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Posted by speedracer_mec on Nov-06-2003 20:28:

Being Single..again..?

Damn im 90 miles away from my gurl....i have herpes from her...i feel like shit...but im really thinking now of letting her go.

I feel like at this point in my life...."im better off alone"...

she aint cheating on me but she goes online and i saw her chatting today...we met online ya know....pretty scary isnt it...

holidays are coming up...

Posted by Mrs.Spice on Nov-06-2003 20:31:

thats why you shouldnt meet ppl online. 10 min away is far enough let alone 90 miles.

Posted by DigiNut on Nov-06-2003 20:37:

quote:
Originally posted by Mrs.Spice
...10 min away is far enough let alone 90 miles.

You'd prefer that they live in the same building perhaps, or across the street?

I can't even begin to tell you how many problems that causes...

LDRs can suck though. It takes an iron will and a level of trust right up there with the proverbial "leap of faith." Not saying they can't work, of course, but be sure that there is something really unique and special about that person before making such a commitment. Don't do it just for the sex, or even the companionship or entertainment.

The good thing about the 'net is that people are usually more open, and you can learn more about them in a shorter time. The bad thing is that sometimes the physical chemistry you imagine online doesn't exist at all face to face. Doesn't sound like you've got much chemistry, Mec... sounds like you're just doing it because it's someone. Not worth it...

Of course, her chatting online doesn't mean much of anything (unless she's doing it excessively with the same guy(s) and planning "meetups"). If your reasoning for breaking up includes her random chatting in any form, then that's just unprovoked jealousy.

Posted by speedracer_mec on Nov-06-2003 20:41:

quote:
Originally posted by DigiNut
You'd prefer that they live in the same building perhaps, or across the street?

I can't even begin to tell you how many problems that causes...

LDRs can suck though. It takes an iron will and a level of trust right up there with the proverbial "leap of faith." Not saying they can't work, of course, but be sure that there is something really unique and special about that person before making such a commitment. Don't do it just for the sex, or even the companionship or entertainment.

The good thing about the 'net is that people are usually more open, and you can learn more about them in a shorter time. The bad thing is that sometimes the physical chemistry you imagine online doesn't exist at all face to face. Doesn't sound like you've got much chemistry, Mec... sounds like you're just doing it because it's someone. Not worth it...

Of course, her chatting online doesn't mean much of anything (unless she's doing it excessively with the same guy(s) and planning "meetups"). If your reasoning for breaking up includes her random chatting in any form, then that's just unprovoked jealousy.

i love da gurl

i know she loves me..shes cried for me countless of times and we've been through alot...weve been together since may....and been dating since january...

but in one word...shes a bitch

then again all gurls are bitches

Posted by DigiNut on Nov-06-2003 20:44:

quote:
Originally posted by speedracer_mec
i love da gurl

i know she loves me..shes cried for me countless of times and we've been through alot...weve been together since may....and been dating since january...

but in one word...shes a bitch

then again all gurls are bitches

That sure doesn't sound like love to me.

If you can't identify anything you really like about her, then the "love" is probably more like insecurity over the thought of finding another girl or starting a new relationship.

Posted by HappyToday on Nov-06-2003 20:56:

Hmm....

Posted by wienerschnitzel on Nov-06-2003 21:01:

i don't mean to be insensitive, but maybe it is due to the fact that i am a girl which therefore makes me a bitch...
this is the same girl that gave you herpes, then started hanging out with her ex, then you get back with her and tell us how much you love her, then you want advice on how to have anal sex with her, and now you are confused with the relationship. I think you need to stop the relationship for the best intrests of both of you. It doesn't sound like love, but dependance and perhaps insecurity. Let her go and get a fresh start.

Posted by speedracer_mec on Nov-06-2003 21:34:

i dont know how to do it..

i want her to pull the wrong move so i can walk away ...

she hasnt done anything bad..or bakstabbed me..

i dont know know...im not callin her anymore at all..

Posted by j_spot on Nov-06-2003 22:05:

HERPES!
ouch.
enjoy that for the rest of yourl life.
wear a jimmy
there is no such thing as safe sex, just safer sex

Posted by St�phanie on Nov-06-2003 22:18:

quote:
Originally posted by speedracer_mec
i dont know how to do it..

i want her to pull the wrong move so i can walk away ...

she hasnt done anything bad..or bakstabbed me..

i dont know know...im not callin her anymore at all..

Im sorry, but your beeing very immature...Not calling her anymore, what r u 15?
Plus your waiting for her to do something wrong so u dont have to be the one to break up...
I really think your confused about what a relationship is suppose to be.

I agree with you, u need to be alone till your mature enough to be in a relationship.

Not trying to be mean, but hey! girls are bitches, right

Posted by whiskers on Nov-06-2003 22:21:

quote:
Originally posted by DigiNut
If you can't identify anything you really like about her, then the "love" is probably more like insecurity over the thought of finding another girl or starting a new relationship.

you bastard, now i'm going to analyze this stuff for the rest of my life!!

Posted by UWM on Nov-06-2003 22:30:

Man, if some girl started dating me and I slept with her and, consequently, got a case of Herpes, she'd be long gone.

The fact that she wasn't honest enough to tell you that beforehand should be a red flag.

"Whoops! Oh ... yeah ... I forgot to mention that ..,"

Posted by DigiNut on Nov-06-2003 22:32:

LOL

I thought only 12-year-old girls did the "silent treatment".

Give me her number, I'll call her up and tell her that you're waiting for her to slip up so you can break it off, I wonder how she'd react to that!

Grow up! You're all over the map dude, make up your mind!

Posted by Vivid Boy on Nov-06-2003 22:37:

ive only met up one girl off the internet...but ive learned one thing abt it..dont do it again..theyre never who u expect them to be

Posted by whiskers on Nov-06-2003 22:40:

quote:
Originally posted by Vivid Boy
ive only met up one girl off the internet...but ive learned one thing abt it..dont do it again..theyre never who u expect them to be

did she turn out to be a guy?

Posted by speedracer_mec on Nov-06-2003 22:41:

nah im 20.

im not immature. If at all shes immature cuz she was chatting today "meeting new friends"...that pissed me off and i hung up on her.

the reason i did this is because we met online and im afraid of "wuts goes around comes around".

this girl can be the sweetest tart on the globe and then she can be a bitch in a devil's dress....Thats a bitch for u my friends.

In all honesty..she has skrewed up my life by giving me herpes. Im sorry people for constantly posting nonsense trash. Im sorry for wasting ur time. But if im more sorry...im sorry for existing on this planet..full of cruel people. you all dont understand me nor my situation. Its tough to pull the cord.

Let me start from the beginning....

i met this gurl on new yrs eve last yr. We were talking and etc. SHe was still with her bf. SHe cheated on him and got with me. I didnt care...because i had this other girl i was with temporarily(not a gf)...eventually by feb we got together and then we broke up because we werent ready. Then apparantly she and I werent too close.
There were no rules...she was seeing other guys now.
I was still talkin to her but not sexually active. Im sure she met guys online and at the clubs...Now when we did get sexually active..she supposely was disease free...she showed me test results from early in the yr. So we have sex and i get herpes....I am completely devastated.
she cries endlessly because she gave it to me and she got it tooo from her possibly one night stand with club guys or online dudes or wutever.

this gurl use to go clubbing all the time but then she and i both decided to get together indefinitely and stay together. She and i become closely attached. She loves me..and she would cry for me and she would plan our wedding and name our kids which is typical of a girl to do. SHe would do everything for me.

SHe gave up her clubbing indefinitely for me so we can develop our relationship stronger. we spent every single day!!!! of the summer together..no guys no clubs to interfere..it was a great time. ALthough two things fuked us up....everytime we had sex i would have an outbreak.
1)now i have to take pills for a full yr (daily suppression)
2)her ex would call her and she saw him...(feelins were still there)
[this goes bak to the other post i made earlier]...she then got rid of him completely...and now its me and her...

we were planing a great holiday season together...but today i saw her chatting online.

she said,"oh so im nnot suppose to be online meeting new friends"?

i said," no i didnt say that...its wutever u want..i doont give a shit"

we hung up..

i put up this strong stand against her..because im traumatized people.

im scarred and traumatized. We met online, I dont want "wut goes around comes around"

i have gone to a counseler. He said not to focus on the past but on the future...forget her past but look wut she has done now and wut she is goin to do for u in the future. EVer since we have gotten together..its looked good.

but im just pissed because i saw her chatting...im traumatized

sorry for wasting ur time

feedbak..please

Posted by Vivid Boy on Nov-06-2003 22:43:

haha no actually i brought a bat with me the first time i went to meet her...lol...i remember thinking that whole drive there being like wghat the fuck are u saying eric its gonna be some dude with a fuckin chainsaw just wait...she invited me to her house while her parents were having a family party..and i was like uhh this is way to fuckin weird.... but i did it anyways...anyways wasnt what i expected and prolly wont dont it again...if i like the girl when i first meet her face to face thats cool....chatting is deceiving

Posted by Pio on Nov-06-2003 22:45:

dump the bitch, she gave you HERPES for crying out loud! did she tell you she had herpes before you slept together?

that's sad man, i feel sorry for you. but i would get rid of her asap.

Posted by whiskers on Nov-06-2003 22:45:

quote:
Originally posted by Vivid Boy
chatting is deceiving

yeah, you yourself is probably a nice christian boy with a christian haircut around your parents, never saying bad words and the such (no offence to christians)

Posted by Vivid Boy on Nov-06-2003 22:47:

actually i think i am how i am online...just a bit more off a leash...

Posted by whiskers on Nov-06-2003 22:48:

quote:
Originally posted by Vivid Boy
actually i think i am how i am online...just a bit more off a leash...

well, in that case, i wouldn't want to meet you

Posted by 'mju:zik on Nov-06-2003 22:52:

quote:
Originally posted by DigiNut
You'd prefer that they live in the same building perhaps, or across the street?

I can't even begin to tell you how many problems that causes...

LDRs can suck though. It takes an iron will and a level of trust right up there with the proverbial "leap of faith." Not saying they can't work, of course, but be sure that there is something really unique and special about that person before making such a commitment. Don't do it just for the sex, or even the companionship or entertainment.

The good thing about the 'net is that people are usually more open, and you can learn more about them in a shorter time. The bad thing is that sometimes the physical chemistry you imagine online doesn't exist at all face to face. Doesn't sound like you've got much chemistry, Mec... sounds like you're just doing it because it's someone. Not worth it...

Of course, her chatting online doesn't mean much of anything (unless she's doing it excessively with the same guy(s) and planning "meetups"). If your reasoning for breaking up includes her random chatting in any form, then that's just unprovoked jealousy.

LDRS? Since when are you the relationship expert man? Have you ever been in a friggin relationship? Stop shitting yourself

Posted by UWM on Nov-06-2003 22:53:

Man I'm really confused.

I week ago you were talking about sticking your johnson in her 5-hole, now you want to dump her because she was talking to other people online?

Well, I wouldn't get too attached to some girl who bangs "club guys" and guys she meets online in the first place.

:/

Posted by DrUg_Tit0 on Nov-06-2003 22:54:

quote:
Originally posted by speedracer_mec
i dont know how to do it..

i want her to pull the wrong move so i can walk away ...

she hasnt done anything bad..or bakstabbed me..

i dont know know...im not callin her anymore at all..

You are attempting to avoid responsibility for the breakup of the relationship by hoping she will be the one that makes the wrong step. Then you will attack her because of that one wrong move and put the blame on her. You aren't the first person that came up with such a tactic, though. Sadly that is how diplomacy, and many interpersonal relationship indeed do function. But unfortunately for you, such a course of action is fruitful only when it's unnoticed by others. Otherwise it only indicates a lack of character and a weakness to accept consequences of your actions. If you already want to break up with her for no reason, the least you can do is to accept the rightfull blame for the demise of your relationship.

Posted by Vivid Boy on Nov-06-2003 22:55:

quote:
Originally posted by UWM
Man I'm really confused.

I week ago you were talking about sticking your johnson in her 5-hole, now you want to dump her because she was talking to other people online?

Well, I wouldn't get too attached to some girl who bangs "club guys" and guys she meets online in the first place.

:/

but without girls like her life would be pretty boring wouldnt it

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