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| Originally posted by Floorfiller was it on the hill? or down by the bars on the mall? |
Next story: (Btw welcome to the drama that is my life, haha!)
When I first got to the desert here (in June) I met this girl that I worked with and we hit it off. I told a couple of you parts of this story earlier but I'll put it all down for entertainment and analysis purposes.
So I hit it off with this girl, and we're hanging out all the time and flirting and getting to know each other. She's a bit... cold, I guess you would put it (boy can I pick them or what) and add to that she has a complete lack of communication skills (which I found out later). She's cute as hell - islander girl (yummy) and she's actually pretty intelligent so I am, of course, attracted to her. She tells me she digs me also (not her words, hehe) ... so after about a week straight of hanging out, and a few "almost sex" situations (I can take it slow if they can) we go drinking one night and everything is final now - I Biblically "know" her. Hah!
Now this is when problems started arising. I remember the first night we were together, I could just watch her sleep and I was like "damn, she's beautiful". I could tell I probably liked her a little more than she did me (intensity level) - but after we slept together - she ignored me. Fucking ignored me. It was terrible. I'm talking for like 9 days.
Me: "Hey, wanna hang out"
Her: "Nope, I'm tired"
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*next day or two later*
Me: "Hey, want to go out tonight?"
Her: "Nope, I'm tired"
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Me: "So, why are you ignoring me?
Her: "I'm not! We talked yesterday"
Me: "All we said is Hi. And you told me you were tired"
Her: "Well? I'm still tired"
Me: "Uh... ok"
Ladies, if you want to piss off a nice guy, do this to him. So I have in my mind she's PMSing or someshit, and I give her time. 9 days pass like this. Finally, I go to her room and wake her 12 hour sleeping ass up and confront her about it. Anyway, one thing led to another, and we're in bed together again. I'm thinking "Ok, she just needed some prodding or something."
Now, here's the kicker.
She started crying afterward.
Now, I've made girls cry before, but not during or after sex. Kinda weird right? So she goes on this big rant about her boyfriend back home (which I knew about) and blah blah. Everything she has told me and everything I've heard about this situation is that he's a dumbass and she's kinda just playing him. They've been together for like 8 months and she's going to leave him when she gets back (can't now because he's watching her stuff).
So anyway we have a nice long talk and the general consensus is that she really likes me a lot but just feels bad. However, she really likes me and she'll work it out (her words).
*15 days pass.* She hasn't spoken to me, again. That's right - 15 days from above situation. I, of course, got blown off time and time again, and eventually was like "fuck it, she can talk to me" which, of course, turned out to be her never talking to me again in all probability.
Now I'm thinking what every other reason-bound man would be thinking and that's "Forget about this bitch, she's too much drama" - however, I see her all the time and I can't really get closure. Keep in mind we haven't spoken for 2 weeks and, in my mind, we're on good terms.
So, it might have been a bit immature, but I send her this quiz. (She can communicate much better typing than speaking, unfortunately). Not the most mature thing, probably, but I just wanted to know WTF she was thinking by dissing me like this: (her answers with arrows)
Disclaimer: I apologize in advance if any of the following material is inappropriate or misleading. By continuing to read past this line, you agree that you will not press charges and/or threaten, kill, or further mislead me by continuing to be yourself.
Please answer the following questions honestly (as best as possible). Failure to answer the questions honestly could lead to confusion of both parties, mixed signals and possible future emotional scarring.
There is no "failing" this test. Your answers will be reviewed by a highly professional team of relationship physcologists. (me)
1. Do you find my presence:
a. Annoying
b. Unwanted
c. Repulsive
d. Anything positive (wanted, desired, etc)
e. a, b and c.
f. none of the above <-----------------
2. Do you find me:
a. Attractive
b. Unattractive
c. So hot that you'd like to rip my clothes off right now
d. Repulsive; the thought of me induces a gag reflex
e. Cute in a "little brother" sort of way
f. none of the above <--------------
3. In relationships that border on the term "normality", people actually speak to each other. Do you believe this is:
a. True <----------------
b. False
c. Piss off
4. You have not spoken to me in over 2 weeks now. This is because:
a. You are a woman and this is part of your "game".
b. You are playing hard to get, which involves ignoring the other person completely.
c. This is normal interaction with people you like.
d. Preferably, we should never speak again. It's easier that way.
e. Some other reason (please specify)
f. I define speaking to you as asking you a question...you know...speaking is basically words coming out of my mouth. <-------------------------
5. The last time we spoke, I thought we really connected in a personal sort of way. Was this because:
a. You were trying to scare me off.
b. We were lying in bed together.
c. You don't know what I'm talking about because it was your other personality I was speaking to.
d. You actually wanted me to know everything you told me, then never speak to me again.
e. Some other reason (please specify) <---------------------
6. You've often thought to yourself: "My life would have been better if I would have never known Daniel."
a. True
b. False <---------------
7. If you were a hotdog, would you cover yourself in mustard and eat yourself?
a. Yes, in a second!
b. No way! Ketchup only!
c. You are fucking insane <---------------
8. We are all looking forward to going back to our respective homes. Which of the following statement most reflects your state of mind?:
a. This has been three months off hell, and my life will resume where it left off.
b. I've made a lot of friends here, and had some good and bad experiences. My life will resume, but I am a better and stronger person than I was when I left. <------------------
c. I wish I could stay here longer.
d. I don't think about shit like this.
9. Being completely realistic, after we leave here, you will keep in touch with:
a. All the good friends you've met. <--------------
b. All the good friends you've met, excluding me.
c. Only people that you are stationed with, and that's only because you see them around.
d. Absolutely no one.
10. The reason you do not want to be around me is:
a. I make you uncomfortable <-----------
b. You don't trust yourself with me <------------
c. You have feelings about me bordering on the line of absolute hatred
d. You do, and you were expressing it by trying to never speak to me again
e. Other (please specify)
11. Let's say we left tomorrow. You would harbor feelings of __________ toward me.
a. Resentment
b. Unbridled passion
c. Absolute Hatred
d. Annoyance
e. Lust, love and desire
f. Other (please specify) Regret. <------
So, anyway, (her name here)- I just wanted to see what's going through your head. I'm not really pissed or anything - I've just never had anyone ignore me the way you do. Call it professional curiousity. That, and I'd like to know what I did so I never do it again.
-- Daniel
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And here is the email traffic that followed:
Her:
Now analyze and get back to me whenever`s feasible.
And I`m not mad at you.
Me:
I just don't get you. I thought we had a good time together. I tried, over and over, to hang out and spend time with you and you always blew me off. I'm not used to that. It's just... not how you treat people.
What I want you to do is tell me to piss off, or I'm an asshole, or something - anything... please? That way I can say "Oh well I tried". I just don't like living in a state of "limbo" where I don't know if you love or hate me or somewhere in between.
Why do you have feelings of regret towards me? Please explain that.
And I don't consider talking to someone going "Hi" or "Hey". You have never, since I've known you, said "How are you doing?" or - "Want to do something later?" -- That's all I'm looking for.
Well, anyway, I'm just confused about everything. Let me know what's going through your head.
-- Daniel
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Her:
Nothing is going through my head. I can`t be with you, nuff said. I won`t hang out because I`m afraid something will happen again. I refuse to let ANY man in my room. I may have feelings for you, but I won`t act on them, not anymore. I feel uncomfortable with you because you`re persistent and convincing. And I`m passive.
I`m sorry that you feel like you`re in "limbo". But that`s you. Just forget about me. I can only be your friend...and these days I consider that hard to be.
Its not really feelings of regret...i just had no other word to describe it. I just wish things were different, and like you said, I could change that, but I won`t. I love life right now, and you came along like a hurricane and confused me.
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Me:
If you would have simply told me that it would have been oh so simple... 
I was really hoping after the last time we were together we could actually be friends after that. I had that feeling, at least. I was to the point where I know I had fucked up a little (by pushing you to far) and I would never do that again - I thought I explained that to you.
I know I don't know your entire situation, and you do say you "love life right now" - but I think that you were asking me for help in more than one way. I have a lot of things to say about this and I've thought about it quite a bit... I guess I'll save them for a time you want to hear them.
Anyway, I'd like to think we were both mature enough to let everything go and be friends... The last few weeks have been pretty damn fun here, and I wish you were there to enjoy it with me. So, the offers open, I'll understand if you just slip off into anonymity.
Oh, and so you know, I have no feelings of regret. Only dissapointment that I have to throw you into the ever-growing "what-if" section of my mind.
-- Daniel
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Her:
I just needed some time to think... a lot of time to think...and with you always wanting to be around, i wouldn`t think. eh. And I do love life right now. Me and my boy have worked a lot of things out the past few weeks...and I really didnt need you jumbling it all up for me.
On a lighter note, I am glad you`ve been enjoying yourself. Keep it up!
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Me:
I am Jack's complete lack of suprise.
I can't stop laughing from the last response. That's... priceless!
You have a pretty fucked up way of looking at life and treating people. See you in the next life, when we'll be cats or something.
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So there it is. She hasn't spoken to me since. It's been like a month now. Haha! 2 movie quotes in one reply. I rock.
So, analysis?
Holy shit that's a long post.
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| Originally posted by Floorfiller illegal pete's makes the best burritos EVAR!! its basically the place that chipolte stole their idea from...only its a 1000x better than chipolte...its only in colorado unfortunately for everyone else  |
jesus seventil, i hope you type like 100 wpm.
Diagnosis: You were bad in bed.
boo!! I'd rather get laid than have the moral highground. 
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| Originally posted by UWM Diagnosis: You were bad in bed. |
you should have just hate f*$%*^ her and gave her a few donky punches...
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| Originally posted by UWM I don't really know. it was away from the mall though, a few blocks or maybe more. |
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| Originally posted by Slylee you should have just hate f*$%*^ her and gave her a few donky punches... |
that's exactly what I was thinking 
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| Originally posted by l�cid what about Qdoba? |
Bravo, again. I hate...fucking HATE that crap. They sit there and dont say anything, blow you off, like you are supposed to know thats its because you were her fathers sisters brothers cousins roomate in college and that makes you absolutely...nothing!
My life motto is "Love me or hate me, just dont fucking ignore me or Ill kill you"
Most of my relationships have ended due to lack of 1 thing: Honest Communication. Tellin people whats up, and why. what youre thinking.
Basically also people not being selfish bitches.
I used to show all my friends an email chain similar to that. Was so fucked up. Every response instead of being the "oops, I didnt realize I hurt you, sorry" response is just her further saying that you really fuck her life up in some way...
Finally she wrote a long insane e-mail about hating and loving me at the same time.
My response to her two pages was "youre lucky youre not a man"
she cried after that apparently, thought I wanted to kick her ass (truer words have seldom been spoken).
Sigh...Im sorry man, the thing that keeps me going is that every time I handled it the best way I could without going after them and ripping them apart (I would never actually touch a woman with harm in mind, so get that out of your head right now).
Sometimes you just get that urge to tell them exactly what kind of human they are and describe how their relationships are in reality.
damnit it's not any of those
wait ... salvaggios? does that exist?
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| Originally posted by Slylee you should have just hate f*$%*^ her and gave her a few donky punches... |
Whoa I just read all of that.
You need to stop hanging out with snots.
mmm donkey punches
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| Originally posted by Orbax Bravo, again. I hate...fucking HATE that crap. They sit there and dont say anything, blow you off, like you are supposed to know thats its because you were her fathers sisters brothers cousins roomate in college and that makes you absolutely...nothing! My life motto is "Love me or hate me, just dont fucking ignore me or Ill kill you" Most of my relationships have ended due to lack of 1 thing: Honest Communication. Tellin people whats up, and why. what youre thinking. Basically also people not being selfish bitches. I used to show all my friends an email chain similar to that. Was so fucked up. Every response instead of being the "oops, I didnt realize I hurt you, sorry" response is just her further saying that you really fuck her life up in some way... Finally she wrote a long insane e-mail about hating and loving me at the same time. My response to her two pages was "youre lucky youre not a man" she cried after that apparently, thought I wanted to kick her ass (truer words have seldom been spoken). Sigh...Im sorry man, the thing that keeps me going is that every time I handled it the best way I could without going after them and ripping them apart (I would never actually touch a woman with harm in mind, so get that out of your head right now). Sometimes you just get that urge to tell them exactly what kind of human they are and describe how their relationships are in reality. |
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| Originally posted by Ang ' ela_ie Whoa I just read all of that. You need to stop hanging out with snots. |
I hate that pic.
EDIT!!! I just realized that maybe when I said "you need to stop hanging out with snots" it might have come across as if I was trying to offend Daniel. Im not. I <3 Daniel. I dont <3 the girls he chooses to... court becuase they seem... snotty.
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| Originally posted by Ang ' ela_ie Whoa I just read all of that. You need to stop hanging out with snots. |
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| Originally posted by UWM damnit it's not any of those wait ... salvaggios? does that exist? |
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| Originally posted by Ang ' ela_ie I hate that pic. EDIT!!! I just realized that maybe when I said "you need to stop hanging out with snots" it might have come across as if I was trying to offend Daniel. Im not. I <3 Daniel. I dont <3 the girls he chooses to... court becuase they seem... snotty. |
-- Nope, you didn't offend me, I'm fully aware that I attract the most degenerate and selfish women on the planet. It's my 6th sense.
i wanna attract self involved easy skanks that just wanna have sex with me
I do too. WTF.
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