w00t! Do I get a biscuit? Or a golden star for that?
Posted by squirrelly on Aug-04-2009 16:37:
hahahhahahaa at the rules of cheating
Posted by Silky Johnson on Aug-04-2009 18:15:
When I dated a guy only an hour away from me, even that was far enough apart that every time I'd visit I'd get the good butterflies in my stomach. Certainly made for an epic romance. Too bad he was actually an emotionally retarded fucking idiot. Lulz.
Posted by Rose on Aug-04-2009 18:51:
quote:
Originally posted by Lira
after eleven months or so of celibacy
Your penis must be crying.
Posted by squirrelly on Aug-04-2009 19:39:
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Originally posted by Rose
Your penis must be crying.
He already said he filled the spare time with porn
Although that will be a short first round when they DO see each other! Posted by Rose on Aug-04-2009 19:46:
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Originally posted by squirrelly
He already said he filled the spare time with porn
Although that will be a short first round when they DO see each other!
Yeah but porn and his hand can only do so much, right? You can't replace sex with your right hand lol.
Posted by colonelcrisp on Aug-04-2009 19:53:
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Originally posted by Rose
Yeah but porn and his hand can only do so much, right? You can't replace sex with your right hand lol.
thats why i use both w/ the sleeper combo!
Posted by squirrelly on Aug-04-2009 19:58:
quote:
Originally posted by Rose
Yeah but porn and his hand can only do so much, right? You can't replace sex with your right hand lol.
blow up doll
Posted by Lira on Aug-04-2009 20:08:
quote:
Originally posted by Rose
Yeah but porn and his hand can only do so much, right? You can't replace sex with your right hand lol.
That's why I'm left-handed Posted by Rose on Aug-04-2009 20:33:
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Originally posted by Lira
That's why I'm left-handed
lol. Still!
Posted by Nrg2Nfinit on Aug-04-2009 21:34:
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Originally posted by Rose
lol. Still!
post pics or gtfo
Posted by Lira on Feb-01-2010 06:29:
To whom it may concern #2
Sing along with me!!!
There was some interesting debate since I last bumped this thread and I just received a PM about long distance relationships, so I decided to bump this thread once again despite my self-imposed break. Apparently, this thread has served as an inspiration (or a cheap soap opera) to some people out there, so I think it's only fair I should keep you guys updated
Update:
The day after tomorrow I shall board the plane to Nagoya: my trip includes an exciting stopover in London for three days, and only then will I enter the Japanese airspace. We're both thrilled to know we're going to meet each other again, and we're planning a trip to the coldest and zaniest cities in the land of the rising sun. However, my cheerful optimism from the last bump has now given place to a more sober and cautious tone.
Our relationship has been on the verge of a dramatic collapse due to some friction that was already present before she left, and that has grown like a snowball ready to strike a bunch of oblivious Swiss villagers. We've been able to tackle these problems with some brutal honesty and lots of effort, but it's been difficult to ignore the elephant in the room ever since it ditched the good old peanuts for a more gassy diet. It now stinks like hell, and either we both work on a swift pachydermal defenestration as a couple in order to get Dumbo out, or we abandon the ship as individuals and pat ourselves in the back for having done our best. We had planned this trip months ago (I love the winter), but I'm now going so each one of us can answer the infamous question first posed in 1981 by the philosopher Mick Jones from The Clash: should I stay or should I go?
Though I don't mind being open about my life, which makes my posts look all the more slyleean, I'd rather keep the details as private as possible because I don't think their exposure would benefit anyone (and I'm still going through this situation, so I'd rather wait to share them with the wisdom of hindsight).
Still, I can't help but say that this has been an amazing experience so far. Even if we falter and let the relationship fail, it's been worth it. Whether or not I come back jilted to my home town is pretty irrelevant to me because I'm fighting for what I want, and I couldn't care less about the actual results.
(Actually, I could, but let's not get entangled with the semantics )
CORe Version
Status: Some doom and gloom ahead, but there's hope Posted by Lews on Feb-01-2010 06:50:
Do everything you can to work it out, imo.
Good luck mate
Posted by Halcyon+On+On on Feb-01-2010 17:12:
Aha! See - cynics are always right eventually.
Posted by Lira on Feb-01-2010 17:58:
quote:
Originally posted by Halcyon+On+On
Aha! See - cynics are always right eventually.
Well, we're still together, so you're not right yet
Now that you mention it, lots of things the most pessimist TA's predicted simply failed to happen: though I did meet a handful of hot girls who I know fancied me (and some that weren't hot, and loads that just didn't fancy me in any way because I'm not exactly an alpha male ), the most intimate physical contact I had with a member of the opposite sex was a fake punch in the shoulder I gave a bird during a conversation about skin condition; I've had fit friends visit me in the comfort of my apartment, and the sexiest thing we had was passion fruit juice (and that's not a metaphor, so it's not nearly as lusty as it sounds... if anything, it smells of wee, but sweeter); and, as far as I've been told, the most provocative thing my fiancée said to a bloke was "You f****** cunt", but the guy was indeed a twat, so justice was served.
Even if we do break up, which I don't think we will, this is more of a stalemate between cynical pessimists and romantic optimists rather than a proper victory from either side.
edit: Thanks, Lews Posted by idoru on Feb-01-2010 18:04:
My girlfriend and I "separated" last October. The constant gray skies here were keeping her depressed and she missed her family, who live back east in Atlanta. We'd always discussed moving somewhere together, but it's just not "in me" to pack up and leave somewhere so quickly. Hell, I had lived in the same house for 22 years until I moved into the city last April. So, we went our separate ways.
Slowly, it ended up turning into a weird long-distance relationship. I visited her for a week right before Christmas, and she's coming out here next weekend for Valentine's Day. We talk at least once a day for a good half-hour, and are trying to see each other once every two months or so.
I'm slowly becoming more comfortable with moving, so the tentative plan is for us to be somewhere around January or February of next year. San Francisco and Brooklyn are the two options at the top of the list.
Not to, ya know, steal Lira's thunder or anything. I just figured I'd throw some beans out there. *shrug*
Posted by Lira on Feb-01-2010 18:13:
quote:
Originally posted by idoru
Not to, ya know, steal Lira's thunder or anything. I just figured I'd throw some beans out there. *shrug*
No, I don't want this thread to be about me! Quite on the contrary, I enjoyed reading about your experience, and hope it works out in the end for you guys Posted by idoru on Feb-01-2010 18:18:
Thanks; things have actually gone swimmingly so far. Likewise to you.
Posted by Lews on Feb-01-2010 21:55:
We need to start a long distance relationship member club lol.
That's great to hear Jake, hope it keeps getting better and working out.
Posted by tubularbills on Feb-01-2010 21:56:
wait wait wait wait....you all live in like...REAL cities with a human population....yet are choosing to be in a long-distance relationship? meanwhile, i have to drive 90 minutes to even see another human being? WTF?!
lol ,kidding of course. hope it gets better Lira. if anything, dump that zero and get yourself a local hero.
Posted by Sushipunk on Feb-01-2010 22:03:
Best of luck to you Lira
Not to Jake though, that guy is definitely trouble.
jk <3 Jake
Posted by Lira on Sep-27-2010 02:28:
Re: Re: Long distance relationships
Well, I think this is the last bump. At least on my part.
Not because she's coming back (still more 6 months to go) or because we broke up, but because this week is the second anniversary of our long-distance relationship, and commitment wise, I think this is some proof that, yeah, really long distance relationships can work. It's come to a point that, even if we break up in the following months, I wouldn't mind living this experience again - so, if you're about to embark in a similar relationship, I can honestly say "do it!". Here's why:
Independence: I reckon we can both affirm that we're together not because we "need" to be with someone else and would feel empty without the physical presence of a companion by our side, but rather because we "want" to be with one another because we're what we're looking for and we're find with ourselves if we need to be on our own for a while. Should either of us decide to move on, this lesson is enough to make the whole enterprise worth it;
High self-esteem: Probably related to the previous topic. I've been hitting the gym every day, had a dream job until a few weeks ago, and I've been getting lot of female attention. All things considered, this has been a tremendous ego boost, and my self-esteem soared to an all-time high. As for the female attention...
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Originally posted by nchs09
You will def. have sex with one of those friends. Guarantee.
Sorry, Mario, but I've been laying my hands on books rather than boobs. Whenever I go out with a girl (and I have to admit recently I've been too reckless and moved girls to the friends zone in contexts where they probably thought they'd get some), all I think is "Great, I'd rather be with her than with a bloke right now... but I'd still rather be with ma petite";
Trust: Yet another development in our relationship. We've been telling each other everything, both when we're feeling strong and when we falter. Isn't communication the backbone of all relationships?
That's it, this is my last update on this issue. Anything pertaining to long distance relationships has already been covered by now, and whatever happens from now on won't be any different than what we could see in any other relationship - including the ones where you're in the same place
quote:
Originally posted by Halcyon+On+On
I'm pretty certain Lira forced it to work merely to spite all of us naysayers. fucker.
Haha! Idealists 1 - 0 Cynics Posted by Halcyon+On+On on Sep-27-2010 02:32:
