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All the shy ppl in the world unite! lol

I think I have the best solution for shyness. It might work for some of you, I know it works for me. Have a couple of drinks But don't drink beer, drink hard stuff, but not too much. Works for me most of the time. Usually about 6 does the trick for me, just to get the talking buzz.

When I was younger (15-16 yrs old) I thought that my shyness would go away with age.

Now I'm 21 and still very shy when meeting new girls, because I expect them to be more "experienced" and "mature" than me (unless they're much younger than me).

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Originally posted by Gucio I think I have the best solution for shyness. It might work for some of you, I know it works for me. Have a couple of drinks But don't drink beer, drink hard stuff, but not too much. Works for me most of the time. Usually about 6 does the trick for me, just to get the talking buzz.

yeah i know that, but the problem is that i usually cannot stop myself from drinking more after the 6th.. and my attention span does RADICALLY decrease after a certain amount too, PLUS, the whole slurring part is not really cool

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Originally posted by drizzt81 yeah i know that, but the problem is that i usually cannot stop myself from drinking more after the 6th.. and my attention span does RADICALLY decrease after a certain amount too, PLUS, the whole slurring part is not really cool

I know what you mean about the stopping yourself from drinking. Most of the time when I start, I don't stop until I pass out . I do slurring thing too, sometimes people can't even understand what I am saying. On top of that when I'm really loaded I tend to spit when I speak. That can piss some people off sometimes

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Originally posted by apri_peel all my life i tried to look for ways to overcome my shyness but was never succesful. so if anyone out there has a remedy, please share.

Hey, Trance-Sista', help is on its way!

Here's the way I deal with my shyness. It works for me - so, it will work for anybody
You see, all the time I faced (and still face) stupid situations (or is it me who makes them stipid? ), as a result of which i used to blush, get embaressed and felt frustrated really awesome. I couldn't even ask a shop assistant where I can find product i was looking for or to tell a bus driver to stop where i needed. Well, I wasn't all that shy, but sometimes it really put me down.
But, gradually I realyzed that selfconfidence (as opposing to shyness) won't appear from nothing. You need to train constantly, when you face embaressing circumstances. In a time some kind of confidence reflex will be developed. Just imagine (for guys): you're in a new company, that mostly consists of hot girls. You feel yourself quite uncomfortable. And your friend, to whom you just whispered what you want to do with the most beautiful girl, loudly says that while laughing. You pale, then blush, sweat or feel cold and that girl laughs louder that anybody else . Get it? (for girls it's vice versa)
All your fears is just a disease, which you need to overcome to develop immunity. But, this immunity, despite natural one, require constant support and backing. And, once you'll develop it, it will block this crappy feeling of embarassment and will give you neccesary self-confidence, you always wanted.
So, train yourself everyway you can!

For example, always buy condoms at a drug store, not in those vending-machines (?). At a begining it's quite frustrating, 'cose everyone starts gigling and stuff

Hope it will help you, just as much as it helped me

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Originally posted by Gucio I think I have the best solution for shyness. It might work for some of you, I know it works for me. Have a couple of drinks But don't drink beer, drink hard stuff, but not too much. Works for me most of the time. Usually about 6 does the trick for me, just to get the talking buzz.

Another good trick, but you can't be all the time boozed

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Originally posted by apri_peel sorry, you're right, my advice was aimed a bit at more outgoing ppl i dont know what a shy person can do. i am very shy myself and i usually dont approach ppl i dont know unles i really have to. even the ppl that i know but never really associate with. all my life i tried to look for ways to overcome my shyness but was never succesful. so if anyone out there has a remedy, please share.

Yeah, I used to be shy too a while back.. One day it just went away or I just kept getting more outgoing. I never used to flurt that much a couple of years ago. Now, my mouth is like a pimping little uzi. LOL Soemtimes, it gets me in real trouble..

I study handwriting, my own mostly. I recognize the characteristics that make a person more outgoing than an introverted-reserved type. It's a fun way to learn about oneself. The usual attributes are:

1. The spacing between words: the wider it is the more introverted, the tighter spacing means extraversion.

2. The spacing between letters: The wider = extravesrion, self-expression, very out-going. The tighter spacing = the opposite.

3. Letter widths: The taller the letter, the morre self-contained, self-reserved the person. The wider the letter, the more impulsive, spontaneous, fun-loving, and impatient person.

4. The slant of the handwriting: The more right-slanted enhances all extraversion attributes to extremities. The straight and left-slanted writers show the opposite extremities of introversion.

5. Baseline slant of the sentence: Rising baselines = euphoria, enthusiasm, optimism. Dropping baselines = pessimism, cynicism, depression. Dead straight baselines = balance emotionally.


Have fun.

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Originally posted by Cosmo For example, always buy condoms at a drug store, not in those vending-machines (?). At a begining it's quite frustrating, 'cose everyone starts gigling and stuff

I only buy condoms are drug stores.. where else?!? I mean i want quality guys!

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Originally posted by Cosmo Another good trick, but you can't be all the time boozed

Yeah you can

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Originally posted by Damo this is how it works for guys: if they say they like you as just a friend, then that means they think you're fat and ugly and don't want to hurt your feelings by saying so because it's too much of hassle if you just hang out and you don't classify it as anything, then that means he wants to bop you but is afraid of embarassing himself so he keeps it at a buddy buddy level hoping that it will eventually escalate without any awkwardness. then there's fuck buddies.

SO TRUE!!!!!
so much for guys... so how about gals? need some expert here

.........i saw this thread and a thought came to mine....i love my girlfriend.....

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Originally posted by Stylez I know that the female TA's will probably disagree with me here or get offeneded..but here I go anyways: Treat them like shit!! I was a real asshole to girls...and it was successful. I got tired of that...and became a really nice guy...I fell in love. But girls don't like or want that..they only say it because it sounds good. They want a guy who seems like a challenge that they can try to conquer... not someone who they easily can have. That's why players always get the girls..while the nice guys always finish last. Suxx, but it's true. I recently got out of a 4yr relationship...and TONIGHT... I've decided to go with what worked for me best, and that was to be an asshole. Thank you world, and especially females... u've just turned another nice guy into a major fuckin prick!!!

Hmm.. Interesting Nice to hear that you blame all of the female race just because of one girl that fucked you up. That isn't fair to the rest of us in this world. So what your saying is.. because of one girl's actions, everyone else gets burned for it?... bahaha.. that's nice.. NICE TO KNOW! Let me just say this, WE ARE ALL NOT OUT TO GET YOU!.. and that goes to all men/boys on this forum. I think it's really unfair how girls ruin it for other girls.. and visa versa. There are, believe it or not, sincere, caring, and loving individuals (girls) in this world that AREN'T out to fuck with ur head. I myself have been fucked with one too many times.. but do I get all vexed and say "Okay it's my turn now"?? NO.. because I also realize that all guys aren't like that. I like to give people chances.. call me insane, but that's who I am.. Im not out to get revenge on the male race because of one, two, or three guys who have messed with me and my feelings. ~s~

Haha, Waxen....

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Im not out to get revenge on the male race

No comment, KuteKatie.

Smart Ass

That was COMPLETELY different...

~s~

women want guys to treat them like shit. its pretty much a fact. Ill get some webpages on that for you soon

orbax is exactly right. the cardinal rule with women is that no matter how slutty a woman is, she wants everyone to think that she isn't one...

I do not understand that mentality at all. I certainly do not want to be treated like shit!

~s~

Thou shalt always try to be wise, honest, sensible, virtuous, fair and balanced in thy dealings with thine mates. For what lasting benefit is it to be like the foolish and stupid ones who act out with their immature little games and emotionally destructive dramas? Truly I say to thee, such nonsense would better be replaced with honest constructive two-way communication and rational emotionally balanced states of mind.(Palivar 35:2)


Control thine emotions.(Palivar 204:19)

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Originally posted by Slylee

"Thou shalt not envy thy neighbor's snow wong" (Palivar 238:482)

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I certainly do not want to be treated like shit!

yes you do...

if you really think that women want to be treated like shit then good luck to you finding a real woman that you can honestly care about

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Originally posted by apri_peel if you really think that women want to be treated like shit then good luck to you finding a real woman that you can honestly care about

i dont know about that...my thoughts...girls love attention but when you give them too much they find it comfortable to deal with at their disposal. it's a guys sure fire way to enticing a chick. show her you care about her, and when she gets too comfortable with you and begins to ignore you, you drop her and back off...most of the times they'll get curious and wonder why you arent all up in their shit. i know this cuz im hurting as we speak...a girl i care for and slowly falling for is clearly adapted to my ways and begining to not care so much about how i feel. time for me to back off...hopefully things will pull through since i really like this girl.

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Originally posted by DJ Teknique .........i saw this thread and a thought came to mine....i love my girlfriend.....

Same here... Well, I don't love YOUR girlfriend... LOL... But reading this makes me realize how much I love MY girlfriend...

Yeah my 2nd to last GF tried to play me, she used to always talk about how all these guys wanted her, and like If I did anything wrong (by her standards) that She would prolly go after one of them. also she would say how all these other guys were so nice to her, and how they didnt listen to that stuipid techno crap (I like trance no techno Bitch!!!!!). So one day we fucked, then I groped her best friend 5 minutes later HAHAHA

my anger is slightly vented

ooh then I dumped her the next day.... ahh there it is there went the anger

ooh and having her beg me to go back out with her for months did nothing but raise my self esteem beyond belief

but since then I have had a good relationshipa, but the person was too differant so it just didnt work out, sooo good luck in the future man. I say dump the chick and find a new one, I realized that its not worth putting up with that crap, because its just their messed up defense mechanism beacuse they dont want to get hurt, when in reality all it does is piss you off and make you break up with them.

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