Should i tell my friend whats on my mind?

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Posted by blazed it on Oct-26-2003 18:52:

Should i tell my friend whats on my mind?

Ok so here's the scenario. In my circle of friends there are very few girls that come to chill with us. I'm not saying that I personally don't know any girls but just not enough that come over to hang out with. I've been discussing this with friend of mine and we have pin pointed the reason why there is not more girls that hang out with us. The reason is that there is this one guy in the group, who is a great friend of ours, but he's got some bad people skills.

By bad people skills i mean that, if there is even a decent looking chick that starts hanging out with us, he immediately starts to pounce on them and tries to make a move. This guys thinks he has some serious game going on, however everytime he does this he fails spectacularly and crashes and burns i.e. never ever ever succeeded. Now this is funny and sad, but mostly it is annoying because it makes it awkward for the girl, because if she wants to hang out with us this guy is here and the situation becomes all awkward because he made a move on them.

After i started on this train of thought several girls that i know agreed and said they saw that a mile away. I'm thinking about just telling him straigt up that this nonsense of hitting up on every girl has got to stop.

What do you guys think? should i just tell?

Posted by Ripped Bag on Oct-26-2003 18:57:

Deffinately.

But if you value his friendship try not be easy on em. Be blunt..

Its better in the long run

Posted by JayD on Oct-26-2003 19:04:

Agreed. Be blunt and tell him whats going on. It wont hurt him.

Just explain nicely why and tell him in the future that it would be better for him too.

JaY

Posted by Boomer187 on Oct-26-2003 19:09:

yeah my friend did that a lot last year. I would be hanging out with tons o girls, he would try to make a move and it would go sour evreytime and soon I am forced to go out and get new girls to hang out with. It really sucks that he is burning bridges for me too.

Yeah I told him bluntly and he worked on it. Now he will ask me if its cool to try. Which is cool, I still let him pounce on a couple, but not the cool ones.

Posted by Beat_Chemist on Oct-26-2003 19:23:

I know people like that and its no big deal, he obviously has a pair, and he's used to hearing bullshit. (since he gets shot down left and right) So he's prolly developed a callous to anything that he might not wanna hear. SO you have to make sure and cut through the icky thing. Use cold stern words like, "Look, this bitch is coming over, I'm gunna try and fuck the cowboy grits out of her, So you'd better not be E-tarded and fuck this up for me by being a cock block."
If you have never approached this guy b4 or let im know about your dissapointment then he'll prolly say somehting onlong the lines of
"what? Who put sand in your vagina?" cuz he prolly is using your ass because you let him get out of control, U know how really "cool" (in this case he thinks he is) guys sometimes hang out with really quiet ones. Its so he feels he has suport from his boys, but at the same time he knows theywill never make a move themselves so all the pussy that runs by you is his for the taking. (this might not very well be the case but its a pretty good hypothesis i think)

Then you look over at your cooler buddy and put out your masterbating hand, at which point he places some baby/talcom powder on your palms and you BITCH SLAP THE STOOPID OUT OF THAT GUY!!!

At which point he'll thank you and be this really smart suave intellectual.

Posted by mikefasssy on Oct-26-2003 19:55:

just be blunt. I've had a similiar experience and me and a buddy just approached him and we basically said to cool the fuck down, and that was the end of that.

Posted by Az on Oct-26-2003 20:18:

cut him

Posted by blazed it on Oct-26-2003 21:10:

quote:
Originally posted by Beat_Chemist
I know people like that and its no big deal, he obviously has a pair, and he's used to hearing bullshit. (since he gets shot down left and right) So he's prolly developed a callous to anything that he might not wanna hear. SO you have to make sure and cut through the icky thing. Use cold stern words like, "Look, this bitch is coming over, I'm gunna try and fuck the cowboy grits out of her, So you'd better not be E-tarded and fuck this up for me by being a cock block."
If you have never approached this guy b4 or let im know about your dissapointment then he'll prolly say somehting onlong the lines of
"what? Who put sand in your vagina?" cuz he prolly is using your ass because you let him get out of control, U know how really "cool" (in this case he thinks he is) guys sometimes hang out with really quiet ones. Its so he feels he has suport from his boys, but at the same time he knows theywill never make a move themselves so all the pussy that runs by you is his for the taking. (this might not very well be the case but its a pretty good hypothesis i think)

Then you look over at your cooler buddy and put out your masterbating hand, at which point he places some baby/talcom powder on your palms and you BITCH SLAP THE STOOPID OUT OF THAT GUY!!!

At which point he'll thank you and be this really smart suave intellectual.

yeah he thinks he's quite the intellectual. however he is definitly not the cooler guy in the group.

Posted by Echo of Silence on Oct-26-2003 22:21:

quote:
Originally posted by Beat_Chemist
Use cold stern words like, "Look, this bitch is coming over, I'm gunna try and fuck the cowboy grits out of her, So you'd better not be E-tarded and fuck this up for me by being a cock block."

Um...just curious.

I thought Blazed is a girl?

Not that it really pertains to the problem at hand.

Anyway, I think talk to him in a non-confrontational manner and place. Don't embarrass him or anything. He probably has no idea....

Posted by UWM on Oct-26-2003 22:23:

Tell him he's an in-your-face-cock-block and his antics must cease immediately or he will be banned from your group of friends.

Or just buy him prostitutes so he doesn't have to game on girls.

Posted by torontotrance on Oct-26-2003 22:31:

kick his worthless ass

I don't see why friends can't be nice to their friends and not get trashed around the house when the other buddy is trying to score with some chick. Have some decency ffs.

Posted by trancEyes22 on Oct-26-2003 23:18:

why dont you just not hang out with him when you are chillin with girls...make it known to the girls that the weirdo is gonna be there and then im sure they will want to hang more.

Posted by Streakfury on Oct-27-2003 01:08:

Just ask the guy kinda jokingly why he has to make a move on every girl that hangs out with you all. Say that the rest of you "need a chance" and that maybe he should slow down a bit. Saying it in a bit of a laddish way means he wont feel like you're all against him, but deep down he'll give it some serious thought.

Posted by torontotrance on Oct-27-2003 01:54:

see i think honesty is always the best course of action. You may lose women but i rather be damn honest. Happened to me about 2 weeks ago, a friend of mine, I sorta fell in love with and was considering asking out well old tta dropped a hint and she was honest enough to tell me that she did not want that while a bunch of crap was going on in her life. We still best friends and then tta fessed up and told the whole fucking truth and she has more respect for me because I had the fucking balls to tell the truth.

Posted by blazed it on Oct-27-2003 02:26:

thanks for the advice guys... i'm going to do it later tonight i'll post what happens about it.