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Posted by TranceGiant on Sep-13-2003 03:19:

Dancefloor Small-Talk

So seriously, what the fuck am I supposed to say? I think I'm one of the few people on earth who simply do not have the dlightest idea how to break ice under such circumstances. It's not that I'm not communicative, hell, when actually getting to talk to some1, in some nice bar or something, I can go on for hours and wont run out of interesting topics. But when it comes to the odd grab-her-arm-and-say-something things I totally suck. I guess I think and over analyze too much. I'm like evaluating the relvance of each topic I come up with etc. etc.

the best one I could come up with so far was "Hi, well listen, I just suck at this small talk so I'll directly ask you if u wanna go have some drink". Hm...Didn't use it, though...actually said something along the lines of "hm..know how long its open today?" "6 i guess" "youre stayin till the end" "hm..i dont know?" "hm..okay..hehe..hm" then i gave up and turned away.

so wtf is severybody actually talking about? the usual "com often to this place" bullshit?

Posted by daffodil on Sep-13-2003 03:22:

you're a trancEaddict for a reason, talk about the flaming music! talk about the dj. buy a drink and find out why she drinks those. have you always lived in the area? where did you move here from and why? favorite dj/song/club/album? all these can lead to a million different things.

Posted by TranceGiant on Sep-13-2003 03:26:

hm you're actually talking about the topics that come up AFTER doing that critical first step. The conversations that take place at the table, not the *dance-floor*. I know it sounds ridiculous but its just this fucking first step I have trouble with. Rest runs smoothly most of the time.
But grabbing her arm and asking "if u find this music as awesome as I do" isn't that bad actually...

Posted by whiskers on Sep-13-2003 03:28:

Re: Dancefloor Small-Talk

quote:
Originally posted by TranceGiant
So seriously, what the fuck am I supposed to say? I think I'm one of the few people on earth who simply do not have the dlightest idea how to break ice under such circumstances.

fuckin a, breaking ice, i need a fucking 500-ton icebreaker to help me out when i'm talking to people...

Posted by daffodil on Sep-13-2003 03:30:

quote:
Originally posted by TranceGiant
hm you're actually talking about the topics that come up AFTER doing that critical first step. The conversations that take place at the table, not the *dance-floor*. I know it sounds ridiculous but its just this fucking first step I have trouble with. Rest runs smoothly most of the time.
But grabbing her arm and asking "if u find this music as awesome as I do" isn't that bad actually...

in that case, i will say that the dance floor is not for talking, it's for dancing. there is nothing i hate more than some guy trying to hit on me when i just want to dance.

so keep an eye on your target like a stalker and approach her when she takes a break from the dancefloor.

Posted by TranceGiant on Sep-13-2003 03:34:

yeah that's another point: Due to my exaggerated empathy I feel bad for "disturbing" some1 while dancing. Hehe, weird up me is! Still...first words...brrrr I know its fucking simple but as I say..I think too much

Posted by whiskers on Sep-13-2003 03:34:

wtf, that's gay!

Posted by Orbax on Sep-13-2003 03:36:

uber answer: write your number down give it to her, and ask her for hers. Cheers, simple

Posted by montie on Sep-13-2003 03:36:

"hoooooooollly shit. this songs is fucking insane."

thats what i say

cuz the song does rock so it makes me giddier than a catholic school girl

Posted by TranceGiant on Sep-13-2003 03:41:

quote:
Originally posted by montie
"hoooooooollly shit. this songs is fucking insane."

thats what i say

cuz the song does rock so it makes me giddier than a catholic school girl

due to the lack of quality clubs (no such thing as a "scene" existing here) this would already have to be my first lie

Posted by superglo on Sep-13-2003 03:42:

heh..just wait for for a great tune to be playing then grab the chick ..stare at her wild eyed and say " OMFG...I LOVE THIS SONG OMFG OMFG OMFG ..ok..not that much ..but what do u think ?" never tried it though .

Posted by daffodil on Sep-13-2003 03:45:

quote:
Originally posted by whiskers

wtf, that's gay!

um, can i please be part of the calvin and hobbes alliance? pleeeease! i'll demonstrate full and thorough knowledge if you need me too

Posted by Clyde77 on Sep-13-2003 03:48:

ey guys, i've noticed, ive been around with alot of ta's and most of them dont talk that much ..... maybe it runs through our blood? hmmm

Posted by daffodil on Sep-13-2003 03:50:

quote:
Originally posted by Clyde77
ey guys, i've noticed, ive been around with alot of ta's and most of them dont talk alot ..... maybe it runs through our blood? hmmm

i don't talk a lot at clubs, except to discuss the music with my friends because i go to clubs to listen to the music and shake my booty like a mouse on cocaine.

however, when i'm not at a club you generally cannot get me to stfu and i can talk to a friendly wall if necessary.

Posted by TranceGiant on Sep-13-2003 03:52:

I do actually talk pretty much once I feel "safe". I just detest small talk which is only there for the sake of saying SOMETHING, ANYTHING. I feel automatically blocked in such situations...

Posted by daffodil on Sep-13-2003 03:54:

quote:
Originally posted by TranceGiant
I do actually talk pretty much once I feel "safe". I just detest small talk which is only there for the sake of saying SOMETHING, ANYTHING. I feel automatically blocked in such situations...

it's a state of mind. just recognize that small talk is your road to common ground where you can stop bullshitting. if you can't find the common ground, then she sucks and you can just hope she's looking to get laid.

Posted by whiskers on Sep-13-2003 03:55:

quote:
Originally posted by Clyde77
ey guys, i've noticed, ive been around with alot of ta's and most of them dont talk that much ..... maybe it runs through our blood? hmmm

finally, an explanation for my weirdness (well, not an explanation, but at least something i can relate to).

yes, daffodil, you can be a member nekked pics required.

lol, just kidding. sorry, couldn't pass the opportunity (one of the few that i actually DIDN'T pass up). man, i'm talking too much tonight.

gonna go shot maylse.f

Posted by TranceGiant on Sep-13-2003 03:57:

quote:
Originally posted by daffodil
it's a state of mind. just recognize that small talk is your road to common ground where you can stop bullshitting. if you can't find the common ground, then she sucks and you can just hope she's looking to get laid.

*starts making list of standard phrases*

Posted by whiskers on Sep-13-2003 03:58:

quote:
Originally posted by TranceGiant
I do actually talk pretty much once I feel "safe". I just detest small talk which is only there for the sake of saying SOMETHING, ANYTHING. I feel automatically blocked in such situations...

omg so true.

why do people feel the need to fill the silence with senseless mumbling?

it's like that pulp fiction quote, "you know you found somebody special if you both can just fuck the shut up and enjoy the silence"

Posted by MrSquirrel on Sep-13-2003 04:05:

quote:
Originally posted by daffodil
so keep an eye on your target like a stalker and approach her when she takes a break from the dancefloor.

Note to self:

When hitting on daffodil act like a stalker.

/note

MrS

Posted by daffodil on Sep-13-2003 04:09:

quote:
Originally posted by whiskers
omg so true.

why do people feel the need to fill the silence with senseless mumbling?

it's like that pulp fiction quote, "you know you found somebody special if you both can just fuck the shut up and enjoy the silence"

very true. i'm always more impressed with people when they don't feel the need to talk all the time. i talk as long as i have something to say (which tends to be a lot because my mind moves about 800 miles per second), but when i wear myself out it's nice to just shut up and not feel uncomfortable about it.

Posted by igottaknow on Sep-13-2003 04:12:

"Hey, do u collect action figures"

"LOL"

"Guess how many mp3 i have"

"I'm as plain as a bagel"

"Would you like to go to Mc Donalds sometime?...my treat..."

Posted by TranceGiant on Sep-13-2003 04:14:

quote:
Originally posted by igottaknow
"Hey, do u collect action figures"

"LOL"

"Guess how many mp3 i have"

without the last setence this could actually be pretty damn nice and humorous

Posted by MrSquirrel on Sep-13-2003 04:15:

quote:
Originally posted by igottaknow

"Would you like to go to Mc Donalds sometime?...my treat..."

"I think ur tha shit"

MrS

Posted by TranceGiant on Sep-13-2003 04:18:

omg. not THIS again

"Do you like guys by the name Patrick?"

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