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Originally posted by Theresa Wow... didn't expect that from you Yohan. LoL! Is there anyone here with some fricken sanity!??! Twenty thousand on a wedding?!??! *le sigh* Ok, the people who are saying you would drop that much on a wedding, are you getting financial help (are parents pitching in too?), or is it all coming out of your pocket? I would much rather spend $5000 on a wedding and put the other 15 toward a house, or a car, or a long trip, or toward paying off school loans.... SOMETHING more valuable, something I could show for it (aside from some pictures and video), something that will help the quality of my life in the future with my new husband. Being able to invite 150 people (most of whom I don't care about, nor know,) is not important to me. Closest friends and family is more intimate and special IMO. ONE DAY EVENT!! A day that you're all stressed out, you're tired and probably for the most part too distracted with all the little things to really enjoy it... And you're going to drop 20 G's all in one shot on it? People are friggen nuts.

1. I wouldn't spend 20k on wedding itself...

2. I probably wouldn't invite a lot of people, but the people I do invite do get an option to bring someone with them. It's just etiquette.

3. Sometimes the bride and the groom doesn't even get to pick their invitees... Crazy parents and grandparents lol

4. The wedding is a social function... And it's not all about you and your bride (or groom)... It's a social function, and it has been ever since Ogg Ogg and Ooola decided to formalize their frisky business.

edit: You allow that +1 per guest because sometimes all your guests don't know each other. One person may not know anyone else at all. So instead of being a stranger to everyone (and you certainly won't be able to keep that loner guest entertained all the time) the +1 means that person has someone else to talk to

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Originally posted by Theresa ONE DAY EVENT!!...And you're going to drop 20 G's all in one shot on it?

You seem dense. malek just explained to you perfectly why an expensive wedding doesn't turn out to be as expensive as you think. His 20K wedding cost him 2.5K...right?

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Originally posted by OrZonE You seem dense. malek just explained to you perfectly why an expensive wedding doesn't turn out to be as expensive as you think. His 20K wedding cost him 2.5K...right?

It isn't the same, and I don't think it really works out. Getting 4 toasters that I wont get to use anyway doesn't really go against the money spent on the wedding.

And really, not everyone spends $150 on your gift. Not to mention, with a lot of +1's the gifts are joint, so you have 2 heads with one gift.

You can't really hope that your gift value is going to make the wedding financially worth it. Besides, why spend the money on a massive wedding in hopes to get gifts when I could go and use the money to buy what I like to begin with, and not end up with 4 toasters?

His 20K wedding cost him 20K, and he got maybe 10K worth of shit out of it... a big portion of it I am willing to bet he doesn't use, or like.

Theresa, do you live under an overpass?

no, my wedding cost more than 20g, closer to 30g. I cheaped out on some things that I now regret like the flowers for example...

And like i said, we got almost 18g in cash that was used to pay what was left to pay.

Honnestly, what I paid from my pocket mostly went on the honeymoon vacations, photographer, her dress and some other little things.

The reception itself was largely paid by the gifts and then some.

And people only brought money, no toasters

yeah but you married a hot chick malek...if they are ugly it should be chucky cheese.

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Originally posted by malek And people only brought money, no toasters

that's mint. I'm gonna get married if that happens

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Originally posted by Theresa And really, not everyone spends $150 on your gift. Not to mention, with a lot of +1's the gifts are joint, so you have 2 heads with one gift.

oh my, 2 people = bigger gift.

I think we had a couple of family with no manners (from her side ) that gave like 100$ for three people, but that was it, the rest averaged at over 100$ a head.

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Originally posted by Theresa It isn't the same, and I don't think it really works out. Getting 4 toasters that I wont get to use anyway doesn't really go against the money spent on the wedding. And really, not everyone spends $150 on your gift. Not to mention, with a lot of +1's the gifts are joint, so you have 2 heads with one gift. You can't really hope that your gift value is going to make the wedding financially worth it. Besides, why spend the money on a massive wedding in hopes to get gifts when I could go and use the money to buy what I like to begin with, and not end up with 4 toasters? His 20K wedding cost him 20K, and he got maybe 10K worth of shit out of it... a big portion of it I am willing to bet he doesn't use, or like.

Why is the worth of the gifts even a consideration?

Gifts are just something extra. (and I wouldn't care what the gifts are worth, as long as it's thoughtful and considerate)

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Originally posted by elFreak yeah but you married a hot chick malek...if they are ugly it should be chucky cheese.

theresa have you considered McDonalds for the wedding?? that would save you alot!

with online wedding registries, the possibility of getting 4 toasters is very mnml

Who would have the guts to give a toaster in the first place?

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Originally posted by malek Who would have the guts to give a toaster in the first place?

Theresa, obviously. Which I also wouldn't mind cos i could use a new one.

i usually give them gift certificates to winners.

I'm surprised by the amount of normal responses in here. Would have expected more cheapskates and insensitivity to serious illness.

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Originally posted by malek theresa have you considered McDonalds for the wedding?? that would save you alot!

Also, i think you get a 0.01 % tax discount by beeing married..

LOL!

I WOULD LOL AT ALL THIS CHEAP WEDDINGS

I'm one of those people who are very generous when it comes to wedding gifts/money but I think it's funny if you expect the people attending to give you enough money to pay your wedding off. "We're getting married so now YOU fork over the money" Like.. excuse you?

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Originally posted by Frenchie I'm one of those people who are very generous when it comes to wedding gifts/money but I think it's funny if you expect the people attending to give you enough money to pay your wedding off. "We're getting married so now YOU fork over the money" Like.. excuse you?

I'm going to require down payments.

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Originally posted by inconspicuous I'm going to require down payments.

Only if we can choose our own payment plan.

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Originally posted by Frenchie I'm one of those people who are very generous when it comes to wedding gifts/money but I think it's funny if you expect the people attending to give you enough money to pay your wedding off. "We're getting married so now YOU fork over the money" Like.. excuse you?

It might be cultural differences, but in ours, its implicit that your gift has to cover your drinks and meal, its etiquette to do that, most people give more. No one has been told to give a certain amount of money or to even give gifts, its just how it works for us.

A wedding is like any party in the sense of if you cannot afford it you should not have one. You probably should not be alowed to reproduce either.

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Originally posted by Frenchie Only if we can choose our own payment plan.

due pre-invite. no highway.

You might as well ask your attendees to pay for the future divorce as well.

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