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i dont know if anyone has asked this already mate, but is your x-girlfreind the girl who is in your sig. cause if she is, then that will make ME sad! what a stunner!

Dr. Taz has arrived to rubberneck *ahem!!* assess the situation.
Gives the following unsolicited and probably redundant advice to mr. 14:

STOP MILKING YOUR DEVASTATION FOR ALL IT'S WORTH.

Prescription...You're on a DIET now:

No more Fade To Black
No Tom Waits
No Aerosmith ballads
No T.S. Eliot!
No depressing movies, particularly with Jodie Foster between 1979-1981 (ecch!)
No more repeating images of her smiling face in your mind over and over
No more rehearsing sad songs in your head while imagining the two of you together in the hazy gold sunlight
No sitting around making a feedback loop out of sentiments like "It's over, there's nothing left, what good is life now, what's the meaning of it all..." and my personal favorite "She'll understand once it's too late. She'll find the bleached bones of my abandoned carcass somewhere in the middle of some deserted plain *sniff* maybe then she'll know what she's done to me! *sniff* *BAWWWWW*"

FOR THE LOVE OF ALL THAT'S GOOD AND DECENT, WAKE UP AND LOOK WHAT'S GOING ON!

Have you noticed how addictive it is to indulge in pity? To wallow in nostalgia and send yourself spiralling into total misery? I think this cycle-of-depression habit comes from TV drama culture and such.
Yes, grieving is necessary, but to do it all like this just to "get it out of your system" is like downing one drink after another really quickly so you'll be sober in time for work tommorrow. Doesn't work.

Let's set the record straight:
- "It's all over! I'm finished!" NO YOU'RE NOT. And it's all not over, it just won't involve Tania (is that her name?), but someone else. Soon enough. There are more chapters coming, with different characters.
- "How will I ever be happy again?" By choice, that's how. A friend of mine, poor guy, had to get some surgery down south and he'll probably never fuck again as long as he lives (and he's young). Is he miserable? No, he's happier than I am 'cause he deliberately chose to be happier.

Stock up on comedy tapes, get together with friends, keep yourself busy,

and don't EVER keep me up until 2:41 am with this nonsense again!

Good night.

lol, fatastic post m8!

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Originally posted by tranzMental I know exactly how you feel

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Originally posted by Rhythm Hey man... very sorry to hear that

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Originally posted by Triumph Shut the fuck up and get over it

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Originally posted by sothis thats because girls are attracted to confidence (just like guys are.. you cant tell me you arent), and the typical cocky guy, is confident.

Agreed, i was trying to emote that.

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Originally posted by tiesto14 Would it be a stupid thing to call her???????????????... i MISS her so fucking much....and right now it is like 2am and i wanna call her and beg her not to do this....i KNOW i am weak...but it hurts...ya know....

yes it fucking would, get some damn balls man!
i'll be cruel later by the way, i'm at college at the moment

I am sorry to hear that, mate...

but:

If she treats you like that, she doesn't deserve to get YOUR love!

Talk a lot with your friends now, you will feel better and better the more you talk with them. Don't stay alone at home.
Two friends of mine where in the same situation, they both overcame it. All the best for you!

bb

just for the record guys, girls DO eventually grow out of that whole attraction to assholes. if you are between the ages of 15-23 then yes, treat them like crap and they will come running back. but the only kind of girls you are going to end up with by doing this will most likely be the shallow insecure type. a real woman wants an honest and caring man who will treat her like a princess but at the same time won't smother her. you just have to know your lady and what she likes and get to know her moods so you can act accordingly same thing goes for females...

tiesto14, I just took a quick look at your story.
I'm really sorry for you but life goes on u know.

Calling her should the worst thing you could do because just hearing her voice could make your sadness higher and higher.

Keep her as a good memory and don't idealize her as you do! She isn't perfect, she proved it to you when she lies about what she thinks about you!

I suggest you forget her, relax, go out with your best friends, listen to Tiesto...
Don't stay at home, that's the best way to depress!!

Many ppl have lived such a story with a girl. I think, it's life and as Swamper said : look back at this thread in a year and see how far you've come.

so take care.

(sorry for my english... )

post a pic bro

It won't matter how many ppl tell you similar things. Maybe this thread will get 100 more replies and you'r gonna read the same things ( trying to forget her, etc etc. ) for 100 more times... But I'm so sure, as I said, it won't matter. You still are gonna think about her all day, u still are gonna feel bad for some time.

I can only say one thing: It won't stay forever... It's only a matter of time...

some words of wisdom:

"My advice to you, is to start drinking heavily" - Bluto in Animal House

"Fuck it man, life goes on" - The Dude in The Big Lebowski

seriously though....that sucks man....but don't listen to fade to black....its so depressing. i agree with listening to some livesets...oh, if you've got an Xbox, buy or rent Mortal Kombat cause its sweet and you can beat the piss out of some girl characters on that game....yeah, not much else i can say, but hang in there man.

p.s. you're story makes me never wanna talk to another girl again cause it sucks getting hurt like that.

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Originally posted by Taz Dr. Taz has arrived to rubberneck *ahem!!* assess the situation. Gives the following unsolicited and probably redundant advice to mr. 14: STOP MILKING YOUR DEVASTATION FOR ALL IT'S WORTH. Prescription...You're on a DIET now: No more Fade To Black No Tom Waits No Aerosmith ballads No T.S. Eliot! No depressing movies, particularly with Jodie Foster between 1979-1981 (ecch!) No more repeating images of her smiling face in your mind over and over No more rehearsing sad songs in your head while imagining the two of you together in the hazy gold sunlight No sitting around making a feedback loop out of sentiments like "It's over, there's nothing left, what good is life now, what's the meaning of it all..." and my personal favorite "She'll understand once it's too late. She'll find the bleached bones of my abandoned carcass somewhere in the middle of some deserted plain *sniff* maybe then she'll know what she's done to me! *sniff* *BAWWWWW*" FOR THE LOVE OF ALL THAT'S GOOD AND DECENT, WAKE UP AND LOOK WHAT'S GOING ON! Have you noticed how addictive it is to indulge in pity? To wallow in nostalgia and send yourself spiralling into total misery? I think this cycle-of-depression habit comes from TV drama culture and such. Yes, grieving is necessary, but to do it all like this just to "get it out of your system" is like downing one drink after another really quickly so you'll be sober in time for work tommorrow. Doesn't work. Let's set the record straight: - "It's all over! I'm finished!" NO YOU'RE NOT. And it's all not over, it just won't involve Tania (is that her name?), but someone else. Soon enough. There are more chapters coming, with different characters. - "How will I ever be happy again?" By choice, that's how. A friend of mine, poor guy, had to get some surgery down south and he'll probably never fuck again as long as he lives (and he's young). Is he miserable? No, he's happier than I am 'cause he deliberately chose to be happier. Stock up on comedy tapes, get together with friends, keep yourself busy, and don't EVER keep me up until 2:41 am with this nonsense again! Good night.

Ding ding ding. I agree. I once had an entire year of feeeling like SHIT in general because of girls, now I say "Fuck it" and move on. No real point in wallowing in self pity, she is NOT worth it. And if you call her it's a sad/pathetic attempt at trying to somehow get her back and it only makes getting over her (like you're supposed to be doing) a lot WORSE. Don't call her. Do as Taz says, GO OUT, DO STUFF w friends, simple. Then she'll be out of your system and gone and you won't even think of her.

xx

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Originally posted by Swamper ...and tiesto 14 - what benfica88 said is true - I'm portuguese and I can attest to that.. most of our women are go from one extreme to the other over here, either they're asexual saints or they're fucked up headcases, those in the middle are hiding, somewhere. lol

LOL, I feel u there dude... portuguese canadian girls can be pretty fucked up, but if you give them time, like say after 20, they eventually get a little nicer (that is if they aren't married yet )

that sux

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Originally posted by Endlesswave Yes exactly. Because if you open up way too quickly the girl will get freaked out (happened to me once or twice) and then she won't know what to think. (ei what Slylee was saying). If you just completely open up too early it doesn't leave anything to the imagination for the girl. I mean if she already knows everything way early on she would already get bored (however it would be a different story if you spend a lot of time with the girl and then open up slowly etc).

ok i understand what u mean.....however i think the MAIN reason i opened up so much to HER was because she opened up to me....

she was the one who said she wanted a long relationship, that she was falling in love with me, that she loved my eyes, my hands my thoughts...etc etc etc...

thats why it is so weir that out of the blue she changed her mind...

It has to be because it scared her.....no othere reason makes sense..but she started the entire thing...i jus followed....like a fool...

next time i will be smarter.

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Originally posted by Az I'll do it 2morrow, may have to be PM material tho

waiting waiting waiting waiting

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Originally posted by sothis thats because girls are attracted to confidence (just like guys are.. you cant tell me you arent), and the typical cocky guy, is confident.

true.....but u can be sensitive and confident at the same time...se never saw i WASNT confident till he ended it..thas when i went wacko...but when we were together i was normal...

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Originally posted by DarkLiquid Or she will love you for the one you are, you shouldn't have to go through so much effort for a relationship.

thats how it should be....games suck

Re: That girl i LOVED is now GONE....personal vent.,

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Originally posted by tiesto14 Well about 4 days ago this wonderful human being told me this: �I am growing such strong feelings for you, and I am too busy in my life to deal with something so serious, considering my work and family situation, so I don�t think we should see each other anymore, I need time�

she's seeing someone else, doesn't want to hurt your feelings

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Originally posted by tiesto14 that is what she said to me�.after she built me up higher then any other girls I have ever encountered in my entire existence�She made me fall in love with her�.madley and head over heals. Here is just a glimmer of what I felt like when I was with her�I will try and make you see�how she took me to a place like no other�.every time I was in her presence this is what it felt like.---� Picture yourself on an Australian beach, with pure white sand and crystal blue waters. Picture yourself in a green meadow with the most wonderful spring flowers. Picture yourself at the ultimate trance party with your favorite DJs Picture yourself driving the care of your dreams Picture yourself on cloud 9 or 7th heaven. Picture yourself at every sunrise and set on the Mediterranean(sp?) Picture yourself waking up in peace Picture yourself in Utopia. Picture yourself walking on freshly cut grass barefoot Picture yourself without any fears. Picture yourself with the girl of your dreams Picture yourself surrounded by the worlds most precious arts Picture yourself during a fresh snowfall Picture yourself floating on your back on a lake on a summers day Picture yourself so in love that sex meant nothing�it didn�t have to be. Picture yourself surrounded by joy day in and day out. Picture yourself listening to the most beautiful love song ever written. Picture yourself reading the most sincere love poem.

the exact reasons you have stated above are the reasons she found someone else. From what you've said in the rest of the thread I've come to the conclusion you like her a lot more than she likes you, and I don't know whether you've been in a relationship like that, but someone feeling that way about you, and you not feeling the same is the worst thing in the world, especially if you value there friendship..but anyway...

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Originally posted by tiesto14 Last night I pain stakingley called her�.not sure why, knowing she said needed time to sort some things out�..but I did�.and this person told me she met someone knew the previous night�.i died.

they'd been out at least twice before she told you she didn't want to see you, trust me. She's probably known him a fair while as well.

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Originally posted by tiesto14 I asked her �how could you do this?�, �How could you tell me I was the best guy for you then do this?� �How do you not care anymore?� I was devistated�my heart shattered in a million pieces�.i cryed and cryed until 7am, pounding beer after beer until I eventually passed out�.

been there done that, never told anyone on the internet about it tho
and I've never ever spent more than 2 days letting it bother me, and I've felt exactly the same way as you have.

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Originally posted by tiesto14 I had actually called her earlier in the evening last night�.and she did not answer her cell phone�..she told me why�and it was because she was talking with HIM�..

theres no bad guy, she can't help the way she feels, deal with it

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Originally posted by tiesto14 How oh how�can soemone speak so much to me then have a complete disregard towards me?�I never lied to her, I never made her cry, I never would of hurt her, she said she was falling in love with me�.now she is with someone new�..she KNEW when I called her early when she was out with him that I was upset�.and I gather she didn�t care and was enjoying her time with this new guy.

as above

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Originally posted by tiesto14 I contimplated finding him and smacking him around�but then I have to remember it is not his fault�it is hers�..

might make you feel better for all of 2 hours until the police come round and notify you the guys pressed charges.

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Originally posted by tiesto14 Why did she tell me she needed fucking time�I guess that was a nice way of saying it is over�but I assume when it all comes down to it�everything she said and did was a down right lie�.

yes, you love her, she doesn't love you, she's seeing someone else, what the fucks she supposed to do, tell you you've got a face like a plate of herpes?? come on, she's obviously not got much experience of dumping people...

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Originally posted by tiesto14 Nothing is worse then wanting the girl of your dreams�except for knowing she doesn�t want you and is with someone else��

true

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Originally posted by tiesto14 When I hung up the phone with her�she said she was tired and had to go�..i told her I would not make it 24 hours with this pain�.and I am scared it might be true�.with every second my tears grow stronger�..my heart grows weaker�..i actually almost gave in��I beg to God all mighty to help me get through this�..

you are a mentalist

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Originally posted by tiesto14 2. Caring � I sometimes get panic attacks�and with her I had one�and she took my hand and I SWEAR TO GOD made me feel better in less then 5 seconds�.she always asks me how I am and if I feel ok�.the type of girl you would not be embarresed to cry with�very sweet and always ready to listen to my problems.

no matter how many women say they want a sensitive, caring man who's not afraid to cry, they're all lying (most of them), the whole panic attack and crying thing is going to make her think you're a weirdo (I do! )

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Originally posted by tiesto14 3. Unselfish � I started jogging again and told her one day that I don�t like to do it because I cant listen to music�and I could not buy a cd player�so next thing I know 2 days later she gives me hers that she used all the time�.and I begged her to take it back..but she would not�always thinking of others.

you have a fat ass, she wanted rid of it, end of

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Originally posted by tiesto14 6. Innocent � she is 20 and has only had sex with 3 guys�far from a slut�which is very good�.

holidays don't count then (just kiddin)

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Originally posted by tiesto14 8. Trustworthy � Since she never cheats I can trust her to be faithful�and for some reson I can sense she wont lie to me�I have extreme trust in her,�which I may add I have never had in ANY girl before.

and she dumped you..... extreme trust is a bad thing

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Originally posted by tiesto14 HERE IS MY FINAL POEM TO HER�.. -Do you know how sometimes you get that feeling -Like this time I�m sure it�s for real? -Do you know how sometimes you think you have control of things -That you are most certain to know how you feel? -Do you know how it feels to listen to every word -Or recall every touch you shared? -Do you know how it feels to have someone for your world -Someone to rescue you when you are lost and scared? -Do you know how it feels to be afraid all the time -Of the other person making you cry? -That you�ll be forced to say such things -As don�t leave, I�m sorry, and finally goodbye? -Do you know how it feels to find someone special -A love like that which is so hard to find? -Do you know how it feels to be madly in love -And then cruely be left behind? -Do you know how it feels to rush things up -Afraid everything will pass too soon? -Do you know the feeling of complete emptiness -When your beloved one leaves the room? -Do you know how courageous one must be -To pick himself up on his feet? -Do you know how hard it is to find away -To again normally eat and sleep? -Do you know how it feels to have your heart crushed -Yet you still have such string feelings, isn�t it just silly? -Do you know what that does to a person? -Do you really? To Tania my first, my last, my everything. why did you do this to me???

mentalist
thats not as cruel as I thought I'd be, guess I was just in a bad mood the other day
how old are you by the way?

my gosh....kodak moment...az is being nice.....

OK forget it...i am done...i spoke to her....she is SHIT......she basically made it clear she is with him cus he has money anddrives a BMW....she is a money hungry HOE....fuck her...good riddens....i am laughing now......glad i spoke to her....made me see TRUE COLORS>....

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Originally posted by tiesto14 OK forget it...i am done...i spoke to her....she is SHIT......she basically made it clear she is with him cus he has money anddrives a BMW....she is a money hungry HOE....fuck her...good riddens....i am laughing now......glad i spoke to her....made me see TRUE COLORS>....

now don't you look silly

Re: Re: That girl i LOVED is now GONE....personal vent.,

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Originally posted by Az she's seeing someone else, doesn't want to hurt your feelings the exact reasons you have stated above are the reasons she found someone else. From what you've said in the rest of the thread I've come to the conclusion you like her a lot more than she likes you, and I don't know whether you've been in a relationship like that, but someone feeling that way about you, and you not feeling the same is the worst thing in the world, especially if you value there friendship..but anyway... they'd been out at least twice before she told you she didn't want to see you, trust me. She's probably known him a fair while as well. been there done that, never told anyone on the internet about it tho and I've never ever spent more than 2 days letting it bother me, and I've felt exactly the same way as you have. theres no bad guy, she can't help the way she feels, deal with it as above might make you feel better for all of 2 hours until the police come round and notify you the guys pressed charges. yes, you love her, she doesn't love you, she's seeing someone else, what the fucks she supposed to do, tell you you've got a face like a plate of herpes?? come on, she's obviously not got much experience of dumping people... true you are a mentalist no matter how many women say they want a sensitive, caring man who's not afraid to cry, they're all lying (most of them), the whole panic attack and crying thing is going to make her think you're a weirdo (I do! ) you have a fat ass, she wanted rid of it, end of holidays don't count then (just kiddin) and she dumped you..... extreme trust is a bad thing mentalist thats not as cruel as I thought I'd be, guess I was just in a bad mood the other day how old are you by the way?

WOW AZ.......you are direct.....i like that......

reason i post on here about this is so i read things like u said.....makes me cope.....

but like my above post she is SHIT.....i am done.....

she actually said her new man wants to fight me....LOL>.i said ok anytime....he is a fucking GINO....eeewwwwwww...lol....

anyway....AZ....i have a NEW foudn respect for you.....thanks for the TRUTH......i was too blind to see it.....now i do.....

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