in hell I'm having some huge wedding.

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Originally posted by Krypton No way in hell I'm having some huge wedding.

What if you were promised buttsecks afterward?

Yeah that's how it should be. Every time I met people they'd be like "the future Mrs. [last name] right here!" The minute people see us together they're like 'stop looking at each other like that, it kind of makes us queezy" lol

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Originally posted by squirrelly Marriage is a one time deal for me. I'm only doing it once. And I know I'm with the right person, so weirdly, nothing scares me anymore. Not even marriage statistics!

Not to be specifically singling you out, but I absolutely despise this thought. Not because I think that any sort of marriage should have an "out" or anything, but because there are limits. Especially to something that is part of someones sanity. What is the point of being married for 20, 30, 99 years if you are living totally separate lives after 10, gf/bf in place of, and basically not having anything to do with each other baring any activity with the children if you have any?

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Originally posted by gehzumteufel Not to be specifically singling you out, but I absolutely despise this thought. Not because I think that any sort of marriage should have an "out" or anything, but because there are limits. Especially to something that is part of someones sanity. What is the point of being married for 20, 30, 99 years if you are living totally separate lives after 10, gf/bf in place of, and basically not having anything to do with each other baring any activity with the children if you have any?

HUH? lol

lol i love watching bridezillas.

my perfect wedding would be outside in a small town like Breitenbrunn where its really green & pretty, it'd prlly be cloudy which i like & id only invite my close family (less than 20 lol) & my bestfriends.. after that we can all have dinner & thats it. its more like a mini reunion that a huge ass expensive fart.

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