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Posted by Tranc3 on Apr-15-2003 08:24:

Ok so there's this girl...

I know this girl likes me. Well, actually there's more than one that I know like me, but it's beside the point...kinda. Ok, well, I'll just talk about one, as it applies to all of them.

I know what each one sees in me, or rather, what each one likes about me. Recently I've been "playing the part" to each one that each one likes. So for example, if one liked how I danced in the nude on Wednesday nights while singing to the moon and covering myself with tobasco sauce and holding a squirrel as I do it, I would only put that much more effort into doing it, and make it seem as though that activity has a great significance in my life. Not that I do that, erm....dance thing like that....at least not on Wednesday nights anyways

Heh well yeah....I guess it comes down to this one question. Is it wrong in some way, shape, or form to lead these girls on like this? Does it even matter that I don't find them particularly attractive? I mean, this isn't to say that they aren't physically attractive, which they are, but I'm just not drawn to their personalities.

So, erm...feel free to hand out your advice.

Posted by Fundamental on Apr-15-2003 08:27:

Re: Ok so there's this girl...

quote:
Originally posted by Tranc3
Is it wrong in some way, shape, or form to lead these girls on like this?

Of course it's not wrong... Girls do it all the time!

Posted by Magimaster on Apr-15-2003 08:59:

It's up to you man...

but if it was me, I wouldn't. I'm just not that kind of guy. If a girl has a thing for you but you don't share that feeling, let her know as soon as possible, but be gentle about it. Don't tell her to fuck off. If worse comes to worse, just ignore her.

Whatever happens though, usually in this situation, you lose a lot of points with her and her friends too...

and yes, girls love to do this. Especially asian girls.

Posted by sifntj0r on Apr-15-2003 08:59:

fuck em, fuck em all

Posted by RedLunatik on Apr-15-2003 09:09:

quote:
Originally posted by sifntj0r
fuck em, fuck em all

word!!

Posted by sash on Apr-15-2003 11:08:

depends what type of girls they are...
they don't seem like the type who would do this to you

Posted by brainfried on Apr-15-2003 12:04:

quote:
Originally posted by Magimaster
Especially asian girls.

Hahaha explain this please

Posted by kr00t0n on Apr-15-2003 12:14:

Re: Re: Ok so there's this girl...

quote:
Originally posted by DJ Fundamental
Of course it's not wrong... Girls do it all the time!

Nail + Head

Posted by bassaholix on Apr-15-2003 12:33:

Easy dood... if you aren't drawn into their personalities then it won't work out... how do you find out by giving it a shot? i think you are just looking for encouragement from this post.. but seriously.. are you man enough to handle your own life? think about that for a while...

Then go and do what's in your heart!

Posted by LKD on Apr-15-2003 13:09:

Re: Re: Ok so there's this girl...

quote:
Originally posted by DJ Fundamental
Of course it's not wrong... Girls do it all the time!

AHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA

so true...when they see they cant get much from u or ur taking too long to get the vibes, they drop u like a glass when ur drunk

Posted by Tranc3 on Apr-15-2003 14:13:

quote:
Originally posted by bassaholix
Easy dood... if you aren't drawn into their personalities then it won't work out... how do you find out by giving it a shot? i think you are just looking for encouragement from this post.. but seriously.. are you man enough to handle your own life? think about that for a while...

Then go and do what's in your heart!

Hmm good point, I'll be sure to think about this one today. Honestly I'm not sure what I was looking for from this thread, I mean it seems odd to ask people I've never met for advice on my life, but it sometimes makes sense.

quote:
Originally posted by Magimaster
but if it was me, I wouldn't. I'm just not that kind of guy. If a girl has a thing for you but you don't share that feeling, let her know as soon as possible, but be gentle about it. Don't tell her to fuck off. If worse comes to worse, just ignore her.

Whatever happens though, usually in this situation, you lose a lot of points with her and her friends too...

Another good point, although telling anyone to fuck off just isn't me (usually), I'll have to remember this too.

Posted by Magimaster on Apr-16-2003 01:39:

quote:
Originally posted by brainfried
Hahaha explain this please

I have this weird fetish for asian girls, must because I'm asian,

anyways, I always fall for the HOT asian chicks (suprise surprise)

and you know how chicks act when they know they're hot and they know you have a thing for them...

they'll milk whatever they can from you while you still think you have a chance, and then when you finally get the hint, they completely ignore you. That's like leading you on, straight over a cliff, cuz the impact hurts.

btw, this has happened to me before. I hung out with her for a bit, tried it out, but then I started ignoring her, and then she eventually got the hint.

I don't talk to her or her friends anymore. Shame really, because her friends were HOT!!! albiet maybe underage at the time.

tranc3 : good luck bro

Posted by Sugarbean on Apr-16-2003 01:55:

Re: Ok so there's this girl...

quote:
Originally posted by Tranc3
Is it wrong in some way, shape, or form to lead these girls on like this?

it is wrong if they believe that your motives are to be with them. then thats bogus as hell...you kinda sound like someone whom i was once involved with. he tried to be everything to me that i never had...i found out it was all a sherade..i cant spell...and it really hurt...

Posted by Sugarbean on Apr-16-2003 02:00:

quote:
Originally posted by Magimaster
Don't tell her to fuck off. If worse comes to worse, just ignore her.

i agree totally with your whole post...especially this part.

im so suprised actually reading your post, kinda gives me faith that there are guys out there that get it lol

Posted by djRyan Jonathon on Apr-16-2003 02:47:

heh

Yea, let her ave it, then say bye.

Posted by mmilo on Apr-16-2003 02:58:

gurls

quote:

I mean it seems odd to ask people I've never met for advice on my life, but it sometimes makes sense.

as i'm sure you've figured out, a neutral opinion for the most part helps with any situation !

yah like others say ... do what's in your heart ... if you really don't think that anything could develop from being in a relationship with em, don't even bother trying. it's better for you AND them.

Posted by Time2Burn on Apr-16-2003 03:41:

There is absolutely nothing wrong with accentuating certain postive traits that you know a girl likes. As long as you aren't lying about it. Leading a girl on just gets you into trouble, just as it is wrong for girls to lead guys on.

Basically what I'm saying is that its very important to be aware of what intrests a girl. Talk about things that she is interested in and of course that you are too (hopefully). Hopefully she is willing to do the same. Meeting half way and accepting and learning about each others differences is key.

/end ramble.

Posted by LKD on Apr-16-2003 03:45:

Posted by Cracka-X on Apr-16-2003 04:30:

FUCK, girls lead guys all the time. YOU SHOULD'NT FEEL BAD AT ALL LEADING THEM ON. Shit have fun with it. You've only got one life to live. Keep up the shananigans until you find someone you REALLY love.

Posted by USMC_Greg on Apr-16-2003 05:05:

If the roles were reversed they would play you like a deck of cards --that's just what girls like to do. So is it wrong for you to do it?

Go out and get laid... or at the very least some head.

Posted by basd on Apr-16-2003 07:29:

Re: Ok so there's this girl...

quote:
Originally posted by Tranc3
So for example, if one liked how I danced in the nude on Wednesday nights while singing to the moon and covering myself with tobasco sauce and holding a squirrel as I do it

Is this available on video?

Posted by DaveSZ on Apr-16-2003 07:31:

Posted by Tranc3 on Apr-16-2003 08:06:

quote:
Originally posted by Time2Burn
There is absolutely nothing wrong with accentuating certain postive traits that you know a girl likes. As long as you aren't lying about it. Leading a girl on just gets you into trouble, just as it is wrong for girls to lead guys on.

I'm not making something up - in my case it would be accentuating something that's already there. I dunno though, doing it still seems to be somewhat wrong on at least some level.

quote:
Originally posted by Sugarbean
it is wrong if they believe that your motives are to be with them. then thats bogus as hell...you kinda sound like someone whom i was once involved with. he tried to be everything to me that i never had...i found out it was all a sherade..i cant spell...and it really hurt...

Thanks, always good to get the perspective of the other side. I seem to be getting two basic categories here - the "fuck them over category," which is supported by what seems to be past experiences, and the "do something only if you connect" category, which seems to make more sense to me. I mean, when I really stop to think about it, were I in that position, I wouldn't want the same done to me, especially if I were to fall in love with the girl, only to find that she was just playing around.

Posted by vito on Apr-16-2003 14:32:

why are you posting this if you don't like them?
obviously you don't want to be with them

as for leading them on, don't
you wouldn't like it if they did it to
just because some other girls do it doesn't make it right for you to do it
still not convinced? if you do it to these girls, in future if they are in a position to lead someone on, they will to get some sort of revenge, meaning some innocent guy gets fucked meaning he'll want revenge and so on

Posted by Wasted_Space on Apr-16-2003 15:37:

Go on, mess with their heads!

We males are supposed to be shallow after all, now GO FORTH and perpetuate a stereotype!

lol...

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