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Depression? How to deal with it?

I have been depressed for along time now. I dont even know how long anymore. THe only things that get me out of depression is Trance, alcohol or doing something with my friends. All the other times im sad and depressed. I do not know why. Well, i keep thinking im fat cause i have a beer belly, not that big, but its there. Iam kinda emberassed to go to the beaches and shit like that. My friends tell me i am not fat, but i dont know. I can have a gf, but idont want to cause i want to look good first. I tried starving myself, going to gym but its hard. Another thing is thinking about my future if im gonna get anywhere.

unfortunately mate , there is no way out.... ive been the same for a few years now, and ill save you all the psychobable, you just gotta smile and get on with it.... and concentrate on doing things that make you happy..... that way you dont think about what makes you sad.

simple, and sounds like a load of bollox...... but beleive me, ive tried to figure everything out in my head, and when you think about how to get out of it, you realise that you ARE depressed, which means you wont be happy

I have been thinking alot about leaving my life right now meaning moving away somewhere for couple of years and then coming back. Or at least for for a week somewhere, where there is no stress and no worries.

you probably think your alone in this choice....... beleive me you aint...... ive had a history of disappointments.. things dont work out for me...... i dont know why, im just an extremely unlucky guy, ive been thinking about moving away for ages and ages,
infact i DID move away last year..... i left my parents house.... i went to move to sheffield that didnt work out,. so i decided i was gonna go live abroad in tenerife, so i gave my house up.... and it just so happebns there was a massive slump in tourism last year in tenerife.... si i couldnt get a job.... so i gave my house up for a 2 week holiday when i was planning on staying in tenerife for about 6 months..... i know live with my dad, jobless, hopess, joyless


im still hoping to go away sumwhere, but i dont know what to do.... im scared to plan sumthing, cos i know it will go wrong.

my advice to you my friend.,.,, fuck everything...... you just bugger everything off and go do what you wanna do, visit asia or sumthing. it could be the thing that saves you form yourself

I had the same kinda thing for a long time, seeing myself only on the negative side.
But then I got work, at which I have a lot of friends and make fun there all the time.
And @ the same moment I found a very cute and lovely girl.

I'm happy now.

I know it's hard if u r in that position, I hate it too going to beaches and swimming pools because I'm kinda skinny, and I feel bad if I see some blokes with a nice body getting all the attention and girls...but that's a problem like anyone else, I think more people think like that....
Just find a girl and she will remove (all) your sorrows, I had a lot, and I still got them, but my girl made me feel a LOT better!

I think a lot of us get this. Sometimes I wonder if it's some sort of medical depression, but if not, then you've just gotta stick it out until things look up. For some reason, people seem to pick up on depression and avoid you when you're in that mood, which makes it worse and makes it a cycle. I don't blame them, it's hard for me to be friendly with people who don't smile.

So the only thing to do is not let yourself think about it. My personal answer to this is just to spend as much time as possible away from home (but not actually move out). Coffee shops, clubs, bars, movies, friends' houses, any of it is better than sitting on my ass at home posting stuff on TA. (kidding). But if your mind is occupied with what you're doing, where you're going, etc. then you won't get as blue.

And don't forget chokin' the chicken. That's always a great mood elevator.

TranceSeeker: if only it were that easy! Finding the right person is what we call luck!

i dunno if i can help here or not, ive really not had to deal with depression, my outlook on life i feel is ideal, you take in one day at a time. Dont worry about stuff all the time it just causes stress, i feel like its wasted energy. set goals for yourself, espeically in the work out catagory. when i first came to school i weighted 270 lbs. i had a beer gut, b/c there was a gym downstairs in my dorm i started to work out, (running actually). at first i couldnt run more than 5 minutes, like .25 miles without stopping but if you set goals to go that extra step you will be amazed on how easy it comes. in about a month i was running 3 miles and wondering why i had to get off the treadmill. running is the best way to shed weight, along with weight training you speed up the process even more.

at anyrate take up a hobby, something that you find yourself good at or enjoy, and try to make yourself better at it. the final outcome will hopefully make you proud of what you accomplished and the work that you put into it will take your mind off of "useless worrying". it can be as simple running that extra 2 feet or reading a book, or creating something like artwork, or even making the best bong ever! you get the idea.

i guess what im trying to say is stop worrying about shit, because worrying about it will get you nowhere. there is nothing positive that can come from worrying about something, nor will you change the outcome of it. just enjoy the you love to do and enjoy life. if you want to worry about something, worry about how much better you have it compared to other people and how you can help those peps.

hope this helps.
l8rz
miller

another helpful note... i heard that its theriputic (sp) to laugh for 5 minutes each day, turn on comedy central or just hop on the fourms and read a funny.

Yeah I know, I found a girl who can TALK, although she's a completely different person then me, she's a heavy metal fan, more alternative clothing etc..., me on the other hand I'm like a "bad guy" for her with a jeans jacket and an earring ...lol...u know what I mean, just completely different ... I love her very much. She had a depression too, even suicidal thoughts 3 years ago or so, so we were 'somewhat' in the same league.
But now I'm happy and she too.


But he said he can get a girl.
If u like her, and u can really talk to her about everything, don't hesitate, she will think the same.

Thanks guys for the advices.

hobbies

go and play pool or something

let anger out on max payne etc

keep self occupied, sorted

im in semi-depression mode, but its not entirely depression cuz course work and revision is keeping me sane

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Originally posted by [N]�k|��[Z] unfortunately mate , there is no way out....

if you go on thinking there is no way out then really for you there wont be.

the cure to depression is self esteem. fuck meds...they only drag on the process of getting better. if you really want to get better then you need to find a way.
do things to make you happy, and that doesnt mean like go out with your friends..or drink...whatever. it means putting effort into things that you like to do or want to change about yourself that only effect you. no one else. for instance...if your unhappy about your weight, go put in some effort at a gym...read a book on how to eat healty...and get back into shape.

if you think its hopeless then it will be for you. but there are lotz and lotz of people who have gotten through it.

and go back and look in the threads. there are other threads with advise and stuff in it too...

best thing to do would be to seek some profressional advice, visit your doctor or something like that

i've made 3 discussions about depression and how i, as well as others, have dealt with it. lots of great wisdom. I took quotes from the threads and put them all together into a file. We got some great TranceAddicts here to support u




http://www.tranceaddict.com/forums/...ight=depression

hey hun, i'm sorry you're going through this. i was slightly depressed after a lot of stuff went down last year, and the only thing that helped me out of it was seeing a counselor on a weeekly basis. she has become someone that i can tell anything to, and i know she doesn't judge me for what i say. although i am "better" now, i still see her once a week-- just because i think its healthy for everyone to have someone to talk to.

if you feel uncomfortable speaking to a stranger, try a new activity. working out always makes me feel better- it relieves a lot of stress and just overall lifts my mood from day to day. esp if you are worried about being "fat", then maybe a little exercise could help.

other things i can think of is going on a trip, taking maybe some time off from work and other stresses to clear your head, getting involved with a club or a support group, and just overall trying to gain some self esteem to help lift your spirits.

i hope that you are able to get out of this little funk...but i've been there, and obviously a lot of other people have to, so dont ever feel alone!! start recognizing all the wonderful things about yourself, which should help to make you feel better. but dont ever feel worthless! you seem like a really nice guy (from reading all your posts), so don't give up.

You have to get out and see the world for abit... try and leave whatever is holding you back...

I'd trade my tinnitus for your depression any time.

consider that you may have seratonin depletions (chemicals that deal with your emotions, can come from drug abuse) and may require medicine from the doc... it's normal to be sad or angry sometimes, but not all the time... or maybe you just need to talk things out... good luck man...

Re: Depression? How to deal with it?

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Originally posted by SebTheDJ I have been depressed for along time now. I dont even know how long anymore. THe only things that get me out of depression is Trance, alcohol or doing something with my friends. All the other times im sad and depressed. I do not know why. Well, i keep thinking im fat cause i have a beer belly, not that big, but its there. Iam kinda emberassed to go to the beaches and shit like that. My friends tell me i am not fat, but i dont know. I can have a gf, but idont want to cause i want to look good first. I tried starving myself, going to gym but its hard. Another thing is thinking about my future if im gonna get anywhere.

http://www.workpsychcorp.com/newsweek2.tpl <---that's me...and most probably you.

I don't know, but I don't think posting on the TA forum will solve it.

Hey dude, we all have beer bellys, welcome to the 21st century , everything you eat has fat in it or is that just the shit i eat, i know what u mean about being embarassed, myg/f plays with my belly and i hate it, esp in public, i like to have a massive drinkin binge at the weekend, and a nasty kebab, but i guess you can't have both, slim figure and drink and booze, the gym can be hard esp if you work 9-5 all week. I dont even live near a beach so i guess your lucky, you get to see loadsa fine ass and i dont. I live near scallys and mitters , ppl who say shit like ' giv us a fag or ill cut ya up ' serious pal, the weather in the uk is always raining , i aint no shrink but i recommend that you just get stuck in with the girlies, girls like lads with bellys, coz it makes them feel good, imagine you having a slimmer belly that your g/f , she would be so paranoid. could be worse you could be obesse and smell of cheese. :P

gl anyways.

get drunk

its the best cure

3 ways:

get a new hobbie
workout
go clubbing more often

I was in depression for the first 3 months of this year after I found out some stuff about my relationship with my long time partner. Its the most horrible feeling that I ever experienced. I went to see a shrink for 3 sessions and decided to change my life in every way possible. the depression helped me loose 40 lbs and now that I look different I started to work out 5 days a week. I usually get between 3 to 5 comments a day from people who knew me before that I look great. It helps so much that it makes me happy.
focus on things that make you happy and you will be fine. even though Im still with her, I cant control how she feels about me so I stopped making myself crazy about what our future will be.
I listen to trance and work out, eat healthy, be more friendly to people (specially hot girls), and things will work out.

good luck to you!!!
you can do it!!

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Originally posted by USMC_Greg I don't know, but I don't think posting on the TA forum will solve it.

some people dont have it in them to go to people in person. what problem is it if they want to post it.

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