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Help.Girls problem...
OK,guys beside my sister,you are my online shrinks,I feel I can tell you anything,and with all the people's experience here,maybe I can do something about myself,because now I totally hate myself
So,I was at this party,my friend's birthday party,and she has a friend which is totally amazing,guys let me tell you,I don't mean to insult any of you girls,or your girlfriends,but you haven't seen a woman's beauty till you've seen this girl,OK? Not only her outside beauty,my sister said that she's a really sweet person too,it's not a problem to get her number from my sister, I couldn't speak when I saw her,she said to me her name and nice to meet you,while with all thehuge lack of self-confidence I couldn't even say "nice to meet you too",anyway at that point I decided not to look at her too much.
I'm 20,never had a girlfriend in my life,never trying to "put my charm" on any girl that I liked,I'm totally don't have self-confidence,I don't have a car,don't have too much money,I don't know what to do with girlfriend if I don't have those stuff,you know after couple of times we'll go out within the city,what will I do if I'll want to take her somewhere else? I have no experience whatsoever with girls,I don't dance slow-dance,don't dance at all,don't know what do I have to offer that girl to keep her with me in the long term,and the short term as well,I think that if she's so beautiful,she must have a boyfriend,and if not,so something must be wrong with her,so I don't think it worth it-the pain of rejection,I'll never know if it's because of me,or something else,I'm too pessimistic when it comes to girls,I don't think I'm worthy of any girl out-there,because I'm too much looser,and don't have to offer much.
What to do with it? How to live with it? It's killing me,I want a girlfriend and I don't know how to get a girl and how I will keep her with me if I have nothing to offer her except probably my love,but as we know it's not enough these days,you got to have the looks,the car,the cash,the job,the places to go to and everything else-I don't have any of those things.I'm of the people that things don't work out for them so well,even when I try and give all I have.
That's the story of my life,I see a girl,think of all my shortcomings,think that probably if I say all that I written above to that girl then she'll probably reject me on the spot,so I don't even try,although I feel inside me that I can really love and respect my girl,but as I said before it's not enough these days.
So,any advices?
dude PM me. ill give u answers! free bitches n whores but u have to come down here in baltimore cuz thats where i live
I'll keep my post short and to the point....
read your post yourself. doe that sound like a guy who deserves a girlfriend?? you've apparently decided not to put any effort towards getting one, and your lack of self-esteem and continual self-bashing basically says that you are yourself not worthy.
solution: either you change your attitude and look into a girl who will accept you, or try to find a girl who wil accept your intense lack of self-confidence.
as for that girl you're talking about, If she lived here in TO, I'd ask for her number.
I myself don't have much to offer, at 18/19inOctober yrs old, but I can do my best and have fun while it lasts.
"Better to have loved and lost, than never having loved at all."
my final word to you: Ask her our or for her number. what have you got to lose? (especially since you say you have nothing and no self-esteem!).. seriously...you think she's all that.... go get her!!!! get the hell off your ass and stop daydreaming and wasting your time!
exactly dude.
just think about how silly you are being. if you don't get over your self esteem problems and lack of self confidence you'll never experience the joy of having a girl friend.
i suggest see a shrink so you can get over your self confidence issues or just bite the bulllet and talk to the girl.
you will prolly fail acouple of times, but what the fuck are you losing? Its not like if you stood around the whole time being idle something was going to happn.
the more you try the greater the chance things will go your way and also you gain more confidence in yourself
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| Originally posted by Clyde77 dude PM me. ill give u answers! free bitches n whores but u have to come down here in baltimore cuz thats where i live |
I used to be like you. Cuz i was honestly a loser. like WOW...1 friend at a time never girls. so definitely not G/fs. It was because i was a pussy who didnt think i deserved that shit. I got into having fun by myself. Rockclimbing, scuba diving, snowoboarding, hiking, running, working out...the gamut. After a year or so of that, number 1 i didnt mind not having a G/F, and then i realized how tight I was because i did all that shit. I could climb 5.14s, run 7 back to back 6 min miles and bench 360. I had gained 20 pounds of muscle and i was considering dating myself at that point. It finally flipped around to me thinking, they arent good enough for me. And when a girl thinks that you dont really care/pay attention to her, she finds it irresistable.
point being. I ended up getting a lot more friends after I went on my self improvement binge. I eat healthy, so when I whip up some stir fry for people they think its badass. The only person who can analyze you is you. I felt insecure about my body. I was skinny and weak. I was able to say listen you goofy lookin bastard, you are gonna get a good lookin body!
Then the other part is getting drunk with people. its the cause and salution of every problem on earth 
just pick girls though. at first you tend to be a wee bit indiscriminate with your drinking "partners" *get it*, then youll calm down, realize how much of a pimp you are, and start high rollin. Youll probably end up a cocky bastard like myself, but girls like that a LOT more than the...wait who are you in the corner you know?
dunno if that helps
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| Originally posted by Orbax Then the other part is getting drunk with people. its the cause and salution of every problem on earth just pick girls though. at first you tend to be a wee bit indiscriminate with your drinking "partners" *get it*, then youll calm down, realize how much of a pimp you are, and start high rollin. Youll probably end up a cocky bastard like myself, but girls like that a LOT more than the...wait who are you in the corner you know?dunno if that helps |
cheers bro (im drinking scotch on the rocks...im 20...am i an alcoholic lol)
seriously. there is a two fold excellence from drinking too. for you more tasteful readers you may wish to stop here
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ok
so when you first start doin this youll be all over the girl and things will start getting kinda hot and OOOhHOOOHH you prematurely ejaculate...fucking happens just as you get them naked at first...that goes away with experience, but here is why alcohol is AWESOME! whiskey dick! you couldnt get it hard if you wanted to!
so thats benefit 1, your like sorry babe i guess you just havent turned me on yet 
#2 oh, ok i only had 1 point. refer to #1
whisky dick.....thats what its called :X shit i drank way to much one time and i couldnt get my thing up 
i thought something was wrong...lol what a realif
Re: Help.Girls problem...
Go up to her and introduce yourself. Just say
"nice to meet you. Listen, I bring nothing to the table but I was wondering if you would like to go out for a drink sometime?"
IMO half the battle is just going up to the girl. Once you're there just keep the conversation going so that you don't look like a complete idiot. Then just build from there.
You can try this too;
If she doesn't seem to want to keep the conversation going after a few minutes of you asking questions, just bail. That way you save your fragile balls from your percieved "embarassment" (that is only in your mind, 'cuz frankly no one cares if you fail). If she keeps the conversation going then you can work yourself up to asking her out for a drink.
Don't forget her name though! I can tell you I almost got into some trouble with that.
i learned a gem the other day, was hikin with a girl and was talkin and she talked about her ex boyfriend, she said she wanted his friend, but this guy kept on hanging out with her and talking to her and she said she finally dated him because she didnt dislike like him and she wanted to get the annoyance over with
then she said the guy she wanted hooked up with some chick at the bar.
then i said I told you you should drink!
moral
girls get guys by getting them drunk and hooking up
guys get girls by persistence
lol so true! this girl sweats my friend and they only hook up when hes drunk lolll
Rejection is really not that bad imo. Like Greg said, it is really only in your eyes. Just be honest with yourself. We all have our personal flaws, nobody is perfect. Just don't worry so much. If you don't have confidence, just pretend you do, until you trick yourself into being confident, till you gather real confidence (make sense?)...
I think you just shouldn't worry so much, things have a way of taking care of themselves. Just be honest, expressive, and vocal. You can do all that w/o getting drunk 
You have nothing to lose, life is full of opportunities, you win some you lose some... you just have to move on until you find somebody you want to keep =)
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| Originally posted by djnaeblis You can do all that w/o getting drunk |
orbax has nailed it
u've gotta work on urself, spend time with urself, getting comfortable with who you are and what u like...do stuff on ur own, and dont think that getting a GF or a woman to sleep with you is a big achievement, or that it means u're a greater man than any other, because thats just not true
and most important of all...DONT GIVE A FUCK ABOUT WHAT ANYBODY ELSE THINKS!!!
i know thats easier said than dun but it's the truth and the only way to get out of the situation u're in!
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your first problem: you need to be educated in the ways of the paragraph.
Paragraphs work wonders for your love life.
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| Originally posted by Mosaic your first problem: you need to be educated in the ways of the paragraph. Paragraphs work wonders for your love life. |
i used to be like him. ask any of the older TAs. yeah i used to have about a million lines, no breaks. THen i went to college and said you know what im going to learn...then i talked to my teacher.
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moral. when you switch points to something kinda different new paragraph...imagine it as going from the pink to the stink, you cant use the same finger holmes@@!
Like everyone said, u need to build ur self-confidence. U reached the 1st step (admitting u got a problem). 2nd and most important step is doing something about it.
Obviously, u aren�t going to be self-confident over night and get a girlfriend. It takes time and effort, but the sooner you start the sooner you'll reach your goal.
Start off slow and take on small manageable things that you can achieve. For example take dancing lessons or join a non-profit group. Get involved with something that makes you a more interesting person and puts u in a social situation where you can meet a girl without the pressure of a date.
Good luck remember u aren�t alone...
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| Originally posted by igottaknow Like everyone said, u need to build ur self-confidence. U reached the 1st step (admitting u got a problem). 2nd and most important step is doing something about it. Obviously, u aren�t going to be self-confident over night and get a girlfriend. It takes time and effort, but the sooner you start the sooner you'll reach your goal. Start off slow and take on small manageable things that you can achieve. For example take dancing lessons or join a non-profit group. Get involved with something that makes you a more interesting person and puts u in a social situation where you can meet a girl without the pressure of a date. Good luck remember u aren�t alone... |
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| Originally posted by Orbax ahah your avatar reminded me go to www.romp.com and play all the games starting with episode 1. |
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| Originally posted by AnotherWay83 orbax has nailed it u've gotta work on urself, spend time with urself, getting comfortable with who you are and what u like...do stuff on ur own, and dont think that getting a GF or a woman to sleep with you is a big achievement, or that it means u're a greater man than any other, because thats just not true |
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| Originally posted by Xer you all say that you need to be yourself,but being drunk is not being yourself |
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| Originally posted by roysoro1515 whisky dick..... |
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