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Originally posted by SYSTEM-J Well, it did, but really more in terms of emotional trauma than in lost hours of shut-eye. This is just about the only place I could vent at 2am to an audience

Oh, I see. Sorry, I guess I just suffer from good old "Masculine Listener Syndrome": The moment we hear someone share a problem or an episode, instead of just listening and saying everything is going to be all right (which is what the person wants), we try to fix a problem even if it doesn't need fixing.

It's probably a bit useless now but, don't worry, Sys, she's probably sober now and she shouldn't bother you again. Unless you want her to, then she totally should

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Originally posted by Watts I think I've doubled my intake since posting in this thread.

So, is that a good or a bad thing?

I thought masculine listening syndrome was when you just nodded and said "Oh yeah" and provided patronizing, generalized support like "Things will get better, you'll see!"

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Originally posted by Silky Johnson I thought masculine listening syndrome was when you just nodded and said "Oh yeah" and provided patronizing, generalized support like "Things will get better, you'll see!"

Haha, I guess I'm hopeless then

Seriously though, I once read (in a book by Deborah Tannen) that some couples tend to fight quite a lot because quite often women just want to vent their frustrations, whereas men often talk about their problems because they want a solution... so there's a clash whenever men offer a solution to a problem the women don't think needs fixing. Of course, this has very little scientific support (to my knowledge), and this is a difference in temperament or circumstance rather than gender, but this is quite what I had in mind when I came up with that.

I don't know what else to call it.

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Originally posted by Trance-MB So, is that a good or a bad thing?

Yeah, I think so. I'm trying to buy more hours in the day instead of powering through like a champ.

I slept for 12 hours last night. Guess I had a bit of a sleep debt.

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Originally posted by Lira Haha, I guess I'm hopeless then Seriously though, I once read (in a book by Deborah Tannen) that some couples tend to fight quite a lot because quite often women just want to vent their frustrations, whereas men often talk about their problems because they want a solution... so there's a clash whenever men offer a solution to a problem the women don't think needs fixing. Of course, this has very little scientific support (to my knowledge), and this is a difference in temperament or circumstance rather than gender, but this is quite what I had in mind when I came up with that. I don't know what else to call it.

Heh yeah I've heard that in a few different places myself and I tend to agree - just based on personal experience.

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