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Bahahaha! Just have to remember that your child literally does not know what we know, and our job is to help them navigate and manage their emotions and behaviour. I think adults have way too high of expectations of young children (expecting them to just obey like dogs, ahem), and the better you understand where their brain is actually at at each developmental stage, the better you can help them not act like a fucking asshole, lol. At the very least that knowledge will allow you to be more patient/not lose it when your kid is doing something that is completely appropriate/expected for their age.

To add to that, the goal is to teach your kid how to behave without constantly being micromanaged by an adult with the stops, nos, and don'ts, etc. The older they get, the better they will (should) be able to self regulate. Consistently enforced age appropriate limits. Etc.

I dunno, I don't think it's complicated, but to raise a well behaved kid who isn't an annoying dickhead definitely requires diligent engagement and no short cuts.

^^ plz link to utubez vid of that! I will sit her in front of it and watch

From what I've seen/thought about it all seems fairly common sense. But I am still going to research the heck out of discipline styles/things to do to help etc. Already I can sense a lot of the loud noises she makes is due to not being able to communicate, like you said, emotions and behaviors. I am pretty sure that doesn't change for quite a few of the first years.

Although developmentally, I really wish depth perception would hurry up and develop...so many attempted dive bombs!

Lol Youtube vids!! Re: communication, teach her some basic sign language! We have been signing since she was about 6/7 months old and it's helped immensely. More, all done, water, milk, drink, help, change, eat, snack, hello, goodbye, bed time, sleep, I love you, medicine are all signs she understands, though she can only sign a handful of them herself.

www.babysignlanguage.com

There is a dictionary and vids showing how to do each sign.


I agree discipline definitely is common sense. If you are interested, two awesome books are The Whole Brain Child, and No Drama Discipline. Both basically break down what goes on in children's brains when they are "acting up" and how you can engage with them effectively when it's happening.


Edit: one tip that will make your life easier is, kids naturally want to please their parents. So instead of saying "no" to behaviours you don't want them doing, rephrase it into a behaviour you DO want them doing/one that is acceptable. Young kids don't really understand no for the sake of no, and it doesn't give them any guidance as to what they SHOULD be doing. That's why you see the same shitty kids constantly being yelled at "No!", because their parents haven't given them any clue what their "yes" behaviours are. Like, no? Ok what then?

Also, ultimately the strongest factor in how a kid behaves is what they see their parents doing. You can tell them til you're blue in the face what you want them to do, but if you aren't modeling those same things it's gonna be an uphill battle. Monkey see, monkey do for reals. This is really true for things like manners, especially.

Totally obvious shit, but clearly common sense is not common because look at all the assholes around these days. Lol.

She has all done down pat. I tried to tell her all done before she was done eating...she let me know she was not done real quick! Other than that we haven't really tried pushing sign language. We are really pushing verbal...but msotly working on walking and grabbing skillz.

Yeah just started walking this week!

Rowan is 12 now and as tall as me (5�7�) solomon is 8 and not far behind. It goes by quickly!

Yay! I know we are FB pals, but I love seeing you here.


Rowan is 5'7"??? Jesus!

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Originally posted by Silky Johnson Yeah just started walking this week!

Everything gets a little more difficult once they are mobile.

Yeah, I was in no rush for it; however, she starts daycare next week and I'm glad I didn't miss this milestone. Timing couldn't be better!

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Originally posted by wienerschnitzel Rowan is 12 now and as tall as me (5�7�) solomon is 8 and not far behind. It goes by quickly!

Didn't notice she was that tall at the pictures, my daughter is also 12, but a lot smaller. My son is 9, so both are of similar age.
Your kids are so totally you, in a good and funny way

Good to see you back!

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Originally posted by Silky Johnson she starts daycare next week

Good luck!

We started a 2 times a week morning day care 2 months ago. She finally stopped crying when we drop her off. She would start this death grip on us when we were walking her up to the room. Then loose it when we'd try to put her on the ground.

Thank you! I am sure she will cry, but I know it's to be expected. I know not to prolong the goodbye and have a little goodbye ritual.

We have been over to her provider's place a couple times for about an hour each time, and she happily played on the floor while we chatted. So she is at least a little familiar with the woman and her space.

Not a single tear or any quivering lips. In fact as I was saying goodbye she completely ignored me and was ogling all the toys.

And now four whole days completely to myself!

Awesome! Now she might cry when you try to pick her up

Our little guy isn't even 9 months old yet and he's climbing all over everything in an effort to stand up. He wants to stand all the time! He also wears 18 month onesies now at 22lbs. How is time moving so quickly??

Shit, people aren't kidding when they tell you to soak in those early days. I've barely blinked and this dude is already huge. He's strong, too! When he's fussy or squirmy you can barely hold onto him lol.

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Originally posted by Boomer187 Awesome! Now she might cry when you try to pick her up

I won't be surprised. Our friends' son goes there also and apparently he has cried a few times not wanting to leave.

tooth #5 is peeking out...the little girl is not a fan

We're on 12!

L is breaking in his top two teeth! He's also getting brave and trying to stand up without support. Wild child!

There are moments you need to catch on film

https://9gag.com/gag/aYYW6Ow

So looks like we are 12 weeks along with #2. It's a dude this time I am hoping being 18 months apart will make them get along???

Omg kill me. I am not cut out for more than one, lol. Also congrats.

Scary part was for the first ultrasound (we did IVF so it was early), we saw 3 sacks that formed...but only one had a dude in it. the other two will go away. But for a second the terror hit me if there were 3 duders in there.

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