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So I'm getting married...
A little bored here at 2:30 in the morning, so I figured I'd post it. Why the hell not. My girlfriend who's also a TA (Darkchylde) and I decided that we were ready to tie the knot. Actually, we are going to have a small civil marriage this Saturday, and in about two years or so we're going to have the whole WORKS, with the wedding, honeymoon, etc etc. She'll tell her parents then too :P I'm nervous but I am clear about what we're about to do and we feel that it's the right thing. We've been through alot. So this is the end of the beginnning. Now on to OUR future. Wish me luck 
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| Originally posted by The Rock A little bored here at 2:30 in the morning, so I figured I'd post it. Why the hell not. My girlfriend who's also a TA (Darkchylde) and I decided that we were ready to tie the knot. Actually, we are going to have a small civil marriage this Saturday, and in about two years or so we're going to have the whole WORKS, with the wedding, honeymoon, etc etc. She'll tell her parents then too :P I'm nervous but I am clear about what we're about to do and we feel that it's the right thing. We've been through alot. So this is the end of the beginnning. Now on to OUR future. Wish me luck |
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| Originally posted by The Rock She'll tell her parents then too |
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| Originally posted by PhloTron uhm... |
i wish you all the luck in the world! email armin for a special ASOT for your wedding! i bet he'll do it. once again good luck ang congratulations! if you neeed us, tas, we always will be here for you, you know that!
errr congrats, but i dont like the idea about telling her parents later on...ehh?
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| Originally posted by Clyde77 i wish you all the luck in the world! email armin for a special ASOT for your wedding! i bet he'll do it. once again good luck ang congratulations! if you neeed us, tas, we always will be here for you, you know that! |
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| Originally posted by DJYaNiK HAVE A TA WEDDING! |
personally, and this may bother you because you probably did not consider it, I would have a ninja wedding (although sounds like you already are you just arent wearing the proper outfits :P)
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| Originally posted by USMC_Greg That would consist of alot of trance music and an open bar. |
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Hehehe, thanks guys. About the parents - she doesn't think he parents would approve it now. Not beause of me, but because of her. They love me, but she doesn't feel that her parents would trust her with the responsability of marriage now. Even though, we're still gonna live in out respected homes and such. She goes to school nearby and lives at home, while I go to the same school, but live in my own apartment in a complex, right down the street. But at this point nothing really changes, exept that we'd be officially married. Otherwise, life goes on as normal. In a couple of years though, that's when we plan to have a REAL wedding. With REAL music, might I add The whole sha-bang. I'll make sure to invite you TAs too. I'm dead serious.
Well, I'll first say congratulations. But then I would like to ask you a couple of quick questions. First, how old are you and your wife? I mean absolutely no offense to you and your wife, but what you are proposing - living separately, not telling your parents, etc., sounds fairly risky and immature. If you think her parents wouldn't approve - 2 adults who know the ropes and maturity necessities of marriage, how do you rationalize it being a worthwhile idea?
Second, what's the hurry? I mean, if you're not going to have a "real" wedding for another 2 years, what's the need to have a marriage now, esp. if you're not living together and again, not willing to tell her folks? Again, I mean no offense to you, but your actions somewhat marginalize the sanctity and real importance of what marriage is all about. Furthermore, the cold hard fact is the probability of divorce down the road will likely be much greater for you if you do decide to "hurry" this process a bit and fail to truly prepare for what actually awaits you with this major responsibility.
I honestly don't mean to be a wet sponge, but it just sounds like you either haven't the maturity, given this enough time, or thought it out long enough to be able to have a successful stable marriage down the road. There were plenty of red flags in your 2 messages that made me wonder, sorry. It's often difficult to think of the long haul nowadays, and many (including myself) get caught up with the excitement of living in the "now". I certainly hope you consider this before making such a monumental decision (and it is a monumental decision in your life). If you think I'm preaching to you, you're probably right and I apologize. But please consider that you are talking to a married man of 3 years. I love my wife more than anything, and I knew she was the one from the first time I met her (her nice tushy helped out too!). But I tell you, we wouldn't have gotten married a day sooner than we did. There's plenty to prepare for, trust me, and that doesn't even include kids (which we have none, at least none that I'm aware of ).
With all that being said, I hope you think things through and the best of luck to you and your girlfriend/fiance.
^^^^^^^ wow.. you just summerized everything i wanted to say, (except the part about your wife and her tushy) but i think you composed it better then i would.
MisterOpus you nicely summarized everything I was thinking
maybe its a civil wedding because they dont want to live together/sleep together without being married. then if that all works out it works out. maybe theyve thought about EVERYTHING MUAHAHAHAHHAHHAHIIIIYAHHHHHHHHH!
I must say congratulations on your elopingness and such.....but one question that has not been asked coems to mind:
What if her parents browse the TA forums?
Good Luck,
MrS
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