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Originally posted by dance2dabeat and u get to meet him in Augest !!!!!! soooo excited!!!

seriously, Croatia produces the most gorgeous men

Wow! I can't believe the life in this thread after 1 day.
I must say, it's sooooo refreshing to hear positive things from the female perspective and the maturity shown in this thread far exceeded my expectations. I would have assumed there would have been way more man-hating/womanizing comments, thank god there isn't. Kelly, I haven't seen you in years, it's so nice to see you've found somebody, you deserve it! I'm very happy for all you girls in here that have that sparkle in your eye when you think of your partner.

The question I have fo ryou now is... have you always been "relationship" type people??? Cause I often think that if you are consistently in a relationship, it's much easier for you to work on them, therefore you become a better girlfriend/boyfriend. I haven't been in a serious relationship in years, god knows how long it's been, but I wonder is that going to be a major setback when the time comes for me to put my best foot forward. I wouldn't say I'd be totally lost, but I will say, that I have more often than not only had to think about myself, instead of including another person.

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Originally posted by FunkyCrew seriously, Croatia produces the most gorgeous men

oh fuckin right!! haha better get my gf to read this!

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Originally posted by FunkyCrew seriously, Croatia produces the most gorgeous men

uh huh


girls too :P

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Originally posted by English Rachel And most boys don't become men until they are 40.

You don't seriously believe that, do you?

If you're looking primarily in clubs/bars or on sites where people talk non-stop about drugs and Tiesto, then the age of maturity might be a little skewed. But for most guys, this age is somewhere between 20 and 25, usually within a few years after they leave the academic bubble and start having to make their own living. Sometimes people get by for longer due to good luck or mooching, but nobody makes it all the way to 40 that way.

And I'm pretty sure you'd peg the same range for women - not that there has to be gender equality on every front, but I think "maturity" is so subjective anyway that it's a ridiculous criteria to be drawing those lines for.

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Originally posted by malek we're now married.

I'm a bit surprised by the fact that you met online... I thought you either met at Aria or broke the ice while doing a random street photo shoot.

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Originally posted by Mortyman Cause I often think that if you are consistently in a relationship, it's much easier for you to work on them, therefore you become a better girlfriend/boyfriend. I haven't been in a serious relationship in years, god knows how long it's been, but I wonder is that going to be a major setback when the time comes for me to put my best foot forward. I wouldn't say I'd be totally lost, but I will say, that I have more often than not only had to think about myself, instead of including another person.

I think your reasoning is ok, makes sense to me. I mean you have SOME frame of reference in being in a relationship so that will obviously help and it IS a lot easier if you are constantly in relationships to continue the pattern. But it's not a huge obstacle if you haven't been in one in a while. (at least I don't think it would be in your case.) (I'm not talking from the relationship point of view obviously...just figure I'd comment anyway if that's cool).

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Originally posted by Mortyman Kelly, I haven't seen you in years, it's so nice to see you've found somebody, you deserve it! I'm very happy for all you girls in here that have that sparkle in your eye when you think of your partner. The question I have fo ryou now is... have you always been "relationship" type people??? Cause I often think that if you are consistently in a relationship, it's much easier for you to work on them, therefore you become a better girlfriend/boyfriend. I haven't been in a serious relationship in years, god knows how long it's been, but I wonder is that going to be a major setback when the time comes for me to put my best foot forward. I wouldn't say I'd be totally lost, but I will say, that I have more often than not only had to think about myself, instead of including another person.

so glad u posted this thread my friend.

as for experience in relationships yes I have dated quite a bit and have been through good times and bad times...but either way, you must know all that is VERY IRRELAVANT...b/c once you meet the one you are meant to be with you'll just become the best person you can ever be..inside and out. It just works....yeah ppl say love takes work and yada yada but in the end I think true love just works out all on it's own if it's meant to be. Thanks how it all happened for me anyway

Good luck to you!!

Ever notice that almost every woman's profile has one or both of the following:

1) "I like to travel"

2) "I like a guy who makes me laugh" ?


What do they really mean?

Do long-distance relationships after you first met in person count? I was always a true believer in online/phone relationships until recently.

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Originally posted by dance2dabeat so glad u posted this thread my friend.

I figureed TA could use a little TLC, I knew this would bring out the girls, but not for my benefit, but everyone who's wondering the same things I am

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Originally posted by dance2dabeat as for experience in relationships yes I have dated quite a bit and have been through good times and bad times...but either way, you must know all that is VERY IRRELAVANT...b/c once you meet the one you are meant to be with you'll just become the best person you can ever be..inside and out. It just works....yeah ppl say love takes work and yada yada but in the end I think true love just works out all on it's own if it's meant to be. Thanks how it all happened for me anyway Good luck to you!!

That's the best thing I will read today! Kelly, you couldn't have put it any better to raise someone's spirits! (not that I was feeling insecure )
Thanks

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Originally posted by Mortyman I figureed TA could use a little TLC, I knew this would bring out the girls, but not for my benefit, but everyone who's wondering the same things I am That's the best thing I will read today! Kelly, you couldn't have put it any better to raise someone's spirits! (not that I was feeling insecure ) Thanks

anyone with a "Kris" part in their first name must be wonderful

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Originally posted by fayraree Do long-distance relationships after you first met in person count? I was always a true believer in online/phone relationships until recently.

what happened babes?

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Originally posted by Mortyman The question I have fo ryou now is... have you always been "relationship" type people??? Cause I often think that if you are consistently in a relationship, it's much easier for you to work on them, therefore you become a better girlfriend/boyfriend.

I'm not speaking for myself because frankly I think I've beaten anyone on this site for being with someone the longest (going on 10+ years now...almost 6 years of marriage) but to add a different perspective in terms of a few close friends of mine I think after a while if you haven't been in a relationship you should work extra hard when you end up in one to brush up on those skills.

I have two friends I met around the same time, guy and a girl. For the life of me I can't remember either of them being in a serious relationship having known them each around 4 years. They both basically drift and "see" people but nothing special comes out of it. They both seem to not even try and give up far too quickly if the person they are seeing isn't perfect. I used to think they were picky but now I wonder if they have become so used to being single that they are not able to have healthy relationships with someone. It is quite possible because as one moves to different stages in life alone they start to feel they don't need anyone to be happy. Either that or they just are too lazy to deal with being in a relationship because they really are work...(probably the best effort you can make as the rewards are amazing if it works out)

I actually think it's really good Mortyman and commend you and anyone else who actually wants to be in a relationship and works at finding one.

Good luck to you!

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Originally posted by riskytrader I have two friends I met around the same time, guy and a girl. For the life of me I can't remember either of them being in a serious relationship having known them each around 4 years. They both basically drift and "see" people but nothing special comes out of it. They both seem to not even try and give up far too quickly if the person they are seeing isn't perfect. I used to think they were picky but now I wonder if they have become so used to being single that they are not able to have healthy relationships with someone. It is quite possible because as one moves to different stages in life alone they start to feel they don't need anyone to be happy. Either that or they just are too lazy to deal with being in a relationship because they really are work...(probably the best effort you can make as the rewards are amazing if it works out) I actually think it's really good Mortyman and commend you and anyone else who actually wants to be in a relationship and works at finding one.

You see, this is exactly where I kinda feel like I'm fitting into.
But what Kelly said before brings light to the end of that tunnel

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Originally posted by Mortyman You see, this is exactly where I kinda feel like I'm fitting into. But what Kelly said before brings light to the end of that tunnel

Don't worry...they are lame to the nth degree tho...don't really do much besides work...at least you party! There's always hope the more people you meet

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Originally posted by Spin Laden one of the good thing about online dating is that it allows ppl the oppurtunity to express themselves a little more honestly, to strip away the pretentiousness, etc.

It's the exact opposite really. I used to be on a website called MMTO, whose main purpose it was to pick up. This is what I used it for originally, but I started to get really bored and annoyed with profile hunting (I later started using it just for the forums). I found most of the people on that site projected an image of what they wish they were, but in real life were usually really shy and nothing like what they made themselves seem to be. It is a lot easier to socialize and make yourself seem like a confident person online since a lot of people feel a lot less akward when communicating online.

Secondly, I find that these online dating profile sites really inflates girls' egos. Because of the artificial confidence I just mentioned, suddenly every guy who is too nervous to talk to girls in person is messaging every single girl he thinks is hot. You then have girls getting tons of messages everyday, which boosts her ego like crazy. Sorry, but I don't feel the need to compete with 50 losers to get a girl's attention.

Also, even if you do end up finding a girl who's intersting, I find the whole online courting thing to be a bit lame and something that I'm not really interested learning how to do. "Hi babie u look sexi, and ur so funny haha wanna go for dinner?"

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Originally posted by The Highroller suddenly every guy who is too nervous to talk to girls in person is messaging every single girl he thinks is hot. You then have girls getting tons of messages everyday, which boosts her ego like crazy. Sorry, but I don't feel the need to compete with 50 losers to get a girl's attention.

hahaha www.tranceaddict.com

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Originally posted by ShadoWolf I'm a bit surprised by the fact that you met online... I thought you either met at Aria or broke the ice while doing a random street photo shoot.

hahahaahah aria and my wife don't go in the same sentence

I agree with Highroller, the guy I used to hang out with throughout university couldn't even talk to a girl in a social circumstance to save his life. Not that he was shy, he just didn't have anything interesting to say, or was really scared of rejection.
He got into online dating, and holy shit I mean he got into it... my other buddy and I were on his laptop once... no matter what letter we typed, there'd be something in his history showing up that started with that letter and ended with "girls" or "dating":
albaniangirls.com
braziliangirls.com
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venusiangirls.com!!!

Anyway, this guy had 80 girls on his MSN in a matter of months... he'd talk to every one of them with this macho/gangster sense of selfconfidence, "hey, you want me to f*** you? I don't give a f**k about you, so f**k off bitch" blah blah blah.

So, as far as I can tell most of these sites are full of horny guys + 20-30 girls either thinking they're gonna find "love" or a sugar-daddy!

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Originally posted by The Highroller It's the exact opposite really. I used to be on a website called MMTO, whose main purpose it was to pick up. This is what I used it for originally, but I started to get really bored and annoyed with profile hunting (I later started using it just for the forums). I found most of the people on that site projected an image of what they wish they were, but in real life were usually really shy and nothing like what they made themselves seem to be. It is a lot easier to socialize and make yourself seem like a confident person online since a lot of people feel a lot less akward when communicating online. Secondly, I find that these online dating profile sites really inflates girls' egos. Because of the artificial confidence I just mentioned, suddenly every guy who is too nervous to talk to girls in person is messaging every single girl he thinks is hot. You then have girls getting tons of messages everyday, which boosts her ego like crazy. Sorry, but I don't feel the need to compete with 50 losers to get a girl's attention. Also, even if you do end up finding a girl who's intersting, I find the whole online courting thing to be a bit lame and something that I'm not really interested learning how to do. "Hi babie u look sexi, and ur so funny haha wanna go for dinner?"

Wow, totally agree. You summed up my biggest gripes with those sites.

lol, there was an article somewhere about how some ppl have "online attention deficit disorder" when it comes to finding a mate. They just go profile hunting (ie, height, income, race, looks) and disregard really getting to know the person, and usually have a shopping cart full of dates for the week.

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Originally posted by The Highroller Also, even if you do end up finding a girl who's intersting, I find the whole online courting thing to be a bit lame and something that I'm not really interested learning how to do. "Hi babie u look sexi, and ur so funny haha wanna go for dinner?"

Yea that's what turns me away really...

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Originally posted by Endlesswave Depends on the context, for me at least. Positive energy isn't an issue usually (at least nowadays) as for smiling, I have to have a buzz going as I can't smile on command, unless I'm laughing or something. A "in the moment" type of smile I guess? lol I get the "you should smile more" comment a lot.

lies!!!

we were laughing with smiles going around the last time we had a conversation! you're a funny guy man!

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Originally posted by Abercrombie \ ...because you NEVER know.

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