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Posted by noikeee on Mar-19-2008 03:12:

quote:
Originally posted by tubularbills
ok, that's what i thought you were referring too, lol

i've always (at least for the most part), have just been myself. sometimes it worked, and lots of fun was had...and other times it didn't, and no fun was had. it's not really about *your* actions or *his/her* actions...its about *both* people's actions. if there's chemistry/spark, then you'll freakin' know it right off the bat. if you feel like you're sitting at the dr's office waiting for a tooth to be pulled, well then, maybe you should cut your losses and move on (unless you're into that sort of thing ) .

i think this goes w/ regular friends too...you can't force people to be friends with you....you just have to act like you normally would, and if they clik with you, then great.

Yeah, I agree. Altho leading the whole thing consciously somewhere, instead of letting it flow, can be useful in some occasions - but you can't really force it past a point.

Your friends analogy is spot on. That's what I find so frustrating myself, I hardly ever get things to "click" with girls.

Posted by kadomony on Mar-19-2008 03:12:

quote:
Originally posted by tubularbills
since when is it the guys responsibility?

since gender roles were assigned to all sexually reproducing creatures.

Posted by tubularbills on Mar-19-2008 03:12:

quote:
Originally posted by Nrg2Nfinit
if a chick makes the first move she's gonna wear tthe pants for the rest of the relationship..

nah, not necessarily.

Posted by tubularbills on Mar-19-2008 03:14:

quote:
Originally posted by noikeee

Your friends analogy is spot on. That's what I find so frustrating myself, I hardly ever get things to "click" with girls.

sorry

is it absolutely necessary to do that at your stage in life right now, however? i mean, do you *have* to be with someone? why not enjoy single life, and hang out w/ your good friends? you know?

Posted by wizniz on Mar-19-2008 03:14:

guys arent there other forums for this?

ON TOPIC:

Posted by Lira on Mar-19-2008 03:14:

That's why I like short women: My farts are far more devastating than hers.

Posted by Frenchie on Mar-19-2008 03:14:

Why are you afraid of a girl to be able to take charge sometimes? Doesn't mean she's going to play boss.

Posted by tubularbills on Mar-19-2008 03:14:

quote:
Originally posted by kadomony
since gender roles were assigned to all sexually reproducing creatures.

hey, if she wants to get preggorz, she's gotta be just as much into it. if she can't get me to get it up, well then she ain't gettin' my seed , yo

Posted by Ania_xox on Mar-19-2008 03:16:

quote:
Originally posted by kadomony
that being said, it's still up to the guy to do all he can to make the experience as enjoyable as possible for both parties.

That is such BULL SHIT! LOL
WTF??? Where do you get these ideas? You make dating sound like a monolithic male burden!
Damn son... you sound like you've been dating prissy snots.

It's not "up to" anyone to do anything. You're going out b/c there's something connecting you and you want to explore that. Why should this situation be clouded over with conventions and rules and traditional roles?

First date of my longest relationship... it was a day date and at one point I bought us both frozen yogurt. We were talking so much that neither of us noticed who paid and we laughed about it later.

Posted by kadomony on Mar-19-2008 03:18:

quote:
Originally posted by tubularbills
hey, if she wants to get preggorz, she's gotta be just as much into it. if she can't get me to get it up, well then she ain't gettin' my seed , yo

agreed, but i mean it's mainly up to the guy to build the attraction up to a level where the girl feels comfortable giving an equal amount.
inter-dependence, not co-dependence.

Posted by tubularbills on Mar-19-2008 03:19:

quote:
Originally posted by Ania_xox

It's not "up to" anyone to do anything. You're going out b/c there's something connecting you and you want to explore that. Why should this situation be clouded over with conventions and rules and traditional roles?

i kinda agree. i don't think you can fully get away from traditional roles (nor does that have to be the case all the time anyways), but i think it can go that way evry so once in awhile .

quote:
Originally posted by kadomony
agreed, but i mean it's mainly up to the guy to build the attraction up to a level where the girl feels comfortable giving an equal amount.
inter-dependence, not co-dependence.

troof.

Posted by noikeee on Mar-19-2008 03:20:

quote:
Originally posted by tubularbills
sorry

is it absolutely necessary to do that at your stage in life right now, however? i mean, do you *have* to be with someone?

pen0r says yes

quote:
why not enjoy single life, and hang out w/ your good friends? you know?

but yeah, that's the right attitude. just hanging out with the folks, not caring/stressing out about anything, and trying to have fun. that's closer to the attitude that gets chicks attracted too, so it all fits together.

Posted by Alex on Mar-19-2008 03:20:

quote:
Originally posted by Ania_xox
That is such BULL SHIT! LOL
WTF??? Where do you get these ideas? You make dating sound like a monolithic male burden!
Damn son... you sound like you've been dating prissy snots.

It's not "up to" anyone to do anything. You're going out b/c there's something connecting you and you want to explore that. Why should this situation be clouded over with conventions and rules and traditional roles?

First date of my longest relationship... it was a day date and at one point I bought us both frozen yogurt. We were talking so much that neither of us noticed who paid and we laughed about it later.

Good to know some ladies out there are still cool and don't force us poor dudes into awkward situations over and over just to see how we handle it!

Posted by Lira on Mar-19-2008 03:21:

quote:
Originally posted by Frenchie
Why are you afraid of a girl to be able to take charge sometimes? Doesn't mean she's going to play boss.

True that, equal rights.

But just in case, they must be shorter than I am.

Posted by tubularbills on Mar-19-2008 03:22:

quote:
Originally posted by noikeee
pen0r says yes

that my friend, is what random floozies are for. lol j/k

quote:

but yeah, that's the right attitude. just hanging out with the folks, not caring/stressing out about anything, and trying to have fun. that's closer to the attitude that gets chicks attracted too, so it all fits together.

that's what i've been doing for the most part for awhile now, and honestly, i feel happier that way.

of course getting older sucks when you start seeing people get married and shit, but whatever. lol

Posted by verndogs on Mar-19-2008 03:22:

quote:
Originally posted by tubularbills
is it absolutely necessary to do that at your stage in life right now, however? i mean, do you *have* to be with someone? why not enjoy single life, and hang out w/ your good friends? you know?

After giving up on the notoriously brutal NYC dating scene around 2 years ago, I decided to just that and enjoy my freedom. I've been much happier ever since

Posted by tubularbills on Mar-19-2008 03:22:

quote:
Originally posted by Lira
True that, equal rights.

But just in case, they must be shorter than I am.

i've always liked women my height or taller. same height is ideal...awesome way to look into their eyes

Posted by MeLLyMeL on Mar-19-2008 03:23:

my goodness...

Does there have to be long posts in this stupid thread?

Posted by MeLLyMeL on Mar-19-2008 03:25:

quote:
Originally posted by tubularbills
i've always liked women my height or taller. same height is ideal...awesome way to look into their eyes
you better be tall!

lol

I like my guys tall and i'm a fuking shortyyyyyyyy!

Thankfully my pollack is like 10 or 9 inches bigger than me. I can wear my highest heels. rawR!

Posted by Lira on Mar-19-2008 03:25:

quote:
Originally posted by tubularbills
i've always liked women my height or taller. same height is ideal...awesome way to look into their eyes

Yeah but that way you're both equally vulnerable!

What good will your farts be?!

Posted by UmmiE on Mar-19-2008 03:26:

quote:
Originally posted by Frenchie
Why are you afraid of a girl to be able to take charge sometimes? Doesn't mean she's going to play boss.

You have train them at an early age and make sure.....They do exactly how and what you say.

e.g:- ( potty training )

Posted by Fibonacci on Mar-19-2008 03:27:

quote:
Originally posted by UmmiE
You have train them at an early age and make sure.....They do exactly how and twat you say.

e.g:- ( potty training )

fixed

Posted by tubularbills on Mar-19-2008 03:27:

quote:
Originally posted by MeLLyMeL
you better be tall!

lol, i'm only 5'10" . which i don't think is "tall" by any means. i guess for women it is, tho

and yeah, you're short cause you fit on that tricycle, lol, goddamn that's one funny as fuckin photo

Posted by MeLLyMeL on Mar-19-2008 03:27:

quote:
Originally posted by kadomony
that being said, it's still up to the guy to do all he can to make the experience as enjoyable as possible for both parties. if he's done all he can and the girl still isnt into the whole thing then she's probably got some emotional/mental problems that are best left alone haha
i like the way u think.

guys are the assholes most of the time so i like for guys to show the interest in ME first before I give out my interest.

And it's also to make sure he just doesn't want my nani.

Posted by MeLLyMeL on Mar-19-2008 03:28:

quote:
Originally posted by tubularbills
lol, i'm only 5'10" . which i don't think is "tall" by any means. i guess for women it is, tho

and yeah, you're short cause you fit on that tricycle, lol, goddamn that's one funny as fuckin photo
i am 5'0 brother!

the front tire of that tri was flat and i didn't know. i was trying to pedal while the pic was being taken and i got no where

/fail!

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