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I think he should have sent her more roses

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Originally posted by speedracer_mec I was the scapegoat of her past 8yr jealous relationships

now your just pointing the finger, that isn't gonna get anything accomplished now is it? I mean after all as long as you believe you werent in the wrong thats all that REALLY matters right? .

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Originally posted by Lira It's got nothing to do with you being a nice guy - this "nice guys finish last" excuse is just a lame attempt from the so-called "nice guys" to blame everything but themselves. Can't be arsed to read all the posts but, next time, don't anticipate things by blowing them out of proportion.

Listen to the man, speedracer.

Every man and woman is in control of their own destiny - you are your own person. The only ownership anybody could ever have on you is granted permissible by your submission - but it's always revocable. Thus, you are responsible for yourself and yourself, alone. Children are the only exception to this, and you are sounding more and more like one of those.

Don't change yourself to treat women like shit - worthwhile women don't like that. If you don't have the integrity to respect future mate(s), then the chances are that you truly don't deserve them. Be your own person - live your life and be a little more careful about who you subject your "love" to from now on - it's all that any of us can do after being hurt simularily like this. Don't let this girl win by changing yourself; have faith that you will find the perfect companion someday - whether that's a woman, a sport, or just a great friend, all are alleviations of our loneliness in this life. Don't become lost in your own emotion - remember why you're putting yourself through this all in the first place, and I think you will have all the guide that you need.

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Originally posted by igottaknow I think he should have sent her more roses

Useless fact: I heard in Korea lovers give one another 100 roses when they celebrate their 100th day together.

(A korean girl said this, don't blame me)

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Originally posted by Stassi 1. delete this thread

bad idea, other people can learn from this thread and not make the same mistakes. Ive heard cases like these all the time.

anyways, speedracer, you might want to forget about this but the truth is, you never will. Even if you do, memories will come back every now and then and you'll be stuck wondering "what if". Look at it on the bright side though, it was a good lesson, learn from it. Just because this happened dosent mean you dont have to be nice though. being nice wasnt your problem, your problem was letting your emotions get the best of you. You were letting your heart guide you instead of your brain.
In the end, you got nothing and she got a letter.

let me ask you something though, after all you did for her and all that happened, was it worth it? was she worth it?

I know ...Ill always be a nice guy regardless.

Im a mess right now...sigh*

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Originally posted by Halcyon+On+On

*claps*
very nice, i couldnt put that to words any better.

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Originally posted by speedracer_mec I know ...Ill always be a nice guy regardless. Im a mess right now...sigh*

ya know speed, I too am a nice guy, and I tried being an asshole to girls for a change and i just felt terrible all the time. All in all, be yourself and good things will happen. Do things YOU want to do, listen to songs YOU want to listen, not what others tell you and most importantly if you stay true to yourself you will find a girl that loves you for you, and not some bonehead ex-boyfriend she had for 8 years that shes trying to transform you to.

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Originally posted by speedracer_mec Im a mess right now...

Go get some sleed and then when you wake up, pretend this thread was posted by some other TA and try to see this as an outsider.

Not even half of what happened was necessary. You weren't being nice: you were being desperate.

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Originally posted by Lira Go get some sleed and then when you wake up, pretend this thread was posted by some other TA and try to see this as an outsider. Not even half of what happened was necessary. You weren't being nice: you were being desperate.

so this is all my fault?
I caused the ultimate doom u say?

sigh* now i feel worst.

I need positivity

fuck the bitch with baggage! damn her for leading you on. you'll find a girl that will treat you right someday till than good luck

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Originally posted by speedracer_mec so this is all my fault? I caused the ultimate doom u say? sigh* now i feel worst. I need positivity

Speedy, it's no one's fault. There was a situation: a cause and a consequence. Both of you could've handled differently.

Positivity? Remember you're always learning. Try to act more rationally. She spent 8 years with jealous people, you say? Don't expect her to forget her past. She could also remember you're not them, but she was too attached to the image of "boyfriend" she had. If it didn't work, you hopefully learned something new. If you guys manage to re-build the relationship, she'll remember that she can't judge you based on other people, and you should learn not to expect her to think the way you do.

Don't be hard on yourself, Speedy. Life's not what happens to you, but how you manage to deal with these things

Hey you, no supporting him!

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Originally posted by speedracer_mec so this is all my fault? I caused the ultimate doom u say? sigh* now i feel worst. I need positivity

here's an idea: stop feeling sorry for yourself and trying to incite sympathy by *sighing* all the time. you live, you learn, move on.

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Originally posted by Halcyon+On+On Hey you, no supporting him!

Huh?

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Originally posted by bobba lou EDIT: After reading all that stuff. You are too soft bro. Treat these whores like dirt....and you will get by.....Mopp the floor with these bitchesssssssssssss....NIce guy never wins...

true true

she msged me on aim..

MY AFK msg was: Al Pacino My style- So say goodnight to the nice guy, last time you're gonna see a nice guy like this again."

She said: PLs dont hate me.

I still want to talk to you,

then later on when we talked a bit she was saying : I care about you....

nice guys don't necessarily finish last...
when nice guys are in last place, they wonder how could this have happened and don't do anything about it or anything different
when bad guys are in last place, they don't sit looking for sympathy
i feel like the reason the phrase has so much truth is only because you never hear the 'bad guys' complaining
idk

and how long were you guys together, two months if i remember?
thats really not very long ya know...
i've had some friends for years now and i'm sitll learnin shit about em

Good.

Do whatever it takes to not be a fucking moron about it. Respond to her if you want to and you feel good about it, don't talk to her at all if it gives you a bad feeling. You're going to need to learn to trust yourself.

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Originally posted by mezzir nice guys don't necessarily finish last... when nice guys are in last place, they wonder how could this have happened and don't do anything about it or anything different when bad guys are in last place, they don't sit looking for sympathy i feel like the reason the phrase has so much truth is only because you never hear the 'bad guys' complaining idk and how long were you guys together, two months if i remember? thats really not very long ya know... i've had some friends for years now and i'm sitll learnin shit about em

24 7 slept together every night, walked each other to class and back every day, partied together, ate together....

she went to my highschool, ive known her for 8yrs

sad i got zero tolerance because of those asswhips...

Maybe if i dated her in high school i would have managed...sigh*

it might be hard to at the moment because of all the "drama", but you really do need to move on

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Originally posted by speedracer_mec 24 7 slept together every night, walked each other to class and back every day, partied together, ate together.... she went to my highschool, ive known her for 8yrs sad i got zero tolerance because of those asswhips... Maybe if i dated her in high school i would have managed...sigh*

you sound like you wanna marry this girl
kinda creepy.

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Originally posted by speedracer_mec 24 7 slept together every night, walked each other to class and back every day, partied together, ate together.... she went to my highschool, ive known her for 8yrs sad i got zero tolerance because of those asswhips... Maybe if i dated her in high school i would have managed...sigh*

known her for 8 yrs or known her for 8 years?
Because it sounds like you guys were best of friends, so i find it pretty sad how she fucked you over. If you have
known her for 8 years maybe you couldve predicted this before it happened.

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Originally posted by speedracer_mec 24 7 slept together every night, walked each other to class and back every day, partied together, ate together.... she went to my highschool, ive known her for 8yrs sad i got zero tolerance because of those asswhips... Maybe if i dated her in high school i would have managed...sigh*

so you knew her for 8 years, then for the past two months went out?

well did you always feel this way for her?

well not best friends...but we know each other

I guess known of her..or w/e now

she was with those dudes for that time hehe....she basically said she thought I was pretty cute but we didnt dig deep into how we were...which we did in these past 2months.

So i guess i was wrong..didnt know her.

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